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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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Are there a lot of people who are open-minded where sex is concerned?
Q. I was just wondering.. are there lots of people who are quite open-minded when it comes to sex? I've only had one boyfriend before, we were together for a few months but never had sex (I wanted to wait before I lost my virginity to him but we en...
A. 13 December 2010: Define "open minded".... (read in full...)
He called me a prostitute! I'm his mistress!
Q. I'm having an affair with a married man. Well today his wife caught us in a hotel and called me a prostitute? Then she started fighting my man and in the midst he told her I didn't mean nothhing to him but a prostitute! Wtf?! I'm a mistress! Will ...
A. 13 December 2010: Well, I beg to differ from many of the ladies this time. Not with Tante Victoire (bonjour!).
You, poster, are not exactly doing the right thing, but you're obviously not a prostitute. I don't approve of the way he treated you. I can imagine ... (read in full...)
Do you get more pimples when you don't have Sex?
Q. Do you get more Pimples when you dont have Sex?? Because i notice this big change in my face pores when i dont have Sex and then right after i do my face completly changes....
A. 13 December 2010: Seriously, no.
Now, for the sake of a little humor, let's say that, on the contrary, there's a way sex could give you more pimples. They don't call it "dirty" for no reason. Suppose you had "primeval sex", lying on a dirt road and with lots of ... (read in full...)
I'm worried that if I keep texting him he'll think I'm a stalker!
Q. 3 nights ago I slept with a guy I met in a bar. Its the first time ive ever had a 'one night stand' sort of thing. Anyway, he asked for my number in the morning and we were texting for the next couple of days, but now he's stopped replying to my ...
A. 13 December 2010: Hmm. Suppose I were the guy you had the one night stand with, and supose you told me, er, "Wonderful, I still have that t-shirt of yours with me. The one that makes you look irresistible. Yep, that one; you got me with that one, and then I saw ... (read in full...)
Help! I don't know how to tell him that the pain is kicking the pleasure's butt during sex.
Q. Lost my virginity five months ago to this difficult man and five months later, it's a little like love. Anyway, it used to be that I'd get extremely wet when he just touched me or looked at me. I still get turned on but my body's reaction isn't ...
A. 13 December 2010: It should be easy for anyone to understand that a certain way to make love causes pain. I know this isn't always the case. I agree with Quiet and Maverick: you should tell it like it is. "Honey, it hurts if we do it that way".
Quest... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and have a crush on a 30 year old married man
Q. I don't even know where to start on this question, I guess i'll just get straight to the point, I have a major 'crush' on a married man, i'm 16 and he's in his mid 30's.. he lives near me so my parents are quite good friends with him and his wife ...
A. 13 December 2010: I don't doubt you have fallen for this man, who must be a good person.
But, if he is a good person, then absolutely nothing will happen between the two of you. You two are in different stages of life, and he knows it. He knows it much better t... (read in full...)
How do I stop loving someone who I was going to grow old with...?
Q. My Husband is leaving me after 19 years and two children together, he has been suffering from depression but whether its a side affect or the cause, I dont know. I have spent years bending over backwards to make the marriage work and he has ended it...
A. 13 December 2010: I am sorry to hear you are in this situation. I cannot even imagine how much it must hurt.
I believe, however, that, as in any other relationship, time will help you. You have trouble accepting the idea with your heart. Make sure you accept i... (read in full...)
Is it possible to fall pregnant even with protection?
Q. Is it possible to fall pregnant even with protection? I haven't had a period in 2 months and I never missed one in my life, I took a pregnancy test and it came out negative. Could there be a different reason why I have not had my period or was the ...
A. 13 December 2010: Many women have become pregnant while using contraceptives.... (read in full...)
Is it ok for a girl to just want no strings sex?
Q. is it ok for a girl to just want no strings sex?? i'm 23 and to be honest ive had enough of relationships, i get bored after a while and find myself doing anything to get out of it, as they don't make me happy. I've toyed with the idea of having a ...
A. 13 December 2010: You're your own woman. I will say no more because I don't want to tell you what you should or shouldn't do. Every time we choose, we give something up and gain something, and it is for you to decide what matters most.... (read in full...)
Do you give up something good for the chance of something else?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend Michael for almost four years. Our relationship started off on a bad note; he had been my best friend for two years, but I had been dating another man the entire time. When my ex and I broke up, Michael was ther...
A. 13 December 2010: I think you fell into Michael's arms because he was there, was friendly, and you had always liked him, but you have never loved him. He's supercool but that's it.
