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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): Lol it's obvious what sort she is. Unless she sincerely apologised for being so stupidly out of order, we don't need to spell it out that you shouldn't bother. Penis size isn't everything, unless you're a whore/slut maybe, (as someone said it's probably more what you do with it anyway and at least you have one lol). I'll bet you're not even that small lol. I've had a guy make a comment about my small breasts before, saying they were too small and that he liked them bigger, and I told him he was an idiot (and to look elsewhere), but as long as you realise how stupid (and shallow, slutty or whatever) these people are and don't let them move your pride, self-esteem you should be ok.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2007): It's not the size that matters, it's what you do with it.She's stupid, dump her. Find a girl that has at least half a brain cell.
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reader, little miss helpful  +, writes (20 September 2007):
 get rid of her if she really cared about you she wouldnt have done that she is bang out of order. dont stand for it get rid and find someone who cares for you not just what you got.good luckoh 1 more thing its not the size that matters its how you use it!!!!!!!! trust me i no some of my best lovers wurnt very big but i didnt care n she sunt either.
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reader, JackieR +, writes (19 September 2007):
 DUMP HER FORGET HER AND MOVE ON, all in that order!!!
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reader, penta  +, writes (19 September 2007):
 My husband told me about an ex who got out a ruler and measured him. So when she was done he grabbed the ruler and put it across her butt and measured that. She was very unhappy, but she got the point. Note, also, that they didn't date for very long...
And for the record, I have no complaints! [big smile]
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2007): What sort of person would do that!! It's highly inapropriate look if she really likes you at all she wouldnt say anything or laugh. Shes suposed to love you for who you are verse visa.
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reader, aftamath96 +, writes (19 September 2007):
I think she's well out of order. You love the perosn for who they are, not what they got!!For her to laugh at ya tells me she's not that serious because if she thought a lot of ya, it wouldn't matter what size it is mate ....As sad as it is, get rid and find someone who has a little respect for ya.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2007): If she really loved you, size wouldnt matter at all. Its all about your inside feelings towards each-other.
If she finds this to be a problem- get rid of her! She is not worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2007): Be proud of what you have, Besides its going to be with you the rest of your life.And regards to your so called "girlfriend" saying you were small,That was definately the most inconsiderate,Immature thing that any girl could say to a guy!Talking about a stab to the Heart!!!Well not all girls are like that so dont let what she said get your spirit down.You still have a few years of growing to do,so you just may spurt to be a sizely young man.Which on average is 6". Find you a girl that cares for you and not whats between your legs! Chin up!
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reader, On Cloud9 +, writes (18 September 2007):
 That is a pity that you had to experience this and she is incredibly immature by the sounds of it. It will undoubtably have knocked your confidence so be aware of this and don't let this insensitive comment distroy your potential for a very happy and fulfilling sexual relationship in the future. It's not the size of the boat that matters its the motion of the ocean...
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reader, duce00 +, writes (18 September 2007):
 I think you could find more warmth and depth in a mud puddle than what this girl has to offer.
Try not to let the sting of this one last too long my friend. Another girl will come along and put you fears to rest. There are plenty of them out there.
Duce
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2007): I suggest you let her read this page and she will she how stupid she was!
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reader, beautifultrustnlover +, writes (17 September 2007):
 Talk with her and tell her how she made you feel, ask her if she would like it if you said things about her body and have a good relationship talk with her to see where this is going. I think she has a lot of growing up to do and really you deserve better and I think you shouldn't be putting your self thru this, but if you care and want to find out if she really does put her to the test start to leave her and see if she cares if you go. Take care and good luck.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (16 September 2007):
 I think she sound like an incredibly shallow and immature person for her to do this to you. You must have felt hurt and embarrased when she did that. How do think she would react if you laughed as she was taking her bra off, well she would most probably ditch you, so i think you should do the same and find someone else.
