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| Latest articles: Cyber-Sex - Cheating Or Not?
This question has 9 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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12 June 2008: This has been on my mind after someone mentioned to me that she had cyber-sex with someone who wasn't her boyfriend without her boyfriend knowing about it. We've all seen or heard about someone (maybe even yourself) participating in cyber-sex, ri...
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I feel empty and sad because I broke up with my boyfriend. My friend told me to.
Q. I broke up with my b/f because my part-time friend told me to, but now i feel empty and sad, but i still want to be friends with my friend, and date him. What do i do???!...
A. 9 July 2008: You listened to a part-time friend over your own feelings, and she isn't even a full friend, yes? Obviously, this was a silly thing to do and you obviously regret it. Hopefully you'll have learnt your lesson and only listen to yourself instead of ... (read in full...)
I want a boyfriend and sex
Q. i am only 11 and i am single. wich im not happy about. also recently i have wanted sex loads. ihave been thinking that i will find a boyfriend, go to his house one day and he will ask me for sex with comdoms and i will say yes.... ..in my dreams...
A. 5 July 2008: Right then, this is an opposite argument for all of the comments. I am now 14 years old, and I have had those same feelings since I was about your age. I've only recently had a boyfriend who I feel I loved dearly, and I did give my virginity to him. ... (read in full...)
Cyber-Sex - Cheating Or Not?
Q. This has been on my mind after someone mentioned to me that she had cyber-sex with someone who wasn't her boyfriend without her boyfriend knowing about it. We've all seen or heard about someone (maybe even yourself) participating in cyber-sex, ri...
A. 19 June 2008: I agree with you all. Personally, I think it's wrong. If that wasn't obvious... Lol.
Wishing you the best.
xx... (read in full...)
Does it hurt to have sex the first time?
Q. I know you must get many of these questions, however, did it hurt the first time you had sex? How long will this go on for?...
A. 12 June 2008: It hurt for me, however it does not hurt for everyone. For some people it's odd, for others it's different, but for most it's painful. It will only hurt for a few minutes, however, but you may feel some discomfort or soreness afterwards for a while. ... (read in full...)
Couldn't control our feelings, she's 12, could she become pregnant?
Q. I am a 14 year old boy having sex with a 12 year old girl. We know that we did something wrong at this age but could not control our feelings. We are neighbours and it all started with a kiss. Then we started looking each others private parts. ...
A. 2 June 2008: Sorry, hun, but there is in fact a chance she is pregnant. It was a stupid thing to do without protection, as she really can get pregnant easily this way. I'm not going to yell at you about your ages, because this stuff happens. If you were both ... (read in full...)
PLEASEEEE I really need someone to talk to and someone to help me decide things!
Q. Hey aunts ! So its not like I have problems or anything, but I think I really need someone to talk to. It might make me feel better . But there are all these little problems I have, and I dont wanna write them all up here and post like 100 questi...
A. 31 May 2008: Well, I may only be 14, but you are perfectly welcome to contact me any time. I do have MSN and such, so you can IM me if you wish. I may not be your first choice due to my age, but I'm always here if you need me. ... (read in full...)
Me and my best friend both fancy the same guy!!
Q. Hi, I really fancy this guy , I mean I really do ... but my best friend fancies him too, I want to ask him out but I don't wanna ruin mine and her relationship. Please help!!! Thanks, Love becka....
A. 28 May 2008: I don't understand what's the big deal about the age thing... So what, it's young? You can have young relationships. Most children are having relationships much younger now. As long as it doesn't lead to sex, what's the big deal, right? Just have ... (read in full...)
She won't go out with me and chose my friend instead. How do I get over her?
Q. hey. there is this girl in my school who i really love. this isnt just some girl that i fancy. i think its love as i have felt this way about her for 3 years. anyway we tried to go out together but she only did it because she felt sorry for me. it ...
