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| | Sugarbuns's profile:I am a 28-year-old dancer and I've probably lived more than most people have who are twice my age. I was raised in a small town, just outside of Paris but my family has always kept me grounded.
I've danced for celebrities, traveled all over Europe performing in a dance troupe, worked for a year with a dance company on a cruise liner. I've been flat broke, heart broke and just plain broke. In this business, you see it all, the glitter, the glamour, the lies, the betrayal, the best and the worst of human behavior. I've been propositioned by millionaires, and fallen in love with paupers and musicians.
And I still have hope that one day I will meet my knight in shining armor and have a normal life, complete with kids, dogs and a big farm where I can bake cookies and rollerblade around the kitchen, telling my grandkids about this chapter of my life, just like Granny Dan. |
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Please help me find something that is comfortable, that won't ITCH ME!!
Q. I have a problem wearing bra's and I'm so frustrated. Everything I wear seems to itch, even the softest cotton. I've tried every kind that I know of...the only kind that worked for me was a 100% cotton sport type bra from venus I think, and now ...
A. 15 July 2008: Just try locating other brands that are made with 100% cotton. Alot of bras are made with Lycra and this material can make you itch. Read the labels and be careful to stay away from brands that have materials you are allergic to. Good luck.... (read in full...)
What can I do to stop his bold comments towards my "attractive" friend - without sounding jealous?
Q. My boyfriend tells me that my best friend is super hot all the time.We have been dating for over a year and he always treats me good. He tells me I am hot too. While on a dinner date alone with him we talked about the night we all met the first ...
A. 9 July 2008: If I were you, I'd plan my time with this woman when he's not around. You don't have to stop hanging out with her, just make yourself less available to her when your man is around. No one has to know there's a strategy to what you're doing and you ... (read in full...)
I feel unloved in my relationship; I am beginning to feel depressed and doubt that things could change.
Q. I have been in a vicious cycle for over 2 years. I feel completely unappreciated 50% of the time and I don’t know what to do. I do everything, care about everything and try so hard to make our lives beautiful. Not only does he not appreciate half ...
A. 9 July 2008: I think this guy is ill-suited for you emotionally and this is what is causing your pain. Some men (and women too) are just not that ceremonious about their relationships. They don't give a damn about remembering special dates or anniversaries, they ... (read in full...)
Do some girls object to receiving oral sex
Q. is it true that some girls dont like being eaten out?...
A. 9 July 2008: Yes some women have hang ups about it. It feels dirty, or they are embarrassed, or worried about how they smell or taste. The list goes on. ... (read in full...)
Fortune teller predicted an early pregnancy ... and the condom broke.
Q. my mother has recently had her tarrot read. It says about me going to have a baby when im really young. I had sex with my boyfriend and the condom broke. What should i do?...
A. 9 July 2008: There's an old belief that we tend to attract certain things into our lives by the way we think. Our thoughts put things into motion. If you believe what this dime-store fortune teller has spoken over your life, it could very well come true. But if ... (read in full...)
My relationship ended because of jealousy, arguments and mistrust. Am I crazy to not let this go?
Q. My ex and I were in a relationship for 3 years, ended b/c of jealousy, arguments and mistrust. we reconnected after 7 months of not communicating and it seemed as though everything was going well(even though he would constantly bring up the nega...
A. 28 June 2008: You seem to want to "prove" him wrong over and over again. Unfortunately there's never an end to his paranoid accusations and this will eventually get old and exhausting. You seem far too intelligent to waste your time with someone like this. I ... (read in full...)
Ugly girls don't make guys feel insecure? Is there any truth in that?
Q. Is this true what they say...as my friends said it last night, that a guy will only go out with ugly girls because he`s insecure, and he wont feel like that if she is ugly as no other guys will fancy her? Surley that ain't true....
A. 28 June 2008: This is true of some men, yes. I've known a few really cute guys who ended up with really ugly women and everyone was asking WTF is that all about? So yes, it is true for some men, but not for all. There are some men who only want to be seen with ... (read in full...)
