A terrible co-worker that I once thought was my friend is holding things over my head. Help!!!
Q. I am really in a difficult situation that I wrote about on here before and took people's advice about, but the situation is somewhat worse after acting upon it. I apologise profusely for the length of this post. Basically, I have been being manip...
A. 12 December 2014: What's more important to you, your happiness, peace of mind and yes SANITY, or this job? Appears you can't have both.... (read in full...)
How do I overcome a major crush on my tutor?
Q. I posted this a few days ago but did not receive a reply so re-posting...... I am in my late 20's and started Uni this year. I seem to have developed a big fat stupid crush on my tutor....I think it's a crush anyway! I have a long term boyf...
A. 10 December 2014: Crush will fade in time. It will take longer however if you constantly dwell on it. Try to keep your focus on your partner. Stay busy and pretty soon you'll be looking back on this with a smile.... (read in full...)
The drama is getting too much ...........
Q. I am dating an almost divorced man. His final court date for his divorce is in February and that's it. For the past month his soon to be ex is in overdrive trying to patch things up even though she filed. I beleive when she filed it was to scare ...
A. 10 December 2014: I totally agree with the fact that you'd better face the fact that his ex is going to be in the picture for the rest of his life. You knew going into this relationship that he had children and that ties him forever to their mother. You are going to ... (read in full...)
My wife wants my permission to go out and flirt with other men when it suits her
Q. My wife and I have been together for 17 years, married for 12. We're still young-ish in our 30s because we met young. We've had a great marriage overall and have a relationship that was genuingely best friends first, then it became romantic. She ...
A. 9 December 2014: You ask if there is no way this can work and in my opinion that's just it, there IS no way this can work, not without you getting hurt or embarrassed by her behavior. Even though she claims otherwise, I think your wife has left your marriage ... (read in full...)
My mother sucks the joy out of life.
Q. Limiting or completely putting a stop to spending time with toxic people is always recommended. But, what if that person is your mother? I feel sorry for my mum because she is SO insecure that she leeches the life and energy from anyone she spends ...
A. 9 December 2014: You don't have to deal with it, and you don't have to fake your death to do it. Just stop going over there. Don't call don't visit. If she calls to ask why then tell her what you have just told us and then leave it for her to chew on. She no longer ... (read in full...)
Why does my ex keep asking about who I might be dating?
Q. Ex, who is now married and I'm sleeping with (not proud of this), keeps asking me about who I'm dating. Why is he asking me this? Why does he even care to know? When I ask him, he changes the subject. He doesn't want a relationship with me again, ...
A. 9 December 2014: Just what exactly are you getting out of this situation? I'd say relationship but it really is more of a situation.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has no time for me and calls me terrible names
Q. Hi, everyone, hope your day is going well. I have been with my boyfriend for two months now. He lives an hour away, I drive to see him just about every weekend. When I go all he wants to do is play video games. So, for hours I just sit there and ...
A. 9 December 2014: This relationship is not going to get any better it's best you just put it out of its misery. You can do and deserve better, my dear.... (read in full...)
I don't want to pay for her martinis and lobster plate.
Q. I have a question on what to do in this situation., We go out once a month with my girlfriends. we usually split the check equally., We noticed long ago that one of the girls when we re out orders in exess. By that I mean: she orders always t...
A. 9 December 2014: Ask for separate checks.... (read in full...)
I want to initiate contact!
Q. I go running at the park nearby. There is a guy who has shown interest in me multiple times. I am also somewhat attracted to him. I have never spoken to him but he must be married and in his late 30's or early 40's. I am also married and I will turn ...
A. 9 December 2014: What? Are you actively looking for trouble? ... (read in full...)
Why does my ex keep asking about who I might be dating?
Q. Ex, who is now married and I'm sleeping with (not proud of this), keeps asking me about who I'm dating. Why is he asking me this? Why does he even care to know? When I ask him, he changes the subject. He doesn't want a relationship with me again, ...
A. 8 December 2014: Maybe he's just making polite conversation.... (read in full...)
Did I over-react or does work consume me? how can I apologize to him if he will not answer my calls?
Q. I over reacted and broke up with my boyfriend of two years because we were not spending a lot of time together. Now, I realize that I have been working longer hours and spending time with my family for holiday limited our time. I want to apol...
