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writes:My ex asked me to write to her and I did, but now I regret it because I still have feelings for her, which I thought I was over and I had moved on in my life. She's been in a long term relationship and I've been alone for many years. I don't know what to say in an email that I don't want to write anymore because it doesn't seem honest to me that I have these feelings and she is with somebody. I don't want her to know those feelings either because it reminds me why I left her many years ago. In our relationship of many years, I was always the one to express my feelings but she was the opposite, leaving me feeling frustrated. It's like I always had to read her mind, or beg her to talk to me. She would make decisions without me, she would never admit to anything or take responsibility for our problems of communication. I finally left the relationship because I felt that she had control of my life and I needed to get my life back. Yet, after all these years, I still care but I don't want to act on those feelings. What words do I use to not hurt her feelings but to say that it's best that I move on.
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reader, icelordess + ♥, writes (31 July 2009):
 You need to take care of yourself, love..I'm where you are..and I know the pain that you feel. Don't stay in contact when all it does it cause you pain. Just give it to her straight..she's involved, and you still care..and like the old song says "Don't expect me to be your friend". Its just too hard. Boy, do I know this! Give yourself the space and peace that you need. If she doesn't understand, that's truly not your problem anymore. I wish you all the best.
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reader, Uncle Phil  + ♥, writes (31 July 2009):
 You simply tell her that you can't write any more because it's doing your head in, the fact that she's with someone else and you're still alone with feelings for her. You need to sever ties with her because it's causing you a serious amount of heartache. You never know, she may even enjoy doing this to you, which could be why she asked you to write to her in the first place.
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