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What rights do I have as a grandparent?

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Question - (29 October 2016) 12 Answers - (Newest, 4 November 2016)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Dear Cupid, I am a grandparent of a now 2 year old grandson.My grandson is constantly in and out of CPS because my daughter is involved with the child's father and he is the one abusing him.Now I am trying to get visitation rights and she told the caseworker that she doesn't want me to have no rights to my grandson so how can this be overturned. My daughter works hard but she insist on buying love from this punk and neglects my grandson. I really want to see my grandson and if I have to I will take him a raise him even though I am taking care of my I'll mom who is in a wheel chair I have siblings but nobody cares. So please give M sum advice on my rights about being a grandparent.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2016):

I wanna thank everyone who gave feedback for my grandson he was adopted right out of my hands I just found out by his attorney it was said he is severely traumatized by the abused he endured while staying with my daughter and her boyfriend.All rights are denied until they feel its ok for me to see him. Be blessed

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2016):

Umm lady my grandson had a fist print in the right side of his rib cage that's the first sign of abuse she tried to blame it on the daycare center but the father got arrested cuz he was the one who did it .And he did it this time.Shame on you.And I never called Cps on her the neighbors heard the baby screaming and then that's when they were called.She secretly told my son my son told my brother and that's when I called to see why he was taken for the second time. Don't be so quick to talk down on me cuz you realm don't know the story

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2016):

Now with your last response I kind of see what is going on with you. You do not like her mate. I really think you are execrateing about the abuse and are bitter. Your daughter may have a very good reason for cutting you off. I think you may need some counselling. It may get you to understand why your daughter may be withholding her child from you. Shame on you for starting trouble and calling cps on her. I am sorry if this sounds mean but I think you need a wake up call. You protest too much. Read all the stuff you wrote on here.... hopefully you will understand why I say this. I think if you do not stop and get help you will lose both of them forever.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2016):

Yes it is very petty that my daughter don't want me nor my other family members in my grandson's life because we don't agree with her about him this deadbeat takes her money,she allows everything that he does my grandson does not have anyone to stand up for him.Im not on drugs I work everyday and I will be enrolling in school this fall so sense we don't deal with him we can't have any contact with my grandson and I take care of my disabled mom so she I acting out because we don't want nothing to do with the dead beat .

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (30 October 2016):

Honeypie agony auntMy BIL got temporary custody of his grandchildren (lasted 4 years) when his daughter (the 2 children's mom) got caught by the police/CPS she was busy smoking pot and sleeping it off in the house and the kids (who were 18 months and almost 3) were running around in the street with no supervision.

My BIL didn't want the kids in foster care so he stepped in. His ex-wife didn't want part of the mess or the work, so she didn't do a thing, she STILL got visitations.

I DO believe that the mother of the kids agreed to her dad having the kids, but I think it's kind of rare that CPS puts kids in foster care over a family member.

So why is it that your daughter wants you to have no contact? If it's a petty reason (that you don't like the father of the child) I don't see that being a big factor here.

That is why I said, CALL CPS, find a lawyer and set up a meeting.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States + , writes (30 October 2016):

So_Very_Confused agony auntHere is the link for grandparent rights state by state

http://www.grandparents.com/family-and-relationships/grandparents-rights/grandparent-rights-united-states

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2016):

This is for the person that responded to my post i needed advice on visitation rights.Im not pull any stunt to see my grandson my grandson is living in a home where there is abuse going on and its being done to him from the father so I don't get what you are taking about.Explain more!

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A female reader, mystiquek United States + , writes (30 October 2016):

mystiquek agony auntI don't have any specifics but I have read of cases in the US and grandparents have fought for their rights to see their grandchildren. From what I understand, the parents cannot refuse for the grandparents to spend time with the children unless the grandparents are a risk or have something really bad (drugs etc) in their background.

As others have suggested, call CPS, talk to the casework/supervisor,anyone who has knowledge of what is going on and can possibly advise you. Also, I'd get a consultation with a laywer..know where you stand before you start.

Good luck!

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (29 October 2016):

eyeswideopen agony auntGrandparent rights vary from state to state but you really are hamstrung for the most part. Almost always visitation must be court ordered if the custodial parent won't allow it. You will have to prove it is in the child's best interest etc...but one thing is certain, you will need a lawyer. Good luck.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2016):

You are going to have to get a lawyer.Be prepared to spend thousands.If you do not get custody be prepared for your daughter to cut you off completely. I would if my mom would pull a stunt like that.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (29 October 2016):

Honeypie agony auntCall CPS. Find a lawyer. Set up a meeting.

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A female reader, Andie's Thoughts United Kingdom + , writes (29 October 2016):

Andie's Thoughts agony auntYou're in America, so it may be different, but my mum's cousin has joint custody of their daughter S's two children M & H because S was involved with dangerous people. M & H's father's are different, but they don't know that, so they've been raised to believe M's father is H's father too and M's paternal grandparents have main custody of them both, as M's dad isn't capable of raising them alone.

We can't give you much advice because it's case specific, so you need to consult a lawyer. Don't give up.

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