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*is_Lilly
writes:I feel like we're going to break up, and it's all because of my paranoia and jealousy...Problem is, I love him so much it hurts everytime I think about it.I'm going through a lot of stuff at home, which is making me more messed up, but he shouldn't have to deal with my emotions.We're ok for the time being, but I can't help but have this feeling that we're going to break up, if I like it or not.Now I've got to decide if I should go with what my heart says, and ending everything or not. I can't stand constantly crying all the time, scared to death that he'll leave me. I'm fed up with being lonely, I refuse to go back to that.I don't know what to do... it hurts so much.
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reader, Cupcake  +, writes (24 September 2007):
 Wow you sound alot like me. My boyfriend and I had problems with his ex trying to break us up and her telling me he was sleeping with her. (which he wasnt). but I have trust issues from past relationships also. and I have a HUGE fear of being hurt, but what I have learned so far is if i dont let go of that fear and trust him I am never going to be happy. My boyfriend also lied to me about talking to an ex once, and i found out he was and then he came clean about it. So the fact he lied to me hurt me alot, expcially since I let myself trust him when i normally have trust issues... Now iam working on trusting him again, but if I want to remain happy I have to trust him and trust hes not going to make the same mistake again. Dont get me wrong trusting is very hard when you have trust issues, so I understand where you are coming from, but please try. Youll be much happier if you do, dont loose someone you love.
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reader, His_Lilly +, writes (17 September 2007):
His_Lilly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo. To be perfectly honest, no. Though we have had some problems with a girl trying to break us up once before, but we've worked past that.
I have some minor trust issues, from other relationships, and no matter how much I want to trust him, I'm terrified that if I do, he'll hurt me like everyone else.
I do trust him in a way, but I'm cautious, and I think we may break up because I fear my jealousy and paranoia is taking it's toll on him.
I want to work through it, so I've decided I want to change. I will change.
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reader, Cupcake +, writes (17 September 2007):
Well you didnt so much indicate why you think you might break up.. If you really love this person as much as you say you do and he loves you then you should be able to work it out.. but i can say much more then that as i dont know why you think he might leave you. You have to let go of paranoia and jelousy if you want to be happy, trust him.. if you cant trust him theres no point in being with him... just let yourself love him completley and trust him, has he ever given you a reason not to ??
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