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writes:Hello! Ok so I am a 17 year old girl, and very small and thin... If any of you know who Ariana Grande is (singer/actress) I basically have the exact body type as her. Short, petite, and thin. Unfortunately that also means I really don't have boobs and lately this has really been bothering me a lot. The other day I had a boy tell me that girls who look like me and Ariana are disgusting, gross and "no fun" because we "don't have anything extra" and I cried for over an hour. I've been told I'm very pretty, long dark hair and hazel eyes with fair skin but I really don't feel pretty. Are boobs seriously THAT important to guys? I feel like all guys think like the one who told me those things the other day and its extremely disheartening :/ if anyone can help me it would be greatly appreciated, thank you!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2013): I have also asked that one to my bestfriend, he said it's not really a matter for them, he said girls with bigger boobs looks annoying whenever they jump or run. Lol and that's a benefit. Me too, belive me I'm just 32b haha well it'll grow, maybe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2013): Also, I am short and thin too. However at around 19/20 I started developing bigger breasts as my body became curvier. You are only young and still need to develop fully!
Even so, a real man will love you no matter what size your breasts are
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2013): Trust me... boob size is irrelevant, why else would both Kristen Bell AND Scarlett Johannsson be considered sexy when their body types are polar opposites?There is no one type of beauty. Some guys err towards larger breasts and some don't. Most couldn't care less, so long as you don't mind us touching them when we are being intimate with you.I grew up around the theatre and circus performers so I'm used to tighter, slender female bodies with firmer, smaller breasts. Indeed that is the pinnacle of female perfection to me.But the woman I lover is quite voluptuous and I have not a single problem with that. I love her and THAT makes all the difference.Boobs are boobs and at the end of the day, most guys are not gonna care if you know how to use what you have.Flynn 24
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (20 August 2013):
 Soundly ?.. How does that remotely be like suddenly? These damn devices are taking over ....
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (20 August 2013):
My husband is a huge leg man, if she has big boobs it 's a bonus but if she has nice legs he's impressed. Now my son is totally into faces but if they have big boobs that's a bonus. My son in law is into a great butt but he says if they also have a great set of tits it's a bonus. Soundly it got very quiet at my house...
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (20 August 2013):
 If you are one of those people who absorb every insult/stupid remark/idiotic comment/measured cruelty from mean people, then you are going to have a very long and sad life.
There are mean people, there are stupid people and there are mean stupid people. The last combination is really awful if you pay any attention to them.
The trick is to know when you've met one.
You've met one.
Now you know.
If you feel so bad about yourself that a mean stupid person like this guy, who you should never ever speak to again, makes a mean stupid comment like that and you sob for ages, then you need to talk to your parents about things.
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reader, firefly23 +, writes (20 August 2013):
To some jerks, yes, boob size is important, but steer clear and look for a real man, and it won't matter what size you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2013): To SOME guys, yes. Having big boobs is important. However, in most of my experiences with guys, that hasn't been the case. I'm in my mid twenties, thin like you, and barely a B cup. That's never seemed to stop men from being attracted to me. I had a few back in high school who weren't, just like you, but they, and the things they said stopped mattering to me long ago.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (19 August 2013):
 You need to figure out - and be very confident - that that jerk who told you that you "don't have anything extra"... also doesn't "have anything extra" himself... That is... he has NO BRAINS!!!!!
Guys who put that much emphasis on appearances are "tipping their hand" that they are terribly shallow.... AND are not worthy of girls, like yourself, who may not have ginormous boobs... but who are warm, pleasant, smart young women!!!!
I hope you dump THIS creep.... and choose to spend your time with guys who have a little more substance to "who they are"....
Good luck....
