A
male
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:Does being rich make a guy sexier, or does he just offer more security?What is better in a guy who is 20-30 years old.. Being super rich (through inheritance or the lottery), or having an $US80k job? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2017): A lot of rich guys are dicks with bucks. LolThey know they are rich and that is all they have going for them. They have never had to work hard to impress women so they have never had a chance to develop their personalities, charm, sexiness etc. Think Donald Trump is sexy??? Nooooooooo!!!!!I think rich men are NOT sexy just because they are too self absorbed. And women are not into them for anything but their money. And they know it. So, charmers they are not. They are just big spenders. Users. Whatever you want to call them. They just use women who want to be bought.I'd rather have an everyday guy who is naturally sexy, passionate and cares about me. I am not interested in someone who would treat me like an object. It would be so unfulfilling and empty in the long run.So, I would marry the man of my dreams who had no money as opposed to a man who could not make my heart happy although I would have security. That would never be enough. And you would always be seeking that guy who would love you and not buy you.I think rich sexy guys can exist but they are the exception, not the norm. And usually that sexiness is only present in their own big ego.
A
female
reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (25 January 2017):
 Interestingly enough, the only reason I wanted to be rich was to help fix world problems. If I met a man who happened to be rich and used his money (wisely) to help build wells in 3rd world countries, to bring food to those who need it, to help homeless people have a bed for a week and maybe some clean clothes, etc., then I'd consider him a good person and dateable (if I was single).
If he was rich and spent unnecessary amounts of money on himself, then I'd find it hard to see him positively. It's not because a rich person shouldn't enjoy their wealth, but there's a point (for me) when it becomes tedious and wasteful.
Money can make someone slightly more attractive, more so to a gold digger, but it won't make up for personality flaws.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2017): I dont live in America so I dont know if having an $U80k job is a lot of money or not. I asume you mean by that having a job with an anual salary of $80k.Where I live that is a lot of money and if you can safe half of that money anually you can also be a very rich guy within say 5 yrs.So the question is would women prefer a rich guy who doesnt work or a rich guy who works. I think they dont mind either but if you ask would they prefer a rich guy or a poor guy then the answer will clearly be, they prefer the rich guy.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2017): Define "super-rich" inheritance. Are we talking a few hundred grand? Multi-millions? If you inherit $30 million bucks that beats any job you could ever have.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2017): Some women do find it sexy, for some they wouldn't find it sexy. But I know some of my friends get off to it.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2017): I guess it all depends on what you're looking for. All people don't look for the same things in a relationship. Some want financial-security and comfort; while others want a loving and real relationship that will last. If you're looking for someone to take care of you, you will be treated less than his equal. He will take advantage of your dependency. It's not as easy or simple as it looks from the outside looking in.
If you are looking for a rich guy, the first question is; what do you have to bring to the table? Being pretty isn't really enough. Pretty girls are a dime a dozen, and a rich man has his pick from the creme of the crop. You have to have something that stands out that makes him choose you over the next pretty girl. You don't pick him, he chooses you! He'll want a lady with class and a pedigree. If you're just for sex, he'll treat you like a prostitute.
The "Pretty Woman" thing, is just in the movies.
Then you have to be prepared to deal with his friends and colleagues who will pick you apart. His ex-girlfriends who will be snarky and bitchy towards you, and his family who will see you as nothing but a gold-digger. Playing out of your league, is like swimming in a shark tank.
Then there's the so-called "good-catch" aka successful-guy, who is looking for a wife. He wants something in exchange for his offer of financial-security as well. A good cook, someone to make his home the envy of the neighborhood, a wife who can be the finest hostess around, and a lovely mother for his children. Preferably arm-candy that will make him the envy at his company events. If you gain weight, he will quickly replace you with someone slimmer, younger, and prettier. He has more options than the average guy. Your girlfriends will also be after him. You'll be paranoid. If you're superficial, he'll know it. Unlike the average guy, the wealthy-man knows his foes and how to handle them. He is prepared to deal with people after his money.
Let me educate you about superficial marriages, or marriages of convenience. You will have a lot of competition. Before, after, and all during your phony marriage. If a man secures you as his trophy-wife, he will also own you like a piece of property. He will adorn you with lovely jewels, show you off, and then he will place high demands on you to keep up the best appearances.
If you have the notion you are going in without sacrificing something of yourself, you're naive and delusional. They can break your heart and destroy your spirit. In a divorce, you could walk out of a marriage without a cent, lose custody of your children, and leave with just the clothes on your back. They can be kind one minute and ruthless the next.
Most wealthy people nowadays will make you sign a prenuptial agreement. You walk-in with nothing, you walk-out with nothing.
