Does my Bf really care, after 8 months together if he'll unwilling to hold hands in public and only becomes more demonstrative when he wants sex?
Q. My boyfriend and I been together 0ff and on, but now we been together for 8 months and when we out and about he dont hold my hand. He still tell people that i am his friend and we live together and he only holds me when he want sex. i can sleep na...
A. 8 March 2017: My husband has never been a hand holder and we rarely kiss in public. In April we will celebrate our 42nd anniversay. But you can bet the farm that he couldn't wait to introduce me as his girlfriend when we were dating. He will cuddle with me ... (read in full...)
Should I go on a trip with my family or to a wedding with my boyfriend?
Q. I'm struggling to make a decision. I don't want this to sound like first world problems or like a brat. I've been dating someone for nearly 6 months now. We're starting to get more serious and have had a really great relationship so far. The ...
A. 8 March 2017: Definitely take the trip over the wedding. Your boyfriend should absolutely understand. It may be a once in a lifetime trip with your family and he should realize how important that is. In fact, how he handles this will certainly be an indicator of ... (read in full...)
What are the protocols about posting and commenting on the pictures of others on social media? Or am I just being crassly controlling?
Q. I am coming to social media rather late in life and am confused by the protocols that seem to liberally litter posts with kisses and hearts. So when my girlfriend posts a pic of an event she attended where I wasn't present and someone responds...
A. 20 February 2017: Everything on Social Media has to be taken with a grain of salt. Just like emails/texts, things people say can be totally misconstrued and even have resulted in tragedy. People who get so wrapped up in Social Media will eventually lose some common ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this? Whenever I invite a friend over she invariably does not show up
Q. I have a friend I've known for several years. She has a very frustrating habit in which she will set a day with me to meet up, and then not show up. I really don't understand how you can simply disregard to tell a person you are not coming and let ...
A. 8 February 2017: I'd do what Youcannotbeserious suggests or you can be classy and listen to Honey and Tish but what's the fun in that?... (read in full...)
We have a 2 year old together. Recently he said no way does he want more children. How do I tell him that I'm pregnant?
Q. Hiya I've just found out I'm pregnant I haven't told my partner because just last week we were talking about kids and he said no way does he want anyone especially this time we have a 2 year old son I'm so scared of how he's going to react I would ...
A. 7 February 2017: In this day and age accidental pregnancies between consenting partners should be the rare exception. How did yours occur?... (read in full...)
Should I tell the parents of my daughter's boyfriend that their son aged 17 is having sex with my 16 year old daughter?
Q. My 16 year old daughter revealed to me a little over a month ago that she and her 17 year old boyfriend have had sex. They have been dating for two years and I support their relationship and like her boyfriend a lot, so I am not really surprise...
A. 7 February 2017: How well do you know the boyfriend's parents?
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I want a prettier girlfriend who cares about being fit and healthy. What do I need to do?
Q. I want a prettier girlfriend. I've been with mine for a few years now and it seems wrong to leave. I love her but the lack of effort (exercise counts) is making me less attracted to her. Bringing it up makes me the bad guy. What should I do?...
A. 2 February 2017: I totally agree with chigirl. Short and sweet and to the point. No comment on your less than appealing attitude towards women just sound advice. Please follow it. We can delve deeper into you issues down the road when you hit more road blocks which ... (read in full...)
Do cheating married men usually have more than one mistress?
Q. Do married men who cheat, cheat with more than one mistress at a time? Or do some men stay with just one? I am interested in everybody weighing in with their opinions. ...
A. 28 January 2017: You must enjoy all this drama or you would have actually heeded all the great advice you have been given over the years.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-hid-a-recorder-and-heard-breathing-is.html... (read in full...)
My boyfriend prefers to be with my brother and housemate than with me.
Q. My boyfriend will spend more time with my Brother and Housemate then he does with me. My brother and housemate has been committing on my body appearance lately and my boyfriend doesn't say anything. I use to be extremely under weight but i'm now ...
A. 23 January 2017: Maybe it is time to trade up Honey. Holed up in a room is no life especially at your age. You should be out meeting people and making memories. If you aren't having fun and enjoying life then it's time to change.... (read in full...)
How can an older woman feel sexy when their partner obesesses over girls 20 years younger?
Q. How does an older woman ever feel good enough or sexy enough especially when her partner is obsessed with watching women twenty years younger than her. I know the usual answer is to ' realise he is with you and if he wanted that he would have that ' ...
A. 23 January 2017:
Does he look at porn or is he an ogler when you two are out and about or is it both?... (read in full...)
My friend won't say if he is gay or bi should I ask if I can give him a bj?