You sort of stayed where you are for different reasons. He's happy as he is, with... (read in full...)
How do I ask her out without ruining our friendship?
Q. Okay so there is this girl who I have liked for over a year now, but we did not start hanging out until October this year. We talked in class (I'm in high school) but I never had the courage to ask her out. This year I started talking to her again ...
A. 13 December 2010: I hope she also has a good temper :-).
If you want to get the girl, you have to take your chances and maybe get rejected. Don't worry, because that happens to everyone. It won't mean you're a bad guy, ugly, or whatever. It simply means that per... (read in full...)
Help! Do my guy friends like me as more than a friend?
Q. So I have some guy friends I hang out with. For privacy, I'll call them Boy A, Boy B, and Boy C. Boy A: He's pretty much said straight out that he likes me, but I don't like him more than a friend. How do I tell him that? Boy B: I sort of lik...
A. 13 December 2010: A: You tell him EXACTLY that you see him as a friend and that's how you'll always see him.
B: No, he doesn't like you.
C: He might like you. Who knows? Why don't you ask him, so you can be sure? But, before you do that, do you like him ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants to have sex with another man, to get even for my cheating!
Q. Okay this is long and....little embarrassed about this but here goes. 3 Years ago I had an affair with another women she was a close friend to me and my girlfriend. For an entire year I was seeing her off an on cause me and my girlfriend would ...
A. 13 December 2010: You shouldn't be punished forever for what you did. But, it seems you will. Her cheating won't solve anything at all. And it seems nothing you do will, either. So my opinion is that you should leave.
I can understand her anger, but I don't sh... (read in full...)
Boyfriend pressured me into having an abortion
Q. Hi guys, please give me some advice. Iv been with my boyfriend nearly 2 years and about 6 months into our relationship I fell pregnant. I was on the pill at the time and think it must have happened due to a little tummy bug. I was head over hee...
A. 13 December 2010: I'm honestly pretty sorry that this happened to you.
Life sometimes teaches you awful lessons. There are many to learn here. I won't tell you this and that because I don't want to treat you as if I had told you such things would happen. ... (read in full...)
Naked women...
Q. I've been in a happy marriage for over twenty years. I've always known my husband has looked at some naked women pictures when years ago someone handed him a book and now with the internet, he receives emails w/jokes w/naked women, some of the ...
A. 12 December 2010: Some people missed the point. Yes, he is looking at the porn in the e-mail messages, but he does not seem to be actively looking for it. If he did, he could rightfully claim that his wife doesn't mind, since she gave him a book for that.
Fortu... (read in full...)
Should I lighten my skin?
Q. I dont like my skin colour. I'm not too dark but i'm not too bright either. How do I lighten my skin? And the real question is.....SHOULD I? Is it a bad thing if I want to?...
A. 12 December 2010: My personal opinion is that you shouldn't mess with the way your organs work just to make them look like fashion would want them. I believe lightening your skin falls under that category.... (read in full...)
Naked women...
Q. I've been in a happy marriage for over twenty years. I've always known my husband has looked at some naked women pictures when years ago someone handed him a book and now with the internet, he receives emails w/jokes w/naked women, some of the ...
A. 11 December 2010: He's receiving pictures of naked women from his buddies because that's what buddies do. I wonder how many men who have an e-mail address have never received such pictures from someone. In the overwhelming majority of cases, this is something like ... (read in full...)
Should I just cut all ties with her?
Q. I am just want other peoples opinions on this, me and this girl dated a little while back a year or two ago, things just ended with me still liking her and her liking someone else and left me for him. She started to date this guy early this year and ...
A. 11 December 2010: Well, don't delete her name on Skype. Only don't use Skype. Your friend gave you good advice.
See it from the perspective of the other man: She left you for him, yet when the Cat is Away, the Mice get so close you'd say they played..... (read in full...)
We have to abstain from sex in order for the medication to work, but can I still masturbate?
Q. me and my husband started taking some medication for conceiving, we were told to abstain for 12 days, my question is, is it wrong for me to masterbate will it it reduce the chances of me getting pregnant? this medication is for feitilising the eggs, ...
A. 10 December 2010: No. Why don't you do each other?... (read in full...)
Does she not love me if she's not sexual with me anymore?
Q. My wife and I were separated for 3 years, It was all my fault. We talked everyday and 3 months ago I relocated back to her home of record to try again. She isn't sexually attracted to me in the least bit. The more she denies me the more I ask, the ...
