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writes:I don't think my husband really listens to me. Ever since we've been married, all my mother in law can do is talk about my husband's brother's wife. They are just two brothers but all she does is talk about the other daughter in law. CONSTANTLY. I can't stand it.I don't brag but I'm well educated, good engineering job. We just bought a house and I really try hard with the family and I try to help out as much as I can.She's got a retail job, both of them live at home (not by choice) and she's extremely fake and rude to everyone. We don't go on trips with them because she always causes drama. So I never understand why his mother constantly constantly talks about her to every single person we know, including my parents (who are still waiting for her to say one good thing about me). I try to explain this to my husband but he just doesn't believe it or refuses to hear it. What do I do? I'm just tired of all of this. Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (23 July 2013):
 I totally agree with Cindy. You need to make her comments like water off a duck's back. Anyone who constantly talks about one subject is ALWAYS irritating. Go to that happy place in your mind whenever she starts yapping.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (23 July 2013):
 I think that more than disbelieving you, your husband does not want to hear it, because it's only a big problem if you make it one, otherwise it's just a minor annoyance and you both can make it slide off your back.
So your MIL talks about the other daughter in law. Maybe it's simply because they are closer, and have more contact and mutual confidence , since the other couple lives at home.
Or perhaps it's just because she likes the other DIL better,period. It's her right and prerogative, Of course it would be more elegant and tactful if she remembered to bestow her praises equally on both DILs, and to take the same interest in both, but if she chooses not to do it, ... she's entitled to her preferences . I don't see why it should upset you so much, when she talks about your sister in law you can swiftly intervene and change subject. Or else, you can try to be more pleasant and affectionate and endear yourself more to your MIL. But- I would not make it a competition, at the end of the day, what do you care whom she likes better ? You married the guy, not his mom, and the guy likes YOU better.
So, as long as your mother in law is not openly mean or disrespectful, just shrug it off and focus your attention on more pressing concerns. You can't please them all, in life- and I understand why your husband would not want to be dragged into such kind of petty stuff , that anyhow is not going to affect the bond YOU and him have.
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