Q. I've never done it before but I would like to have sex with this guy I know, I think he is bi,but I can't be sure, I stop by his house every one in a while,I never known him to be with a woman since we have been friends five or six years,he spends a ...
A. 22 January 2017: Does he know you are gay?... (read in full...)
How should I handle this situation? I think something is going on between my mom and my husband
Q. I think there’s something going on between my mom and my husband !! I know this sounds impossible but it seems true !! And I want to get to the bottom of it but don't know how !! My mom's visiting us and it has been here for the past 2 months !...
A. 21 January 2017: Yep time for mom to pack her bags, visiting time is over. She has over-stayed her welcome besides her behavior 2 MONTHS is still way too long for a "visit". Unless she, God forbid, has permanently moved in. If she has a home tell her you would ... (read in full...)
She has decorated my bedroom space with love letters and trinkets and it's suffocating. What can I say and how should I approach this subject?
Q. I am in quite a new relationship with my girlfriend (just over 6 months) and things have been going well. Although recently she has started to decorate my bedroom with photographs, love letters and little trinkets. It is sweet, do not get me wr...
A. 20 January 2017: Tell her you have decided to turn your bedroom into your Man Cave. Get a couple "Man Cave items" (google it for ideas) maybe even a new paint job, then box up her stuff like Ivy suggested and you should be good to go.... (read in full...)
Is it my fault I got put into the FWB category?
Q. I've always been a woman that holds myself with dignity and believe that I have a lot to offer a man in a relationship. I am in no way saying this to brag or boast myself but my personality has always shined and others have told me so as well. ...
A. 20 January 2017: Honeypie is right about the pitfalls of FWBs. Many women don't get the rules and there are rules. There is a heap of difference between having no strings sex and being used for sex. Whether there is a double standard in play here or not, some men ... (read in full...)
I'm panicking my boyfriend will cheat on a guy's trip to Cuba. How should I respond or act in this situation?
Q. My boyfriend is in Cuba for one week on a guy's trip. I am beside myself with worry that he is going to cheat. I have read that prostitutes are around every corner there and they are dirt cheap. The anxiety is hard to take. I contact him a...
A. 18 January 2017: I think you realize that you need to spend some time on yourself, and so you can focus, you need to let go of this relationship. It is only exacerbating your symptoms which indicate a deeper problem(s). Let him read what you have written here so he ... (read in full...)
I'm panicking my boyfriend will cheat on a guy's trip to Cuba. How should I respond or act in this situation?
Q. My boyfriend is in Cuba for one week on a guy's trip. I am beside myself with worry that he is going to cheat. I have read that prostitutes are around every corner there and they are dirt cheap. The anxiety is hard to take. I contact him a...
A. 18 January 2017: You know that some people are actually happier and enjoy life more if they stay single, right? What exactly does it take for you to feel relaxed in this relationship? I mean can you let him go on a night with the guys without a panic attack? Or are ... (read in full...)
I live at home and my Mum won't let me clean it up, its a biohazard mess!
Q. It's a long story, but I got laid off from my job last year and I live at home with my mom. I feel like I've failed at life and this wasn't how I thought I would turn out, but this is just background information. What's going on is that I'm ...
A. 18 January 2017: I think Ruby really nailed it when she said your Mom most likely experiences the same level of anxiety if the mess is cleaned up as you do living with it. So the only thing you can do is to try and focus all your energy on finding a job and then ... (read in full...)
Why do I have to hunt down my vacationing boyfriend by text before he answers?
Q. I need your help. I need to know whether I should end a 3.5 year relationship. My boyfriend is traveling outside the country with family. He has been in touch by text because it's expensive to send texts and make phone calls. So his texts...
A. 17 January 2017: He will never give you all the attention you feel you need. Give him up and find yourself someone who can.
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Why do I have to hunt down my vacationing boyfriend by text before he answers?
Q. I need your help. I need to know whether I should end a 3.5 year relationship. My boyfriend is traveling outside the country with family. He has been in touch by text because it's expensive to send texts and make phone calls. So his texts...
A. 16 January 2017: If you are indeed the poster that Cindy thinks you are then you already know we think you need to end this relationship. You of course will never do that because of your issues which you refuse to address. Venting is good but therapy is better. Keep ... (read in full...)
I am worried about letting my daughter's father back into her life.
Q. Hello everyone. I'm a single mum to my beautiful 8 year old daughter and I have struggled in the past but I have always got by. I was 16 when I found out I was pregnant with her, and at the insistence of her dad, I went through with the pregnanc...
A. 15 January 2017: oh and that includes all PAST child support all 8 years minus 7 months... (read in full...)
I am worried about letting my daughter's father back into her life.
