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writes:Hoping someone can help me through my confusion. My boyfriend and I broke up at the end of June. I needed time to get over him but really I am not over him yet. I still think about him all the time. I did contact him a couple of weeks ago. I got his cell phone and he called back promptly. I asked if he would like to meet and he said he did not think it would be a good idea as he did not want to back to the way things were before. I got really hurt as he told me he was seeing someone else. I said that was fine and then he suggested that we could meet in October as he is out of town for much of September and we will be seeing each other in October. Does he still care or is he playing with my head? Any replies would be very welcome.I still love him but am willing to let it go if I have to.
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (16 September 2007):
 He's trying to be the "nice guy" about this break up. He can tell you haven't let go and he feels guilty, but clearly he's moved on, because he's already seeing someone else. You'd be wise to do the same and quit expecting him to be there for you anymore. I don't think he's the least bit interested in being with you anymore and you're just setting yourself up for another huge heart break if you think you can still "be friends" because you're still too much in love with him and he doesn't feel the same about you. My advise is to stop calling him, stop e-mailing him, stop texting him and find someone else to spend your time with. He has. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2007): He might still care about you but he doesn't love you anymore. If he has already met someone else then it sounds like he does not love you anymore nor does he have any intention of reconciling with you. If he still loved you it would have been very hard for him to move on as quickly as he did. He would probably still be single.
And if he still loved you he would have jumped on the opportunity to see you when you suggested to. I know that is painful. But it is the truth. I know how you feel honey. That is the worse thing ever. I know you felt like you really needed to talk to him but sometimes it is for the best when you don't. Cause you saw what happened when you called. You found out that he was not at your beck and call and that he has moved on and met someone else. Now you have to live with knowing that. But I think everything happens for a reason. Maybe knowing that will make it easier for you to realise that it is not meant to be and that you should move on.
You could still see him in October but sometimes when a guy does not love you anymore they say things but have a hard time keeping their word. So he may not follow through with his plans. Furthermore, if he does meet with you it sounds like it is not going to be a favorable meeting. He is probably going to be aloof and cold and reject your advances. He is probably just going to tell you that he does not love you anymore and it just sounds like you are setting yourself up for a very painful experience.
It would just be best if you let go right now. So you called him and whatever. We all mistakes and we all have moments of weakness. The important thing is that we don't repeat those mistakes. That's all that matters. So focus right now on not contacting him anymore or expecting anything more out of this relationship that is clearly over and, which at this point, only exists in your head and in your memories that you are having a tough time letting go of. Just accept that it is over. It is what it is and be strong and move on.
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reader, kt +, writes (16 September 2007):
 im sorry to tell you this but you have to let it go. i was in a situation very similar to this last year. i found it absolutly imposible to get over a guy. he got a new girlfriend but he kept cheating on her with me, each time i thought he loved me again but everytime he went back to his girlfriend. it sounds like your guy has moved on too. i know its one of the hardest things to do in the world to get over a guy you really love but get over him before he ruins you, dont end up like i was completely hooked doing bad bad stuff. and if your already hooked my advise is, and i know it might sound strange to some, but jesus christ really really helped me out of it. he got me out of it and changed my world around. and now im over him and life has never been better!!hope this helps x x x
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