A. 24 April 2008: You should tell this person how you feel about them, and if she doesn't return your feelings, try and think of how she's happy. If you love her then you'll want her happy, no matter who or what it is that is making her happy. At least she's not sad. ... (read in full...)
What should I do? Can she even get pregnant from pre-ejaculate fludis from one sexual experience?
Q. I don't know if this really falls under the "love and relationship" category, but here goes: I was spending some time with a girl. We had sex once. Now, I am unable to use a condom. Everytime it goes on, I go down. I've tried different sizes,...
A. 20 April 2008: Yes, she can get pregnant from that. This is why the pull-out method isn't good and hardly ever works. The fluids can cause pregnancy, and the chances are there was a lot of it. It definitely sounds like it's your child. In fact, it's most likely ... (read in full...)
I think I'm a lesbian! Should I contact this girl?
Q. Hello everyone!, Ummm well this is kinda hard to say because im not sure if im right. I think I'm a lesbian. I have a boyfriend and I love him and stuff but sometimes when I see girls I feel physically attracted to them and yesterday I think I ...
A. 19 April 2008: It can't hurt to become friends with this girl, can it? As long as it doesn't develop into something more, you'll be fine. If you start out as friends, you may realise you're not a lesbian or you may realise you're not in love with her, plus you get ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but people say he's a hamster, so is he worth it?
Q. heyahh i love my boy friend so much but i get picked on and bullyed so bad that i have started self harming is it worth going out with my boyfriend? we went to the library today and 4 girls frm skwl came in and started having a go sayin i...
A. 19 April 2008: Uh... If you love your boyfriend STAY WITH HIM, no matter what. Of course it's worth going out with him. Just stand up to the bullies. Tell them to shut up and shove off. Trust me, it works. Or tell a member of staff at your school. I've been there, ... (read in full...)
Am I in danger of contracting a STI?
Q. i was having sex with my man and we didnt have protection on and he started to bleed we think he caught some thing but i am scared that with us not using protection i can get a infection of some kind and i just wanted to no could it be possible that ...
A. 19 April 2008: You can get STIs through blood, yes. I think you should both get checked out, just in case. If he's clean then you should be safe, but you really can get STIs through blood. Please get checked out.
Wishing you the best.
xxx... (read in full...)
I worry about HIV, could I have caught it in a moment of madness?
Q. Hi, This is probably a really stupid question but i'll ask none the less. A few years back I was really drunk and thought it was a brilliant idea to take off my shoes and go wading around in the city fountain in Leicester. I didn't get far and...
A. 18 April 2008: If there are no puncture wounds and such then there is no chance of you catching HIV. Don't worry. You should go and get it checked out by a doctor if it's itchy though, but I'm sure you don't have HIV. If you didn't feel anything and there are no ... (read in full...)
With my bf for about 6 months but I have always felt really nervous about initiating anything sexual,
Q. Hi, i actually posted this same querie before but it was edited so it was nothing at all to do with my problem so here it is again lol. I have been with my bf for about 6 months but i have always felt really nervous about initiating anything sexual, ...
A. 18 April 2008: Why don't you just try to initiate things? Think about how special it will make him feel that you want to kiss him and have sex with him and stuff. I'm sure he'd feel honoured. Surprising him with a kiss can never go wrong. The surprise ones are the ... (read in full...)
I would die if my crush ever found out I like him so I'm going to wait until he likes me! What do you think?
Q. ok well here is my problem..i have a crush on this guy and i told all my friends about it..as in 4 of my good friends..do u think i should have not told them or rather kept it a secret..i just got to know these people recently may be a few months i ...
A. 14 April 2008: Question, how are you going to know if he likes you? What if he feels the same as you and is waiting for you to like him back? If I were you, I'd tell him. If he laughs at you and you feel so bad you just want the floor to eat you alive, blame it on ... (read in full...)
Will I get pregnant if I keep having unprotected sex? He pulls out!
