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I am a little overweight, any suggestions?

Q.   i would really like to lose some weight as i am a little over weight. i have tried to diet lots of times before but nothing seems to work for me and i am a very fussy eater. Has anybody got any tips of how i could lose some weight....

A.   5 May 2008: It would depend on why you have gained the weight, what it is that you eat, and what your activities are like, for anyone to betterr assist you with this issue. Help us to help you @--}------... (read in full...)

It hurts more than it is enjoyable. How do I get the right way across to her without telling her she's doing it wrong?

Q.   ok so i'm not virgin i've been with many girls in high school but i started dating a girl that i've been with for over a year now and we just recently started fooling around bc she's a virgin.. i've got 2 questions.. 1 when i finger her it doesn't ...

A.   5 May 2008: I agree with Tisha, women don't get alot of enjoyment from just fingering it's all in the clit. So try to mess with both. As for your other problem, me as a female, Iactually get turned on by my man telling me exactly what to do step-by-step in the ... (read in full...)

He forced me to have sex with him and I feel such a wreck about that. But I love him and don't want to break up with him!

Q.   Well I have a boyfriend And I have been with him for 1 week. And The other Night , I was at his house and He kinda pressured me to have Sex with Him. Im 14 years old and I wasnt ready but He Forced me to do it. I dont feel right now and Im emotional ...

A.   5 May 2008: I am sorry but you were raped and a sick demented person like that does not deserve your love. And if you all have only been together a week it isn't love honey. I am sorry to say that but you are just realy into him that's all. But anyway, you ... (read in full...)

I feel I don't trust him when he is drinking. Doesn't he really remember what he does?

Q.   I have been married for thirty years and I have a problem with my husband flirting with my friends, women,calling them Babe, etc... A few years ago, at the end of a wedding reception I noticed that he was missing along with my girlfriend of more...

A.   4 May 2008: First things first. You should tell him (beings he don't remember) and tell him that the drinking needs to stop if he can't control himself while intoxicated. Another thing is I remember everything the day after, and I mean every little thing that ... (read in full...)

I want to go on the pill. Will the doctor tell anyone?

Q.   hey i am worried i am 14 and want to go on the pill but i cnt let my mum find out so i was just wondring if i sneack to the doctors will they tell my mum or any of the family ...

A.   4 May 2008: I don't know how it is there, but I don't think that a child can even go to the doctor by theirself until they are 16 here in the US somebody let me know if this isn't true. If you are afraid of getting pregnant maybe you should consider condoms ... (read in full...)

Are his porn mags more important to him than me? Is this normal? What can I do?

Q.   I wanted to know if it is normal for your bf to masterbate to porn mag.'s rather than have sex with me? I always want sex, and he knows it, he looks at porn mag.'s while and after work.He always makes sexual advances when i’m sleeping. I feel li...

A.   4 May 2008: Maybe if you tell him that quickies are okay and that you are fine with just satisying him, then he feels like you don't realy want to enjoy yourself, and maybe that turns him off. Why don't you ask him what it is he likes about it the ... (read in full...)

I have feelings for an older guy, but my family might be a problem

Q.   Hello, I really need your help. Right, here goes. . . I'm a 19 year old girl and I live in a small, close-knit village in South Wales (basically everyone knows everyone and everyones business.) For a while now I've been having feelings for a gu...

A.   4 May 2008: I think that you should find someone else. Not because he is older my husband is 10 yrs older than me, but because he is a real close friend of your dad, and this could cause serious problems, and end the end you two wouldn't work out so why stir up ... (read in full...)

I'm not cheating but my boyfriend thinks I am.

Q.   I need help, FAST! My boyfriend found 3 messages i'd sent a guy i slept with before.(TOTALLY INNOCENT) He was a colleage, and i HAD to text him regarding work, even though i know i was totally in the wrong for doing it behind my boyfriend's back. ...

A.   4 May 2008: You may have lost him. I know that you were realy mad and a person can only do so much. But getting physical about it changes alot of things. He may never forgive you for it you best bet is to stop calling him, it will be hard I know it will and you ... (read in full...)

Trust me I love pain and pleasure, but with him it hurts so much, I cry!!

Q.   My boyfriend and I are having sex, and I've had sex plenty of times with my ex's with no problems, but with him it hurts, like so badly I've cried. Trust me I love pain and pleasure, the two were made for each other, but I can't take that, it's so p...

A.   4 May 2008: You should let him know that it hurts, sex is supposed to be pleasurable, and unless it is a rape situation, or he is just an absolute ass he would do whatever to make it not hurt. My husband used to not want to have sex with me when I was around 8 ... (read in full...)

Help I've made a bit of a mess of things with bf and his cousin!

Q.   well eight months ago i met this boy. i'm 14 and he'd just turned 17 and we really got to like eachother. one day he kissed me and everything was great. i also talk to his cousin on msn, and his cousin told me that the boy i liked had a girlfriend. ...

A.   4 May 2008: you should definately be careful about what you say. words travels faster than light if you know what I mean, but just be honest with him, and also let him know that you don't like him talking about you behind your back. If he still wants to be mad ... (read in full...)

My husband likes porn and I cant help but notice that the women in the porn he masturbates over always look very different to me?

Q.   I have read a lot of the questions and answers on here about porn and there is some interesting reading for sure but I have a husband likes porn and I cant help but notice that the women in the porn he masturbates over always look very ...

