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Why do guys ask for underwear?

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Question - (10 December 2013) 19 Answers - (Newest, 20 December 2013)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I slept with this guy like more than 5 times. He asked for my underwear twice and on his third ask, I decided, why not? So I gave them to him. I just want to understand this phenomena... why do guys ask for underwear? I'm curious. I just hope I don't end up seing my underwear hanging on some wall as a souvenir.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2013):

So_Very_Confused,

Yeah, you haven't been asked but I'll bet you've had a few come up missing ;-)~ or couldn't figure out what you did with them when you'r ready to go home!! btw, kudos on the 100+... Outstanding...

Anonymous,

As for me, I have a little ornate box where I keep the panties I've collected over the years. They are absolutely TROPHIES!!!

Not so much as "me man, me bang woman, me have trophy". But more as "aw, those are Barbara's, and those are Peg's". Of course, there's the occasional "Oh, I remember you. She went home without you the next morning". No, I don't talk to them!

I won’t lie, the first day or two they're masturbatory aids. Because (and here's your answer, anonymous) we love the way you smell and taste. It is the absolute most sexy thing in this world. To have your scent and taste while we(I) masturbate; so completely heightens the experience that we (again, I) are willing to steal a pair of used underwear from time to time. I've had women gladly hand them over. Because you can tell a woman that understands vs a woman that going to be like "WHY"? I don't get it! OMG, it's YOU! - It’s your scent – It’s your taste – that's efffing why!

Anyway, then they go into the box. To live out their life as a twisted little reminder of you and our time together!

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States +, writes (11 December 2013):

Tisha-1 agony auntI had another thought on this one. He likes to wear the underwear himself. Maybe he's too cheap to buy them for himself?

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A female reader, Anonymous 123 Italy +, writes (11 December 2013):

Anonymous 123 agony auntTo masturbate to them.

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A male reader, dougbcoll United States +, writes (11 December 2013):

dougbcoll agony aunt it has to do with the scent of your woman, even while she is away you still have her scent close to you.

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States +, writes (11 December 2013):

Tisha-1 agony auntWhy not ask him? He's the one who knows what he's going to do with your undies.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2013):

I've never asked for underwear. This is the first time I am hearing about something like this.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2013):

To remember you when you are away.Just like having a photo or a lock of your hair or a print of your kiss but much more personal and loving.You should not be upset about it.

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A male reader, M Proops United Kingdom +, writes (11 December 2013):

It's all to do with your pheromones dear.It turns men on sexually.It's the norm throughout the animal kingdom.

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A male reader, happy140 United States +, writes (11 December 2013):

happy140 agony auntMasturbatory purposes. We don’t like to ask, women think it’s weird, but we always hope that the will accidently leave them for us to enjoy while they are gone.

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A female reader, Brokenv Canada +, writes (11 December 2013):

I think it is odd. It really weirds me out! I have never heard of that. Whenever I hear of a guy wanting/with panties, I think of a pedator.....but in saying that, you must feel comfortable with it and that is all that matters.

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (10 December 2013):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntI can't speak for ALL guys... but I like to have a pair of my girl's undies so that I can put them in my pillowcase and smell them (her) all night when she isn't here....

P.S. When I CAN convince her to stay the night.. it's less important that I have her undies in my pillowcase... since I can cuddle up to her and get that enrapturing fragrance all night, no matter....

P.S. I mean, of course, that she stays in my guest room, and I go in there to get that aroma!!!!

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A female reader, YouWish United States +, writes (10 December 2013):

YouWish agony auntOh yeah, trophy or fetish, one of the two.

I'd give them to him ONLY if he didn't have a collection of other women's panties. I'd feel weird if my used panties were number 45 in the collection.

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (10 December 2013):

eyeswideopen agony auntI wore my husband's tidy whities during the later part of all my pregnancies. Not sure that has any bearing on the subject but there you are.

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A male reader, methuselah United Kingdom +, writes (10 December 2013):

Hi,

It could simply be a trophy to masturbate with. Or, just a trophy.

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (10 December 2013):

person12345 agony auntYeah I've never had that, it's definitely not common! Some guys just have a fetish for used underwear, I hear there is a market for used underwear and stockings. Also probably a trophy.

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A female reader, like I see it United States +, writes (10 December 2013):

like I see it agony auntEither he has a fetish for women's panties and is too chicken to buy them himself in stores, or he's keeping them for exactly that - some sort of souvenir collection.

Given the ease and anonymity of online shopping nowadays, I'm sorry to say that it's probably the latter.

On the bright side it's not nearly as potentially damaging as if he had, say, pictures of you or video of you together. They're women's underwear; they could belong to at least half the planet (and a few cross-dressers). Highly unlikely that this will come back to bite you in any measurable way.

Best wishes!

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A female reader, Pr3tty_in_pink86 United Kingdom +, writes (10 December 2013):

Masturbatory purpose, trophy. That's a bit weird.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (10 December 2013):

So_Very_Confused agony auntyou'll see it on a wall online.....

ewww... I'm 53 years old over 100 partners and I have NEVER had a guy ask me for my underwear...

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (10 December 2013):

Honeypie agony auntTROPHY.

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