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writes:There's this site that should be left un-named where you can sell items and a whole bunch of other things are on this site including a personals section.... well I was looking through my boyfriends email box earlier since he's always doing it to me but he made me leave the room when he did it saying "it's a suprise" so I went through his mail his sent mail because he said the person didn't send him something back and the only thing in his sent mail was an email to a girl on the site mentioned before's personals and it said something about him sending her a picture of his penis, so I went on the other site and typed in the ads code and it was a position needed I guess this chick needs a guy and he applied for it..... I mean this is just recent he sent her the email 2 days ago.... my boyfriend lives with me and he's been going out alot lately and he's always accusing me of cheating when actually I just sit at home and wait for him..... is this serious? I mean he lives with me what should I do? should I be worried? is he going to keep doing this? This isn't the first time he's cheated. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2007): You live with him & you have shared yourself with him, physically and emotionally... And he's keeping you on the side line and having casual sexual relationships with other women... These women he would meet on a site would also be looking for one-night-stands and not a long and committed relationship... As far as I see it, he's a pervert and doesn't deserve you... Why should you waste your young life with a man that does not respect ur privacy, does not trust you, sends pics of his privates (aka... ur property)to unknown females through email, all dispicable and disgusting actions that violates and fouls up any relationship...
Love and a relationship between a woman and a man is based on trust, and he does NOT trust you... And more over... He does NOT love you... He's a selfish person only thinking of himself... He's a player and he won't change... Are you willing to be unhappy and miserable over such a man??? Please forget him... Find a new board and manage all the aspects of leaving, and anounce it to him and leave... AT least you'll have the dignity of having been the respectable party of this sole encounter, hard as it may seem, that seems to be the only solution! All the best and God's blessings!!!
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reader, brokenshadow +, writes (19 September 2007):
 Ever heard of the saying Once a cheater always a cheater, (BTW cheaters hate that saying :) Yea, he's cheating, get your own place lined up, make mental notes of everything and then drop the bomb on him when you're ready to leave. But don't wait too long. It can be emotionaly draining.
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reader, Fairy_Lu  +, writes (16 September 2007):
 This sounds so familiar to me, my ex read my emails talked to my friends online pretending to be me and accused me of cheating the whole time we were together i livied with him and wasnt allowed on the computer or to check my emails it got so i was miserable well we broke up and i found out he was talking to girls online and meeting them while i was at work, whenever someone accuses you of cheating its usually because they have a guilty conscience if you ask me i would leave him and move on and never look back.If he has cheated before i wouldnt trust him.
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (16 September 2007):
 Well dear I think he's not playing too fair with you and that u could talk having a conversation however I feel his will to accuse u of being like he is while pretending he's doing nothig wrong is not a good thing honey, u have to htink about what's going on, if the realtionship works for u and if u want to work it out of the crisis his behaviour is causing to it, I think u should try to communicate and go out together more often and to do things together instead iof u waiting home alone darlinglove
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (16 September 2007):
 Have you confronted him about it? I suggest you do so. It sounds like he's been cheating, or planning to anyhow. Yes, I'd be worried.
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reader, rcn +, writes (16 September 2007):
 I think you have reason to worry. You need to remember what relationships are about. There not about jealousy, accusing, mistrust. If they were, we'd be crazy to ever get into one.
When you have feelings he's doing something wrong, trust your feelings. Even if you don't consciously pick up on subtle changes in behaviors, your mind picks up on them, and gives you the feeling of something not being right.
He's sending pictures of his privates to another girl. That's violating the relationship you have with him. If someone accuses you all the time, this is a nice part of guilt, it's usually because they are doing what they are accusing you of.
How much are you willing to put up with? When are you going to realize you're an important person, and don't deserve for a guy to treat you that way. I would send him on his way and find someone who will love you for being you, and even if he was a in a room full of naked women, all he can think about is getting back to you.
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