Q. Me and my BF had sex lots of times without using condom but always when he wants to pull the sperm out he takes his penis out of me, I'd like to know how safe is this from not getting pregnant? I've had sex lots of times with him this way, and I ...
A. 14 April 2008: Of course you can still get pregnant this way. The chances are SLIGHTlY less than just letting him ejaculate inside you, but there is sill a high chance you can get pregnant.
You can always use your hands instead of your mouth with oral. You coul... (read in full...)
I've never went out with girls before, only boys. She plans to kiss me in public, I dislike the idea and don't know what to do!
Q. hey everyone I just got a girlfriend yesterday . It's kinda weird for me because she is the only girl I have ever liked and gone out with. I would be nervous even if I was going out with a guy but since she's a girl it makes it that much more n...
A. 14 April 2008: Just tell her you're not ready to go public yet and tell her to wait until you're ready for it. If she respects you and your wishes like she should then she'll wait for you.
Wishing you the best.
xxx... (read in full...)
Isn't his love for me supposed to keep him away from other girls?!
Q. i broke up with my b/f and now he wants me back.i want him back too But he kissed another girl and if they wern't on the dance floor they'd probably have had sex. I didn't see them,he told me after i broke up with him and he explained that was the ...
A. 12 April 2008: He did this when you were together, yes? That is what it sounds like. What he did is classed as cheating. Yes his love for you IS supposed to keep him away from other girls. He's unfaithful to you. However, if he did it when you were not together ... (read in full...)
Am I right to say he just wanted sex?
Q. I am an Asian lady and dated a Caucasian guy for almost 2 months. He's the same age as me. I recently backed off from seeing him as I felt he didn't put in enough effort to make the relationship work or go further. It seems he's only interested in ...
A. 11 April 2008: I would have said that it didn't sound like it, but when you mentioned you had not communicated for a while, it made me think. It does sound like he was just after sex. Only because he hasn't communicated with you or tried to win you back in any ... (read in full...)
How can you tell is a guy is not a virgin?
Q. how would you know if the guys are already not virgin?...
A. 11 April 2008: There are no tell tale signs. Unlike women, they don't bleed the first time they have sex. There really is no way to tell except to ask and hope they tell you the answer you want to hear. If it is, hope it's the truth.
Wishing you the best.
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Do guys mind if when you ruffle their hair?
Q. Hi, this may sound a little random but i was just wondering... do guys mind when you ruffle their hair or run your fingers through it? i was just fantasising about doing that to a guy i like today and thought, cos i'm a girl, if someone ruffled my ...
A. 11 April 2008: I don't think it's actually a thing that men either do or don't like. Some guys love it when you play with their hair. They really really love it. Other guys, however, will freak out if you touch there hair, even only a little bit. It's more of a ... (read in full...)
My ex has been telling people we had sex, which is not true. How to react to the rumours?
Q. my ex boyfriend has been telling people we had sex. its not true. what should i do? [Moderator's note. Respondents may treat your situation as common defamation until you can provide us with complementary details. Feel free to write en détail plea...
A. 9 April 2008: It's quite simple. You ignore it. If you go around telling people that it's not true, it will only arise suspicion. The only thing you can really do is ignore it and wait for it to pass. If you spread a rumour about him, it will be immature and two ... (read in full...)
I'm decided to have sex at 12. Concerned about the pain though!...
Q. help im 12 years old and me n my boyfriend want sex i know people say your too young and wait til your older but i can't wait til im older. we both love each other so much we cant stand being a way from each other. im not scared at all but what hap...
A. 9 April 2008: As long as you are completely sure you want to do this, and you're completely ready then no one can stop you. You know there's always risks of getting pregnant, so make sure you ask to go on the pill and make sure he has a condom. You don't want to ... (read in full...)
What do dearcupid readers think about online dating?
Q. I get very nervous around girls, and thats why I prefer online dating; I was just wondering what the readers of this site think about online dating?...
A. 9 April 2008: I know that. I'm sorry if it implied I thought you would lie. I was simply agreeing with you. That's all.
