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I have 5 kids and I am cheating on my husband

Q.   need iam still in a different mood that i have slept with another man and iam married with 5 children.the problem that iam still worrying if my husband find out and i dont want my family to split...what iam goinh to do ...

A.   12 November 2008: If i had five kids and a fat boring husband at home I too would want to have sex outside the marriage to escape. I dont exactly appplaud you but I can see where the sex on the side is a huge relief. Yes your family is important and their needs ... (read in full...)

I like giving men blow jobs - am I gay?

Q.   I have always wanted to know what it was like to give another man a BJ. I answered an ad and got to know this guy. I went over to his house and gave him a BJ. I did enjoy it! Now my problem is, I want to do it again. I like giving the BJ pa...

A.   12 November 2008: Please dont take offense but I think you are gay.... (read in full...)

My friend will have threesomes with my girlfriend, but refuses to with his girlfriend, why is he being selfish?

Q.   I’ve have had mmf threesomes that had involved girlfriends and my best friend. After we did the first time he asked if we can do it again with other girlfriends. So at least with 4 different girls we’ve had threesomes. It has been cool, and its ...

A.   12 November 2008: I think you are feeling that your freind is not fair to you because you can't sleep with his girlfriends but that's soemthing that has to be okay with them not him. If they are choosing not to sleep with you maybe its because you are a second rate ... (read in full...)

Can my gay friend reallly be straight?

Q.   So my absolute best friend is it possible that a gay guy can turn straight? I mean he has told me he is in love with me and that he would be able to have sex with me if he had to. I can get him excited, if you get what I mean. Most people ...

A.   5 November 2008: Your gay frind has a problem with confusion because he likes you and feels that he has to have sex with you to cement your relationship. Stop teasing the poor guy and let him go. He is gay...and there is no way you can change that. I have known ... (read in full...)

I lost my boyfriend to another guy!!!!

Q.   Hi guys! I'm really really confusedd at the moment, my boyfriend and I were together for 18 months, he was my second boyfriend, he was quite experienced with girls, I lost my virginity to him although he wasn't a virgin, we were in love and I though...

A.   5 November 2008: Yes, he is gay hun... most straight guys have no doubts about their sexuallity. And if the question does come up he is bona fide gay. Guys arent made the same way as us girls. We girls can be flexible so being bisexual is okay and even ... (read in full...)

She wants me to stick my finger in her and I need female advice on how to do it!

Q.   My gf recently shoved a finger up her anus as she approached her climax. Now she'd like me to do it and I'm embarrassed to say I'm not too sure what to do. I blushed when she asked me and we didn't talk about it. I wouldn't want a finger up my ...

A.   5 November 2008: Aren't you a little too old to ask advice of this sort? Don't you ever watch Cinemax after midnight? ... (read in full...)

Would this be termed as cheating???

Q.   Question:- A man (who is in a relationship) secretly stays in touch with another woman who he knows loves him and is forever showering him with gifts (but doesn't ask her for anything more - ie sex). So would you say this man is cheating on his ...

A.   5 November 2008: if they are not having sex its not cheating.... (read in full...)

We've been going out for 8.5 months but he still hasn't said these 3 little words to me...

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for almost 8 months in about 2 weeks. I care for him incredibly but we still haven't said those 3 words yet. I'm not one for rushing things and I enjoy taking things slow, but it does worry me and makes me wonder if he do...

A.   5 November 2008: He cant be your boyfriend if he hasnt said those three words. He is just the guy you are sleeping with and like. I guess he just likes you...what do you think? Why are you afraid to say the words to him? If you say it to him he might return t... (read in full...)

What is the definition of a player to you?

Q.   What is classified as a player/womanizer? I would like opinions on this because I have a guy friend, who i sorta had a past with, who is really nice and smart and romantic, but he's always flirting with girls, touching them, etc. He had a girlfri...

A.   5 November 2008: I think you are being a little mean about your friend calling him a jerk just because he likes sex... You can probably call him a player. But I have known guys like him and they are actually very cool and I prefer being with guy who is experienced ... (read in full...)

Do girls like giving oral sex?

Q.   Do girls actually enjoy giving oral sex? Or do they feel obligated to do it?...

A.   5 November 2008: I like giving oral, but if a guy begs for it its a turn off. I don't like being forced into something even if I think its pleasurable for me. But it is a pleasure and I usually get it started. I will say this though...if a guy doesnt keep it ... (read in full...)

What's the difference in between making love and just plain sex?

Q.   is there a difference between making love and just plain sex? if so what is the difference?...

A.   5 November 2008: I have had sex with guys I thought I was in love with and it turns out ok...while I have had sex with guys I could care less about but it's awesome. Is making love and having sex so different?....depends on who your partner is. And how good they ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend hates oral: I can't cum without it!