A. 8 December 2014: Leave him alone, he knows you are trying to contact him but if you persist you will only piss him off all the more. If he wants to talk to you, he knows where to find you.... (read in full...)
Can you change a bad boy?
Q. Dear cupid, i just want to understand this. Is it possible to change a bad boy. Like he drinks a lot and has two kids with two different woman, he owns his own business and has lots of friend who they enjoy top life.ive seen all this on his facebook ...
A. 8 December 2014: You can't change a bad boy but what you CAN do is waste a lot of precious time attempting it. Don't go there Sister, ain't worth it.... (read in full...)
Why does my ex keep asking about who I might be dating?
Q. Ex, who is now married and I'm sleeping with (not proud of this), keeps asking me about who I'm dating. Why is he asking me this? Why does he even care to know? When I ask him, he changes the subject. He doesn't want a relationship with me again, ...
A. 8 December 2014: So what is YOUR best guess as to why he keeps asking you?... (read in full...)
Why does my ex keep asking about who I might be dating?
Q. Ex, who is now married and I'm sleeping with (not proud of this), keeps asking me about who I'm dating. Why is he asking me this? Why does he even care to know? When I ask him, he changes the subject. He doesn't want a relationship with me again, ...
A. 8 December 2014: Because he's concerned that maybe a guy you are dating may cut into his nookie time with you.... (read in full...)
Why does my boss avoid me and give just one word answers to my questions?
Q. Can I please get some opinions on something that recently occurred. Last week we had our works Christmas party and it was a really nice evening except that I think my boss was avoiding me... Now just to give you some background - I barely s...
A. 8 December 2014: I think he either doesn't like you very much OR he likes you a lot and in his mind it's likes you TOO much. Is he married?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend always puts me last to everything...
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year. We will be a year in about two weeks. Anyways, I just always feel like he puts me after everything. Money, friends and skateboarding. I work 8-5 so when I come home from work I just wanna ...
A. 8 December 2014: He is 19, when a guy is 19 his first priority is going to be being with his friends. He isn't "too damn young", he is merely acting his age. If this relationship isn't making you happy then break up with the kid and date someone closer to your age ... (read in full...)
He seems like a guy that I would like to get to know and I wouldn’t like to let the chance go.
Q. Hey everyone, well this is my situation. My sister is a freshmen in high school; since the first week of school she’s been telling me that her science teacher is very cute, nice, and that I should meet him. I never paid attention to her due to the ...
A. 8 December 2014: Wait to hear from him, do not send anymore texts or emails until he gives you the green light. You don't want to scare him away by acting all clingy and needy.... (read in full...)
How can we help my Bf's brother to take control of his eating and drinking habits that are affecting his health?
Q. Hello. My boyfriend and I are great. His brother is our problem. He has severe health issues and my boyfriend and I want him to take better care of himself. We just don't know how to go about it. The guy drinks 4 x 2 liters of Diet Coke a d...
A. 2 December 2014: What's wrong with canned soup? That's what I'm having for lunch today matter of fact.... (read in full...)
Why can't I stop thinking about my ex ever since I found out that he is engaged?
Q. I just found out that my exboyfriend just got engaged. We've been separated for about 2 years and 6 months now. We were together for 11 years and I broke up our engagement because I got fed up with his lies and cheating. He tried to get back to ...
A. 25 November 2014: "He lied and cheated on me", keep telling yourself this over and over again anytime you get that urge to talk to him. Do not give into this whim. It will pass.... (read in full...)
I don't care about what he's done to me but he cant just abandon our child!
Q. Looking for some guidance on what to do here!! I have posted here before about this waster of a man I've spent the last 4 yrs with and I got some great advice. Just to quickly give u some back ground.. i'm 26. I've been with a man 14 years my seni...
A. 25 November 2014: Yep you can't make him get involved with your son but you can make him help pay for your son's needs. And like Ciar said it's early yet and you have lots of time to get your ducks in a row before your son is born. I wouldn't make any plans (other ... (read in full...)
Why would you leave the best relationship you ever had over a surmountable problem.
Q. Hey guys, This past Friday my boyfriends of a little over a year broke up with me. Despite my embarrassing pleas he would not reconsider. The reason he gave for the breakup was that despite my having been the best girlfriend he had ever had and...
