My husband says he's totally against cheating but I've found out that he made a pass at my mum. During our marriage he has also slept with a 17-y.o.

A female age 41-50, *lute writes:

hi, my husband and I have been together for 19yrs now, we have two children 3yr and 6yr. my husband has always talked about his strong morals especially over affairs he has said that even a kiss is a passionate moment and in his views is as good as an affair. my trust for this man has been un questionable. until... my mum who is very close to me, started to ask how we were going in our relationship, one night mum and I were talking and she informed me that my husband had made sexually advances towards her... I remember the night well we had our second chid who at the time was about 9weeks of age, we were all invited to my mums for dinner and a spa, after dinner I raced home to get my swimmers I took our 9wk old baby with me I was gone for about an hour feeding and changing bub. when I returned my mum and husband were in spa and I felt tension, later that night at home I asked my husband if something had happened between them, he went off yelling and stomping saying to me. how could you even think that I would do anything like that so on and so on, I was very apologetic and he said he forgives me!our relationship from then on was up and down and after one year I moved into my aunts house with the children while she was over seas for three months her house was on the same road so my husband visited every day one night he went out and ended up in bed with a 17yr old, he said that he thought it was over between us,mind you he was 46yrs old, we manage to get through some of that and I moved back home then mum tells me what he has done to her, I confront my husband who was very sorry for what had happened and has also told me that he (before I knew him) was having an affair with his bosses wife! that lasted 3yrs! very confused who he is and why this has happened.

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