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Trying to save my marriage but my husband doesn't want me for anything but sex...help!
Q. I am a 51 year old married woman who has desperately been trying to save my marriage recently my husband told me he doesn't want me anymore except for sex. The reason he gave me was because I won't give him a massage when he ask me, and I won't give ...
A. 9 June 2008: Often when couples have children, the husbands start to feel like they've taken a back seat to the kids. Since care-giving usually falls on the woman's shoulders, it does often end up this way. If your husband would pitch in and help out with the ... (read in full...)
I can't bear the thought of spending the rest of my life with him...but he just won't leave.
Q. hi, ive been married 22 years and since i turned 40, 2 years ago, ive realised how unhappy i am and all i can remember of my 1st 20 yrs of marriage misery. My 2 kids are now grown up and im far from happy with my husband,, dont think i ever rea...
A. 8 March 2008: After many years with my husband, I moved out and waited 2 years before filing for divorce. I wanted to make sure I wasn't just going through a mid-life crisis (like he tried to convince me) He had to buy me out of my half of our suburban home, ... (read in full...)
Are older guys less eager or is there a problem??
Q. I have a boyfriend that is in his midfifties and we knew each other for awhile as friends(almost a year). We were both attracted to each other from the beginning but both of us are very reserved and got to know one another slowly. In the 2 months...
A. 8 March 2008: I can somewhat relate to what you're going through, being involved myself, with a guy who is 12 yrs.older than me who just hit his big 50. I had been attracted to him for many years (we were casual friends, both involved with other people) so we ... (read in full...)
Do you think I'm being selfish here?
Q. Dear Cupid, Am I being selfish? I have a boyfriend who I've been with for 4 years and we have a son together. now the whole time that i was with him all he really spend on me was about 100-200 dollars. THE WHOLE TIME. he dont work or anything...
A. 13 February 2008: Some men are poor planners. My b/f is 52 and I swear he still flies by the seat of his pants when it comes to special occasions. On the other hand, your b/f is showing more serious signs other than his lack of planning. For one thing, being at ... (read in full...)
How can I make my bf more romantic??
Q. Ok so me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 years and he has no idea about being romantic!! I don't know what to do i love him to death but he never does anything romantic. Now don't get me wrong he shows plenty of affection but he never su...
A. 13 February 2008: It's learned behavior. Behind every romantic guy is probably a string of women who taught him over time what women like, and how they expect to be treated. Romance doesn't usually come automatic to most guys. But it comes more easily to those who ... (read in full...)
Her Teenage son is driving me nuts!!
Q. I need some helpful input. a little input, a few months back, my fiance and I explained to her two boys one is 15 the other will be 14 that if our bedroom door is shut, unless there is something major happening, this means not to bother us, mostly ...
A. 13 February 2008: This will be a difficult situation because she is showing two things. 1. She's an enabler. 2. She is blind to the fact that her son has some manipulative tendencies. These two things will make you the bad guy very quickly with the son and with ... (read in full...)
My husbands lies make no sense...what can I do??
Q. My husband has been denying his affairs, and he always lieing.I went into his shop one night with his keys because,something just isn't right with him.So I open the doors and cabins and I found his boxer that he worn to work whenever to work in a ...
A. 13 February 2008: I think it's time for you to borrow a friend's car and plant yourself in the neighborhood around the time you think he'll be popping out of his shop to go to lunch (or you'll be able to see who pops in to see him)...If he leaves the shop, follow ... (read in full...)
Can we get engaged without him getting divorced??
Q. Hi, I have been with my partner for nine years, i would like to get engaged but the problem is that he is still married but has been separated for 15 years, could we still get engaged without him getting divorced just yet?...
A. 9 February 2008: Yes there are no legal reasons why you cannot get engaged to a man who is already married to someone else. It's only illegal if you get married. But why would you want to do that? Think about it. If he's been separated for 15 years, what is the ... (read in full...)
How to get over ex boyfriend? What is in his mind?
Q. Dear there, I find it hard to get over the break-up. I'm 33, and 13 years older than bf, we were on and off for 1 year. We both see it's unrealistic, and he began to break up on the mid way and we went to opened relationship for 2 months, then he ...
A. 9 February 2008: It just takes time and you haven't allowed yourself enough of it. He is clearly mixed up about your relationship and is not ready to settle down. He's flitting from one woman to the next, going younger and younger. What's next, a 12-year old. I ... (read in full...)
How do I make myself more sophisticated without shunning my family values and without giving up a part of myself to please my guy?
Q. Shane is extremely good to me. I've never had someone care for me as much as he has. But at times he wishes I would dress more sophisticated. He’s accustomed to dating very feminine, classy women, and I guess he assumed when we met that I was much ...
