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Should I start sitting like a man with legs wide even though it makes me embarrassed?

Q.   i am a 13 year old boy. i have recently noticed other boys in my classess sitting like men. - legs wide open - and am wondering weather i should start, but it embarrassess me whenever i do. i also fell dead self-conciouss when i dont. also when...

A.   15 December 2007: most guys sit that way because they dont like their sack being stuck to their legs...... (read in full...)

Does my crush like me? How do I know?

Q.   how do i tell if my crush likes me? I'm naturely blonde so i act dumb sometimes. when i first moved here i didn't notice him at first until this boy that picks on every day.he stars at me and finds thing to anoy me.every day he would say oh thi...

A.   15 December 2007: Oh to be young again! I remember that age, how everything seemed like a sign that her and I were destined to be together. If he likes you, and you like him, thats that. I think you know your answer already. I think your question should ... (read in full...)

Can she go to a doctor and see if she's a virgin.

Q.   If a 5 year-old girl did anything sexual would she still be considered a virgin at the age of 17? For example if she were to go to the doctor to get checked to see if she was a virgin or not would the doctor say that she is a virgin or that she is ...

A.   10 December 2007: More info needed. Sexual is defined as way more but not necessarily including sex.... (read in full...)

Can't stop thinking about him...should I text him?

Q.   i was only been with this guy for 3 weeks then we split up,but i cant stop thinking about him,even tho ive not heard anything from him him since we split i really want to text him,is this a good idea or not?...

A.   9 December 2007: No. Stay strong. If you text him your braking down. Your gonna do whatever you feel is right. If you text him your not going to get over him any sooner. And your just going to hurt more. Or you can text him, and take a chance. Just make a ... (read in full...)

My friend drives me crazy! She copies me!

Q.   My friend is always telling me what shes doing and I really don't want to know. She is always acting very immature. Its Like I tell her something I want to do and then she goes and does it. Like for instance I said I was redoing my room, well she ...

A.   9 December 2007: If something as flattering as being copied is "annoying" you than perhaps your the immature one? Seriously, its a huge compliment. She wants to be just like you. It will only bother you if you let it.... (read in full...)

Best friends but...will we ever fall in love?

Q.   there is a guy whom i love like mad...he really cares for me..but he says love is too complicated for him...n says i'll b his best friend forever...do you think that he will fall in love with me some day......

A.   9 December 2007: I do. I firmly believe that guys dont really have girls who they plan to just keep as "friends" Think about it. Guys are simple. Girls are not. Girls are friends with guys because they like to be around a simple relationship. you can un... (read in full...)

Can you tell me signs when a guy likes you?

Q.   Hi can you tell me what the sings are that a guy likes you? Because i like this lad at my school but haven't known him long. I wouldn't say we talk a lot but we do talk. just today i could really tell if he was looking at me or sort of looking ...

A.   8 December 2007: I dont really know about signs. If I like a girl I usually make sure she knows. I just give her special attention. Bring her places. Make her know that she is the most important person in the room to me. ... (read in full...)

I really fancy this boy but he flirts with all the girls...and acts like he is 16.

Q.   I really fancy this boy in yr8, I am in yr 7, he flirts with loads of other girls, but not as much with me. I think he likes me but I think he thinks I am too young. He is a very strange boy, as in way taller than average (but then, so am I,) and ...

A.   4 December 2007: im 18. And i'm a huge flirt. And let me tell you. Its hurting me right know... You don't want to fall for this guy. I fell for a girl that was like me (a flirt) and now I know how much it hurts.... (read in full...)

I told her how I feel.....and she hasn't answered me...what do I do??

Q.   I finally told her how I felt... I sat her down and told her that our friendship meant so much to me, and that I would never do anything that I knew would hurt it. I told her that I know she has a boyfriend and I respect him and their relation...

A.   2 December 2007: I know the boundaries and I make a concerted effort to not cross them. I know that nothing good would come long term. We went through the same thing earlier this year when she had no boy friends. And I really did get over her. But lo and behold I... (read in full...)

Am I rushing into sex??

Q.   I have only known my boyfriend for two months,and we only got together a month ago. I am a virgin but he's not. I really love him,and i would have sex with him if he asked me. Am i rushing into things?...

A.   1 December 2007: If you have to ask if your rushing into this then I'm going to go ahead and say that your still to young for sex. I think it would hurt you more than it would benefit you.... (read in full...)

I think she fancies me...but I don't feel any physical attraction.