Please help me save my relationship!
Q. how do you say "im sorry and i will never do it again" to a man I cheated on twice? I really really regret it and I love him to death. I am so mad at myself for ruining this relationship. He left me after 6 months of finding out. I tried EVER...
A. 28 June 2008: Instead of trying to un-do the damage your affairs have created to your relationship, I think you should really look at why you were so easily lured away by another man. Could it be that there were things lacking in your current relationship? ... (read in full...)
I miss my ex girlfriend, I miss my kids' mom and feel terrible. My boys have never seen me cry and I fear they might hear me at night...
Q. Hello. This is somewhat difficult for me to talk about but here it goes. I am a 36yr old single father of twins. I have raised them since they were born. Their mother is in prison and is out of the picture. I have no regrets about raising my ...
A. 28 June 2008: I have no idea why your g/f broke things off so suddenly and without a reason. That seems odd to me, so I suspect there's more to the story than you are telling us. Could it be that she realized you're not over your other "ex" and she didn't want ... (read in full...)
Is he just freaking out or will he eventually commit?
Q. Is he just freaking out or will he eventually commit. I have met this man of 36 one year and 3 months ago, we started dating after 2 months of knowing each other first as friends and he pursued me constantly until we really just fell for each other ...
A. 26 June 2008: He sounds incredibly immature and somewhat selfish. Perhaps your age difference bothers him, or the fact that you earn more. I personally don't think he knows what he wants and he's behaving like a man-child. A child in a man's body. ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my mom I caught dad having sex with my best friend?
Q. Hi, i dont know what to do, i caught my dad and my best friend having sex in the kitchen. they did not see me (or so i thought)...what am i going to do????? My friend is 16, she is very flirty with men and wears very revealing clothes and al...
A. 26 June 2008: YES!! By all means, please tell her. Don't let her continue to be fooled, thinking her husband is an honorable, loving man!! Put yourself in her shoes. If you had a boyfriend (or husband) wouldn't YOU want to know if he was screwing someone else? ... (read in full...)
Why do I always seem to fall for the unattainable guys?
Q. Help! I always fall for the unattainable guys. I've had minor/severe crushes on the following; Karate instructor, teacher, best friends brother, cousin and great cousin. None of which i've been able to have relationships with! It's so unfair!!! I ...
A. 26 June 2008: Because if you get rejected by an unattainable guy, it hurts less than being rejected by someone who's single and available. It's a protection mechanism but one that will always end in heartache and dead-ends. ... (read in full...)
I met a boy online, and he likes me way more than I like him - What do I do?
Q. There's this lad on msn and he's apparently 'into me' yet we've never met in person nor even spoke on the phone. Anyway, he wants to meet me (we've only spoken on msn about 2/3 times - long convo's though!) but i aren't sure whether to, he seems a ...
A. 26 June 2008: Word of caution, just because he's posing as a boy your age, he could be anyone -- even a 45 yr old rapist who's due to get out of prison any day and he's looking for his victim. The worst types of deception comes from on-line relationships because ... (read in full...)
He's been flirting with his ex via e-mail, what do I do?
Q. i dont know what to say to my boyfriend.he is flirting with his ex-gilfriend.this what he said to her over an email. "Y is it always so hard 4 u to believe me, am i dat a lie?? Anyways, am feeling bad 4 ya hornyness, where is ur man, if u aint get...
A. 26 June 2008: Yeah, he's a worthless cheater. Move your stuff out of the house and leave him the proof of his two-timing emails so he'll know just how badly he f***ed up. ... (read in full...)
My 'best friend' keeps flirting with my boyfriend!
Q. Ok, i have a big problem with my bestfriend! Recentley ive started dating this guy that i REALLY like and he really likes me. Well Today at break my boyfriend came to meet me like he usually does, and we were in the middle of a conversa...
A. 26 June 2008: Find a new best friend. A true best friend wouldn't be doing this.... (read in full...)
Am I an odd girl for not trying girl on girl sex at least once?