A. 9 February 2008: I hear your pain! On the one hand you don't want to completely "dissolve" into this guy's expectations, on the other hand, relationships are all about compromise and it may be time for a make-over on your behalf. There's nothing wrong with wearing ... (read in full...)
Can anyone tell me what's going on here?
Q. Recently my friend told me he had feelings for me and had done for months and wanted to break up with his girlfriend. Ive always had feelings for him but never did anything about it because of his girlfriend. We spent a lot of time together ta...
A. 9 February 2008: It sounds like he really wants to be with you but he's dealing with some guilt when it comes to his ex girlfriend because he knows she still loves him and he sort of yanked the rug out from underneath her. Be patient, I think once his g/f adjusts ... (read in full...)
Looking to finally move on...
Q. I have been single now for about 4 weeks, I ended a 13 month relationship for the 2nd time and this time for good. The last time I eneded it we got back to together in about 4 days. I have gone through the hurt and the anger and now find myself at ...
A. 9 February 2008: First of all you should give yourself some time to get over your ex and just focus on yourself for awhile. The time will come soon enough and you will meet someone new and by then, given the healing process, you will be ready devote yourself again. ... (read in full...)
Do I listen to my head or my heart? I know it's a bit complex but what do you guys think?
Q. I few years ago I fell in love with a much younger man, in a very strange way. I never acted on it. He was in love with me too, but we never did anything about it. As it was hopeless in so many ways. One is I'm married and have children, they are ...
A. 9 February 2008: While reading your post, I'm not entirely sure what you're asking of us. You have fallen for another man, even though you loved and respected your husband at the beginning. Now your husband has sensed your interest in someone else and has reacted ... (read in full...)
Should I let him go?
Q. I am dating a man 16 years older then I am. He was in the middle east for a while and met someone while he was there. She send him texts and even calls him. When I am not around he will take the calls and even text her back. Today I found a text he ...
A. 21 January 2008: Without disclosing the fact that you snooped you need to sit him down and ask him how he feels about you and where does he see your future going. If he acts like everything is punchy-king, you should ask him if he still has feelings for the woman ... (read in full...)
Shall I take revenge on my ex?
Q. Dear Helpers, I just found out my ex had been cheating on me when were together and not only that he had been kissing one of my friends and some of his own. I am so angry I want to take revenge but I know it's wrong to take revenge but for my own ...
A. 21 January 2008: No don't commit fraud. You could end up in worse shape. If you really want to get even, sleep with his best friend and make sure he knows about it. Then perhaps you can let it go, and move on. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Do vasectomies work 100 percent?
Q. Just a quick question, if a man has had a vasectomy does that mean theres NO CHANCE of getting someone pregnant?...
A. 21 January 2008: Nothing is 100% but it is fairly uncommon for a man who has had a vasectomy to get a woman pregnant. Sometimes,if the vessels are cut they can re-attach and create a passage for sperm to come through. But it's pretty rare. If either of you are ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is Jekyll and Hyde!
Q. Hello aunts, hope you are all doing well! I am sorry that this is a little long, but it's just for some background info as well. I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years now, we have been living together for 1 and a half years, our paren...
A. 21 January 2008: The longer you wait to break off this relationship, the harder it will become because he does have a sweet side but unfortuntely, he uses his ugly side to manipulate and control you. This cycle will never end. Your emotions will constantly be ... (read in full...)
What to wear for VERY posh dinner??
Q. My boyfriend is taking me to a very expensive hotel in a couple of weeks. I know it's costing in excess of £200 a night, so my reason for panic is what do I wear? We're eating at the restaurant there, and I don't really have any knowledge of what ...
A. 21 January 2008: You can never go wrong with a little black dress and a sleek pair of black heels. ... (read in full...)
Who do I believe---him or his pregnant ex gf?
Q. I have a tricky situation and I could do with some advice. I've been seeing a guy for around a month now, and we've got on so great, he's the best thing thats happened to me in ages and he feels the same way. Everything was going perfectly...
A. 16 January 2008: First of all, you should believe the person you love. Not his ex. She could very well be lying just to cause problems. In which case, she is succeeding. It is possible that she really is carrying his baby, but you won't know until after she gives ... (read in full...)
How do I ask this girl out?
Q. This is my issue: When I go to the gym, I run across this girl whom I find attractive. She looks me in the eyes really strongly (or at least thats the impression I have) and I know I'm a decent looking dude, so I don't think its in my im...
A. 16 January 2008: It sounds like you already have found a way to ask her for coffee. Do you feel there is a language barrier (she does speak English, right?) if so her nationality should have no bearing on it. But if she doesn't speak English, then she may not be ... (read in full...)
I have a porn addiction and I need help getting through this.