Q.   I have a problem. There's a christmas party/formal in about 2 weeks and this girl invited me to come with her and some friends. I know it seems harmless, but I think she might fancy me, she's always talking to me on messenger, and last night my...

A.   1 December 2007: im gonna go with an old standard here: Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Put yourself in her shoes. What if you really liked this girl, but she didn't find you attractive physically. Wouldn't you still want a chance? I say go for it... (read in full...)

I really like my friend but am worried my sexual inexperience will ruin it.

Q.   I think i'm starting to fall for my (guy)friend. We've been friends for a year maybe but we just started to get a lot closer in the last few months, and we spend a lot of time together just the two of us (as opposed to with our group of friends ...

A.   1 December 2007: 1st question: Don't worry about losing the friendship. Love based on anything but friendship is a mansion built on sand. 2nd) Guy's like girls who don't know what to do. He isnt going to be turned off by you being inexperienced. just be p... (read in full...)

Is it normal?

Q.   Is it normal for couples to put up a poster of a woman in a bikini on their bedroom wall?...

A.   30 November 2007: No. It's not all right. I'm in the states, and maybe its different here, but its incredibly disrespectful. Why don't you just hang up a sign saying "Wish you were her" underneath it?... (read in full...)

Should I be worried that I do not have pubic hair yet?

Q.   Hi I'm 18 but my penis hasn't grown and i don't have any hair around it and i haven't started shaving. my voice has broken but because of all this im a bit self concious about myself and ive never had a girlfriend or even kissed a girl. do you hav...

A.   30 November 2007: You could go to a doctor. But go to a urologist. Also, 21 is the time that puberty is finished. So you have a few more years. I wouldn't worry about it. ... (read in full...)

Guys, can you be normal friends with a girl you find attractive, even though a relationship would not be possible?

Q.   Guys: Can you be normal friends with a girl you find hot and wish you could sleep with, but know nothing can happen? Would you hang around and continue being 'friends', even though you never saw eachother out and only got on really well when...

A.   30 November 2007: Guys: Can you be normal friends with a girl you find hot and wish you could sleep with, but know nothing can happen? No. Guys mostly have guy friends because their easier to get along with. Girls are hard and tiring to have friendships with. Ch... (read in full...)

Am I immature or is he being dumb?

Q.   Help me here guys. OF course I'm 13 and so is my boyfrined. He thinks I'm inmature just beacseI don't want to have sex and becasue I watch cartoon network and disney channel everyday.Am I really inmature or is he just being dumb?...

A.   5 August 2007: your not immature. your 13. He is just gonna keep pressuring you for sex. My advice is to leave him.... (read in full...)

What do guys find attractive in a girl?

Q.   this is to all you guys out there! Plz tell me what you find atractive in a girl and also in foreplay. What things can she do to make you go crazy!!!Well i appreciate your honest replies thank u all!...

A.   5 August 2007: An attractive girl takes care of herself. Isn't afraid to show off her body a little. wears nice clothing. is clean. smiles a lot. laughs when appropriate. and thanks people. ... (read in full...)

I've left her 9 facebook comments! I don't want to seem over enthusiastic. Should I hold back?

Q.   ok theres this girl right, she is nearly 16 and im not even 14 yet my b day is 27th of august, and ive been trying to get close with her like some ppl on this site hav been tellin me, but im afraid ive been talkin to her too much... i dont wanna luk ...

A.   5 August 2007: Yeah hold back. You don't want to scare her off :)... (read in full...)

Do guys get nervous when it comes to girls and what can I do to make him make the first move?

Q.   One of my friends told me this guy told her he liked me and all, and after hearing that I started liking him too. It's been 2 YEARS and he still didn't ask me out or anything (and I know for a fact that he STILL likes me.) Other guys have asked me ...

A.   5 August 2007: Hell yeah we get nervous! Why don't you just make the first move? Who cares who made the first move if a relationship starts? ... (read in full...)

I don't know what's going on inside my craaazy head!! Think I might have some kind of personality disorder?

Q.   hello peeps. Need a bit of advice. I don't know what's going on inside my craaazy head!! Think I might have some kind of personality disorder? One minute I am so so happy and think I'm the luckiest girl alive, next minute I'm the most depressed ...

A.   5 August 2007: I want you to go see a doctor and see if you have depression with a little bit of bi-polar (manic depressive). Read up on it on web md. its easily treated. You will thank yourself that you went to the doctor. -Tea... (read in full...)

I really like this boy, but there is a problem. He is 4 years older then me. Is 4 years age difference too long?

