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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I love this guy but he's unavailable. Please help!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5697 days ago

16 September 2007 (M)

age 36-40 - I'm a 20-year old male that has always had a problem getting any further than friends with girls. I've not lost my virginity and I've had zero sexual contact with anybody ... other than a couple of drunken passionate kisses! However, I'm not just into girls. I'm constantly ... (266 words)

She used to give her previous guy oral, but she dosen't want to give it to me. Why?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6080 days ago

16 September 2007 (M)

age 41-50 - I have been dating my girlfriend for 8 months. We have a great relationship, physically and otherwise. But she won't give me oral. Originally she wouldn't even allow me to give her oral, but now it is ok. She seems to enjoy it now, but she has only done it to me once. ... (107 words)

I'm 16 and I want a baby!

This question has 22 answers - newest was posted 5182 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 30-35 - i am 16 and i lost a baby with my boyfriend who i have been with for 1 year and a half my mam did not no i was pregnant and now she has just found out i am haveing sex and i really want to try for anouther my mam thinks it will spoil my life but my boyfriend has a job and my ... (83 words)

Recently lost my viriginity and still bleed after sex. Help?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6078 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 36-40 - i have recently lost my virginity and i still bleed after sex. i have had penetrative sex about 3 times now and there is still alot of blood. is there smfin rong with me?... (34 words)

How can I show others that we're a couple?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6080 days ago

16 September 2007 (M)

age 36-40 - I've been in a relationship for 5 months now. My girlfriend is complaining saying that we don't do anything to say that we are in a relationship. We don't really do much as a couple except I go to hers or she comes to mine and the odd occasional cinema viewing. I know that what ... (95 words)

Even though spending a lot of time with my work girl, I found myself missing my girlfriend terribly. I am swinging from one decision to another.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6080 days ago

16 September 2007 (M)

age 41-50 - Ok, from the start...... I'm a 27 year old guy, and have been seeing a wonderful woman for 3 years, who i met in a random bar in a huge city, and when we started talking we found we were virtually identical; same interests, thoughts, humour, the works, and, unbelievably, de... (336 words)

She has this other guy hanging around and I need to know--how do I save my relationship with her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6080 days ago

16 September 2007 (M)

age 30-35 - Here is my problem. I met my current girlfriend more than a year ago here in Los Angeles, CA. We were together since then. I've been in two relationships before, but I'm her first boyfriend. Four months ago, she had to move because her parents wanted to move to Michigan. ... (658 words)

Does she really, really like me? What do you think?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6080 days ago

16 September 2007 (M)

age 30-35 - oh god! Someone help me. There's this girl in my college i really really, really like. Well i've spent half a year talkin to her bein her friend etc etc. Over time it worked because she talks to me nearly everyday at college. I call her most of time time, she's never called me ... (267 words)

We're ok for the time being, but I can't help but have this feeling that we're going to break up.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6073 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 30-35 - I feel like we're going to break up, and it's all because of my paranoia and jealousy... Problem is, I love him so much it hurts everytime I think about it. I'm going through a lot of stuff at home, which is making me more messed up, but he shouldn't have to deal with my e... (154 words)

He keeps saying he loves me but I can't get past the feeling, I like him just as a friend. Any advice?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6080 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi Everyone. I'm in need of your help again. My partner and I split up in February this year after 4 years together. We didn't live together but I have a son from a previous marriage and he has 2 sons too. Mine is 12 and his are 14 and 17. The split was my decision but ... (448 words)

Is it illegal for a child to have child porn on their computer, if it is of their friends or partners in the same age group?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5977 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 30-35 - I am aware that child porn is illegal, but I am currently in highschool, and many of my friends, all of which are under 18, exchange sexually explicit photos. None of these pictures are put on the web, or etc. But they exchange them to each other for personal use. Is it illegal ... (76 words)

I love her but she dates someone else. Is there anything I can do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6080 days ago

16 September 2007 (M)

age 30-35 - i love this girl but she is with someone else.what should i do?... (13 words)

Why do I flirt so bad with other guys when I'm with my bf?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6032 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been dating my boyfriend now for a year and a half and a couple of times when we go out we are drinking and i flirt with other guys i mingle and dingle and flirt and kinda forget about my bf then on we'll usually get into a fight and on the way home ill sy mean things to ... (109 words)

