Cheated on and now stalked
Q. I broke up with my on/off bf of 5 yrs in mid sept. He was acting weird so I let him go. I found out in Oct he cheated on my with at least 2 girls this summer. We still were hanging out and he wanted to get back together but after finding this out ...
A. 19 November 2014: Good news about the restraining order and be sure to let friends, neighbors, and co-workers know about this situation, the more eyes looking out for your safety the better.... (read in full...)
Former fwb guy is now acting weird since I have started dating someone!
Q. I've had this thing for ages with this guy. We started off as friends with benefits really, no strings and that's what we were both happy with. This carried on for about a year and obviously we got to know each other really well and it did develop ...
A. 11 November 2014: Yeah just ignore him and place all your attention on your current budding romance.... (read in full...)
Wishing and waiting but he never comes home.
Q. I am going absolutely crazy. My husband and I have 2 kids (1yr old and 3yr old), They have alot of emotional issues and are really hard to keep under control so I need his help more then the average mother and woman. My husband is ALWAYS gone out ...
A. 8 November 2014: Your household income comes from an 18 hr job? How on earth can you survive on that?
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Cheated on and now stalked
Q. I broke up with my on/off bf of 5 yrs in mid sept. He was acting weird so I let him go. I found out in Oct he cheated on my with at least 2 girls this summer. We still were hanging out and he wanted to get back together but after finding this out ...
A. 6 November 2014: You should go police and get a restraining order (or Canadian equivalent)against him. Then if he gets within a certain number of yards of you, you can have him arrested and thrown in jail. Better to be safe than sorry.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to take a polygraph?!
Q. Okay so I've been seeing this guy for 10 months, before him I went through a really rough yime after I went through a bad break up with my long term bf, where he cheated. After I did not deal with it well I had dated people and had ended sleeping...
A. 6 November 2014: Yep,I say dump him as well. If all this happened before you met him then he might be a sufferer of Retrograde Jealousy and boy howdy you don't want to have to deal with that can of worms if you don't have to. ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when he says I am his "guilty pleasure"?
Q. What does it mean if a man tells you your his guilty pleasure? What would it mean to you if you were to say this to someone or someone was to say this to you? How would you translate this in your inner world? Personally, humorous, passing c...
A. 5 November 2014: I'd definitely ask him why he feels guilty. Are you sure he is single?... (read in full...)
Should I settle down or take the "you only live once" attitude?
Q. I know this will sound selfish so I'm asking if you're going to reply having a go then please don't! I'm in a 4 month long relationship with a man who is everything I could possibly want but we want different things. He is ready to get a place t...
A. 5 November 2014: Do you think there is the possibility that you'll begin to resent your partner for depriving you of the social life you are enjoying, down the road?... (read in full...)
Is it out of line for me to try and initiate spontaneous sex ? I keep getting rejected by my wife
Q. hey there, I have been in a relationship for seven years now and my wife continues to reject my spontaneous advances. I understand things could be approached the wrong way, but I try and be fun or cute and at times alpha to initiate somethin...
A. 5 November 2014: Just curious, do you have children?... (read in full...)
How can we take things to the next level? My g/f finds sex to be really painful
Q. My girlfriend and I decided that we should take our relationship to next level. We have been trying to have sex but we failed 3 times now. I love her and I don't want to force her to do something that she doesn't want and she knows that. It is too p...
A. 4 November 2014: I had a friend who had to have a doctor remove her hymen, it was an industrial strength hymen I guess. Once she had that minor surgery she was good to go.... (read in full...)
Was my cousin flirting with me? Why deny it? Then he called me delusional
Q. I would really appreciate your help. I met some cousins of mine I didn't know I had for the first time a year ago. I got on best with the youngest , lets call him M , being the more sociable of the bunch, and we had a bbq and played outdoor g...
A. 2 November 2014: You have posted this before which to me indicates that you truly are obsessing over the whole situation. You have really blown this way out of focus. Best put it on a back burner for awhile and try to concentrate on your own immediate family and ... (read in full...)
How can I get my partner to drop his friends without making an ultimatum?
Q. I don't like my partner's friends and it is pulling us apart. 18 months ago we made friends with a couple that live close by. The friendship began with dinner once a month at each others homes. After only meeting a handful of times my partner was ...
A. 31 October 2014: Yes please tell us what these people did.... (read in full...)
Send BF a naughty video but he has not responded to it yet.
Q. Hi everyone. My boyfriend is on vacation with his family in China. He will be back in a few days. Yesterday I sent him a naughty video of myself talking dirty and looking very sexy. I was fully clothed but I really stepped it up. Like a real fant...