Q.   my boyfriend hates giving me oral sex and thats the only way i'm able to orgasm, i have vibrators and other various things. has anyone got any suggestions ...

A.   23 October 2008: Drop him, hun. You got to do the likkin before you do the stikkin.... If he cant do that then I am sure you can find a lot of other guys who will not only do it, but do it good. You are basically incompatible. Drop him, hun!... (read in full...)

I dared him to put my penis in his mouth. He did. How do I pretend it didn't happen?

Q.   I hope this really is annonomous. I can't believe that I'm even writing this. I have a really close friend, OK, my best friend named Tony. I've been married a little over 5 years, and been best friends with Tony for about 3 years. We are very close ...

A.   23 October 2008: Admit that you are Bi and get over it hon... Damn you bi guys can sometiomes be so self conscious about liking the same sex... what is wrong with you people? ... (read in full...)

I might be having sex on Saturday, I need to be prepared...

Q.   I might be havein sex on saturday with my best friend. We are both 15 im a male virgin and she has slept wiht bout 7 guys. Can someone please give me some advice on sex as a whole? Thanks for your reply James =]...

A.   5 October 2008: Find lambskin condoms ...and if you want to please her make sure she cums before you do. You should give her plenty of oral to get her motors started. Since she has more experience, let her take the lead and tell you what she wants...follow her ... (read in full...)

Is it wrong to have a friendship with a married guy like this?

Q.   Two years ago, I made a business deal with a military base near Nebraska. One of the guys was pretty friendly with me, he was rather flirty to the extent of making me feel he liked me. I felt like chemistry like I had with no one in my life ...

A.   5 October 2008: I think its ok to be friends with the guy. And if it eventually gets sexual just keep in mind he is married, and dont fool yourself into expecting a commitment with him. Just keep it light, keep it fun and enjoy each other and you will be ok. ... (read in full...)

If a college girl spends nights nude in bed with her boyfriend, and gives him handjobs, but no sex, would she be thought of as a slut?

Q.   If a college girl spends nights nude in bed with her boyfriend, and gives him handjobs, but no sex, would she be thought of as a slut?...

A.   5 October 2008: Of course she is not a slut, but she sounds more like church girl. In college and afraid to have all out sex with your boyfriend? What's the hold up here? Is she afraid of sex?... That's my real question.... (read in full...)

Does penis size play into women's fantasies?

Q.   Ok, another penis size question, I know, but bear with me ! Ok I guess my question is: does the idea or sight of a substantially larger than average penis, turn most women on? Is a big one arousing? More esthetically pleasing. More likely to promp...

A.   5 October 2008: Personally, I love big cocks. I sometimes fantasize about the monster ones, for sure... But I also know those suckers can be damn painful. Still, there is a fantasy element for guys with huge cocks. My boyfriend is 9 inches...which is pretty ... (read in full...)

My friend has problems with girls because of his large penis!

Q.   I'm asking this for a guy friend here, his penis is overwhelmingly large and he cannot find a girl to have sex with him because they are scared of the pain...what kind of girls should he approach in the future?...

A.   15 August 2008: I dont think his problem is as BIG as he says it is. With a lot of girls bigger is not a bad fact can you give me his number? But i think he is trying to impress you with his so-called problem thinking you can help him with in a per... (read in full...)

Do guys only like me because of the way I look?

Q.   I feel as if every guy that i date only wants me for my looks! Thisreally worries me. I do not have a bad personality at all. I am funny easy going kind and lots more! But it just seems that my looks get in the way! Every guy that i like or date ...

A.   16 July 2008: Hunny you are not going to get past the fact that you are good-looking so instaed of denying it use it to your advantage. Of course the first thing a guy will notice about you is your looks..but thats not so bad. you done want to be with a guy who ... (read in full...)

I had sex with a gay guy. Should I tell his partner?

Q.   I had sex with a guy whos gay and in relationship should i tell his partner even if it means ever one else will find out that i am gay I had serveral sexually flings with this guy, he has a boy friend but there never do much in bed, he allows m...

A.   16 July 2008: being Bi or gay means cheating is a matter of your own conscience and whatever morality you live with. with the relaltionships I have had with other girls, its always been casual, so i never have called it cheating. If they have a staedy girl or ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is insatiable!! How do I cope?

Q.   how many times realisticly can i have sex in one girlfriends need for penatrive sex is 3 times nearly everynight sufficient?please let me know honestly....

A.   16 July 2008: Three times is not emough for me either sometimes. But I can see how an older guy like you can get tired of it. I like older guys who are patient and expereinced in bed, but when it somes to quanity I want a lot of it, and I can really understand ... (read in full...)

