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Secret relationship with much younger sister-in-law

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Question - (8 December 2010) 19 Answers - (Newest, 12 December 2010)
A male India age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I am 42 year old married man. I am very close to my 18 year sis-in-law. She is bubbly and jolly in nature. She is very fond of me. She allows me to hugg, kiss and touch her boobs. She often says she loves me.I too say same. We enjoy a flirting relationship.

How should i take this relationship further?

Can i enjoy this relationship secretly forever?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010):

If anyone can have you... then you have decided that you aren't worth very much as a man. Every time you give in to this sort of behavior you are tearing yourself down. You are 'admitting' that you come really cheap and that you have zero integrity as a grown man. A true man protects his marriage and his family. Period. Your sister in law has some major issues and is very weird... you going along with is says you are weird as well. Your poor wife.

Go get professional help.

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A female reader, Kiyana Czech Republic +, writes (12 December 2010):

It sounds to me that you `enjoy` the attention your Little sister-in-law gives you. She allows you to be intimate with her, and when a woman allows a man to be intimate with her, this usually makes a man feel very accepted and loved. Feelings which many people were denied in their past...

feeling of being accepted and loved, by others..

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2010):

It is irresponsible because she is only 18 and therefore immature and inexperienced, you are taking advantage of her. This is not the same thing as two mature adults agreeing to an illicit affair - which is also unethical but what you are doing with this girl less than half your age is even worse...As the older and supposedly more mature person it would be all on you if she got emotionally damaged from this, which is likely in any affair let alone in one that is even more messed up due to your huge age differences and the fact that you are family. You do realize that if found out, you would be forever labeled a "dirty old man" in addition to being a cheater. Your wife would hate you not just for cheating but for emotionally damaging her sister too. the rest of the family will hate you and find you disgusting.

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A female reader, tennisstar88 United States +, writes (9 December 2010):

tennisstar88 agony auntWhat is with the "I love my in law" questions today? I feel sorry for the wives, that have to go through the embarrassment and shame of their husband wanting their sister or mother in law.

Before you try to keep it in the family, go ahead and divorce your wife it's obvious you married the wrong sister. Then you can continue to grope this 18 year old all you want but she might not marry you because you won't have a dime to your name after the divorce is finalized.

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A male reader, dirtball United States +, writes (9 December 2010):

dirtball agony auntMeh, don't listen to all these haters. Sister sandwich. It can be yours!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2010):

Wow, you're a real winner. Of course she "loves" you. She probably looks up to her older sister and therefore, she would to her sisters husband too. You have serious problems, but you are in for some majorly serious problems in the future. This entire family will ALL HATE YOU! ALL OF THEM! Except maybe your "little sister", who, if she has any honor, she'll end up hating you too. You need to get a clue and stop being a creepy prevert and lay off this girl. Gosh, gross!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2010):

Eurgh, it's bad enough you are groping a girl who is barely legal let alone the fact she's your sister in law.

This site isn't for people to get tips on how to cheat on their partner or try and get in someones pants. It's for people seeking real advice for actual problems.

I suggest you go and find some morals because what you are doing is, frankly, revolting. I hope your wife finds out and takes you to the cleaners.

You don't sound the least bit guilty about your behaviour and i pity your wife. When you get found out, which you will, you'll learn what karma is all about.

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A male reader, soon567 United States +, writes (8 December 2010):

How bad can you get in the head is the real question here. A 42 year old man running after a child and molesting her in the process calling it love. You’re too old for her in the first place and the girl is family to you. How low can you go? Theirs a special place in hell for you. Why don’t you use that energy you have and work things out with your wife instead of this child? Why do I believe she’s more like 13 than 18? Either case this is horrible. Sorry I don’t think many will advise you on how to cheat regardless of what her age is.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2010):

That is very selfish. So many people will be hurt ( not to mention ruining your wifes relationship with her sister) just so u can mess around with an 18 year old! Get it together.

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A female reader, YouWish United States + , writes (8 December 2010):

YouWish agony auntIs this a real post? I have a hard time believing that a 42-year old says stuff like "she lets me touch her boobs". That actually sounds like something a 15 year old hormonal virgin boy would say.

Also, if your sister-in-law is 18, how old does that make your wife? I'm thinking still much younger than you are. Hasn't your ego had enough stroking already??

I have one question then, Mister 42-year-old.

What about your wife? Why are you looking to cheat on her? Be honest.

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A female reader, SirenaBlusera Mexico +, writes (8 December 2010):

SirenaBlusera agony auntHell no!! Are you kidding? I can`t believe this is a real post... you KNOW that cheating is wrong, don`t you?

The answer: If you have a conscience, then... no.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2010):

Bad Idea! stay away from that situation

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A male reader, dirtball United States +, writes (8 December 2010):

dirtball agony auntDoesn't anyone else see the potential here? I mean, of course you should take it further. Perhaps she'll be keen on bedding down with you and her sister. Then you can have a sister sandwich with you being the meat in the middle! Go for it dude!!!

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States + , writes (8 December 2010):

Tisha-1 agony auntYou know, it is interesting the number of questions we get from posters with Indian flags that concern family incest type stuff. There appears to a fascination with it in that area of the world.

Cheating on your spouse is never a good idea in any part of the world. Cheating with a family member compounds the potential aftermath. No, it isn't a good idea and teenagers are notoriously unreliable for keeping secrets. They haven't fully developed their judgement skills, you see. Nor apparently, have you.

Stick to fantasizing, it'll be better all around.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2010):

At 42 surely you know the answer to your questions, but just in case you don't.

no and no.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2010):

The answer is a simple, no. You cannot take it any further. End of.

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A male reader, Danielepew Mexico + , writes (8 December 2010):

Danielepew agony auntIf this is a real post, I believe that you are not only kidding us, but yourself. This is absolutely inappropriate for all the involved.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2010):

No you should not take this relationship further.

No you cannot keep living this lie, it's possible if you end it now you can save your marriage.

Are you showing any other symptoms of a MID LIFE CRISIS that impinges on other people happiness and wellbeing (aka your wife)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2010):

If you want to take it further you need to divorce your wife. But be sure your ready to do that before you rock the boat. And if your not you need to completely stop flirting and hugging and touching your sister in law.

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