Q. Am I odd? I`m a 28 year old girl and never experimented with girls. 80% of the straight girls I grew up with and girls in school and even married girls I know tried this at least once. I mean more than just kissing. Is this common for girls to try ...
A. 26 June 2008: No you are not odd. If it's not your thing, don't worry about it. I think it's mostly hype, the ultimate bad girl behavior and for some reason it drives men wild. God only knows why, it doesn't do a thing for us girls when we see two men making ... (read in full...)
Am I destined to a life of sexual frustration?
Q. hi all i am 34 years old and i am so sexually frustrated alot as to be honest, my husband does not satisfy me sexually (we rarely have sex) but i cant help but think, is this the way i am going to feel for the rest of my life, being sexual fru...
A. 26 June 2008: Buy him books on how to please a woman, watch sexy videos, invest in some nice lingerie -- you may even try couples sex counseling. There is nothing more frustrating than not being satisfied in bed, and women are more sexual than our society allows ... (read in full...)
What should I do about having found naked pictures of her ex?
Q. What should I do about naked photos of her ex-boyfriend? Here is some background information: My girlfriend and I have been dating for 1.5 years and are getting ready to move-in together. We "joke around" about getting married and it doesn't s...
A. 25 June 2008: I vote for option #3. Once you've moved in together find the CD and help it find it's way into the nearest dumpster, preferably not one near your house or apartment and make sure you break the CD in two before placing it in the dumpster. After ... (read in full...)
Can exes be best friends? I'm a bit bothered by this...
Q. Hey all, quick question for anyone listening, Do you think that its ok for ex's to be best friends? my new gf is bestfriends with her ex and it just makes me uneasy, she assures me that its all over between then but i still cant help but be bothered ...
A. 28 May 2008: Personally it's never a good idea and you should be a bit suspicious. Normally when a romantic relationship ends, it's very painful for one or both parties involved. At best, some people will learn to rise above the pain eventually and be cordial ... (read in full...)
How do you know if he came inside you?
Q. how do you know if the guy you had sex with came into you?? we only did it for bout 5 to 7 mintues at the most...and he put it in.. i just dont know if he came or not he told me he didnt but i dont know if he was just lying to me. How will I know if ...
A. 28 May 2008: Usually after a guy cums inside you, you are much wetter than you were before. Even a bit gushy. But even if he didn't fully cum, he may have spilled just a bit of pre-cum and that can still be enough to get you pregnant. My advise is ask a ... (read in full...)
How can I play this one cool and have some fun?
Q. My BF had oral sex with another gal. He thinks I don't know about it and yet he's acting guilty. I think I'm gonna have some fun with this instead of falling apart like most women would do. This oral sex happened at work. I need lots of ...
A. 28 May 2008: You could always order the most expensive item on the menu the next time he takes you out for dinner, then flirt your ass off with the cute waiter. You could talk him into buying you an expensive outfit, or a nice piece of jewelry. You mind as well ... (read in full...)
Is it appropriate for a married man to be in touch with an ex from long before?
Q. is it appropriate for a married man to still be calling an ex from 15 years ago?...
A. 29 April 2008: No good can come out of it.... (read in full...)
This girl keeps contacting my husband! How can I get it to stop?
Q. Me and my husband have been married for 6 years and this year i found out that he had been talking to a girl for about 6 months. He says nothing hapened and so does she, but now she wont stop calling him and i am scared that as soon as i let my ...
A. 29 April 2008: You can't, but he can. If she hasn't stopped contacting him it's because she's getting mixed messages from you husband, whom I suspect is still giving her the green light. Only he can pull the plug. That is if he really wants to.... (read in full...)
Is there any way I can deal with a yeast infection without medicine??
Q. ok well i think i might have yeast infection but i dont wont to tell my dad. What are some ways i can get rid of it without a doctors medicine??....
A. 26 February 2008: You can try drinking alot of cranberry juice, but usually it takes an antibiotic to cure one. And you can do serious damage to your reproductive organs if you leave one untreated. Go do a free clinic, or see your physician and get checked out. ... (read in full...)