Q. I am 20 and although I am single, I think I have a porn addiction. I have got the K9 web protection program seeing as that I couldn't reach a target of 1 week without porn (which lasted 1 day). Is there anything else I should to beat the ...
A. 16 January 2008: Watching porn seems harmless but once you realize that real women don't look like that or desire sex 24/7 you begin to choose porn over reality. That's when you know you have a problem. When you can't stop, and you're disappointed by the real ... (read in full...)
I have all the qualities you would want in a friend and in an employee.So why am I having job problems?
Q. In the past 7 years I've had the career from HELL. I would love to know if there are any of you out there who have had similar experiences. At the moment, I feel ashamed of myself and that this has all been my own fault somehow. After finishin...
A. 16 January 2008: I don't know if this is possible, but I think if you can afford it, why not go back to school and re-mold yourself into a different field of work? You may find the environment to be totally different, (i.e. pleasant and more professional) and you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gets angry if I ask for us to move in together
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 18 months now, I am 25 and he is 30- still living at home with his mum. He does hate living with her and Im never invited over there. Have slept there once. He stays at my place about 3 times a week, but then likes ...
A. 16 January 2008: Your b/f seems like he hasn't quite grown up just yet. Living with his mom is a sure sign of that. Most guys in this age bracket have long since moved out of their parents house and have their own pad, complete with a live-in girlfriend, maybe a ... (read in full...)
She's depressed and doesn't want me with her. What should I do as I know she's not thinking clearly?
Q. I am with my girl friend for 3 years and now i want to marry her, but she says she is not ready and she needs some time. I have left my parents, my country everything for her just to be with her. Since last 12years she was taking depression tablets ...
A. 16 January 2008: Can you possibly encourage her to go back on her meds? I'm assuming that when she was taking them, they helped her. Also finding a good counselor might help her assess her life, and sort out paralyzing thoughts, fears, and anxieties. Before you ... (read in full...)
Can I get help with this poem?
Q. my boyfriend is always writing me poems telling me how much he loves me, and i thought that for valentines day i could write him a poem for a change,but im not to good at it,the poem i wrote below is what ive wrote and i wondered if you could help ...
A. 16 January 2008: Sounds pretty damn good to me. He'll love it. ... (read in full...)
She doesn't want a relationship right now and just wants to be free. Help!
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 2 years now. we have had hard times but great times like any relationship. all the sudden on new years eve she tells me that she doesnt want a relationship right now and just wants to be free to do what she ...
A. 16 January 2008: Your girlfriend is still young and it is probably wise that she have time to explore life before she decides to make be with anyone permanently. She needs to figure out who she is and what she wants in life and you cannot do this for her. Give her ... (read in full...)
Is it fair to make her choose?
Q. Hi! I have a girlfriend of 2 years and I deeply love her. Recently we had a bit of a relationship breakdown and she went to a male friend of her and he used her weakness and kissed her and tried to have sex with her but she stopped him. Things are ...
A. 16 January 2008: Your girlfriend seems to be in desperate need for validation and she's going to this guy for it. I also suspect he is her back up plan -- should things with you not work out and this is why she's keeping him on a string. As your relationship ... (read in full...)
Will my girlfriend be upset if I use the same ring I gave to my ex wife to propose?
Q. I want to ask my girlfriend to marry me. The engagement ring I intend to give to her is a Family heirloom. My father gave it to my mother. The ring is lovely and I'm sure she would like it. However, I have been married before and used the ring to ...
A. 16 January 2008: It's probably in bad taste regardless of the sentimental factor. Not only that, but it would seem like it carries a bit of bad luck now. Why pass that on to your new wife? Buy her a new ring. You can always save your mother's ring and give it to ... (read in full...)
Did she really love me or was I a fool?
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend, we were together for nearly a year and i moved half way accross the country bringing my children with me to live with her. She became very low in confidence and wouldnt trust me at all and this led to arguments. I love ...
A. 16 January 2008: Perhaps she's the one who found someone else...?... (read in full...)
Going with my girl for 2 years, but the little things are annoying me, any advice?
Q. Hello, my problem is this. I've been with a girl for nearly 2 years. I had liked her for some time before and eventually we came together. It was a weird twist of fate for me since this thing usually does not happen, and I was thrilled. I thought ...
A. 15 January 2008: You don't mention if this is the first long term relationship for you so it's hard to tell if you have realistic expectations. You may be too young to settle down with just one girl at this point in your life, and this is where the real annoyance ... (read in full...)
I wake up to having tense feelings in the chest, and miserable thoughts. What IS this??
Q. Hi. Health related question. Some time ago, I used to wake up in the morning, be very tense in the chest area and feel miserable. Recently, this has returned. What is it? Could it be stress related? It seems that lately when I try to sleep,...