Good luck
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (16 September 2007):
I think she sound like an incredibly shallow and immature person for her to do this to you. You must have felt hurt and embarrased when she did that. How do think she would react if you laughed as she was taking her bra off, well she would most probably ditch you, so i think you should do the same and find someone else.
Good luck
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (16 September 2007):
 That was really cruel and nasty you need to get rid of her and find someone better who isnt so immature after all size doesnt matter its what you can do for her that matters.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2007): awwwwwhhh that's very mean! She doesn't deserve you! x
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reader, superbunny +, writes (16 September 2007):
 If you ask me, it's pointless to be in a relationship with someone who can be that immature. She should respect you for you - ditch her! :] x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2007): That's horrible but you must have been VERY small for her to laugh. But thats not your fault, not all women are like this so don't worry
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2007): Dump her she sounds like an immature bitch.
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (16 September 2007):
 What? That was a very immature and not very loving thing of her to do. My advice to you would be to drop her and find a better, loving girlfriend. This one doesn’t deserve you.
Wish you all the best!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2007): what a bitch. you can do better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2007): Do you really want such an insensitive girlfirend? What a shocker!
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (16 September 2007):
 she appears to be a very insensitive and completely shallow person. every girl knows that a guys "manhood" is his pride and joy so to laugh at you is a cruel and unkind thing to do. in my opinion it isn't about the size, it's about what you can do with it, but obviously your gilrfriend is one of these girls who beleive big is better and totally knocking your confidence in the process. you might want to decide if you want to continue your relationship with a girl who mocks you and undoubtedly reassures you even though there is probably no need for reassurance in the first place. if you laghed at her, i'm sure the outcome would be her walking away accusing you of being a horrible person.
my advice - find someone less judgemental and more sensitive and loyal.
good luck ;-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2007): What a "wonderful" girlfriend if she treats you like this. Such comments can have repercusions on the manner a young man perceives himself, can leave emotional scars and insecurities and feelings of embarassment. Please don't let this type of behaviour bring you down. She is obviously very immature and inconsiderately doesn't measure her words before speaking them. The magnitude of such foolish comments if you let them impact you can severly alter your sense of self-worth in one or more departments of your life, and it would be such a pity. I'd be very vigilant of this relation and reconsider my position. You are allright, don't let anyone say differently. Take care of you almighty. Don't be surprised if she drops a brick again with other such comments. Your girlfriend should need to assist a conference on how to treat a beloved one...
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reader, dont_play_nice_ +, writes (16 September 2007):
Hey - her behaviour was unacceptable. If it was me I'd talk to her and tell her she'd hurt my feelings, if she doesn;t apologise and keeps up the jibes save yourself the bother and end the relationship. Don't let this knock your confidence - I'm sure you are fine.
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reader, lildeesbg +, writes (16 September 2007):
 Sometimes when a person is nervous they say and do things out of nerves. She could have been nervous about being intimate with you and to break the intensitiy of the situation she said what she said. For example when people go to a funeral and laugh its not because its funny but because the situation is too intense their nerves react and that is their way for their body and mind to relax.
However, that doesnt give her right. By best advice is to confront her on this. Tell her exactly how it made you feel and just see what shes says. If she is full heartedly sorry than except it as "just nerves"...and move on. But make it your point to let her know that it bothered you.
If she is not sorry and doesnt see anything wrong with her comment then the next step is up to you. Can you be with someone who is unsensative to your feelings?...Can you be intimate with her again without having self doubt?...also can you get over it?
~dee
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2007): ugh. What a b*tch. That is so mean. I don't know. If I got naked and some guy laughed at me and said "ha! your breasts are so small. hahaha." I would be so put off. He would probably never hear from me again. And that would really stick in my mind too. It would definitely hurt my self image.
This girl is clueless and heartless. She has got no manners and no social skills, no sensitivity. That is not something you say to anyone. Nobody's perfect. Just shue her from your life. Don't ever contact this b*tch again.
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