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My boyfriend is torn between two women!

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Question - (30 July 2009) 2 Answers - (Newest, 30 July 2009)
A female United States age 51-59, *onfussed717 writes:

My boyfriend of almost 6 months is still in love with his ex girlfriend. He says he loves us both and wants us both. I told him he has to decide who he wants to be with. He said he wants to be with both of us and he won't settle for less. I told him it's me, her or i'll make the choice for him which i really don't want to do. He wants to live and stuff w/ me but see her when he's in her state. Which he's a truck driver but i go on the road with him.

We ain't together now cause he was suppose to think for 2 weeks who he wants now he says he can't choose and i think he doesn't want to choose. I love him very much and don't know what to do. I did tell him i won't and can't live my life like that. I can't stay with someone who wants to be with two women. Please help me my heart is so broken. Please give me advice on what to do and or for him to do. He keeps telling me to think what he's going through and what he wants, i told him he can't have what he wants. He keeps asking me to help him but i don't know how he won't choose so i don't know how to help him, please help us!!!! Thank you

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2009):

How can you say 'goodbye' to someone who's already mentally left... he doesn't want you both... he wants a secure home where someone will pay the bills, cook, clean and be there when her returns- and a willing sex partner too, I'm sure... and who will be there when he comes back home from 'working' while he's diverted his rig 100 miles and extended his trip by 24 hours so he can bang this other woman.

If you're willing to take him back after every trip - and odds are he's SO attracted to this woman that he's seeing her on EVERY trip... then so be it.

My vote is enable the GPS tracking on his cell phone (it's great technology folks) and see where he's going... and after you've been lied too enough times, pack all his stuff, change the locks and have it ready in the garage for him. He can pick it up and go back to her place - she'll probably be less attracted to him when he's under her feet all the time...

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A male reader, rcn United States +, writes (30 July 2009):

rcn agony auntSay goodbye to him. You deserve much better than to be played by him. Think about it. I bet you two are not the only one's one the road he has lined up. You just happen to know about each other. I think, his not being able to decide is a huge red flag to get out. It's hard, but you have to take care of what you deserve first.

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