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writes:why am i such a pessimist it truly is awful being like this,im actualy an horrible person but i am quite good at fooling people especially women,i know that my ex girlfriend was good to me in loads of ways but i even turned her against myself,blaming her for the breakdown when infact it was me am i really that weak and pathetic,i need help before i destroy more lives
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reader, alwaysreadyandwilling +, writes (25 July 2009):
 If your ex had a "sleep with anything that flatters me" way of life then this is how you end up feeling. You will be ok soon. Try a chatroom,get yourself away from this negativity.
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reader, alwaysreadyandwilling +, writes (25 July 2009):
I can only recommend a chatroom as it can build up your confidence. Be careful of anyone attached who poses as single,she could seem all sweetsugarcandy,she could wear stunningred underwear and even send pics of whats under it.Promising you a sweetsensation and be your calypsogirl,but beware of the cheating and several secret email accounts. At this stage you dont need that,you need to get in clean conversations.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009): Maybe you have come out of a relationship feeling this way,she has convinced you maybe. I know one thing,if this is how you see yourself then you are better off out of it. It sounds like its your life thats been destroyed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009): I'd bet a hundred to one that you are casting more blame on yourself than really is appropriate. You may be in a bad spot right now. But unless you have committed some atrocious deplorable crime, then you are NOT passed the point of no return.Anyway, whats not important here is blame. Why does everyone!! focus so much on blame this and blame that? What you should be focusing on is forgiveness. Forgiveness of yourself, and your gf, and whatever it is in your past (and you know what it is) that has you all in a bind now.If you feel you wronged this girl, the only thing you can do is apologize.As for being weak and pathetic: Well affirming that with your own thoughts and belief only casts your weakness into permanence. Think of it more as a momentary lapse of judgement and relaxation of discipline. You seem to have given up all hope in yourself. That's ridiculous. Forgive yourself your indiscretions (and if you are of the religious sort, ask God for forgiveness) and then continue to live your life.
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reader, scarredkitty  +, writes (23 July 2009):
 Well the way that you think the problem is you, means that you're wanting to change. But it's possible that a part of the problem you're having is the girls you date too. I'm not pointing a finger or anything, just be careful not to degrade yourself from trying to be happy with someone.
From the sounds of it, you're not very confident in yourself and have low self esteem issues. See a councilor or theripist that you think and trust can help you change the attitude.
It's the same from a guys point of view, if a girl see's herself as a worthless piece of crap and has no self confidence, the guy won't be able to put up with it for too long since she is too depressing to be around. This is what I see from my female point of view about you.
You don't destroy lives, just your life and confidence for each failer at trying to be happy. I'm just getting past this point myself so I know what I'm talking about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009): Dont take it out on your ex whos good to you. Go back and look for i know we can work things out but he wants to throw in the towel,how do i put things right? from yesterday. Read carefully because that is the type of woman you could have been with and count your blessings. What you do comes back to you. Go and show her what you have wrote.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009): Would need more info than you've given?
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (23 July 2009):
 Seek therapy you could have a psychological condition not a big deal but you should get some sort of professional help, you only have one life dont waste it
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