Q.   I really like this boy, but there is a problem. He is 4 years older then me. Is 4 years age difference too long?...

A.   5 August 2007: 100% agree with rhythm. He is going to take advantage of you.... (read in full...)

We argue over silly things. How can we stop?

Q.   me and my girlfriend argue alot of the smallest things. we really want to make our relationship work and my girlfriend told me if we don't stop arguing then she will leave me. what can i do? thank you...

A.   4 August 2007: realise that what your arguing about doesen't matter. and be the man and LET IT GO.... (read in full...)

I've always wanted to be a marine but my girlfriend says she'll dump me if I sign up

Q.   so i've decided to stay with my current gf and just wait. love is more important to me than sex. i do have some what of another problem though. i kinda do and kinda dont want to join the army (marines) but my gf said she would dump me if i did. i'v...

A.   3 August 2007: two choices 1)stick with your current gf where you may eventually break up 2) break up, join the marines, find new gf. choose one of those two. -Tea... (read in full...)

I don't want to be too clingy and lose her over my insecurity.

Q.   I am 16 and my girlfriend (16) of 9 months now recently went on a a weeks trip with two of her friends. I trusted her fully with her friends as she was staying with her grandparents. All was well, when she got back I asked her how it went. I found ...

A.   3 August 2007: Well confront her. Tell her your insecurities and tell her your bringing it up because you love her. She shouldn't be doing that at all. Honestly it doesn't look good. I would have dumped her already. ... (read in full...)

how can i find a boyfriend fast and be attractive to men?

Q.   hi. i'm single and just cant find a guy. i'm a nice girl but even the guys in my life dont want me- even those i've known for a while. no-one ever hits on me or notices me. how can i find a boyfriend fast and be attractive to men? i want to get ...

A.   3 August 2007: I'm not going to read the other peoples responses because it may influence my answer. reading your question I think its fair to say your majorly desperate. Thats really quite unattractive. Please release that love happens. You can't force it. ... (read in full...)

How can I get a girl? I need a girlfriend!

Q.   Hi, my name is Daniel, I am 16 and live with my parents in Aberdeen, Scotland. I have no success with girls and it's just not happening for me. I have never had a girl friend, always rejection. I need a girl to love because I feel its my duty get ...

A.   3 August 2007: well let me tell you a little about yourself. I'm blessed. My family has money. I'm good looking, girls find me "sexy", I have an IQ of 137, and have a great personality. Girls like me. When a girl doesent like you...You need to look at it as ... (read in full...)

I'm 13 and I kind jackoff 5 times a week, and I've noticed that I never cum...

Q.   masturbation and another question...... yea I'm 13 and I kind jackoff 5 times a week, and I've noticed that I never cum. I think I did once but it was like a centimeter long and very hard and dry. I have been drinking water sooooo wat should...

A.   3 August 2007: slow down slugger. Your girlfriend is being a drama queen. If you want to fool around go for it. But use a condom. cum is the expulsion of semen from the tip of your penis. It looks like water and cream cheese mixed together. it should'nt be ... (read in full...)

My best mate has cheated on her bf so many times, I feel like I should tell him. Should I?

Q.   My best friend of 15 years has been going out with this guy for 2 years almost. In that time she's cheated on him God knows how many times, last time I got her to tell him because I thought it wasn't fair on him and she did, but got mad at me ...

A.   2 August 2007: He wont believe you. She will hate you. But in the end he will come around and thank you. She may not be your friend much longer. ... (read in full...)

Is it that bad to be smaller than my friends?

Q.   I am 14 and 5ft 2 i get teased regularily about my height as all my friends are 5ft 6 etc. Is it that bad to be small?? P.s. Yet my guy friends don't seem to care. X Thanks, Please help me!!...

A.   2 August 2007: well Im a guy and im 6 foot with no shoes on. so with shoes im a pretty tall guy. short girls are amazing. Their just cute. I think your friends are envious of you lol. ... (read in full...)

I am dating my older second cousin

Q.   im dating my 2nd cousin who is 20 years older then me and dont no how to tell my perants. anyone have any advise?...

A.   2 August 2007: Break up. Cousins don't date. and 20 years is wrong. he is most likely a perv.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend keeps cheating on me

Q.   hi every1! am in love with this lad av been on and off with him for a year but he has dumped me 3 times for an ex, each time it has been a different lass but we are close again and wen i left his the other night he slept with sum1 just after me! but ...