A. 30 October 2014: Maybe he opened the video when Grandma was sitting next to him....... (read in full...)
Haven't had a response back -- how should I deal with this?
Q. I dated this lovely man for a three months and we broke up in June. I was quite devastated as he was the one who pursued me and told me he was in love with me. I really adore him as a person but at the time he was very stressed out with his new ...
A. 29 October 2014: I advise you to do nothing. The ball is in his court. If he is as assertive as you say then he most likely would still be in your life if he wanted to be. I wouldn't waste anymore precious time on the guy.... (read in full...)
My Boyfriend and his ex-sister in law! I am incandesant with anger over this. What could or should I do?
Q. My boyfriend slept with his ex sister in-law, so that now has a baby by his brother. I can't get over the past and I don't think I ever will. I hate that "BITCH" and she's part of their family which I can't stand!!!What should I do about this s...
A. 29 October 2014: Get a new boyfriend?... (read in full...)
His apartment is freezing, but he doesn't turn up the heat! Do I stop visiting?
Q. Perhaps this is a weird question, but some suggestions on how to best deal with this would be nice. I've got a key to my boyfriends apartment, and I have been staying at his place for about every other day these last months. It's usually his plac...
A. 27 October 2014: I'm in total agreement, stop going to his place. It will be interesting to find out how willing he is to go to your place every night. If he asks why the change, tell him what you just told us.... (read in full...)
Did hiring a escort make me look bad?
Q. I'm doing an update since my post "I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?" (I'm 28 now)and have not post anything for few months. Well I hired a escort and done the deed, and I can my experience was not bad as ...
A. 27 October 2014: *sigh* I TOLD you guys....... (read in full...)
What's the hold up?! Why won't this guy meet me?
Q. I've been chatting to this guy online for many months now, and I'm really eager to meet him and get to know him more. Every time I ask him when he wants to meet up, he's very evasive and either ignores me or tells me he has too much on his plate at ...
A. 25 October 2014: My guess is he's in a relationship.... (read in full...)
Did hiring a escort make me look bad?
Q. I'm doing an update since my post "I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?" (I'm 28 now)and have not post anything for few months. Well I hired a escort and done the deed, and I can my experience was not bad as ...
A. 25 October 2014: From his previous posts I'm willing to bet this never took place so save your breath my fellow Aunts and Uncles,... (read in full...)
My family kept asking my much older boyfriend how old he was and now he's not responding to me
Q. My boyfriend is 14 years older than me and has 2 children of 24 and 26, he is 58 and i am 44 and have no children and the age gap has never been a problem to either of us until i took him to meet my family last week who no joke asked him how old he ...
A. 25 October 2014: Your family was incredibly rude. But you have apologized for them so there is nothing you can do at this point other than hope he can put this behind himself and move forward in your relationship. I wouldn't send him anymore messages just wait for ... (read in full...)
Did hiring a escort make me look bad?
Q. I'm doing an update since my post "I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?" (I'm 28 now)and have not post anything for few months. Well I hired a escort and done the deed, and I can my experience was not bad as ...
A. 25 October 2014: Has it really only been a few months? And if you actually did pay a woman for sex, which from all your previous posts I highly doubt, then yes not only does it make you look bad, it also makes you look pathetic. Be hey, the bright side is you are ... (read in full...)
I get creepy vibes from my teacher like he's a creepy sociopath
Q. I think my teacher is kinda cute but I get weird vibes from him. Some of the things he says lately have been really...off and I think he knows I have the hots for him. Once he stood by my table and said I know this is the time your bladders get full ...
A. 25 October 2014: If you are 22-25 then you are taking classes at some higher education institution which would make this totally voluntary. If you think he is a unstable psycho then drop his class and don't sign up for anymore of his classes. You don't need a ... (read in full...)
Why would the owners of the business tell me such confidential information?
Q. My boss just quit recently. Now the owners called me to tell me that they are getting ready to fire her boss. They said they want me to stick around and hang in there. They are planning to tell him in Monday. Since my boss quit it is just me as an ...
A. 24 October 2014: Maybe it's a test to see if you give him a heads up this weekend.... (read in full...)
If he cheats to be with you, does that mean he will 100 per cent cheat ON YOU?
Q. Hi everyone. I have been dating a married man for almost a year and a half. He does have genuine feelings for me and we have great sex and chemistry and a good friendship. He is comfortable with his wife and not leaving. I am not totally okay w...
