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I am 41 yrs old and I live in CA. I work with the public and feel as though I have a lot to offer by way of experience. I have gone through a lot in my life, and if I can help somone to avoid going through some of the things I went through in my life, I would sure try. I don't know it all, but I will try to help anyone that I can.

How do I keep my sex addict fiance's attention on me?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and I currently expecting his baby. He says he wants to be with me and I want to be with him.... but he is a sex addict. He seeks out other women so he can satisfy himself. How can I control his urges and ...

A.   21 March 2009: Remember Halle Barry, and Eric Benet. You can't help him. Yes, think of your child, as the other advisor said.... (read in full...)

Girls! I broke her trust - Can you tell me if there is hope?

Q.   Hello all... I've been dating the girl of my dreams since late 07. She and I had a struggle last summer, but we worked through it and we got together again, and got even closer and more intimate. We are a long-distance relationship, so o...

A.   21 March 2009: Youv'e alreasy admitted that you take your problems out on her. Your parents are too much of an influence on your decisions. There are other jobs out there. You need to start growing up, and the first step to that is to detatch your money making ... (read in full...)

How do you get over emotional betrayal?

Q.   Hi, me again. I have the text cheat husband who's now stopped all that with a colleague 18 years younger than me who works at different premises but he has to see at 6 weekly committee meetings and contact via email over business issues. He bitterly ...

A.   21 March 2009: I am also in a trust issue relationship, and it's hard to deal with. It's almost the same type of situation that happened to me, and I'm still trying to get past it. On that note, whenever I bring up the indescretion, he tells me that he can't feel ... (read in full...)

Masturbation, brothel... or just wait?

Q.   Hi everyone, Couple of days back I came to know about this forum and finally decided to ask my problem. Actually I came to London about 1 and half years ago. I am married but I am living without family here... and it's been same time without hav...

A.   21 March 2009: I am a realist, and mastubation is the only way to remain faithful to your wife, however be advised, that it could make the yearning greater. I agree with the other advisors, see if there's a way your wife can visit you or make the move for the ... (read in full...)

Some confidence

Q.   I'm 28 and have no confidence or self esteem. I know I'm ugly and it's obvious by the way guys look at me I'm disgusting. How can I get some confidence to make myself feel better...

A.   21 March 2009: First of all, nobody's ugly in this world. We just look different. Some are attracted to us, and some are not. It's doesn't matter what people think about you. Love yourself first, and then others will love you too. We put out the energy we want ... (read in full...)

Do I trust him???

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 10 months but we moved in with each other shortly after we started dating. I sometimes think that wasn't the best decision because he hadn't ever lived on his own before and i had for almost 7 years. ...

A.   21 March 2009: I have trust issues myself, and I know how you feel. He's lying to you, and that betrays trust in itself. Why does he feel the need to not let you in on what he's doing? If he feels like he still wants to hang out with the boys, that's fine, he just ... (read in full...)

My daughter is 19, unmarried and pregnant. Any pointers?

Q.   My daughter is 19 and lives with her bf. I was against that decision, but she's grown. Now, she tells me that she is pregnant, I don't know how to handle the situation without alienating her. I don't approve because she is not married. It's not what ...

A.   21 March 2009: My granddaughter is here, and she is wonderful. I love her so much. I just needed time to get use to the idea, but we'r all good now. Thank you for all of your encouragement.... (read in full...)

Is he just craving some attention? Or am I crazy for staying with him?

Q.   I have been with my fiance for 11yrs, and I really love him. I am pretty sure that he still loves me too. I have some apprehensions about the future of our relationship. About a year ago, I found out that he was chatting with a woman in the UK. I ...

A.   21 March 2009: I have talked to him about the last situation, and he said that he was flatered at first, and then he allowed it to get out of hand. After the first incident, I can say that I haven't been distant in any way. I was depressed before, and I didn't ... (read in full...)

My daughter is 19, unmarried and pregnant. Any pointers?

Q.   My daughter is 19 and lives with her bf. I was against that decision, but she's grown. Now, she tells me that she is pregnant, I don't know how to handle the situation without alienating her. I don't approve because she is not married. It's not what ...

A.   4 December 2008: My daughter is almost due, and I'm getting so excited. Thanks for helping me with your advice.... (read in full...)

How can I finalize a divorce without an attorney?

Q.   I have been desperately trying to get a divorce from my husband whom I haven't been with for 18 yrs now. At first I tried to have him served with the papers, but was unseccessful when he moved. He eventually had me served at my job. I thought that ...

A.   10 June 2008: I would have to get an Attorney, but I can't afford one. Since he served me, it his case, and I would have to petition the courts to take it over. It's a mess.... (read in full...)

My daughter is 19, unmarried and pregnant. Any pointers?

Q.   My daughter is 19 and lives with her bf. I was against that decision, but she's grown. Now, she tells me that she is pregnant, I don't know how to handle the situation without alienating her. I don't approve because she is not married. It's not what ...

A.   10 June 2008: Thank you all, for your advice. My daughter and I are doing fine, and I'm slowley getting use to the idea of becoming a grandmother.lol. We are back to getting along now. It will be okay.... (read in full...)

