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writes:hi Dearcupids, my problem is not about relationships or love etc... I am an engineer I was unemployed for last 2 years. I always kept trying to get a job, I was very keen to be self-dependent. I often felt so insecure when my college mates got a job. I dragged myself out of frustration for many times in this period. After 2 years, I got a job-call from a very reputed institute. I was happy at first. But I don't know why I am feeling quite scared now. It was all that I wanted for so long. It is like I want to be at home and do nothing (which I hated during my unemployed days). I don't know why I am being like this. Am I being coward or it is natural? Please tell me guys. Thanks!!!
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (24 January 2016):
You’re doing great. You might not have liked being at home, but you got comfortable with it. Now a big change in your life is coming. Facing the unknown is always daunting. Starting a new job is never easy, but it is particularly difficult if you’ve not worked for a while. Trust them: they saw something in you. Remember that you won’t be expected to know everything on day 1. Take your time, get to know your colleagues and find out as much as you can. You will be fine. After your first few days it will feel less overwhelming and you will feel more and more at ease as you get used to your new job. Good luck and congratulations.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2016): You've been out of work for a long stretch. All your energies and focus was concentrated in trying to convince employers you're worthy of employment. You forgot to remind yourself the same thing. Sweetheart, you're going to do great! They recognized what they wanted in you. It's there! You're supposed to be a little scared. It will turn into a challenge to your skills, and you'll meet it.
Job-searching takes a lot out of you; when several prospects have over-looked or rejected you. It takes a little wind out of your sails; and makes you wonder if you are really good enough. Don't allow being "safe" to put you in a state of complacency and fear. You've got the normal jitters that we all get when we land the job we've really wanted and/or needed.
Give it your all. Get back into the saddle, and ride the challenge. You can't shrink at the beginning. You will get your confidence as soon as you're acquainted with the staff, know your place in the mechanics of things, and you're no longer under the wait of rejection by others who didn't appreciate your education, skills, and abilities.
Go get'em, girlfriend! That first paycheck will change your whole outlook! Trust me!
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (23 January 2016):
 It's natural to be a little scared when starting a new venture and specially one you have waited 2 years to get!
But what you NEED to do it NOT let the fear rule you. YOU can do this! Brush up on your knowledge and hop to it.
Go for it! Reach for the stars!
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