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writes:a new teacher started working at my school about 1 year ago. even since he first spoke to me, i have fallen for him. (i know i must sound crazy but i really do like him!) the thing is, he has started liking me back! he has dropped loads of hints, like talking to me about if i had a boyfriend and he even gave me the highest grade in my year! everyone thinks im really good at maths, and to be honest im not. before we broke up for the summer holidays, he gave me a lunch time dentention, and he kissed me! i was over the moon back then, and i still am really happy, but what if the school finds out? i would have to move shcools, and he would lose his job! i dont want that to happen, but i still love him! what can i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2008): Hey! I'm a student too who is in love with a MALE teacher. You are so lucky that he likes you back...but it ain't right either. Sometimes I feel like killing myself but then I know that it ain't right! I understand that it must be really difficult for you as he likes you back. Please try to get over him....or wait until you are 18. Because when you are an adult, you won't risk his job...but if you wait till you are 18, you might get over him too! So it's better for you to keep your feelings to yourself and tell him that you don't love him anymore. Tell him it was just a crush and you are over him. I know it will hurt you more than it will hurt him but you've got to do it for him and yourself...Anyways, just think like this...you aren't old enough to marry him and his parents might already be thinking of getting him married! By the time you are 18, he might even have kids! So the best thing is to get over him or wait...there are loads of people out there like you, heartbroken, miserable, and even those who were never loved back!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2008): This is something dangerous for both of you... if anyone finds out you'll have to move schools and he will definetly lose his job... You must be mature enough to realise nothing can ever happen... and he must have been more careful while not exceeding such boundaries... Try ur best to forget him..i know it's kinda difficult but it's not love... !!!
gd luckk :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2007): this is a very dangerous and tricky situation to be in but my advice would be to keep your distance from him and also ask yourself why is he bothering with a young teenage girl like you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2007): Yeah i agree with everyone i was in the same situation once and i had to move schools before the situation got out of hand. either move schools or get over him if possible! just make sure things don't get out of hand and tell him that you don't think it's safe for this to be hppening. all the best honey! xx
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reader, Pinkbees09  +, writes (24 September 2007):
 You'll get over him eventually. This is a very dangerous situation too.
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (17 September 2007):
Get out of this situation now.
When I went through my teacher training we went through how to deal with amourous pupils and how to extinguish the situation as carefully as possible. A male teacher is never on his own with a female pupil behind a closed door unless there is another person present.
I no doubt that he would have done this too but it is an unspoken rule amongst teachers that there is a line here that is NEVER crossed under ANY circumstances.
He has quite simply crossed that barrier and should not be in teaching. It is only a matter of time before the school does find out and then the law courts would be involved with the final result most probably being this teacher being sent to prision for anything up to seven years and hiom permanently having to sign upon the sex offenders register. Irrespective of how you feel about him and irrespective of how mutual any contact may be it is against the law and covers very harsh penalties.
If you became the main reason for something like this happening you would very quickly become the most unpopular pupil in the school - especially if the teacher concerned is well liked.
Do yourself a favour - get out of this one NOW - move schools if you have to but get away from this very dangerous situation.
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reader, somewhat_anonymous +, writes (16 September 2007):
Yeah, everything everyone else has said so far is right, I can only add that this guy should not even be teaching. If it isn't you he's doing this to, it will probably be another student later.
The problem is that if you do not reciprocate, he might start giving you bad marks and using his power to ruin your grades instead of inflate them. You must stand firm and end this. If he does use his position against you, take it to the administration.
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reader, penta +, writes (16 September 2007):
 No matter how mature you are, there's something creepy about a man who falls for a girl your age. It's even worse that he's using his position of power to get to you.
I know you find if flattering, but it could ruin your life (and his too). Your reputation would be ruined, as would his career.
If this happens again, please report him so that he doesn't do this to another student (my guess is that he's already moved onto the next student, though). If you don't want to do that, at least stay as far away from him as you can.
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reader, Ears4tears +, writes (16 September 2007):
 This is a very serious situation honey, if this carrys on it wont just end in your teacher losing his job he could end up in prison, in the eyes of the law he would be considered in taking advantage of a minor, so if you care for him at all you will stay clear. What your teacher is doing is wrong, although you proberably feel very flattered youre playing a very dangerous game and it isnt worth the trouble or the heartbreak. Your still very young go out and enjoy yourself with lads your own age and forget all about your teacher, because what you want can not and will not happen. Please be very carefull for your own sake x x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2007): all i can say is try to forget about him
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2007): You're right to think that this cannot carry on. He would lose his job and your education would be ruined. It's not fair on any of your classmates that he is treating you like this and giving you higher marks, as well as being unfair on you.At the end of High School you have your GCSE's and if he continues to give you high marks then you will not learn anything, and without being rude, will probably fail you maths GCSE. You and your teacher need to stop thinking of each other, and think about yourselves and your classmates. I'm sorry to be harsh but this kind of relationship cannot happen.I think it's best if you tell him that too. He needs to know.I can understand that it will be hard to let go of somebody if you really like them, but it's for your own good. Get a boyfriend of your own age to take your mind of him, and eventually your feelings should cool off.Be firm and don't let him wrap you round his little finger because I am giving you this advice for YOUR benefit.
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