A.   4 May 2008: I understand what you are saying. When I got with my husban I was 118lbs, big chested and had a knock out body, 5 years and 3 kids later, I am 175lbs, and I can't stand the way I look (naked) that is. But this is the truth about all of it. My man ... (read in full...)

Me or her? Why can't he choose or is he just playing with me?

Q.   I broke off twice with this guy, G because of religious reasons, him being a Christian and I not. We then held on to each other in an ambiguous relationship (I had two boyfriends after him but he was always there for me and I kept turning to him) ...

A.   4 May 2008: First of all, my advice to you is to let him go. I know you love him but if he hasn't replied to your e-mail than clearly he doesn't care as much as you do. All I can say is everytime you are around him you get shattered and it hurts, you are doing ... (read in full...)

Is eating cheating? As in having a sexual encounter with a another female.

Q.   Okay one quick question. If you are a married woman, and you have sexual relations with another woman is it cheating?...

A.   4 May 2008: First of all thanx for everyone's inputs, but I have not done it while in my relationship but I wanted to ask. And I do not agree with everyone. You all say that any sexual encounter with someone is cheating, but I don't believe that. If my man ... (read in full...)

Please please help, I need reassurance badly!

Q.   Please please, i need major reassurance! Well last March i had an abortion because my baby was diagnosed with Downs Syndrome. Me and my partner were all set 2 go ahead with the pregnancy until we were told the baby wouldn't survive, as it had leaky ...

A.   4 May 2008: Personaly I don't believe in abortion...miracles do happen, and maybe that baby could have survived....but anyway I am here to help not judge. Maybe you should talk to a doctor, because my sister had an abortion, and later couldn't get pregnant ... (read in full...)

Should I have sex with him?

Q.   Hey guys im kinda freaking out cuz i want to have sex with this guy, im 13 and im still a virgin but really love him and he's so sexy lol, so GUYS should i give hima blowjob first? )give me advice to give a nice blowjob lol) and wat do guys like in ...

A.   3 May 2008: okay first of all you are so young. I lost my virginity at 13 and I couldn't get it back, and it wasn't special at all. Now I am 24 and I have learned over the years that at 13 you are not in love. I know you don't want to hear that but trust me, ... (read in full...)

I'm a virgin but I told him I wasn't. Will he be able to tell?

Q.   theres this guy who i was nearly going out with. i'm a virgin, but for some stupid reason i came up with this story that i wasnt and he believed it. i was just wondering, if i had sex with him, would he be able to tell that i am a virgin or not? ...

A.   3 May 2008: unless you bleed after sex he won't be able to tell. If you want him to know before hand, you can tell him, I mean it would be different if you told him you were and you realy weren't. I don't see why any guy would have a problem if you told him ... (read in full...)

How can I get my husband to try oral with me? Or should I just live without it?

Q.   I am 24 and I have had sexual relations with women in the past, and I love oral sex, but my husband refuses to do it. He is from a country where it isn't as widespread as it is here. How can I get him to try it, or do I live without it....

A.   3 May 2008: He is from Mexico... (read in full...)

How can I get my husband to try oral with me? Or should I just live without it?

Q.   I am 24 and I have had sexual relations with women in the past, and I love oral sex, but my husband refuses to do it. He is from a country where it isn't as widespread as it is here. How can I get him to try it, or do I live without it....

A.   3 May 2008: Also I give him oral sex, he doesn't ask for it I do it cause I love it, and so I can't hold that against him. I think if I love him I won't pressure him to do something he doesn't want to do, but then again if he loves me he will do whatever to ... (read in full...)

Am I a lesbian/ bi or just curious?

Q.   i am a 21 year old married female. I have been marries for 6 years and have lately found myself attracted to weman. I have found myself masterbating watching lesbian porn, and i feel horrible about it because i will do it about 5 times in 1 day. I ...

A.   3 May 2008: First of all you got married realy young, therefore you have missed out on all of the "experimenting" and that could be your problem. I can't say whether you are lesbian or not, but I am married and I have been with women before, and would be with ... (read in full...)

Is my wife just friends with this guy or is there something more going on?

Q.   I spent some time abroad because of some family issues, nothing to do with my wife. She was very understanding. Whilst I was there, she told me she started talking to somebody on the internet and he was just a friend, so I did not think much of it. ...

A.   3 May 2008: I understand where you may be uncomfortable, and it may seem like there is something more because of the lies, but when you are angry about something, even if she isn't doing anything wrong, she will lie to keep you from getting mad, my advice to ... (read in full...)

He is my first date with an uncircumcised penis and that... turns me off. I want to break up, should I tell him why?

Q.   I've been dating this guy for a little over 3 months now. I think he's great and want to have a long-term relationship with him. The problem is, I don't sleep with my boyfriends until we've dated a little while aad I'm sure I really like them for ...

A.   3 May 2008: I am married to a guy who is not circumsized, and truthfully I prefer circumsized penises but there is no difference in the way sex feels, and at first I was repulsed just like you but then I felt bad because it wasn't his choice to be like that he ... (read in full...)

When did everyone stop masturbating? Or do you still do it?

Q.   Hi, just for curiosity, when did everyone stop masturbating? Or do you still do it? I am 36 but stopped when i was about 20ish. Also, when did everyone start. Males and females should answer...

A.   3 May 2008: I started around the age of 15 and I am now 24 and I continue to masturbate. It is just a great feeling although it is a huge secret, my husband doesn't even know I do it.... (read in full...)

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