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*pecialk022
writes:I was hanging out with my boyfriend the other day and he was all going through my phone (of course i didnt have anything to hide) but anyways, then he kept trying to take pictures of me and i was being dumb and like shy so then he had to get the mail and he left his phone on the couch we were sitting on, so i picked it up and was just playing with it when i came across his recent calls and he told me before we started dating that this girl wanted to have sex with him and kept asking to hang out and he kept saying no but then when I went through his phone he had a call from her/to her that lasted 45 min. I mean what the heck? Now i dont know if i should bring it up or not because i went through his phone... but he went through mine right? help please!
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reader, person12345  +, writes (11 December 2009):
 I agree it could be seen as a breach of trust. You could always bring her up without bringing up the phone and flat out ask him if he's spoken with her recently. Do it subtly, like don't just slap him with it out of the blue, make him comfortable and bring it up as if something he said reminded you of her. If he tells you about the call then you can talk to him about it. If he says no, then yes, you need to bring it up with him because he shouldn't lie to you. Chances are he's not lying just for the heck of it either, something's up and you have every right to ask him. If he gets angry at you for snooping remind him that he snooped through your phone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2009): I'd do the same playful looking through his phone thing that he has done to you, then see the call and ask about it on the spot. Looking through his phone while he's with you is a lot less snoopy than when he's not in the room.
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (10 December 2009):
 I agree with caring guy, if you bring this up and find out that he wasn't actually doing anything, he may become quite angry at you for snooping and may loose trust in you.
good luck
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (10 December 2009):
Snooping leads to danger. Sometimes you find something terrible, sometimes nothing, sometimes something that seems terrible, but isn't. I don't think it's worth bringing it up with him. I think you need to trust him. The reason being, he already told you about her and said she had tried it on and he'd said no. I doubt that suddenly changed. For all you know, she could have phoned him to try and persuade him and he could have said no. If something is going on, it will come out. But if it's not, and you confront him, he will think he's not trusting you. Trust him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2009): HiI think you should tell him. If you keep it for you, you will hurt yourself with suspicion. What I would do first is find a way to ask if she is still talking to that girl. Maybe he'll be honest and you won't have to say that you went through his phone.Good luck!
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reader, kickstick24 +, writes (10 December 2009):
if he looks through your phone you have the right to look through his. that seems a little shady, i would talk to him about it ASAP.
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