A. 10 December 2010: Yes, she might still be seeing this guy and he might still be having intercourse with her.
In my experience, when a woman wants you, she makes it easy for you to be with her. And, she sleeps with you. Many a woman will tell you the obvious:... (read in full...)
Why is it easy for women to stop looking after marriage, and so hard for men?
Q. {Moderator note: two questions from the same poster combined} Just a quick question. After a woman gets married it's easy for her to look at a man and not feel attracted to him or think of him sexually or get aroused by him. So why is it so hard for...
A. 9 December 2010: I beg to differ. After a woman marries, she still has eyes and hormones and still looks. To say otherwise is to lie, either to yourself or to others. Maybe they won't act on what they see and like, but...
Your husband watches BDSM and incest p... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has an alcohol problem and broke my nose.
Q. Hi I am 20 years old liveing with my boyfriend who is 35. Everthing was just fine until he started drinking realy bad! I have left him becasu of him hitting me on two different occasions but I took him back! About a week ago he broke my nose. ...
A. 9 December 2010: Get out of there as soon as possible.... (read in full...)
How do I deal with favouritism at work?
Q. I love my job with all of my heart. I have heard rumors of favoritism and people not being allowed to grow and get promotions, etc. I have seen first hand that people are not treated equally at my job. The favoritism occurs at the highest levels, ...
A. 8 December 2010: I thought I would add a few things:
If you can lay your hands on them, read "The Peter Principle" and "Parkinson's Law". You'll never see the workplace the same way again, because you'll see it for what it is.
A comment: sometimes, one o... (read in full...)
How do I deal with favouritism at work?
Q. I love my job with all of my heart. I have heard rumors of favoritism and people not being allowed to grow and get promotions, etc. I have seen first hand that people are not treated equally at my job. The favoritism occurs at the highest levels, ...
A. 8 December 2010: I think it's safe to say that favoritism is a disease that comes with getting a job and working for someone else. You just can't get rid of it, and you have to learn to survive with it.
My failed strategy has always been to be very upfront ... (read in full...)
Secret relationship with much younger sister-in-law
Q. I am 42 year old married man. I am very close to my 18 year sis-in-law. She is bubbly and jolly in nature. She is very fond of me. She allows me to hugg, kiss and touch her boobs. She often says she loves me.I too say same. We enjoy a flirting ...
A. 8 December 2010: If this is a real post, I believe that you are not only kidding us, but yourself. This is absolutely inappropriate for all the involved.... (read in full...)
Do I emphasize "no contact" after being dumped?
Q. What do you think of the no contact rule if you have been the one dumped, yet still in love? My bf broke up with me 3 weeks ago because he thinks we fight too much and he needs time to himself. He claims he still loves me, buthis behavior is hot and ...
A. 8 December 2010: The right and most difficult thing to do here is simply to leave without saying a word.
I believe that we should demand to be treated in a coherent way. If he dumped you, dumped you are, and off you go. It's not a matter of "I'll contact ... (read in full...)
This was a big mistake wasn't it?
Q. Hoe stupid of me was this? My boyfriend has been bugging me for forever about having 2 girls give him head. I finally said no its never gonna happen if you want it so bad go do it with 2 other girls. He took this literally! I mean I love him so much ...
A. 8 December 2010: I agree with Tisha.... (read in full...)
Guys, how do you feel when a woman encourages you?
Q. Guys, when a women tells you "you are strong", "you are smart", to encourage you. How does this feel? -Does it make you love her more, because she is loving you? -Does it give you strength?...
A. 7 December 2010: It might make me feel well, UNLESS I realize she's just lying to me. In that case, I hate the woman. And, women underestimate men's ability to tell when they are being lied to.... (read in full...)
My friend gave me oral sex but I'm not sure if it was cheating
Q. Hey agony aunts. I've been feeling really guilty lately because i don't know if i've cheated on my girlfriend or not. last week i was staying over at a friend's house. This is the first time i've ever dated a girl so i was worried about how to give ...
A. 7 December 2010: Yes, it was cheating. At the very least it was very inappropriate.... (read in full...)
Revealing too much at the swimming pool
Q. There is this girl at the gym who wears a bathing suit that is way too revealing! It only covers half of her breasts and only a quarter of her ass. It is almost seethru, and she always has T.H.O.'s. She makes a point to walk slowly around the pool ...
A. 3 December 2010: I think I'd like to be at that swimming pool.... (read in full...)
I guess I'm not very good at playing hard to get?