Wishing you the best.
xxx... (read in full...)
What do dearcupid readers think about online dating?
Q. I get very nervous around girls, and thats why I prefer online dating; I was just wondering what the readers of this site think about online dating?...
A. 9 April 2008: You should never lie to someone, online or not. Not unless you have to, anyway.
Lying online is just as bad as lying face to face. It's a bad thing to do. There's no point in it. people who lie online are not to be trusted at all.
Wishing... (read in full...)
He's 41 I'm nearly 18, but we're two worlds apart. How can I fix this?
Q. I have a 41 year old boyfriend and i'm 17(almost 18). Is this too big of a difference?? What should I do?? It's only 23 years, but he's so much smarter than i am about the world and much more experienced. How can I fix this '2 different worlds' ...
A. 9 April 2008: No age gap is too big when you're legally an adult. I do say it's really big, but as long as you love the person and you are both adults, it doesn't matter. About the two different worlds thing... There's nothing you can really do about that except ... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend's mate really like me or not?
Q. i have interest in this paticular guy, which is also my boyfriend's friend. well it sounded very wrong thou. somehow the things he do makes me feel as thou he has feelings for me. it is also hard for me to tell because he might not wants to show his ...
A. 9 April 2008: If you like his friend more then you'll actually have to ask him how he feels about you. Tell him to be completely honest about it. You won't tell anyone and he won't either. Tell him that. See what he says. If he admits to liking you and you like ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 he's 17, I want sex but he's still a virgin, how do I ask him when he's ready for sex?
Q. Hi i'm 13 but want to have sex. I know that sounds horrible but it's hard. The boy i'm going out with, and have been for a long time, is 17, and still a virgin. How do i ask him when he's ready for sex?...
A. 8 April 2008: He's older than you and it is highly illegal as you're only 13. Just leave it and wait a few years.
Wishing you the best.
xxx... (read in full...)
He wanted me to finger myself, and kept begging me. Is he worth my time or not?
Q. okay so thank you guys for answering my other one, and I have made up my mind about sex. I'm going to wait till I'm older!!!! The problem is he doesn't want to wait, in fact he wanted me to finger myself, and kept begging me. Is he worth my time or ...
A. 8 April 2008: He's pressuring you into doing something you don't want to do. Not worth your time. Drop him.
Wishing you the best.
xxx... (read in full...)
I'm really scared my first time will hurt!!
Q. Ok, well i'm 16 and me and my boyfriend are getting serious and we want to have sex. I'm really scared because it's my first time, and i'm just really freaking out because i'm scared it's going hurt really bad. So i've been telling him no everytime, ...
A. 8 April 2008: Some females it doesn't hurt at all. Other's it hurts a lot. No one can answer that question for you. Everyone's first time is different. It all depends on your body and your boyfriend. No one else can answer that for you.
Wishing you the best
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I stood her up as I froze from nerves, now she's spitting her dummy out of the pram!
Q. hi all I hope you can help me I was meant to be meeting up with a girl the other week and it didn't end up happening in the end because I froze, I wanted to talk to her but I couldn't if that makes sense? Anyways she didn't talk to me ...
A. 8 April 2008: She probably thinks it was all a joke and you don't like her! Imagine this: A girl waiting around for hours for a guy to show up, constantly thinking "what if this was all a mistake and he hates me. A joke by his friends. I'm not pretty enough for ... (read in full...)
What is a high maintenance woman?
Q. What really describes a high maintenance woman? I have heard this a lot lately and was wondering, is it just about spending money? ...
A. 8 April 2008: A woman who wants only the best in life and is not happy until she gets it. Is always after your attention for something or another. A woman who you should avoid at all costs. Yup. She'll steal all of your money! All of it!
Wishing you the best... (read in full...)
Why do we always come back to each other?
Q. After 22 years why do myself and my ex (first love) always come back to each other? We have both been married and have children (not with each other) and in between each relationship we have always found our way in to one anothers lives. Is it meant ...
