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*rettygirl2009
writes:I'm really starting to get sick and tired of my relationship. I have been involved with this guy for three yrs. I love him dearly , but I have a trust issue with him and I am trying hard to get over the fact that he has lied to me in the past. When I ask him questions he always seem to get angry or we start an argument and it never fails, it turns out that I'm always the bad guy. I try to say a 100% with him. I always have his back when he needs me and he also has mine, but when it comes to our relationship his totally on some other stuff. Yes, I probably was a rebound from his past relationship. This is how I feel. I ask him questions like this and all I get is crazy responds. Maybe I'm insured, I really don't know. I just wish we could have more trust and a open relationship. Reply to this Question
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reader, SapphireLily  +, writes (31 July 2009):
 If you're confused, sick and tired of your relationship, then I don't think this is a relationship that should last.
If you can't talk to him without him getting angry, and you feel like a rebound, its just adding up to why you shouldn't be together.
Overall, I can't say you shouldn't be together since it is your personal decision, but if I was in this position, I would move on.
-SapphireLily
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reader, SweetStu  +, writes (31 July 2009):
 Sounds like you have made the decision already to be blunt.
If you can't talk to him then you need to tell him how important it is. Maybe start by saying that you don't want him to get annoyed or angry but you have to speak to him properly.
If you wish you had more trust and to be more open in the relationship with each other, he also needs to know your feelings. If you can't talk then the relationship is dead.
The fact you can't trust him and you think you are a 'rebound' from his past relationship says you do not have much faith in what you have, or even what you have had with him from day one.
Key to sorting this out is talking, from there you can then ground where the relationship needs to go for both your sakes.
Good luck.
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reader, LoveDocBruce +, writes (31 July 2009):
 You know, I hear this a lot from a lot of girls. The main thing to think about, and this goes for life too, is does he make you happy? If he doesn't anymore, then dump him. You may love him dearly, but he obviously doesn't. If he did, he would communicate with you, comfort you, tell you he isn't cheating. And that's good, if it's true. What's not good, is from what I read, he doesn't even try to comfort you, so he obviously doesn't deserve the wonderful, unique, and independent person that you are.
Leave him, and forget about him. But remember the things you learned.
That's my two cents.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2009): If you don't trust him and anything he says is suspect I can see why he doesn't want to answer your questions. He thinks ANY answer is null and void whatever his response.
YOU have to start communicating in such a way that you can build trust between the two of you. Go easy and don't be judgmental. when he sees that you are not evaluating his every move perhaps that will allow him to relax and see you in a different light.
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