We are teenagers, we have sex, and we want to do it again immediately, is this normal?

Q.   hi i am 14 and i have had sex many times with my gf who is 15. how come after sex me and her want to do it again. plz dont say under age stuff. we r real in love. we have been going out 4 3 yrs. ty ...

A.   16 July 2008: Hunny you can have sex as long as your body can handle it...and it is normal. I am happy that you are doing so good with your girlfriend. remember to be nice to her when your not having sex too! If she wants to have sex as long as you do then ... (read in full...)

Confused and worried about my sexuality...

Q.   Hello all. I'm 19, I have a boyfriend which I'm not physically attracted to. But I do care about him. The problem is that I am physically and emotionally attracted to girls. Which would mean I'm probably bisexual or a lesbian in the worst case sce...

A.   16 July 2008: If your not physically atracted to your boyfriend, do him a favor and break it off with him... I cant see being wth a guy i cant be with in bed. Like the previous post said you can warm up to a guy and eventually find him more attractive, but you ... (read in full...)

I'm bi and have a boyfriend - if I do stuff with my best friend, does it count as cheating?

Q.   Ok i need some help again! I'm pretty sure i'm Bi, but i have a boy friend who i've been with for a year and 6 months. I have two questions. 1 is how do i go about messing around in bed with one of my best friends? 2 is If i do stuff with my best ...

A.   16 July 2008: Yes it is cheating if you have sex with your friend, behind your boyfriends back. But if you are honest with him and tell him wbout your desires, he might just accept it and you are ok. At your age I can umderstand your confusion. At your age ... (read in full...)

My female friend asked me out, but I'm not gay!

Q.   i think my best mate (whose also a girl) fancies me, shes asked me out but i dont feel the same way, and im not gay. help!...

A.   21 June 2008: If she's you best mate you are propbably already going out together, and seeing each other anyway. How does this make it different? Is she being direct and saying I want to "do you"? If thats what shes saying then back away and dont hurt her... (read in full...)

If I look at another guy's penis out of curiosity, does it mean I am gay?

Q.   iam 16 years old, sometimes i have some curiousity to look at other's guy's penis !but i am not gay i wondered if is it mean that i am gay or someting ?and if is it a normal thing ?plz helpe me guys and thanks ...

A.   21 June 2008: I don't think you gay hunny, but ask yourself if you had the choice of seeing a girls privates or a guys privates, which would you choose? That's how you know if you are gay. If your bisexual like me the question is moot. But its differen... (read in full...)

Is it so bad to cheat on my boyfriend with my ex? My bf has not been able to satisfy me sexually...

Q.   i cheated on my boyfriend.. w my ex................. i dnt want to be back with him but i have been dating my current bf for 5 months. He was a vifgin and has not been able to satisfy me sexually. He tries and has gotten somewhat better ... he cant ...

A.   27 May 2008: Hunny, Im not going to look down on you because I can see you are trying to help your boyfriend and are being very patient with him. I lot of people will say you should leave him if he's not satisfying you like you need. Maybe you should...but you ... (read in full...)

Threesome gone wrong!!! He's always told me he could never be with another women, yet when given the chance he chooses her over me!

Q.   Hello, I have a major problem with sleeping all of a sudden due to something that my husband and I did in the past, about a year ago. My husband has always wanted a threesome with another girl, and being sexually open, I thought , what the heck...

A.   23 April 2008: Hunny , Im sorry this didnt work out for you but I can tell you striaght out that the reason this threesome didnt work out for you is because You are not BI and were not into this girl. If you were, you and your husband would have shared equal time ... (read in full...)

I have broken my boyfriends heart by kissing another girl, how can we get over this?

Q.   I am a Fetish model and i had a shoot with another girl.I had to kiss her during the shoot,my boyfriend was there and he was okay with that.For a long time he has wanted me to have a sexual encounter with a girl while he was there.I have considered ...

A.   23 April 2008: Your boyfriend is the one with the problem. He sounds very immature. When i kiss a girl, my guy never gets jealous like that. He knows me, and he knows I love him, he never pouts with me about things like that. Seriously, I dont think you did ... (read in full...)

Was he repulsed? Or was he just trying to hide something?

Q.   Hey okie so I have a male friend, we had a fling over two years ago (though we never had sex he wanted to go all the way but I kinda stopped things) Anyway we never dated he didn't go out with me because of my self-conciousness and paranoia, but ...

A.   23 April 2008: Hey Hunny...Im sorry but I dont understand your question or how your realtionship is even based on. You say your friends and you are in bed with this guy, but your not fucking? Well call call me a slut, but if Im in bed with a guy, we are all ... (read in full...)

I just want to be his friend, I don't want a relationship with him.