We rowed like we never have before after his ex called...was I so wrong in what I said??
Q. Please help me. When I first met my boyfriend I'd known of him for 6 years, working together in a mental health hospital. I had originally asked him out over email before I left my job. Then after I'd been seeing him for 3 months, I found out that...
A. 26 February 2008: Yes you over-reacted big time. So step back and let's review this more clearly. First of all, remember she contacted him. It wasn't the other way around. Secondly, he's already indicated that when he's gone over there in the past, he's taken back ... (read in full...)
I saw a flirty txt on his phone and now he won't let me see his phone bill...are guys just like that??
Q. hi, my fiance changed careers at the start of the year and has to train for 5 months. He doesnt come home at night until after 9 every night apart from Fri and Sat. When I approached the subject of setting a date for the wedding for a year and a ha...
A. 26 February 2008: I think he's definately hiding something and since you confronted him over the last thing you found, he's using it against you, making you into the bad guy here, while ignorning his own behavior. If you plan on marrying this guy, you'd better plan ... (read in full...)
Why does a man just cut contact with you?
Q. why? what makes a man cut contact with you unexpectedly even after youve asked why they are ignoring you and yet still they ignore you. why? even when you havent done anything wrong. does it take a certain type of a man to not consider your feelings ...
A. 26 February 2008: I suspect he met someone else and he's focusing on that relationship now. You don't say if you were seeing this man when he cut contact with you, or if he's an ex and you've remained friends since the break-up. But either way, he's probably ... (read in full...)
She went back to her abusive ex. How do I get her back?
Q. I met this girl on the internet. She is 28 divorced and has two boys. When i met her she said she came out of a abisive relationship that she was in for 4 yrs. I am 40 and have a son. I know i took some of the retionship for granted because she said ...
A. 26 February 2008: I think you're better off without her. Sounds like she was deceiving you all along and once you started questioning her secretive behavior and mysterious texts, she bailed out on the relationship and went back to her ex, which I suspect is the ... (read in full...)
My girl had a lot of contact with her ex when we first started, I don't know if it has continued
Q. Do you think it is possible for a person to love 2 people at the same time? My girlfriend of a few months seems to have had alot of contact with her ex when we were first seeing each other. She is the one who pursued me, not the other way around. ...
A. 14 February 2008: Ask her. Hopefully she'll be honest. And you should be prepared to hear the truth without freaking out. You didn't say how long they were together, or how long they had been apart when she started seeing you. These are also factors. I went ... (read in full...)
Should I go out with my ugly friend or hold out for someone better looking?
Q. my good friend bought me a valentines card and asked me out. i think hes ugly and am a bit embarresed by him but hes also sweet, funny and likes me for who i am on the inside. should i go out with him or wait for my ideal boy who would have my level ...
A. 14 February 2008: Nah, don't waste his time or yours. You'll just get his hopes up and then it'll be even more painful when you find someone else and move on. Thank him and be sincere about it, but don't let it go any further. Just keep him as a friend. He ... (read in full...)
I just dumped him for the 5th time in 4 years! Do guys act this crappy on purpose?
Q. I met an old flame a month ago in a club and he texted me to see if we could meet up again. I played hard to get because he has messed me about in the past. Anyway I gave in and let him come round. We just chatted, he said he had changed and we were ...
A. 14 February 2008: He sounds flighty. Some guys don't know what they want, they blow hot and cold and leave you confused. I also think dearkelja was right -- he's committment phobic. I wouldn't give him the time of day ever again. He hasn't changed. But you sure ... (read in full...)
Am I a stalker or what?
Q. I met this guy in December, had a great time (you know what I mean), and then he texts me, I meet up with him a one night. Then, we meet in a town half way, theres roses there (which I didnt notice at first), and the whole time is great. Now, I've ...
A. 14 February 2008: No, you're in love. A stalker would be driving by his house several times a day, or hiding in the parking lot where he works just to see him walk out, calling him all the time, or always constantly planting yourself where the two of you will bump ... (read in full...)