Have I crossed into the dreaded friend zone with this married woman?

Q.   I've just met and have been spending time with a married woman. She'll be here away from home for a few more months. I know that she has been messing around out here, but everytime I come on to her she says that she won't because she wouldn't want ...

A.   19 May 2008: Just wait for her to let you know what she wants. If she has crossed the line with other guys, then maybe she just truly loves YOUR company, and only that. If you have feelings for her, then maybe you should be the one to bow out gracefully. I hope ... (read in full...)

He is always hinting that I am fat and he pressures me into doing things in my life I am not happy with

Q.   i have been with my partner for 2 years, i am madly in love with him and he knows this. i know he is not happy with how i look as he is always hinting that i am fat and he pressures me into doing things in my life i am not happy with, but i go along ...

A.   19 May 2008: A size 10 is great. I don't know what more you can do for him, but for yourself, get rid of him. Don't demoralize youself for anyone. You love the idea of him. Love is not doing things you don't want to do, in order to keep a person in your life. ... (read in full...)

My stress level is so high after the divorce; how will I find the strength to rent a new home and then move on?

Q.   My husband left me in October.. We are not divorced yet. He has had a girlfriend soon after or before he left. We just sold our home of 8 years. I am left to pack and find a place to live. I have till June 11 th to get out. I am in the process of t...

A.   19 May 2008: I went through a similar situation in my early 20's. I felt like my life was just for my kids, they were 3mos. and 2yrs. at the time. Your girls are grown and could be of great help to you. All of you can get out individually and search for a house ... (read in full...)

Can you get pregnant the day you finish your period?

Q.   can you get pregnant the day you come off your period.?...

A.   19 May 2008: Yes you can. If you're not married, please keep yourself safe. Get a box of condoms and carry some in your purse. Period sex is not safe sex.... (read in full...)

The only thing keeping us together is sex...

Q.   My boyfriend who is 2 years older than me is leaving school and either going to collage. He says that things between us wont change but i no it will. I am madly in love with him but he doesnt understand as he keeps on thinking i flirt/or change in ...

A.   19 May 2008: Sex always complicates a relationship no matter how old you are. At this point in your life, you can't be consumed in what he's going to do when he goes to college. He'll do it anyway. The real question is, are you willing to let him go and do ... (read in full...)

My ex got violent

Q.   I posted this yesterday and had no replies so thought i would try again.. Me and my ex had a row the other night, and he grabbed me and pinned me up against a cupboard. I fought him off, and got him out the house. My children and his child were in ...

A.   19 May 2008: I think that maybe you and your family need some kinda of oder in place to keep this guy away from you all. He's starving for attention, and any is good enough for him.... (read in full...)

My daughter is 19, unmarried and pregnant. Any pointers?

Q.   My daughter is 19 and lives with her bf. I was against that decision, but she's grown. Now, she tells me that she is pregnant, I don't know how to handle the situation without alienating her. I don't approve because she is not married. It's not what ...

A.   9 May 2008: Thank you for your response. I have always been open with my daughter, and she knew that getting pregnant b4 marriage is not what she should've done. She is happy, but I can't be for her. I love her, and I told her that yesterday before her bf ... (read in full...)

Is it okay to give your male teacher a hug and a kiss on the cheek as a way of saying thanks?

Q.   Hiya everybody so I was just wondering if it would be okay to give a male teacher a hug and a a kiss on the cheek. Our exam results would be coming out soon and if they are good me and my friends and classmates are going to thank all our teac...

A.   2 May 2008: I agrre with the writers before me. I suggest you ask your parents to get a card or a small gift, to say thanks.... (read in full...)

I'm 12 and I need help with feeling depressed

Q.   Heya Im 12 years old... I keep falling in and out of depression... I dont know why and i dont know what to do, ive even started self-harming... Does anyone know what to do to stop me feeling so down?...

A.   2 May 2008: I have two kids of my own and they went through a lot when they were young, and my son actually had to have therapy for a few years. Definitely reach out to someone that you can talk to, Maybe one of your friends mother, teacher, nurse at school or ... (read in full...)

I love my boyfriend but I've met someone else

Q.   well im really confused now coz ive got a boyfriend and been with him a year and most of that time hes been in prison and i love him 5 days ago i started a training course and i met some one else and he is really sweet and i could see myself with...

A.   2 May 2008: You deserve to be happy with someone who is not going to be in and out of jail. On that note, think about how you would feel if he were to start dating someone else behind your back.... (read in full...)

How do I let the past go and trust him?

Q.   I have a pretty complicated situation and would love some input. Ill try to make it quick. My boyfriend and i have been seeing each other off and on for about 9 months. When i met him he had just filed for divorce and raising his 3 boys. He is a goo...

A.   2 May 2008: Girlfriend let me tell you. He is just not that into you. He is using you for the easy thing, and when something comes along that he feel is better, he will repeat the same behavior. Never let your friend go for any guy. I did that before and will ... (read in full...)

