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writes:Hi agony unclesWhat does a proposal mean to you?What is it like to propose to your longtime girlfriend, if she was waiting for it for a long time and sent A LOT of hints? Do you want to surprise her with the question even she is really expecting it or do you think it is not necessary anymore?If you would propose to her why would you do it?How would you do it?If not, why not?I really would like to watch inside a man's head and I want to know how they are thinking about this thing which is really a big thing for a woman, but I don't know if it is also for a man.Thanks for all the answers! Reply to this Question
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reader, RevMick +, writes (12 May 2014):
 Hi,
I think proposal mean's you are ready to make the commitment to having a life together. It means you have thought about your individual life, and found there is a place for that special someone in it (in a big way).
With my first wife, I went the whole shebang. We were at the beach and I had her stand on the pier. But I'd written 'will you marry me' in like 6 ft long writing in the sand.
I liken it to when you open your fingers, and you see the gaps in between and know your partners fingers will slot into them perfectly.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (11 May 2014):
 I have to think she knew it was coming -- we'd been dating for more than four years and we were planning to relocate together. However, I did try to make it a surprise. Took her to the mountains on a pretext, had reservations at a fancy French restaurant, produced the ring after dinner and proposed. She seemed surprised.
I thought long and hard about it. For me it meant committing for a lifetime, and accepting the limitations and restrictions that happen when you go from single to married. I took it very seriously.
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reader, PeanutButter  +, writes (11 May 2014):
 I'm not a guy, but as a woman I just wanted to say that not all women really care about being proposed to. My husband asked me to marry him while we were just laying around. He was like "we should get married" and I was like "ok" - it was that easy. That is how I feel proposals should feel - easy.
I had only been with my husband a short time before he asked me and we were married a few months later and we've now been married 7 years.
I honestly think that some men propose just because they get sick of hearing women talk about it and "give in" but some who genuinely want to marry jump in and those proposals can be grand - or a real bummer if she says no!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (11 May 2014):
 I'll never forget the incident I witnessed at Harbor Park, in Norfolk, VA...... when I was an usher there...
During the "seventh inning stretch" a guy had planned to propose to his G/F... and the "fan-cam" was on-hand to record the whole thing, AND BROADCAST IT ON TO THE "JUMBOTRON" in centerfield...... The guy had the ring, got down on his knee and made the proposal..... (all on film!)....
The girl said (approximately), "Are you out of your f**king mind????? .... NO F**KING WAY!"..... AND STORMED OUT OF HER SEAT AND OUT OF THE BALLPARK....
THAT was the greatest "non-proposal" that I ever saw!!!! .... and, OH, how that guy must have been humiliated!!!!
Anyway... on with the game....
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