Q. Hello everyone. I'm a single mum to my beautiful 8 year old daughter and I have struggled in the past but I have always got by. I was 16 when I found out I was pregnant with her, and at the insistence of her dad, I went through with the pregnanc...
A. 15 January 2017: Talk to a lawyer. Set up child support payments and when he is totally caught up with them then you can address visitation rights. I'm betting he will do another disappearing act and that will save your daughter any further disappointments from her ... (read in full...)
He is still under her thumb. What can I do?
Q. Hello, I am slightly put off and rather upset at the moment. I live in a small town with my boyfriend of almost six years, and he... Well he is always dragging me over to his ex's place, making me spend the night, doing all her "to do" lists, and ...
A. 15 January 2017: Let me get this straight, you are "slightly put off and rather upset at the moment"? Honey you have have been hoodwinked for 6 years. You can stay and let it go on for another 6 years I mean since it only slightly angers you OR you can sort out the ... (read in full...)
How do I even begin to respond to him, when he ignores my good news?
Q. Hey guys. So I (27yrs) just started dating this older gentleman (45yrs) whom I've grown quite fond of. We've been dating for a few months now. He doesn't outwardly flirt with me, but he use to ask how I was feeling and if I was having a good day. W...
A. 7 January 2017: I'd be more concerned about his marital status than his texting skills if I were you.... (read in full...)
What should I do about my ex-partner and eventually getting him back?
Q. How do I get my ex boyfriend back?? I was with him for one year but friends for years before that. I have previously been in an abusive relationship(6 years ago) The partner at the time lied and lied to me that he wasn't cheating, to the point...
A. 7 January 2017: You have to get yourself right before you can even begin to worry about getting back in a relationship with him or anybody for that matter. Take all the time you need, you can't rush it or try to fix recovery into a time frame. Tell him exactly how ... (read in full...)
I'm worried that his mother will say something mean in Spanish about me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months. So far he's has met my family but for the most part they like him. But I haven't met his mom yet (I met his younger brother and sister). She doesn't speak english well and I'm really anxious about ...
A. 7 January 2017: Learn Spanish... (read in full...)
How do I even begin to respond to him, when he ignores my good news?
Q. Hey guys. So I (27yrs) just started dating this older gentleman (45yrs) whom I've grown quite fond of. We've been dating for a few months now. He doesn't outwardly flirt with me, but he use to ask how I was feeling and if I was having a good day. W...
A. 5 January 2017: Say "I remember so well the day my divorce was finalized it was 00/00/00. It was one of the (insert word or words of your choice) days of my life. So when did you get yours finalized?" Then watch him closely as he responds. Of course this must be ... (read in full...)
Should I consider that this friend I like is now available? What can I do?
Q. I asked a friend who I like and who knows I like him, advice about dating as my ex is now started dating again and my friend told me to get out there etc. I then took a month away from social media. I came back mid/late December and I found out ...
A. 4 January 2017: Why not ask him? He is a friend so ask him.... (read in full...)
How do I even begin to respond to him, when he ignores my good news?
Q. Hey guys. So I (27yrs) just started dating this older gentleman (45yrs) whom I've grown quite fond of. We've been dating for a few months now. He doesn't outwardly flirt with me, but he use to ask how I was feeling and if I was having a good day. W...
A. 4 January 2017: He isn't married by any chance?... (read in full...)
I don't want to nag, but my boyfriend won't shower. Solutions? How should I respond?
Q. I'm 26 and I've just got into a relationship with a guy who's just turned 25. We've been seeing each other for months and we've been official for less than 3 weeks. As you can imagine I'm still in the honeymoon phase but he's straight away made him...
A. 4 January 2017: You and he have talked about this issue. He hasn't made any changes. There's your answer. Live with his stink or move onto greener and more fragrant pastures. Oh and make sure you tell the slob EXACTLY why you are leaving, consider it a duty to your ... (read in full...)
Why cant my wife say sorry?
Q. I have been noticing for a few years now that my wife never can bring herself up to say sorry! I am much more of a perfectionist than her. She has messed up a lot of things in the past - like check writing (once she added $1195 and 25 to en...
A. 2 January 2017: Yikes man have you read what you just wrote???... (read in full...)
Is my ex looking to reconcile, or just hoping to being friends?
Q. Ex gave me two missed calls on the 29th of Dec. He claimed it was accidental. So I didn't react thinking it was genuine mistake. But he wished me a happy new year, and we ended up texting for about an hour. Funny thing about the text was we we...
A. 2 January 2017: COULD you ever be what you were before? Why did you break up after 7 years?... (read in full...)
Am I freaking out for no reason? He hasn't texted in 3 days!