You do yourself a better favor by getting an education, setting your own goals in life, finding your own happiness, and having the ability to get the things that you want yourself; and marrying someone you love, to share life with.
If he happens to have money and success, and loves you for you; and you love him in return. His money will not matter, because relationships built on love and trust last longer than those based on greed and selfishness. You reap what you sow in life. If you happen upon a "good-catch;" you may live in luxury around you, but have loneliness and misery inside you. That would be what you deserve for using people. The one thing built inside all human beings, is a need to be loved. Money doesn't satisfy that need.
I fell in-love, and got dumped by a rich guy. We originally met when I was on flight to California to meet-up with an old friend of mine. We hit it off, and we started dating. He was in it for fun, games, and the sex. When that was all over, he dumped me; and moved on to the next guy. I have a good education, I make a very good income, and I have a lovely home. I'm quite comfortable. I had all that long before I ever met him.
By some stroke of fate, or destiny, I met this really nice guy two years later. I had no idea what he had or who he was. We just had a very strong attraction for each other that grew. It was incidental that this man is successful and owns his business. I don't take a dime from him, I don't want anything from him but his love. I love him dearly. I did not go out searching for anybody, we crossed paths. I was just a single independent guy, who'd gotten over a broken heart; and decided to help others to deal with theirs here on DC.
Look for true love, sweetheart. There are no fairy-tale relationships. They all take work. Money and fame doesn't make it happier or last longer; or celebrities would have longer marriages and perfect relationships. You are young, and I would expect you to have such dreams going through your mind.
...............................
A
male
reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (24 January 2017):
 Money doesn't make you sexier or more secure...it just is a lure
...............................
A
female
reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (24 January 2017):
 Does a guy having money offer more security? I doubt it, especially if that guy is of the mind set that money equals power and the right to do whatever he wants.
As for what's better for a guy aged 20 to 30 ... if he has money from winning the lottery and is coming from a background of little money and no experience managing it, statistics suggest the money wont last long, same with inherited money if there is a lack of experience or moneyed background.
Money gained through intelligence and hard work is more likely to grow more money ... but if the guy is a prick most women wont hang around for very long ... and I would strongly suggest any young man who is earning that sort of money and is looking for a relationship develop his interpersonal skills and look for women in places other tha those where women who are attracted by the wallet rather than the person hang out.
I hope that answered your rather open ended question.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2017): I think having the job is better. If you have a lot of money you should still have a job. It shows you are responsible if you are working and to women a responsible man is so sexy.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2017): A female would definitely see financial security as one of the factors in being with a rich guy. I don't think that being rich makes a guy sexy. What could be happening is that being rich gives the guy confidence, which makes him appear sexy.
...............................
A
female
reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (24 January 2017):
 Having money doesn't make a person "sexy". It takes a little more than that. Having money or making money offers a partner a STABLE partner and for SOME women, status and security.
Being a great person, who gives an F is more likely to be attractive. Now if he ALSO takes good care of himself, has ambitions, drive, hopes, and dreams, I think he is seen as an even better match.
For some being FIT is sexy.
For others being a great charmer is sexy. Or being a great athlete, actor etc.
Hugh Heffner isn't sexy. Maybe in his "hay-day" when he was young and attractive SOME women saw him as sexy. But all those "GF" who are in their 20's that he has had over the last 20-30 years didn't see "sexy" when looking at him. They saw a meal ticket, a way to further their OWN agenda and career. If a MAN has to throw a lot of money at a woman to date her then it's NOT him she is after, is it? But his money.
...............................
A
female
reader, chigirl  +, writes (24 January 2017):
 There is no "better". And it doesnt make a guy more sexy. But money can make a guy more attractive in general, as it offers security. When thinking of who you'd rather risk a pregnancy with (yes, sex is taking a risk of pregnancy), who would you rather create a tiny and expensive human with? Someone broke, or someone who could pay the costs?
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2017): What's better in a man (for me) is chemistry, intelligence, makes me laugh, lovely voice, kindness, compassion and confidence. I could not care one bit about his bank balance. And I find it insulting and crass to suggest a man gets sexier for a woman, the more money he has. I was once with a lovely man who had three successful businesses and I had a wonderful lifestyle. I left him for a man who lived in a one bedroom flat and who was on benefits. Because he made me feel alive. Loving and passionate, which the other man lacked.Another man came to collect me in his Mercedes SLK and my Mum said typical you, he comes in his Merc and you want the one with the lawn mower. I had a relationship with the gardener and wasn't interested in the Merc man.I really hate it when men think that money is all women care about. I earn my own. I want a man for other things. If ALL you've got is money, you wouldn't even get off the starting block.
...............................
|