A. 25 November 2014: Sometimes words we say can never be apologized away. If you were fighting a lot then it wasn't a truly great relationship after all. Better the breakup was sooner than later. You WILL get over this, we all have.... (read in full...)
Why would you leave the best relationship you ever had over a surmountable problem.
Q. Hey guys, This past Friday my boyfriends of a little over a year broke up with me. Despite my embarrassing pleas he would not reconsider. The reason he gave for the breakup was that despite my having been the best girlfriend he had ever had and...
A. 25 November 2014: Sometimes words we say can never be apologized away. If you were fighting a lot then it wasn't a truly great relationship after all. Better the breakup was sooner than later. You WILL get over this, we all have.... (read in full...)
Is it inappropriate to ask a guy to take an STD and HIV test before we date?
Q. Dear Cupid, I haven't dated in a long time but I decided if I should date again would I be wrong to bring up front about taking STD and HIV test.My health is in great condition and I want the same for the new guy.Thanks ...
A. 25 November 2014: Before you even have a date? I'd say no. But once you dated for awhile and are getting ready for the next level of sexual intimacy then I'd say it would be appropriate for you to bring it up with him and hopefully you will agree for both of you to ... (read in full...)
Present ideas for my 14 year old boyfriend
Q. So I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 months and I don't know what to get him for Christmas keeping in mind were only 14! But I do love him (yes young love) got any ideas? ...
A. 23 November 2014: Make him a decorative personalized pillow. Do you know how to knit, if not learn and make him a scarf. Take some photos of the both of you and make him a grouping he can hang on his wall.
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He wants to take care of me and finance my education, but ...
Q. i seriously need help. im a 16 year old and a married man of over 40 years has been chasing me for sometime now, ar first i turned hi down but later on we became friends and got talking. he promises to take care of me and finance my studies, he is ...
A. 21 November 2014: If your conscience is killing you now just think how you'll be feeling if you do get entangled in his web. This is wrong on numerous levels. He doesn't love you, he is just having a mid-life crisis. Tell the horndog to leave you alone or you'll call ... (read in full...)
My wife treats and speaks to me as though I am incompetent!
Q. My wife of 1 1/2 years treats and speaks to me as though I am incompetent and unable to make the "right" decision. I am almost 62 years old and have managed to take of matters just fine all this time. My wife has a different and more stressful ...
A. 20 November 2014: Oh and I might add that years ago I criticized my husband lawn mowing technique...guess who's job it's been all these past years?... (read in full...)
Didn't expect the father's reaction when I told him about the baby
Q. I had a baby in September. i had gone through my entire pregnancy without telling anyone i was pregnant. in retrospect, it was kind of a bad idea but in my defense, i was terribly confused and overwhelmed. once i had the baby, my family became i...
A. 20 November 2014: Honeypie has given you great advice, call Child Support Services and see what they can do for you as far as the DNA Test and setting up child support afterwards. Once you get that in the works you contact the father so he can get tested until then ... (read in full...)
Is my daughter having a second affair?
Q. I am concerned about my daughter, I will give you some background information she has a child with her former friends dad who was married at the time. I don't need to say why they are no longer friends. This is all came out when the baby was born. I ...
A. 20 November 2014: Okay that eliminates one theory.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is not speaking to me!
Q. Hey guys, My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year, it has been a relatively good relationship until we hit a speed bump about two months ago when we started fighting a lot about the same thing over and over again. He ap...
A. 20 November 2014: What is this same thing you keep fighting about?... (read in full...)
My wife treats and speaks to me as though I am incompetent!
Q. My wife of 1 1/2 years treats and speaks to me as though I am incompetent and unable to make the "right" decision. I am almost 62 years old and have managed to take of matters just fine all this time. My wife has a different and more stressful ...
A. 20 November 2014: Let her take care of the bill paying etc...gets her off your back and gives you some free time.... (read in full...)
Is my daughter having a second affair?
Q. I am concerned about my daughter, I will give you some background information she has a child with her former friends dad who was married at the time. I don't need to say why they are no longer friends. This is all came out when the baby was born. I ...
A. 20 November 2014: Where's your daughter's father?... (read in full...)
Do we let this go, not being invited to fiance's grand child's 1st birthday?
Q. My fiancé's daughter had their first child and it's my fiancé's first grand child. My fiancé is divorced. His daughter is close to her mother and her in-laws. I was not invited to the baby shower that the daughter's grandma (her mother's mother)...