A. 24 October 2014: Thank you Tish you little Sherlock you. Get ready Folks, she's back.... (read in full...)
I'm having doubts about the relationship because my boyfriend drinks to excess
Q. Hi. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He is intelligent and funny and fun to be with and we share many interests. What we don't share is his interest and committment to drinking on a daily basis, and at least 3 times a week being drunk to the ...
A. 24 October 2014: I want to add that that this is a permanent addiction. Alcoholics can get sober and stay sober but they will always be alcoholics. He is the only one who can help himself, he has to make the choice to get help. You can nag him until you are blue in ... (read in full...)
If he cheats to be with you, does that mean he will 100 per cent cheat ON YOU?
Q. Hi everyone. I have been dating a married man for almost a year and a half. He does have genuine feelings for me and we have great sex and chemistry and a good friendship. He is comfortable with his wife and not leaving. I am not totally okay w...
A. 24 October 2014: Constant worries, fears, nightmares, insecurities, no future plans, not the way I would want to spend my precious time on this earth. No late Christmas Eves sipping wine by the tree. Nobody I can count on to be there by my side if I were hurt or ... (read in full...)
I've been wondering if my LDR Bf is lying to me and cheating. Or has he stopped loving me?
Q. Ok so i'm dating this guy on the phone I live in one state and he lives in another place. Anyway so first he was all in love with me and all that and then after a while we started to argue a little. After some more time he said he is so busy with...
A. 23 October 2014: If he is in the same age bracket as yourself then I can tell you it's very likely having a long distance relationship will be end up not being enough for a virile young man. Plus the fact that you never even actually met face to face makes this ... (read in full...)
I like him but I'm too shy to talk to him
Q. I like a guy, but I'm kinda shy. I don't have the guts to talk to him yet. I had his sister tell him I like him and he said cool. But the thing is, he doesn't know me. I was going to have his sister introduce us, but I don't have enough confidence ...
A. 23 October 2014: How is he supposed to get to know you if you don't introduce yourself or have your friend introduce you? How much older is he than you? Do your parents allow you to date? He sounds like he's either just as shy as you are or he's just not interested ... (read in full...)
I've been wondering if my LDR Bf is lying to me and cheating. Or has he stopped loving me?
Q. Ok so i'm dating this guy on the phone I live in one state and he lives in another place. Anyway so first he was all in love with me and all that and then after a while we started to argue a little. After some more time he said he is so busy with...
A. 23 October 2014: Have you ever met the guy?... (read in full...)
Why are these people standing in the way of what could be a new boyfriend?
Q. Dear cupid,I have been out of school for awhile finally started going back and we all are assign to life coaches and the rules are no dating among students and coaches I have a mad crush on this guy that is a life coach he is like the putty I would ...
A. 23 October 2014: So you won't be treated as a student any differently than any other student. All schools have this rule. Enroll in a different school and then you can date each other. Aren't you a little old to be puzzled by this?... (read in full...)
Boyfriend went away on a trip and I am upset it was not a long, romantic good bye like I expected.
Q. My boyfriend went away with his family for a couple of weeks on a holiday. Before he left, he kissed me on the lips. That was it. We talked for 45 minutes first. He was joking and playful with me. Generally seemed happy to be with me. He kissed me...
A. 21 October 2014: I'm with YouWish, he wasn't going off to war or going by himself to Club Med, it's a two week friggin' family vacation. Sheesh. Learn to cook some exotic dish, sew some new bedroom curtains or totally redo it-paint and all, get a pedicure, have a ... (read in full...)
Is it shallow to want to break up with someone because they lack intelligence?
Q. It's is shallow to want to break up with someone because they lack intelligence? I'm having a hard time being in this relationship because my boyfriend's lack of intelligence and common sense. His decision making is poor, and his mental capacity is ...
A. 21 October 2014: Did his stupidity and incompetence come on suddenly? Was he like one day intelligent and loaded with common sense AND had your total respect...and then BAM the next day dumb as a post? Because if he was always like this then who is really the dummy ... (read in full...)
What is causing the u-turn in these relationships?
Q. Hi everyone. Firstly, thank you for reading, and secondly I hope you can help! So I’ll keep it as brief as possible. I’m a 27 year old lesbian and I have been back on the dating scene for about 6 months now, having previously been in a 3 ye...
A. 17 October 2014: Two bad experiences hardly can be called a pattern. I'd keep plugging along, these things take time. I think it's way too premature to be worried about yourself and have self-doubts.... (read in full...)
Will he ever forgive me for the way I broke up with him?