My boyfriend is a pornography addict!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6077 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, Me and my boyfriend have been together for 9 months now. 5 months ago, he told me that he had an addiction to pornography. I was really upset at first, but then decided to stay beside him, be a prayer support, and try to get him through it. Things are the same way now as t... (85 words)

He's older, messes around with me and looks out for me. Should I date him?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 6076 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi, i really need some advice. i really like this guy i work with. hes much older than me (15 years), and i need help finding out if he likes me too. he always messes around with me ang plays little games. He looks out for me too. what do you think?... (52 words)

My ex allowed his female cousin to pick a fight with me...now he wants back with me.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5027 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 30-35 - I hav been having so much bad luck laterly ..:( my ex boyfriend's cousin wanted a fight so i gave her a fight but it was when i was goin out with my ex.And he dint stop it from happenin and he says hes wants to get back with me but i duno what shall i do ?... (59 words)

Am I wrong for thinking that I should be allowed one date before girls jump to the conclusion that they don't like me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6081 days ago

16 September 2007 (M)

age 30-35 - Why won't the girl i like(or any girls for that matter) give me a chance? i know her, and we are somewhat friends, but she wont give me the honour of one date. Am i wrong for thinking that i should be allowed one date before girls jump to the conclusion that they dont like me? ... (78 words)

We broke up and I still love her!! What can I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6081 days ago

16 September 2007 (M)

age 26-29 - my girlfriend just split up with me! but i still really luv her :( i dunno wat can i do to help?... (22 words)

Is it true that nice guys finish last?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6081 days ago

16 September 2007 (M)

age 30-35 - Is it true that nice guys finish last? i am one of the nicest people, and pride myself on the fact that no one really hates me. I cant be mean, i just dont have it in me. i will stand up for myself, but i will not bully anyone. If anyone drops there papers in the hall, i will ... (128 words)

Why do some girls judge on the size of the penis?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 6080 days ago

16 September 2007 (M)

age 30-35 - Does penis size reallly matter to girls? I have heard that medium to smaller is better, but then how poeple make fun of the small ones? Why do some girls judge on the size of the penis? its not like men have control over what size penis we get. Its not like we had a choice, and ... (79 words)

I am almost certain no drugs are involved, I just think he will always be flighty and I want the "normal life..." What to do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6074 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been with my b/f for nearly 5 years. We broke up in April after I learnt some devasting news about his life, he has started to take drugs. I threw him out of our home and bought him out. I kept in contact with him to support him to seek help. He has been off drugs f... (206 words)

Does he still care?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6081 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

- Hoping someone can help me through my confusion. My boyfriend and I broke up at the end of June. I needed time to get over him but really I am not over him yet. I still think about him all the time. I did contact him a couple of weeks ago. I got his cell phone and he call... (176 words)

He says he cares about me, then says he doesn't, it's a repeated and confusing situation.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6057 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 30-35 - my name is jen i am 16 years old me and this boy(the love of my life) started goin out april 2006 he broke up with me a couple weeks ago we went out a year and a half... he told me he just wants to be friends he never wants to be with me again in his personal opinion but ... (174 words)

If they don't care enough to wish me a happy birthday, should I waste the time and money to be in their wedding? (I'm the bridesmaid)

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6081 days ago

16 September 2007 (F) - Hello everyone. I need some advice on what I should do with a situation that just occured and has me extremely upset. I do not know if it is because I am angry, which is why I need someone to help me think straight. Yesterday was my birthday, and my friends usually will lea... (339 words)

He says he doesn't care about me, then fears I can get hurt in an accident, after that says has no feelings, then can't stop holding me...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6076 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 51-59 - He is all about pleasing me when we make love, and he even cried the last time, but then he told me he doesn't care about me, that I'm not on him mind and he doesan't miss me when we are apart. Then he frets that my car is too small and I'll get hurt or killed in an accident ... (107 words)

She laughed of my body as we were getting intimate. What should I do?