Q. Hello, I'm a 22 year old single mother. I haven't dated much and it's been 2 years since my last serious relationship. I recently met a guy at the mall a few weeks ago. Well we have been texting the past couple weeks and then this past Wednesday w...
A. 28 December 2016: I say leave it. He knows how to get a hold of you, he even knows where you live. Maybe he was just a tad overwhelmed by the thought of getting involved with a single mother who is living with her own mother. And who can blame a 19 year old guy for ... (read in full...)
No present - what should I do?
Q. My boyfriend of four years did not give me a Christmas present this year. Should I be upset? Because I am. Should I say something to him?...
A. 26 December 2016: Did you give him a present?... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to let a guy know you are a cheater?
Q. Dear Cupid,I am a firm believer if you do something to somebody it is right to return what has been done to you.I was in a relationship with this guy for years a little over some years.He would cheat,lie,and make babies on me. I would look past it ...
A. 23 December 2016: Yup you sure did get the last laugh on that cheater! Enjoy single parenthood and make sure you get checked to STD's... (read in full...)
I really hate my name
Q. My birth name is Sarah, and it makes me sick. This is a trivial problem compared to some of the things people are dealing with, but I REALLY hate the name. I'm not a kid going through a phase. Ever since I can remember, I have always resented ...
A. 18 December 2016: The name Sarah came from Sarah in the bible who's name was originally Sarai. Sarai means "my princess" (denotes belonging) wheras Sarah means basically "princess in her own right" i.e. she needs no kingdom to be a princess, she is one by nature. So ... (read in full...)
I'm cheating but there's only one life
Q. I'm a guy who is happily married in a long term relationship. While sex can sometimes be an issue between us- she has a very low sex drive- and it's often a discussion/argument that we have, it's not so bad that I would consider ending the ...
A. 30 November 2016: Dang it Owl you beat me
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I'm cheating but there's only one life
Q. I'm a guy who is happily married in a long term relationship. While sex can sometimes be an issue between us- she has a very low sex drive- and it's often a discussion/argument that we have, it's not so bad that I would consider ending the ...
A. 30 November 2016: Ha ha it's as if FA was calling me with his last sentence!
Anyway poster I would like to point out that you most certainly are not "happily married". And also I can help but wonder if the reason your wife has a very low sex drive is due to your lack... (read in full...)
I'm very attracted to my therapist! Should I just stop with the therapy and ask her out?
Q. I suffer from severe depression and anxiety and I started seeing a therapist yesterday. And she's absolutely beautiful. I would've found it a little easier to talk to some middle aged woman or even an old person, but she's the same age as me, and ...
A. 12 November 2016: Sorry but she will never go out with you even if you become an ex-patient. You will still be a patient ethically so she will never cross that line. If you think she won't be able to help you with your issues then find a new therapist. It is very ... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend hates me for no reason
Q. Hi My ex boyfriend hates me for no reason. He changed into a very nasty horrible person after he admitted he was taking tablets I think for depression. Sex went out the window as well I thought he was cheating but he said it was medication. I was al...
A. 7 November 2016: Cindy is right (again). I also don't think he "hates" you but right now he is busy working on his own personal issues. The key word is personal and he needs the space to do that. You have made it abundantly clear that you are still there for him so ... (read in full...)
What rights do I have as a grandparent?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a grandparent of a now 2 year old grandson.My grandson is constantly in and out of CPS because my daughter is involved with the child's father and he is the one abusing him.Now I am trying to get visitation rights and she told the ...
A. 29 October 2016: Grandparent rights vary from state to state but you really are hamstrung for the most part. Almost always visitation must be court ordered if the custodial parent won't allow it. You will have to prove it is in the child's best interest etc...but ... (read in full...)
Should I distance myself from my Bf AND my Mother? Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?.
Q. Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?. I have had an on/off relationship with my boyfriend for a year. Yesterday, I was out with him and I called my mum to pick me up. I got upset because my mum started shouting at me on the phone. ...
A. 22 October 2016: He has given you the green light to spend your time working on yourself. So don't contact him again and start seeking the help you need for all your issues. There will be plenty of time for a relationship after you have gotten a true handle on ... (read in full...)
Should I distance myself from my Bf AND my Mother? Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?.
Q. Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?. I have had an on/off relationship with my boyfriend for a year. Yesterday, I was out with him and I called my mum to pick me up. I got upset because my mum started shouting at me on the phone. ...
A. 22 October 2016: The very last thing you need in your life is a boyfriend. What you need is lots and lots of therapy to address the multitude of issues with which you are currently dealing. If being alone is problematic for you perhaps an in-patient facility would ... (read in full...)
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