A. 8 January 2008: I think if she had actually left you for another guy, they would've been seeing each other much sooner. She probably just met him recently and things developed. ... (read in full...)
My gf will not make any concessions, while I am not expected to want or act incongruently with her admission. What is going on here? How can we correct this?
Q. I'm writing because my girlfriend of about two years and I are having some issues. I would say there are lots of them, but I'm convinced the majority of our issues are consequential to a couple "core" issues. First things first. I'm 27, she is 2...
A. 7 January 2008: Your girlfriend is immature and controlling. It may have been something about the way she was raised. It's almost like she loathes men in general, especially you. I suggest couples counseling because you need to tell her how you feel, without ... (read in full...)
30 and pregnant, my bf does not agree to keep the baby, but my mother says it is my last chance to have a child, so what should I do?
Q. im 30. im pregnant but my bf says he doesn't want a baby. i told my mum and she said that it's my last chance to have 1. Is my mum right and what should I do?...
A. 7 January 2008: The question is -- what do YOU want? It may be your last chance to have a baby, but if you aren't truly committed to the idea, cannot support the baby financially, and do not feel like you can give this child the love it deserves, then you should ... (read in full...)
Do any men like giving oral?
Q. I have only ever been with the one man in my life and he does not enjoy performing oral sex on a woman. He claims that men just DON'T like it at all. This may be a stupid and very obvious question I should know the answer to, but because I have o...
A. 7 January 2008: Make sure you're clean down there, men have sensitive noses and women's scents can be strong at certain times of the month. Just taking a shower at 6:00 AM and then expecting him to go down on you at 9:30 PM is not clean enough. Take a shower ... (read in full...)
He's still visiting adult dating sites, but says its to boost his confidence, should I give him the heave ho?
Q. Dear Readers The man I am dating (for over 11 months now) - I found out by accident he has a secret email account with emails from other girls - I found out he has about 20 girls on his messenger list and an account on an adults sex site - I ema...
A. 7 January 2008: Yes you should dump him. He suffers from self esteem issues and I suspect he has trouble being faithful because one woman is never enough. He has to constantly feed the beast of his frail ego and you will always be looking over your shoulder, ... (read in full...)
What's up with these men I meet, any ideas from the guys out ther?
Q. Any answers from men in particular would be appreciated. I have been dating again for about a year after eight year and I've dated a handful of men during that time who have behaved in a manner that I find irritating. On the around the fifth...
A. 7 January 2008: It has been my experience that most single men do remain friends with all their ex-girlfriends (if the ex is willing that is), and will continue to have female friends-with-benefits until they say "I do". I suspect most of the guys you've been ... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to sleep with a male prostitute to get pregnant!
Q. I'm 24, my husband's 26, and we've been married for 3 years now. We have a good lifestyle and our sex life is good. My husband is a very nice person, well-liked and popular and doesn't get jealous when I'm with other guys or on girls' nights ou...
A. 7 January 2008: This is probably the most bizarre thing I've ever heard a husband suggest to a woman he claims to love. Trust me, it's a terrible idea and thank God you thought so too. Please don't go through with it. Simply tell him there are three ways you'll ... (read in full...)
I'm a faithful wife and mother, but there's this guy at work I cant get out of my head, advice please
Q. I can’t discuss this with my family, girlfriends or husband. Maybe someone out there can help to enlighten me. I am a happily married woman with kids. I’ve been married almost twenty years, to a wonderful man, that I love very much. He i...
A. 7 January 2008: I believe it is possible to love your husband and be in love with another man. Because I think the love you have for this other man is more of a crush, an infactuation, and a huge ego boost. It's always nice when someone else finds us attractive. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends ex wrote me saying he was abusive, should I take her advice?
Q. I've been dating my current bf for a little less than a year now. When I got together with my bf, he'd just broken up with his gf not too long. He said she was unfaithful and they had problems long before the breakup. I knew that the girl wanted to ...
A. 7 January 2008: I think if your boyfriend was abusive you would've seen that side of him by now. I also think it's strange for a girl who claims she was in constant fear, to try so hard to get him back after their break up. I would retain her letter, but give no ... (read in full...)
I wake up to having tense feelings in the chest, and miserable thoughts. What IS this??
Q. Hi. Health related question. Some time ago, I used to wake up in the morning, be very tense in the chest area and feel miserable. Recently, this has returned. What is it? Could it be stress related? It seems that lately when I try to sleep,...
A. 6 January 2008: You are not taking control over your thoughts and they are manifesting themselves in bodily symptoms. This is typical of unchecked stress and it will take its toll eventually. You are the master of your mind. If you chose to think these thoughts, ... (read in full...)
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