Q. I just ended a pretty horrible 2 and a half year relationship. There is no justification but I did it through text message. Each time we talked on the phone prior to break up it would start and I would say that I wanted to break up and then he ...
A. 17 October 2014: If it was a horrible relationship then why would you care if he forgave or not? Be glad you are shed of him.... (read in full...)
Huge crush, but now she has resigned. Why!?! What the hell is wrong with me? Have I let my lunatic ego take control?
Q. Turning 50 is not fun. My loving wife after 25 years of marriage tells me time has been kind to me and she still calls me sexy. I adore her. She is as lovely as the day I first saw her. I have always been somewhat shy. I never considered mysel...
A. 17 October 2014: I just want to add that if you think turning 50 is no fun...try turning 60 Buddy. Jeeze Louise, when that happens to you, you'll be callin' everyone "M" cause you can't remember their names, you'll never be awaken by a lightening strike cause you ... (read in full...)
He has a tattoo of his ex. And he kisses it. Does this mean he's still in love with her?
Q. My boyfriend had a tattoo of his ex inked on him a long time ago, when they were together. They haven't been together for a long time now and my boyfriend and I have been together going on 2yrs. I constantly see him kissing or looking at his e...
A. 17 October 2014: Sounds like it to me. Has he said why she is his ex? Have you guys talked about your previous relationships at all? ... (read in full...)
How can I get him to understand that we not in the same place sexually, so that I can put an end to my affair?
Q. I'm only interested in advice, not judgement. If you don't have anything constructive to say, you should not even bother responding. My husband and I been married for 8 years, and have a 5 year old. We were together for 2 years before that. ...
A. 16 October 2014: Maybe if you told him about your affair he will understand how important sex is to you. Of course he may also divorce you but then you're pretty much are heading that way anyway. At least then you can hook up with guys without any guilt.... (read in full...)
As an adult do you discuss your sex life with your parents?
Q. As adults, do you discuss any of the details of your sex life with either (or both) of your parents? Is it normal for a parent to want to know about your sex life? I am 23 years old. I recently started dating a new guy exclusively a few weeks ago,...
A. 16 October 2014: I can answer from both daughter and mother perspectives which pretty much boils down to Don't Ask - Don't Tell.... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my daughter never having a family
Q. My daughter is 28, her boyfriend is 32. They both graduated long ago and both have masters in different fields. They both have VERY good jobs with VERY nice salaries. They both travelled the world. My daughter was on every continent, and more tha...
A. 16 October 2014: She may not have a lot of family but she sounds like she has a network of friends so why are you worried about her being alone in the big world? Friends can sometimes be much more trustworthy and reliable than family so I don't think you need to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend treats me like one of his kids!
Q. (Mod note: please explain why you don't have a job or why you are not actively seeking employment as that is the first thing the aunts will ask you.) "I am a carer of 35hrs a weeks lookin after my son with the autism " My boyfriend treats like ...
A. 15 October 2014: This is at least the third question you have posted. If you are not a troll, then you have such a myriad of problems I suggest you need more than online help and must seek out a qualified professional.
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How do I break up with this liar I love?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've met this guy ten months ago. He seemed like a decent individual. We took our time to get to know one another. We've been intimate approximately 6 times throughout the 10 months of dating. I've always been skeptical about ...
A. 15 October 2014: I'm with Cindy, I'd be mad as hell at this guy. The only thing I'd be torn about would be whether to use "cheating asshole" or "asshole cheater" in my breakup text/phone call. Also tell him he'd better leave you totally alone or you'll expose his ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel scared about a relationship like this?
Q. I feel really weird about my relationship with my boyfriend. I feel so much love towards him that it almost hurts! I think about him and want to shed tears of joy... But I try to repress it for some reason. It's like I'm scared to fully love him o...
A. 14 October 2014: You need to try to relax and enjoy your lovely romance. Try to focus on all the good and try to block all the negative "what if's". There is no need ever to go borrowing trouble. Take a couple deep breaths when your mind starts wandering into that ... (read in full...)
Is my cousin interested in me?
Q. My cousin visited from Norway and we were not good friends but on this visit she became friends with my and me also and I noticed her looking at me more than once and gave me smile when I eyes met and one night we were out sat behind me in car and ...
A. 13 October 2014: "she became friends with my and me" are you single? ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel scared about a relationship like this?
Q. I feel really weird about my relationship with my boyfriend. I feel so much love towards him that it almost hurts! I think about him and want to shed tears of joy... But I try to repress it for some reason. It's like I'm scared to fully love him o...
A. 10 October 2014: How long have you two been in this relationship?... (read in full...)
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