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What shall I do when she has asked me to give her time?

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Question - (21 January 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 22 January 2010)
A male Malaysia age 30-35, *yros writes:

I know this girl bout 3years from friendster and we started till then but that time we less msg but juz a friend.. started 2009 we really started to msg to each other everyday although we haven meet yet and really get to understand her bout 1 years and she also duno that i like her till she started to ask me and she curious and i tot maybe that is the time to tell her that i like her and she was consider and thinking bout it but finally 2009 dec 25 she accept me as her bf but we still haven meet..

until 2010 she come to KL and work here and we already meet face to face but a few days later she told me she said she feels that im juz a friend from her and i ask her why she said to me she duno why.. and its not the same feeling like before we meet she told me before we meet her feeling like a gf and bf feeling and now we meet is different although she said she got miss me but its also different from before..

but when she started working she very busy and no time to do other thing also go out with me she told me when she free she will call me out but we oli go out for 2times for a dinner and the second time we go out i talk with her a lot of things and she said to me give her times and i eventually upsad that she said to me she im like a friend to her but i hold her hands and talk with her and when i going to enter my house she said she wan to give me a hug and she hug me.. but she still msg me everyday but juz not like last time cuz now she start working late and she very tress and tired and she also no time to take her breakfast so yesterday me go bought for her a cookies and i take a taxi and wait her near a apartment and she duno im near her place when she ask me when am i now i told her im at her place rite now and she ask me to go back she said to me she duno what time she will finish work and she dunwan me to wait for her but i didt listen to her the reason i go find her his to gv her the cookies for her breakfast if she no time to take breakfast she can eat it in the office and she said i gv her a headache rite now and she tired and she ask me to gv her time..

but then i msg her and ask can i at least pass her the cookies and i dun mind watting for u if cant then i go back home and sory to make u angry and headache cuz of me then she reply my msg she said to me she not angry at me she dunwan to see me standing like and idiot there watting for her.. so i pass the cookies to her apartment guard and i told her to go there take after she recieve it from the guard she msg me and said tht im such a sweet guy and ask me be carefull when i get back home.. and one thing that i no when she free after work she find me for a dinner and from a place to my place is very far distance and i no when she find me she drive me for a dinner and drive me home and dunwan she to find me again cuz i worry bout her health and she very tired after work.. but now im very confius is she still my GF she even gv me a hug and msg me when she reach home and also sometimes cal me dear, but she said to me gv her time..

What shall i really do rite now ?? shall i not msg her or disturd her dun gv her more tress and i really wan to be wit her..

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A male reader, cyros Malaysia +, writes (22 January 2010):

cyros is verified as being by the original poster of the question

em.. thx for tht advice but yesterday night she message me and she said tht im such a caring guy even we r not couple anymore and she said tht im realy touched her heart ALOT, after she reading my message in her office, she cried and cant reply me, she said she feel so sory for treating me bad, and she said she such a suck person, after that she send me a second message she said to me she will always care about me and we can hang out together, she said she dunwan to loose me as well and she swear ! she said thanks to god that she met me and she said she cant talk wit me cuz she know that she will cry and thats wht she message me after tht she send me another message and she said she stop crying and she juz wan to tell me how she feel and her mind are blank right now and duno wht to said.. thn she send me another message she ask me why i treat her so good ? and her tears burst out again..

Em i juz wanna tht weather i still hv chance to be wit her ?? and i duno wht she thinking right now in her mind..

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A female reader, Gridrebel United States +, writes (22 January 2010):

Gridrebel agony auntShe is not interested in you as a romantic partner. She has enjoyed communicating with you as a friend and as long as it was only a "penpal" style friendship, she had no problem with committing as a bf/gf relationship. Once she met you, she made a determination that you are not what she is looking for. She is trying not to hurt your feelings. If you are looking for a serious relationship, you need to move on, she is not the one.

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