A. 8 April 2008: You guys are meant to be. Pure and simple. So I'm a hopeless romantic, so what? If you two still love each other and keep going back to each other, you're basically meant for each other. What you're going to do about that, I don't know. But it's ... (read in full...)
What do dearcupid readers think about online dating?
Q. I get very nervous around girls, and thats why I prefer online dating; I was just wondering what the readers of this site think about online dating?...
A. 8 April 2008: GO! GO! GO! Do it! It works. Seriously. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. First get to know the person well though. A webcam or microphone would help as it would prove that this person isn't lying to you, but go for it! So many of my friend's ... (read in full...)
What should I do for myself and my children. What is wrong with him?
Q. I have been married almost 3 years and been with my husband for a total of 7 1/2 years. we have two beautiful little girls and we have had our little fights but nothing major. Here in the past two months he has changed. He has started drinking more ...
A. 8 April 2008: You need to ask him straight out what's going on. I agree with the others when they said there may be another woman involved. He's not stable in this relationship and your children need stability. Think about what's best for your children. You need ... (read in full...)
I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years and he's been abusive for 2 years.
Q. We started off happy, but then he became homeless so I was there for him, I slept outside with him some nights even in his car. I didn't want to leave him alone, we stayed at my parents a lot which is when they started disliking him. For 2 years ...
A. 8 April 2008: Honey, you don't deserve this. No one deserves this. I know it must be hard, but I'd leave him and find someone else. Can you really trust this man? This man who's been hurting you physically and emotionally for two years? No one deserves that. ... (read in full...)
Is he trying to get a reaction out of me to see where we stand?
Q. ok do guys sometimes say things just to get a reaction from a girl? I am 26 and have been seeing this guy - also 26 - for 2 months. We started as friends 2 yrs ago. we have lots in common and understand trust and respect each other. We talk on the ...
A. 8 April 2008: Yeah, he was kidding. He was only joking around. Men do that a lot. It's not just a female thing at all. He was messing with you. That's all. Forget about it.
Wishing you the best.
xx... (read in full...)
Does it really make sense for my boyfriend to move closer to me?
Q. My boyfriend of 3 years wants me to move in with him. He lives 2 hours drive away. We both have our job in two different cities. He operates his own business and I am in a family business. We see each other every weekend. It's not too far of a drive ...
A. 8 April 2008: A three hour drive is quite long, and I can understand why you both want to be closer to each other. It makes sense for one of you to move closer. If your boyfriend is willing to move, I think you should let him. He can still see his family and ... (read in full...)
I'm 12 but I have not started my period yet?
Q. hi im 12 and tall for my age but i have not started my period. im worried about this because all my family say i should of started by now. is this normal?...
A. 8 April 2008: It is perfectly normal not to have started yet. Some people don't start until they are sixteen! You should feel lucky! You have no bad stomach aches, no blood that is completely impractical. Be happy that you're a late bloomer! Some of my friends ... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend's mate really like me or not?
Q. i have interest in this paticular guy, which is also my boyfriend's friend. well it sounded very wrong thou. somehow the things he do makes me feel as thou he has feelings for me. it is also hard for me to tell because he might not wants to show his ...
A. 8 April 2008: He definitely likes you. That's obvious now. You need to ask yourself whether you like him more than your boyfriend. If you do, then are you with the right person? That's what I'd think in this situation. If you like your boyfriend more then I'd try ... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend's mate really like me or not?
Q. i have interest in this paticular guy, which is also my boyfriend's friend. well it sounded very wrong thou. somehow the things he do makes me feel as thou he has feelings for me. it is also hard for me to tell because he might not wants to show his ...
A. 1 April 2008: It sounds like he does like you, but is just unsure what to do as he doesn't want to upset your boyfriend in some way. That's what I think. That's what it sounds like. He does like you, but doesn't want to hurt your boyfriend. And you I don't think ... (read in full...)
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