A.   2 August 2007: Honey, Love is very hard. He doesn't love you like you love him. You wouldn't cheat on him. You deserve better. He is never going to stop cheating. EVER. I'm going to tell you one thing I want you to remember forever. Don't ever date a guy ... (read in full...)

I'm 12 and was washing my privates and stuff come out

Q.   I need some answers. I am a 12 year old male. I was in the shower 2 days ago washing my private area, and some stuff came out of the tip and it tingled really a lot. I was using body wash and i guess that is what it looked like. so i am woindering ...

A.   2 August 2007: Were you erect when this happened? was it semen? soap usually burns. -Tea... (read in full...)

How can I figure out if he likes me?

Q.   hi their all. ive found a bloke that i like and hes really shy and im too hes a friend of mine, weve never spoken about bf just general chit chat and nothing more, i like him but im not sure if he likes me, was wondering on any tips on how to find ...

A.   2 August 2007: The purpose of flirting is to usually let someone know your interested. I would flirt with him. and if he returns it its a good sign. If he tells you to knock it off. its a bad sign. I wouldn't worry about him just wanting to stay friends. Gu... (read in full...)

I am 15 and would like to have sex

Q.   Hi. I am thinking of having sex soon, first time. I'm 15 and i'm worried whether a condom is enough or do i HAVE to go on the pill? Answers?...

A.   2 August 2007: I'm not going to tell you to wait. Or go for it. It's your decision. But ask yourself though: For the rest of your life. Do you want to look back and think "I wish I had waited?" A condom is something like 98% effective. But if you ca... (read in full...)

I've been talking to a guy for 2 weeks but all he wants is sex

Q.   i have been talkin this boy for a bout 2 weeks all he want from me is sex. he say that he likes me but i really don't know if hes telling me the truth to me i think he just tell me what i wanna hear for i can give it up to him. what should i say to ...

A.   2 August 2007: well if all you want is sex then thats cool go for it. If you want a relationship its not going to happen with this guy. A relationship built on anything but friendship is the house built on sand. PM me if ya need to talk. -Tea... (read in full...)

I really like this girl I met online, but she says she doesnt want to lead me on

Q.   Okay i'm zell and i'm 17 and i really like this girl i need some advice because i'm wondering if she likes me or anything you know? okay first off I met her over myspace and facebook, she's absolutely drop dead sexy....well anyway it's over the comp...

A.   2 August 2007: wait another couple of days. i would say a week total. Then call her if you still have feelings for her and tell her that "I want a relationship, and if your ready for this then I want to do it. But if your not, i dont want to continue this.... (read in full...)

I am getting mixed signals from him and I am too shy to talk to him!

Q.   Ok people, If you're shy and find it hard to talk to guys ur interested in, how would u go about asking them out or simply trying to find out whether they like u or not? Some of u may have seen my other posts, but theres this guy i like, im g...

A.   2 August 2007: He's shy lol. thats all. He is most likely interested in you. Sometimes women have to make a leap. Go up to him. and just say "Hey, some of my friends and I are going out to a movie on friday, If your not doing anything meet us at "insert place ... (read in full...)

Is it ok to masterbate at 11?

Q.   im 11 and i dont think should masterbate beacuse my parents will freak out.and they dont know anything about masterbation at a early age.so what do i do!...

A.   2 August 2007: I started in 5th grade. so that would make me around your age I think. Here is the deal. Eventually your parents are going to notice. Or just assume you do it. It's a part of life. They did it when they were younger and might even still do it. ... (read in full...)

I am 14, how do I know if I am in love?

Q.   I'm 14 and i've had my boyfriend for a while now... but idk if its love... or if its true love. He broke up with me before and later he came back to me saying he had no reason for breaking up... well the question is... how do i know if its love?...

A.   2 August 2007: Well. If you feel that you would do anything for him. And just the mere presence of him makes your day better. Its love. If you broke up. and you didn't get your heartbroken. then its not love. Unfortunately you don't know what heartbreak is like ... (read in full...)

I know I am fat, but why cant I get a boyfriend?

Q.   fat girl needing a man to date but why none have asked me ? i am a 24 year old fat woman who has had two problems most of her life not having guys ask me out and my weight by trying to loose it even though i gain more . it is bugging me . i tried ...

A.   2 August 2007:  Well you address yourself as a fat girl. That is unhealthy in every aspect to see yourself as anything other than a just a "girl." You don't have a boyfriend, not because your fat. But because how you see yourself. You need to move out of your... (read in full...)

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