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writes:As I wrote on a separate page on here, a few days ago I was unfaithful to my boyfriend. I cheated on him with colleague after spending the whole night having superamazing sex at his.Now, something incredible happened. I've been with my boyfriend for 9 years and he never gave me an orgasm through penetration. Not once. We do other things, he helps out when I DIY, but he's never made me come. I always thought it was to do with his size, but couldn't be sure (I read that women can come when having sex with not so-well endowed men).Anyway, we had so-called "jealous sex" last night, after I told him about my crush for this other guy. It was very very passionate, my b/f was clearly incredibly turned on even though he was denying it out of pride.Guess what, he finally made me climax!Though I enjoyed that, I fear that there may be something wrong with me...as in I'm getting subconsciously turned on by his total devotion? Could it be the case? Or is it maybe that climaxing with the other guy a few days ago unlocked something in me?From same user;s it normal that my boyfriend constantly goes on about the fact that I should wear a bra?We've been having a very hot summer so far and I started leaving the house wearing tops but without a bra underneath. He says that it's obscene and it's increasingly becoming a point of friction (nothing major, but I guess it makes him jealous). What do you guys/gals reckon?
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reader, Fatherly Advice  + ♥, writes (8 August 2013):
 Miss Newbern,
Sometimes after reading a lot of posts from the same person, I start to wonder what is really going on. I've been reading for a few days and have read the replies you have received. This time you asked a very interesting question.
"I fear that there may be something wrong with me"
I disagree I think that for the first time in 9 years you are finally getting it right. You are finally finding the keys to your own pleasure. I certainly wouldn't recommend your path to it. I do think that it is going to cause you some grief before the dust settles, but there is certainly something to be learned here.
Some lessons you should be learning:
Orgasm happens between your ears, not between your legs.
You like strong emotions, even if they are negative emotions.
You want a lot of attention. You will do anything to get it.
You like him being in power (dominant) in the relationship. You act out to get him to be more dominant.
Now, the question we have to ask is why are you in a relationship with a submissive guy? And, Can you fix it so you can get what you need from him without cheating? Can he Thrill you enough? He is just starting to after 9 years. I think he may have made a major discovery himself.
One thing is for sure, a person who uses cheating for their thrill fix, will not have a happy long term relationship. What you have now (against all odds) is a rocky, hurtful, long term relationship.
Some people can't be monogamous. Some relationships won't last. You need to honestly evaluate your position before you go any further. What do you really want? What are you willing to give in order to get it? No more "maybe we should break up, but if you show emotion I'll cave" Even if he is thoroughly codependent he will survive with out you. If you can not be faithful to him then the honest thing is to give back the ring.
A final word: Your relationship is not typical. Regular solutions don't apply to irregular situations.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (8 August 2013):
 You do know that jealousy has nothing to do with love, right?
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