This question has 28 answers - newest was posted 5902 days ago

16 September 2007 (M)

age 36-40 - Me and my girlfriend were "getting in the mood", but when I dropped my pants she laughed and said I was small. What should I do?... (26 words)

I don't know if me cheating means he isn't the one, or it was just a manifestation of my committment fears mixed with alcohol?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6081 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 36-40 - I am 22 and have been in a relationship for the past 4 years with John. he is my first and only boyfriend. we've started talking about marriage and kids. sometimes i get freaked out about being so young, not having 'played the field' and not being certain that John is the one. ... (138 words)

Do I hold out for this bloke that could make me really happy if he eventually split up with his lass, or leave it now?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 6061 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 36-40 - Ive fancied someone from work since i started there 3 years ago, but i new he had a girlfriend, so stayed well clear. about 2 yrs ago he came onto me at an xmas party but i thought he was just drunk and laughed it off, and weve just been our normals selves at work. i bumpe... (468 words)

My parents seem a little homophobic and I'm concerned what they'd say about my sexual orientation.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6081 days ago

16 September 2007 (F) - hi im a 17 year old bisexual. Im sick of lyin to my parents about where im goin when im goin to gay bars, and always deny myself being gay. i think im ready to come out, but dont know how. i think they seem a little homophobic and they may hate me. how will i come across the ... (99 words)

The relation has advanced and I suddenly feel unhappy. I've had same symptms in other relations. Confused.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6074 days ago

16 September 2007 (M)

age 41-50 - I've been friends with a girl for the past three years and recently we've become close and we got into a close relationship. Its been about six weeks now and we become deeper and suddenly ive felt numb and unhappy, especially after we have a sexual intercourse, and I cannot ... (139 words)

I'm a bisexual girl and I like 3 females...which one do I choose?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6080 days ago

16 September 2007 (F) - hi, im in a difficult situation. im a bisexual girl, mostly into girls at the minute. i like 3 girls, all 3 want to be with me also, but i dont know who or how to pick!! each of them are different and brilliant girls and i dont want to upset them. what should i do before its ... (60 words)

Sometimes during sex I stay quite dry. Advice?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6080 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm in my 20's and am in a serious realationship. We have been together 2 years and I love him very much. My problem is sex. I do enjoy it but sometimes when we try to have sex I stay quite dry (therefore its not very easy to do anything) and nothing seems to turn me on, even ... (65 words)

I find her mum a bit too involved with out relationship and other peoples' lives. Has anyone else experienced this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6079 days ago

16 September 2007 (M) - I think my girlfriend has an issue with her mum talking to me. Her mum is very forceful and quite dramatic. For example if I have a bad neckache she runs around and gets me headache tablets and tells me to sit in a certain position to help it and my girlfriend doesn't like ... (176 words)

He shows no care when we make love, doesn't react when I'm mistreated, why is he like this? Please advise.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6081 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been with my partner for just over a year and even though i have asked to meet his friends,i never have, he only visits them if we have an arguement,he has also lied to me a lot. Last year he slept at his ex partners sister,when we had a arguement and lied about it,i... (235 words)

How can I stop myself from becoming too emotionally attached to men?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4969 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 36-40 - How can I stop myself from becoming too emotionally attached to men? In the past year Ive had short relationships with 4 men and each one I really fell for. But then when we split it hurt like hell - even if I had only been with them a few weeks. Ive just split up with so... (250 words)

One week I feel attracted to her, the next I'm doubting her or questioning my love for her. Any tips?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6081 days ago

16 September 2007 (M) - My mind is in a mess. I have been with my great girlfriend for over a year but keep getting these strange moods. One week i'm into her and feel attracted to her, the next I'm doubting her or questioning my love for her. The thing i've noticed is that when I feel like this... (139 words)

Part of me thinks that I could do the "casual relationship," but I fear that I would be stuck in a loop of heartbreak everytime I "left in the morning."