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (19 August 2013):
 I'd never heard of Ariana Grande so I googled some pics of her. Good grief, she has a marvelous figure! I'd have been thrilled to date someone who looked like that. You have nothing to worry about. That insensitive schmuck told you more about his sad little mind than anything meaningful about your appearance.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (19 August 2013):
 The guy is a moron and a bully with some serious girl issues. My guess is he's never even been with anyone, period. Not sure on what planet that singer you mentioned could be considered anything but hot. Alessandra Ambrosio wears a 34B cup size, as do many Victoria's Secret models. I know it's hard when someone is so mean, but once you leave high school you'll see that the guy is an idiot and boob size is not important at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2013): That guy was an a..hole and he was trying to hurt you.
Boobs are extremely important yes, but it's not about the size. Size doesn't matter at all. All you need is something on your chest that distinguishes you from boys. Even a pair of girly nipples on a flat chest will do the job.
Personally I am a fan of A-cup and B-cup girls.
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reader, human_male  +, writes (19 August 2013):
 You've fixated on the one negative comment you've received and disregarded all the positive feedback you have received about your looks.
Lots of men will like small boobs and a petite figure, but that shouldn't concern you because you can't base your self worth on what men think about you. What do YOU think about your body and your looks?
And furthermore, ask yourself if having small breasts has had a negative effect on your life. Do you get attention from guys? Yes, a lot probably. Do you have a boyfriend? Yes, if not now you surely will. Do you have a good social life? Again, most likely yes. So what is the problem? What do you think you're missing out on by having small breasts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2013):
Obviously, everyone has a different opinion. However, I will tell you this much as a 40 year old guy:
At my 10 year high school reunion the voluptuous girls with big boobs in high school were almost too much so as they had gained the weight that comes with children and age.
The stick thin girls had also gained weight, but to the point where they now had very pleasing figures.
Everyone has their moment in the sun. You will have yours. It could be tomorrow or ten years from now. Don't worry about this one guy. There's a good chance he's going to be a disgusting toad when you are in your prime.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (19 August 2013):
 The boy that was mean to you is just an idiot who was probably trying to act cool in front of his friends - I would ignore everything he said as he's just an immature little boy.
There are some men out there who love boobs, so perhaps you will not be for them. However there are also plenty of men out there who love petite slim girls and will love your figure. Every man you meet will like different things, some men love women with big boobs, big hips and curves. Some men like really tall women. Some men like fat women. Some men like thin women. Some men like small women.
The point is everyone likes different things, so while you might not be one man's cup of tea you sure will be very attractive in someone else's eyes.
This is a very important lesson to learn as a young woman - you are not going to be attractive to every man you meet, but you sure as hell will be attractive to some people. There is no point in worrying about one individual's thoughts on you, like in this kid's eyes he is not attracted to you because he likes women with curves. That's fine, that's his choice - but it doesnt mean all men think the same as him.
I am curvy, I have big boobs but then a big bum and big hips to go with it. My boyfriend loves me like this, he doesnt like skinny women and prefers curves. But then I have a friend who is taller than me (I'm very short), she has no boobs (tiny!) and is very slim. Her boyfriend loves her the way she is and doesnt like women with curves, he much prefers skinny girls.
So men are all different and like different things. I cant say that boobs are not important, to some they are important - but to others they wont care. Some men are boobs men, some a 'ass' men, some like legs....every guy will have a certain part of a woman's body they are naturally drawn to and will place more importance on that part of the body when looking at women. So if you have a great bum and great legs, and are petite (lots of men like petite women, they find it cute) then you are going to be very attractive to lots of guys!
Dont worry what silly immature boys say, generally when boys are under the age of 20 they are pretty stupid, they are still trying to impress their friends and dont want to show to their friends that they like girls because girls are not cool.
Be happy with your figure, love the way you are because we are all different and we need to celebrate that - you were born this way and cant change it so learn to love it and celebrate it. Forget what anyone else thinks, what other people think is irrelevant - as long as you are happy with yourself that is all that matters.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (19 August 2013):
 First that kid is an idiot. Ignore him. As u get older personality is more important and far more wiser to investing in developing vs a pair.
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