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She had an affair... I am thinking about joining them!

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Question - (28 November 2010) 5 Answers - (Newest, 28 November 2010)
A male age 36-40, anonymous writes:

My girlfriend of 6 years had an affair with her friend.

I found out from facebook logs and found text messages. When I confronted her she said it was only a kiss. Then I find sexy texts and confront her and she admitted it went further but didnt tell me not to hurt me more. I am hurt mainly because she lied !! I love her and I hope we get over this. We have been having financial problems as I lost my job over a year ago and I we have only been having sex once a month or 2 months...I'm just not in the mood.

She says she had the affair coz she felt abandoned and ignored. She now wants a break, but we are still living together and I am letting her have her space. She says she's not having sex with him anymore. I dont think he would dare as I threatened him to stay away,but you never know.

He is still in her group of friends so they will probably meet... I dont know... Im not happy with it but she just insists that its up to her while we are on break... strangely enough thinking of her with him makes me angry and at the same time horny as hell.. Should I suggest that we have a 3some? I am bisexual btw and she has known this from day 1 but I have never been unfaithful to her. She says she has no feelings for him and just used him as a vibrator. So I am thinking... if she still wants to screw this guy... if you cant beat them... join them!! now it depends if he's into man on man action.... that will teach him to touch my girl!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010):

Go ahead, this should hyper-accelerate the demise of your already in trouble relationship. Been there... except my belief was that if my wife and I started seeing another couple that her insatiable appetite for bi sex (and the related sneaking around) would be satisfied. What I didn't know at the time was that she was banging another guy as well.

We had an incredible 4some on a Saturday, and she cleared her stuff from the house while I was at work the following Monday.

Today, I'm happy it worked out that way, as my life is great - but the 18 month divorce was hell, and you may not enjoy telling your attorney how you had sex with her boyfriend...

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010):

moonriver...yes tats wot i am going to do

i am already having fantasies of us at it as per my previous post

btw...i have finally made an order for some toys too

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010):

her reason is that i ignored her and refused her sex and am horrible to her...she went out tonight and i dont think she is with him...I am tracking her phone (i know im invading,but i cant trust her yet) so i know were she is.

she kissed me before she went out...but its still not convincing me. she says she stills loves me and is just going through a bad patch. when i ask her if she wants me to leave and if she wants to be with this guy she says "hell no" it was just sex

i dont have to do anything to keep her i think she is intelligent enough to stay with me

i am however going to ask her if she still wants sex with other men

I am so turned on atm...I am seeing her FB pics with him and i am so so horny...he is a hot looking guy btw...i would love to do him with her...but i fear i would be jelous im not sure

she said once that she could be open to us having an open relationship because i have in the past told her i am horny for a guy but i always told her that i couldnt do it because i was with her and her alone

when she comes in tonight im going to try and see if she up for sex with me....and then ill ask if shes up for it with someone else...then ill ask her if she up for a 3some with another guy....sry this is such a turn on...i am crazy? is it normal that i have masterbated to their photos 3 times this evening and still want more???

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A male reader, Danielepew Mexico +, writes (28 November 2010):

Danielepew agony auntI wonder if she couldn't have bought a vibrator is all she needed was one.

You mention your job and the little sex you've been having and apparently those are the reasons you find for her cheating. But if you want to know why something happened, you should determine what the reason is, not come up with one.

Whatever her reasons, it seems she has lost her feelings for you. The "break" she is asking, and the fact that she insists that whatever happens in the break is her business only, screams that she is looking.

You can be bisexual but I don't think it would be a good idea to have sex with the man your girl cheated on you with. Maybe you're trying to find a way to keep her, and think that the little sex is to blame, so having sex with her and him would be like a little compromising?

Me, I would leave her with Mr. Other Man.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010):

Why not suggest a threesome with a diff guy if this guy doesn't agree. Use it to get your relationship spiced up and fresher

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