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6081 days ago

16 September 2007 (M)

age 36-40 - hey all, Me and my ex dated before the summer, she broke up with me before she went home. The breakup was very sudden and out of the blue for me, she told me she didnt want to be in a relationship and needed space. So she returned the other day and we got chatting on msn. ... (531 words)

If it's true he hates me (as he tells other people) why does he get with me when drunk?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6081 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 30-35 - Theres this guy I like, I've liked him for over 2 years now. At one point about a year and a half ago he was interested for a few months, but nothing ever happened coz my mate liked him too, at this point I was 14 and he was 16. Now I'm 16 and he's almost 18, yet nothing else ... (231 words)

I'm in love with the new teacher, he dropped loads of hints and kissed me at lunch. What if the school finds out?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5966 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 30-35 - a new teacher started working at my school about 1 year ago. even since he first spoke to me, i have fallen for him. (i know i must sound crazy but i really do like him!) the thing is, he has started liking me back! he has dropped loads of hints, like talking to me abou... (157 words)

Made a promise a while back, it didnt happen, now we are just coasting! How do we get it all back!?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6081 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 41-50 - Been together 4 years... Things used to be fab... in the main they are ... but we seem to be just coasting along and no getting very far. It all stemed ages ago(2years) when i made a suggestion of introducing a 3rd party to our sex life. Only for me a girl on girl while he... (617 words)

He's embarrased. so how do I break the ice and ask him to come to the club again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6080 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 30-35 - i met a boy at this club and he goes to my school. After we had been for about 4 weeks, it was the holidays. then the day that it started again, i was at school, and one of his friends came up to me and said, 'jake fancies you' i was quite glad because i like him too, but he ... (104 words)

Could I still be pregnant even though we stopped before he ejaculated ?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6047 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 30-35 - So i just lost my virginity a few days ago and when he first did it we had sex unprotected....he didnt cum at all so we stopped before he did do anything like that.... i talked to my friend and she said that even a little speck of sperm can get me pregnate....im s... (81 words)

Should I forgive him for getting with someone else when we broke up!?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 6077 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 51-59 - Hey guys, So i just broke up with my ex 5 days ago and last night he made ou with some exchange student hes always telling me that he loves me and i love him soo much too!! Should i forget it happen and forgive him or give him hell for it for not doing the 2 week rule.. ... (83 words)

My parents are getting divorced after 21 years!! How can I get them back together!?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4837 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi, Im 12 years old and need some help. My mum and dad are getting a devorce after 21yrs of marrage. Im really upset about this and not sure what to do because if i tell one of them like i did last time they'd just end up arguing with each other which pushes them furthe... (84 words)

I told my ex of 2 years ago I wanted to be friends, I think he wouldn't have called or come over if he didn't have any feelings left?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6082 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 36-40 - Yeah I recently wrote about how I am still in love with my ex after two years. We dated for two years and and off because I treated him pretty badly because i was jealous and insecure. After we broke up i spent the last two years wanting him back so bad it hurt. Well just... (462 words)

My ex said my guy friends would be jealous if I danced with him and kept on teasing me. I think HE was jealous?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6022 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 41-50 - I was at a bar with some male friends I ran into my ex-bf and his friends so I had to say "hi" to him. We don't really contact each other unless we run into each other. We are not that close. After saying "hi" to him, I then danced with my males friends for an hr or so. My ... (310 words)

Never been in a relation, despite of my qualities. Am I inadequate/undeserving in some fashion?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6081 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 30-35 - Im about to finish my senior year of high school, and ive never been in a relationship. not for lack of wanting one, but every time ive been with someone, it never lasts longer than a night. i have an above average intillectual capacity, im a star vball and bball player with an ... (77 words)

Could she be pregnant? I pulled out a few seconds after the condom broke, each time.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6081 days ago

16 September 2007 (M) - I am 16, My girlfiend is 16... we were having sex and two condoms broke in same day (2hours of sex maybee less). *I never came till way after penatration*... The first time it broke I pulled out with in 3-6 to seconds,then i got a new condom and that one broke TOO! it took me ... (147 words)

He says he feels like I'm a step ahead of him on everything. Is it time to go?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6081 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and currently live together. He comes from a pretty messed up family and has therefore had a lot of difficulty in relationships. Our has been plagued with conflict..him being dishonest about his past, not sticking up to f... (139 words)

My wife is 4 months pregant. Is sex safe during the pregnancy?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 6081 days ago

16 September 2007 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi , My wife is pregnant now, she is now 4 months. Is sex is safe during in this period. Or give me a suggestion.... (28 words)