Q. Boys, would you like it if a girl u were interested in told you she liked talking to you? Or would you lose interest in her b/c u'd think she was easy to get? I told a guy i liked talking to him, hes a shy guy and i wanted to reassure him that...
A. 3 December 2010: Before I begin my work, let me tell you that, in this time and age, some of us take whatever comes from the mouth of a woman very literally. We might have a suspicion or two, we might even take the hint, but we try to understand that in the ... (read in full...)
I guess I'm not very good at playing hard to get?
Q. Boys, would you like it if a girl u were interested in told you she liked talking to you? Or would you lose interest in her b/c u'd think she was easy to get? I told a guy i liked talking to him, hes a shy guy and i wanted to reassure him that...
A. 3 December 2010: I think most men would love it if a girl told them she likes them. Is the man in question somewhat engaged or committed or in love or whatever?... (read in full...)
It's a little dusty down there!
Q. lately i feel like a born again virgin. I am only 24 and havn't had sex in 6 months and usually this wouldn't annoy me but not i think about it i just don't know what the problem with me is. Am i being to picky or do guys just not find me attracti...
A. 3 December 2010: Nope.... (read in full...)
I want to get under the covers and play again like when we were 6!
Q. I have a family friend that i have been attracted to for a long time now. she is beautiful. we have been close since birth. when we were 5 or 6 we used to kiss. we would get under the covers in my bed and just play around for hours, nothing down ...
A. 2 December 2010: I give you something: you're creative. I like you for that. Honest! You and I would have a great time playing jokes on each other for a long time.
I have always felt like playing under the covers with many women. Unfortunately, if I said tha... (read in full...)
Is there a way out of the friend zone?
Q. hi been getting on really well with a women and enjoy spending time with her i really like her and told her i like her she said am like a brother to her i walked her home and walked away, she rang me down the road saying she could not open f...
A. 2 December 2010: What you're describing here is a good personal relationship with a woman. In your eyes, that is a friendship. You told her you like her, and, depending on how you said that, she could have taken the hint, or not. Let's say she didn't.
Her c... (read in full...)
Is this simply a case of him wanting the best of both worlds?
Q. Ok so if I was to explain the story in full, you'd be reading for a loooong time, so i'l try to keep it brief! basically, me and my ex were together for 3 and a half years and, to my knowledge, everything was great, we had talked about spending the ...
A. 2 December 2010: It seems to me that this is simply a case of his wanting the best of all worlds, indeed.
He is not in love with you. Question: If you love someone, do you tell that someone you're over and sleep with someone else?
I know this hurts, but I thi... (read in full...)
Would you consider his magic number high for his age?
Q. Is 22 sexual partners for a 27 year old male a lot?...
A. 2 December 2010: In whose opinion?... (read in full...)
I like bigger women and am having trouble dealing with it.
Q. I have a thing for bigger women and i dont know how to deal with it. While Im not into the deal of larger women getting larger or "gaining" and not into the feeding thing, i definitely have an appreciation for plus-sized women, and am unsure if my ...
A. 1 December 2010: I don't see how this is a problem. It seems to me that you don't want your friends calling you names. Don't worry about what people think.... (read in full...)
How can I overcompensate for my size?
Q. I'm a virgin stressing about the size of my penis. It's around 5.5 inchs long with 4.5 girth. I truly want to make love, show my affection, and give my first gf (she's not a virgin) the time of her life, but I feel that my penis may hold me back. ...
A. 1 December 2010: If this is a fake post: Well, I'm much larger and women love me. Be confident and put your little willy to good use.
If this is not a fake post: Don't worry.... (read in full...)
How many texts/calls a day is considered too needy or clingy?
Q. What is considered too needy or clingy? How many phone calls/texts a day? And how much can we expect phone calls/texts/communication back from a person without expecting too much?...
A. 28 November 2010: I agree: there's no rules about this. But there's perhaps some "general guidelines". If you text someone every hour, and that someone is, say, at work, then you might appear clingy. Now, if you do it every hour, but only for one day, then it can ... (read in full...)
She had an affair... I am thinking about joining them!
Q. My girlfriend of 6 years had an affair with her friend. I found out from facebook logs and found text messages. When I confronted her she said it was only a kiss. Then I find sexy texts and confront her and she admitted it went further but didn...
A. 28 November 2010: I wonder if she couldn't have bought a vibrator is all she needed was one.
You mention your job and the little sex you've been having and apparently those are the reasons you find for her cheating. But if you want to know why something happened... (read in full...)
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