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writes:I need some advice on being lonely.I posted his question once before and would really appreciate some more help pleasseeeeeI've been feeling so lonely that I cry myself to sleep every night. I feel that I have nothing to live for. All I do is go to work or school and have absolutely zero social interactions. I hate coming home and being lonely so I'll stay in public as much as possible, whether it be going to a restaurant, watching a movie, or shopping (all alone) I just can't stay at home.I don't have a single friend, and months often pass by and no one texts me or talks to me. I don't remember the last time I was invited to hang out with someone, or the last time a friend checked up on me.I don't know what to do... I've tried so hard to make friends or go out with people, I'm very sociable and have even tried to join a few clubs in my university and volunteer in addition to work to meet people but nothing has worked. I often find myself surrounded with cliques and I am the outsider. I've tried to be friendly and invite people out, or start conversations, or friend people on social media but nothing had worked I don't like this constant feeling of being alone and just want to be happy!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 January 2017):
 This is the fourth time you have posted the exact same question, and each time you have been giving great advice so why don't you try and use it? Everyone is trying to help but do you want help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2017): I can empathize. Today's world has gotten very insulated with technology that doesn't help
I would suggest signing up for volunteer work! Go teach kids to read or clean the bay. You'll be doing good and socializing.
It gets better!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2017): Maybe you are just overextending yourself and it is getting to you.Could you maybe cut back on a few classes? Or just not work as many hours? My son used to feel that way too when he was your age but then at 30 he came unto his self. Do not feel bad you are so young this shall pass as you get older. Give yourself a break...you are a good person...your time will come..but in the meantime do things yourself that intrest you and before you know it things will start to fall in place for you. And you know what? You have a friend...me..be strong you have a good start the rest will fall into place.
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reader, Garbo  +, writes (4 January 2017):
 Loneliness is a feeling and not a fact, so coupled with your other feeling, that you have nothing to live for, as well as compensatory habits such as going into public places... looks to me like an onset of a depression.
There are people who choose to be lonely to be happy and some who are lonely and aren't unhappy. You fall in the category outside of the absence of unhappiness. That your sense of loneliness can trigger such feelings of sadness, fear and dread of staying at home and trigger compensatory need to be in public places ... all says to me that you need to see a specialist.
Now, it maybe hard to accept this... but I am not offering a diagnosis nor am I listing 10 things that you can try to beat the loneliness. What I'm suggesting is for you to see a psychologist and get your agonizing feelings all itemized and placed within a context of your mental and physiological state. There is nothing for you to loose by doing this process. It could be as simple as hormonal changes. In case it is more serious, at least you would know exactly what is going on. None of that is possible in this forum.
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reader, RubyBirtle  +, writes (4 January 2017):
Please could you give us some feedback on the advice you've already been given. Otherwise you'll probably just get the same advice again and again.
And those that have answered your questions previously have given some pretty good advice which I will echo.
1) Make an appointment to see you doctor. You sound very depressed and some short term pharmacological input might help you.
2) Seek out some therapy or counselling for face-to-face support and to help you tackle your self-esteem issues.
3) Try practising yoga. Try and find a vinni-yoga class if you can as they teach you a lot of breathing techniques which can be helping soothing excessive anxiety.
4) Start practising Mindfulness which is a type of meditation. It has proven very successful in teaching people with anxiety and other mental health disorders to manage their symptoms and self-soothe.
5) Join some hobby groups and STICK AT THEM. If you only go a handful of times and then give up you'll never make friends. It takes time to be accepted into a friendship group and it often happens slowly. You won't find yourself surrounded by "new best friends" immediately - if you do, you've probably joined a cult.
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reader, N91 +, writes (4 January 2017):
 I've seen you ask this question 3 times now and you have received good advice each time. Have you tried everything that's been suggested? I don't think you could have and still be having this issue.
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