I'm married, but my true love is back in my life. What should I do?

Q.   i have this problem i have been married for nine years now,which were not always happy times. 20 years ago i dated this guy in the 9th grade. i knew then he would be the one for me, but we some how loss contact with each other,bot never broke up. ...

A.   2 May 2008: I agree with Kimaxsi. Have you ever heard of the 80/20 concept? You leave the 80 for the 20 and end up miserable and even possibly alone. Watch the new Tyler Perry movie with Janet Jackson. It has some good marriage advise in it. ... (read in full...)

A three year relationship and no sex. How long can it go on?

Q.   Im Not sure what to do about my reationship. I have been going out with my girlfriend for 3 years now and living with her for the last 2 yrs. We have never had intercourse yet because she is scared of getting pregnant and probably would like...

A.   1 May 2008: Marriage is not just a piece of paper, but it doesn't grant your every wish either. Marriage is not the answer in this case. If she is not communicating with you, that is a serious problem, more so than the lack of intimacy. Couples counseling could ... (read in full...)

My wife watches porn while I'm at work. Why?

Q.   i recently discovered that my wife is watching porn when i'm at work. is this normal? is she doing it for personal pleasure because she is'nt satisfied by me?...

A.   1 May 2008: Did you bust her at it, or did she tell you about it? Anything secret is not good. Communication is the key.... (read in full...)

My wife wants to be painted nude. Is this normal?

Q.   Hi my wife would like to have a nude painting done of her and is quite turned on by that fact that people will see it. is this normal or what...

A.   1 May 2008: Women love to be admired. Saying that, if it bothers you, share your concerns with her, and see where that takes you. Hopefully she considers your feelings.... (read in full...)

I'm married, but my true love is back in my life. What should I do?

Q.   i have this problem i have been married for nine years now,which were not always happy times. 20 years ago i dated this guy in the 9th grade. i knew then he would be the one for me, but we some how loss contact with each other,bot never broke up. ...

A.   1 May 2008: You are living in the past. You need to look at this as a 30 something year old woman. Find out where your marriage is going and take care of that first. If he really loves you, he'll also do the same and THEN, and only then should the two of you ... (read in full...)

I love my fiancee, but also think about her friend a lot. Is this just because of our talk of a threesome?

Q.   I've been engaged to my long term girlfriend for a few months now. Recently we discussed having a threesome with another girl. We both agreed to ask one of her long term friends (they have known each other since around the age of 3). We havn't had ...

A.   29 April 2008: I know of a situation where a guy brought another woman into his relationship and his wife ended up sleeping withh the other woman after their mutual encounter. He beat up both women and later killed his wife in front of their son. Is it really ... (read in full...)

Do you believe a married man when he tells you what a witch his wife is?

Q.   To women who are having an affair with a married man. Do you believe your married man when he is telling you what an evil B*tch his wife is and how you are so much nicer and how much he loves you?...

A.   27 April 2008: My philosophy is, why would I want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me? Don't accept half of his heart just to save your marriage. Look out for yourself, and the children, if there are any. Remind him that he will never get rid of you ... (read in full...)

How do I give him oral sex without teething him? I also get tired!

Q.   How can I give really good blowjob, but not have to be down there for a long period of time? Last time I gave my boyfriend a blowjob it took forever for him to cum, and my teeth accidently kept touching his penis. We've been dating for a two years ...

A.   26 April 2008: Ther is a vain that runs down the front of the penis to the tip, lick that softly.....That is very sensitive, and try playing with the testicles too. Lick, suck softly, rub.....you get the picture....Have fun.... (read in full...)

Do you believe a married man when he tells you what a witch his wife is?

Q.   To women who are having an affair with a married man. Do you believe your married man when he is telling you what an evil B*tch his wife is and how you are so much nicer and how much he loves you?...

A.   25 April 2008: I had that same thing happen to me from my guy, and he was telling a bunch of lies to the grl he was IM'ing. She believed him so much that she too, started calling me a b**ch. Some women are so gullible, and want a man so bad that they believe ... (read in full...)

Am I too young to be bisexual?

Q.   Heya, im 12 years old. I just wanted to know... Am i too young to decide to be bi-sexual? Because i like watching lesbian porn and, i know it semi-normal at my age to feel like this but as i said, do you guys think im too young to decide to be bi? ...

A.   24 April 2008: I know that in this day and age, sex is widely talked about and we should never underestimate what our youngsters are doing. Why at your age are you even thinking about sex is a puzzle to me. I was still playing with barbie when I was your age. ... (read in full...)

We have dissention amongst our friends due to a newcomer's strange comment - should we ignore the incident or ban the newcomer?

Q.   I have a question for all you guys/girls out there. I have a close male friend who owns a vacation property (cabin) on a lake with his wife. A few times a year he has an all guy weekend, There's a lake, a boat, a shooting range, etc. Lots of ...

A.   21 April 2008: I think you should give this guy a second chance. He was probably thinking that since you go skinny dipping, that this would be nothing. Maybe he is gay. I don't know, but if he is, Jim should give him the rules.... (read in full...)

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