Q.   Hi to all. I've been talking through the phone with this old college male friend lately. We live thousands of miles away. We are currently both single. I'm happy talking to him because he always speaks highly of me and he is a good friend. It's l...

A.   15 April 2008: I hate to be harsh but its is so easy to throw off a guy who is a thousand miles away. Dont answer his calls. ignore his texts. Change your email if you must. but really if you just tell him to cool it off he will get the message. Its time to be ... (read in full...)

I want to last longer during sex, why can't I stay hard after I cum?

Q.   I can not stay hard after i cum when im haveing sex im only 25 i went to last longer i haveing sex with my but how if i cant stay hard? we have oral everytime before we have sex. i do not know what is wrong...

A.   15 April 2008: Its true that guys get soft just after cumming. and its normal. But I can recommend this..sustain the erection a while longer. And the longer it is erect the longer it stays erect. When I have had sustained foreplay with my guy, he doesnt lose it ... (read in full...)

My boyfrind might be gay! What am I going to do? Can I make him straight?

Q.   Im so worried My Boy Friends Gay, Im his first GirlFriend and he always used to get teased and called gay, and resently he told me hes not so sure him self! I dont know what to do! he says he loves me, but if he was gay i dont know how id cope ...

A.   15 April 2008: Well hunny I can tell you this: If he even thinks he might be gay, then he probably IS gay! Straight guys are very solid when they say they dont like guys period. I even mention to my boyfriend if he thinks a guy is cute and he looks at me like he ... (read in full...)

Are there any other people who want to wait for marriage before having sex?

Q.   As a young man 25 years old, I want to know if there are any other people from 18-35 who have standards and want to remain virgins when they marry, also would not marry a person who has been divorced and had kids of of wedlock?...

A.   15 April 2008: okay....I repect you views and whatever reason you have for being celibate until you marry, that's up to you....but really, I think you are narrowing you selection a bit too much..and the older you get the fewer virgins are out there to be found. ... (read in full...)

I made out with my best friends guy, now I feel horrible. What shall I do?

Q.   I made out with one of my best guy friend, and he's going out with my best friend!!! I feel horrible, my best friend doesn't know about it, but my boyfriend does. Now i'm starting to have feelings for him and i can't control them, if my best frie...

A.   12 April 2008: 10 years old and dating...? You arent even in puberty! Stop trying to act like an adult and go play with your Bratz dolls...I just told a ten year old boy to do the same. Puleeesz. Why dont you just be kids and concentrate on your school. You ... (read in full...)

I like a girl in my class, but I don't know if she's cheating.

Q.   there is a girl in my class and i like her but now i think shes cheaating on me. i heard of guy from another school she said. she also told me she likes someone but i'm not sure... she still nags me and calls my name for no reason. but she once ...

A.   12 April 2008: She's not cheating on you if she is not WITH you. She's not your wife and she's not your girlfriend, so its not cheating! She can do whatetever she wants and like or not as many guys as she wants. Hey she can kiss as many guys as she wants! She ... (read in full...)

IF two girls have sex can you still get STD's

Q.   IF two girls have sex can you still get STD's ??? ...

A.   11 April 2008: YES!... (read in full...)

I've dated a guy for a week now and he is already saying he loves m.!!!!

Q.   I've dated a guy for a week now and he is already saying he loves me. i don't know how anyone can love some one so quickly. im kinda freaking out, he wants me to say it back, but i don't know if i love him, or even want to keep on dating him. what ...

A.   11 April 2008: Im going to stand out here and go out on the limb here...but I do believe in love at first sight. I and in fact I do believe he can love you after only a week. Of course love doesnt always grow balanced for both parties....even if it starts a ... (read in full...)

My boyfriends ex girlfreind is pregnant with his kid what should I do??

Q.   I need help. Me an my boyfrind have been together for five months and we love each other so much. But he just found out from his ex from ten months ago that she just had a baby and it might be his. Please help me and give me some advice on what sho...

A.   11 April 2008: The right thing for you to do is to step back and let him decide what he needs to do..what he should do is support the child and connect with his ex, hopefully they should get married and give the kid a chance at a normal family. That's the best ... (read in full...)

My husband has sex with me when I'm it rape or "silent sex"?

Q.   my husband had sex with me when I was drunk and asleep - I woke up as he pulled out and was climbing off me, cleaning himself up with tissues, I have confronted him and he says he thought I was awake - there is no way he thought I was awake as we ...

A.   2 April 2008: Hi Hunny! Im sorry you had to go though this, and i hoped you heal up from it. i agree with you that the word "rape" has tainted the responses here, and if it wasn't in your origional questioning it was at least implied. You said you were upset ... (read in full...)

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