Should I live my life based on horoscopes?
Q. i want to go out with this boy who is realy funny and i think he likes me as a friend, but i dont know weather to ask him out because my horoscopes in a magazine say we shouldnt go out. what should i do???...
A. 6 February 2008: Stop reading the horoscopes and start living your life. The best decisions come from your heart and your head. Don't believe that other crap. There's not a thing to it. If you like this guy, by all means, try it out and see what happens. Good ... (read in full...)
I am controlling...how do I stop being this way
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 14 months now. We've never really had problems, but he's good looking, and a lot of girls fancy him. He's just generally a friendly guy, and that's why I love him, but I'm afraid it comes across as ...
A. 6 February 2008: You say you are "controlling" but you also say your b/f doesn't seem to mind it. So maybe you're not as controlling as you think you are -- you're just being smart to recognize what's going on around you with these other chicks. You may never be ... (read in full...)
I have some growing up to do...so how do you go from a spoiled child to acting like a responsible adult?
Q. My boyfriend and I seem to always get along and spend a lot of time with each other. Last night out of the blue he told me that he loved me and didn't want to break up with me, but lately he had something on his mind. He was worried because we ...
A. 24 January 2008: Great relationships are built on compromise. You've heard the old saying, "learn to pick your battles"...you should look at some of the arguments you and your b/f have and decide if you can just give in (let him win) a few in the future. There are ... (read in full...)
Her allergies are getting to me and it's affecting our relationship!
Q. My girlfriend has recently been diagnosed as being allergic . . . to nearly everything. In fact, when she asked the doctor for a list of everything she is allergic too, his answer was it would be easier to give her a list of what she isnt allergic ...
A. 22 January 2008: Hmmm, last time I checked being allergic to things like wheat flour, dustmites, or other irritants has nothing to do with your g/f jumping your butt for not folding the towels correctly, or in your case washing up. What I would ask is this: Does ... (read in full...)
I have some growing up to do...so how do you go from a spoiled child to acting like a responsible adult?
Q. My boyfriend and I seem to always get along and spend a lot of time with each other. Last night out of the blue he told me that he loved me and didn't want to break up with me, but lately he had something on his mind. He was worried because we ...
A. 22 January 2008: The best thing you can do for yourself is to move out of your parents house (if you haven't already) get your own apartment, get a job (okay, get the job first) pay your bills on time, don't ask for help from Mom & Dad, don't ask your b/f to float ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 4 yrs was e-mailing other girls online, is that considered cheating?
Q. I recently found out that my boyfriend of 4 yrs was e mailing other girls online behind my back. I confronted him about this and he apologized, saying that he doesnt know what he was doing and it was a mistake. He says he never met any of these ...
A. 22 January 2008: I would try to forgive him, but keep an eye on him for awhile and I wouldn't rush down the isle just yet. I'm wondering if you are his first girlfriend. If so, he may still feel like he has some exploring to do before he ties the knot with anyone. ... (read in full...)
I am controlling...how do I stop being this way
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 14 months now. We've never really had problems, but he's good looking, and a lot of girls fancy him. He's just generally a friendly guy, and that's why I love him, but I'm afraid it comes across as ...
A. 22 January 2008: Let's be real here. I don't agree with anon-e-mouse. You may trust him....but there's always going to be a concern that eventually your friendly guy will have a hard time saying no to a come on by a prettier-than-you girl. Now I realize you're ... (read in full...)
Is he dating these other women (some are prostitutes) or... is he just helping them financially, like he claims?
Q. I was dating for 1month a man who is almost double my age. I really loved him and i think he does too. But the problem is a lot of women calls him and he try to answer them by saying he is with his GF. and i told him to ask them all not to call... i ...
A. 22 January 2008: Did he actually tell you they were prostitutes, or are you just making an assumption? If they are indeed prostitutes, I can assure you he has used them for sex at one time or another. Most prostitutes are in the business to support their drug ... (read in full...)
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