A. 20 November 2014: Does she hold her father more responsible for the divorce than her mother?... (read in full...)
How can I get myself to squirt?
Q. Hey everyone.... So this is rather a different question but I need some advice. Ive been wanting to squirt for the longest time, and I believe I did so tonight. I followed some tips, and when I did orgasm I pushed out instead of holding back. I felt ...
A. 20 November 2014: 3.5 hours? Well you certainly have persistence anyway, plus a lot of spare time I guess.... (read in full...)
My husband and his family are pressuring me to visit them in Kurdistan!
Q. My husband is currently in kurdistan, iraq. We are supposed to be meeting up in turkey in a couple of weeks. Now he is pestering me to go to kurdistan as his family want to meet me. I dont wish to go there because of the situation in iraq. Kurdistan ...
A. 20 November 2014: Don't go, don't let his family get their mitts on you. I have heard way too many horror stories about how they control women over there. A big no thanks.... (read in full...)
Cheated on and now stalked
Q. I broke up with my on/off bf of 5 yrs in mid sept. He was acting weird so I let him go. I found out in Oct he cheated on my with at least 2 girls this summer. We still were hanging out and he wanted to get back together but after finding this out ...
A. 19 November 2014: Good news about the restraining order and be sure to let friends, neighbors, and co-workers know about this situation, the more eyes looking out for your safety the better.... (read in full...)
Does a blow job require this in order to feel good?
Q. Guys when a girl gives you a blow job, does a girl have to deep throat for it to feel good for you. Answers from guys only please. ...
A. 18 November 2014: Ahh Watergate...quite a story... (read in full...)
I have fallen in love with my mistress but I still care for my wife. What do I do?
Q. I have fallen in love with my mistress but I still care for my wife. I did not set out for this to happen. When I first met my mistress, I knew instantly I was head over heels for her. It started out as mostly physical as she is beautiful and mu...
A. 14 November 2014: Your wife cheated on you, not buying it. But I'm not really buying any of this. I think, since you really don't want any advice and are not really asking a question, that you are just trolling...... (read in full...)
Hurt by his ex, all he's ready for is a friendship
Q. About a month ago, I met an amazing guy. We hit it off right away and we started to spend every single day together, as well as I stayed over every night. He asked me to come over every day and stay every night. It felt amazing to be wanted. He ...
A. 13 November 2014: Stay away from him, you only invested a month of your life on this dead end, don't waste any more. Most likely he was just looking for a roll in the hay, but when you started up with the questions he ran for cover. Next time I recommend you take ... (read in full...)
Herbal supplements for suppressing male libido?
Q. I'm 18 years old, straight, and have never had a girlfriend, this hasn't bothered me until recently when I've begun to notice that my sex drive has seemed to increase as of lately. Now I realize that for most men an increased/regular sex drive is a ...
A. 12 November 2014: The military used to sprinkle salt peter (potassium nitrate) on the soldiers' food to stifle their sex drives. Not sure how well it worked tho'.... (read in full...)
I like a hot dad and don't know how or if even should pursue?
Q. Hi just need some advice pls. I'm a 33 single mum,and there is this really hot dad at the school, iv never spoken to him face to face as I always assumed his married or got a partner plus I'm shy lol anyway im on a dating site and hadn't been on ...
A. 11 November 2014: Just relax and take things slowly. He may be getting over a horrendous break up with his kid's mother. Maybe he's only been single for a very short time and isn't really ready for a new relationship. Just see what develops, he may come around but ... (read in full...)
Former fwb guy is now acting weird since I have started dating someone!
Q. I've had this thing for ages with this guy. We started off as friends with benefits really, no strings and that's what we were both happy with. This carried on for about a year and obviously we got to know each other really well and it did develop ...
A. 11 November 2014: Yeah just ignore him and place all your attention on your current budding romance.... (read in full...)
Cheated on and now stalked
Q. I broke up with my on/off bf of 5 yrs in mid sept. He was acting weird so I let him go. I found out in Oct he cheated on my with at least 2 girls this summer. We still were hanging out and he wanted to get back together but after finding this out ...
A. 6 November 2014: You should go police and get a restraining order (or Canadian equivalent)against him. Then if he gets within a certain number of yards of you, you can have him arrested and thrown in jail. Better to be safe than sorry.... (read in full...)
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