He sent her a picture of his penis!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6045 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 30-35 - There's this site that should be left un-named where you can sell items and a whole bunch of other things are on this site including a personals section.... well I was looking through my boyfriends email box earlier since he's always doing it to me but he made me leave the room ... (218 words)

I am 14 with a porn addiction. Is this normal?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6069 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm a 14 year old girl and I watch porn constantly. Is this normal? I feel like it is not usual for girls to be this horny. Sorry for asking such an akward question, but has anyone been in my position before? ... (51 words)

I like him, does he like me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6082 days ago

16 September 2007 (M)

age 30-35 - There is a kid in school who I like. I told a classmate who talks to him that I like him. He went ahead and told the kid who I liked that I like him. From that day on he would tease and act mean to me. But than the kid who told his friend that I liked him told me he acts mean ... (121 words)

I like older guys. What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6081 days ago

16 September 2007 (F) - Should I give one of my guy friends a chance? Earlier today I recieved a call from a friend of mine asking if i liked anyone at school. I said no. I'm into older guys in their 20's most of the time, and she knows that. (I'm 17, 18 in Feb) Apparently, there's a guy at m... (429 words)

Fantasy or Nightmare?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6081 days ago

16 September 2007 (M)

age 36-40 - I care very much for my girlfriend and I trust her. When we go out with friends, she often finds it fun to make out with her girl friends, especially when she has been drinking. Maybe I am crazy because for many people this would be their fantasy but I really don't like it. I ... (98 words)

Stop me!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6081 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 51-59 - Help! someone talk some sense into me! Its 2am in the morning, i feel lonely and need a hug.Ive hurt my back ,so didnt go clubbing.I'm tempted to phone my ex-boyfriend and ask him round for a cuddle. This is a bad idea as in the past he abuses this and we end up making love. It... (175 words)

All of a sudden he wanted space after 3 years, is it over?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6082 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 41-50 - I was living with my boyfriend for almost 3 years and all of a sudden he wanted space, so i moved out. Two weeks later he said that it was best that we weren't together. We have an awesome relationship and get along great and talked about the future, marriage, and buying a ... (124 words)

I have a discharge...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6082 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 41-50 - do guys like it while they are fingereing a girl if they have alot of discharge? and idk whether to shave or trim my pubes... (25 words)

Am I being stupid?

This question has 28 answers - newest was posted 6074 days ago

16 September 2007 (?) age 51-59 - Am I being stupid? I have a great wife, who is a great mother with our children and in 12 years we have never had bad problems. My problem is that she had a couple of relationships in high school and as she says she was "forced to have sex". Basically, she had sex with each ... (207 words)

How many times a week should a guy in my position masturbate in a week?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 4137 days ago

16 September 2007 (M)

age 36-40 - Am really wondering how often somebody without a partner especially a boy(20-25yrs) should mustarbate in a week if its right at all... (22 words)

He keeps taking pills! Is this going to harm him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6082 days ago

16 September 2007 (M)

age 36-40 - I've been with my partner now for about 18 months and although we started off really badly we are really happy together, and i'm working away from home now for a year and wer as strong as ever. However i need help, my bf is constanly taking tablets, like paracetomol at least ... (133 words)

What are the chances that I may be preganant?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6081 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 30-35 - i really need some help i know it was stupid but ok my boyfriend and i had sex for the first time yesterday we did it twice the first time with a condom then the second time to be able to get deeper we didnt and he came just as he pulled out so how big of a chance is there of ... (112 words)

My loving, wonderful boyfriend has changed since his return from Iraq. I don't know what to do.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6080 days ago

16 September 2007 (F)

age 36-40 - hay guys! right i have no idea were to start i met this guy 2 yrs ago! the perfect guy eva! we fell in love almost straight away! then he found out he had to go away for 8 months with the army to iraq! then half way though the trip he got a week off so i went out to see ... (536 words)

He's cheated on me twice and has hi me 3 times... I've found somebody else, but I'm not sure where to go from here

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6080 days ago

16 September 2007 (F) - ive been with my boyfriend for a year now and hes cheated twice and hit me 3 times. he was genuinlly sorry but everytime i try talk to him about it he ignors me and the only person i feel i can talk to is another boy and now me and him keep sleeping with eachother and we really ... (84 words)