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So...does size really matter? Let's put it to rest.

Q.   A good friend of mine let’s call him S is going through a very tough, emasculating time. A girlfriend of his made comments to her friends, stating that while she really enjoyed being with him, and that he was a great guy both emotionally and ...

A.   17 February 2011: LMAO, where was this honesty 7 hours go? is this what you women have been hiding behind? ... (read in full...)

So...does size really matter? Let's put it to rest.

Q.   A good friend of mine let’s call him S is going through a very tough, emasculating time. A girlfriend of his made comments to her friends, stating that while she really enjoyed being with him, and that he was a great guy both emotionally and ...

A.   17 February 2011: So, an average size penis and above average sized penis are exactly the same for most women if used correctly? That doesn't seem right. it just makes sense that a bigger penis that fits would feel better, something worth BRAGGING about as one ... (read in full...)

So...does size really matter? Let's put it to rest.

Q.   A good friend of mine let’s call him S is going through a very tough, emasculating time. A girlfriend of his made comments to her friends, stating that while she really enjoyed being with him, and that he was a great guy both emotionally and ...

A.   16 February 2011: So tennisstar, Your a size queen. What about a guy with an average sized dong (6x5)? is he too small for you? The OP is asking about the comparison between average and largely-above average, not small and huge. ... (read in full...)

Why won't he even hug me? Let alone touch me?

Q.   hi. um, i've been with this guy for like three or four months now. something that's kinda bugging me is that he's one of those guys that hug people alot, yet he barely ever touches me. i'm not saying i want sex[i really dont. i'm too young anyway] i ...

A.   16 February 2011: Puberty is a beeotch. Your at a stage where girls and guys are VASTLY different in their comfort level with one another. Things will level out in a year or so, but until he gains his mid-puberty male confidence, you may find yourself having to make ... (read in full...)

So...does size really matter? Let's put it to rest.

Q.   A good friend of mine let’s call him S is going through a very tough, emasculating time. A girlfriend of his made comments to her friends, stating that while she really enjoyed being with him, and that he was a great guy both emotionally and ...

A.   16 February 2011: Also, backing up my last post, ( I feel this guy's paranoid big time), I think less than .5 percent of guys have more than 8 or 9. hes asking if going from 8 to 6 is noticeably different. ... (read in full...)

So...does size really matter? Let's put it to rest.

Q.   A good friend of mine let’s call him S is going through a very tough, emasculating time. A girlfriend of his made comments to her friends, stating that while she really enjoyed being with him, and that he was a great guy both emotionally and ...

A.   16 February 2011: Again, my question was if we assume that the two guys are equal in technique, passion and desirability. Your assuming that the techniques are the same, though I appreciate your attempt to make the average man feel better. ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend's libido!

Q.   Ok, so when my gf and I get intense she loves it. She definitely gets satisfied each time, I literally make sure of it and give it my best effort. Over time I've learned how to get her off and I can do it most every time for her now. She tells me ...

A.   13 February 2011: Yea I mean not an orgasm every single time. I've read up on it alot, how it's difficult for many women, and it's at the point now where I go off the scientific signs (flushing, muscle contractions, breathing), I don't use her movements or sounds as ... (read in full...)

She's putting my business and size out there!

Q.   ok well i am a 15 year old boy. i had an ex-girlfriend that i did a lot with. Wasn't much just a hand job a fingering. well she seen my penis. and i am only about 3 inches long. We broke up and now she is putting my business out there. Everyone ...

A.   10 February 2011: First off, you can take the mature route and use the adult insults, or use the venomous adolescent route that I would use and say shes loose OR smells like fish. As for your growth, youll be ok. I was only bout 4-4.5 when I was 15, and now, abo... (read in full...)

Positional limitations

Q.   What sexual positions are out of the question or unnecessarily difficult with an average penis (6). or conversely, which work best in your experience when it comes to female pleasure. I see things posted constantly that larger members make for ...

A.   10 February 2011: How do I angle that way? ... (read in full...)

Did he say everything because he was drunk?

Q.   Ok, so there is this guy, A. We went to middle school together and then we both are in differnt high schools now. Right after 8th grade he texted me saying how much he liked me, and wanted to be with me, and I was rude to him and told him no, ...

A.   8 February 2011: As a guy whose seen his fair share of underage drinking, allow me to point out to the OP and the last poster that alcohol consumption among high school students is at an all time high. Something like 70% of high school juniors drink once a month or ... (read in full...)

Will my morals go out the window?

Q.   hey, can someone help me figure out who i am? im 18 and a virgin, the only guys ive kissed are ones ive got with while clubbing (too many to count) the problem is im going off to uni in september, and im not sure what ill end up doing. like even ...

A.   5 February 2011: I don't know if your morals will go out the window. Girls that I know personally, that are about our age, went one of three ways upon losing their virginity. Some come to regret it and actually become more morally restricted as a result. Some love ... (read in full...)

She feels bad because I'm doing all the work

Q.   My girlfriend says she feels bad about us having sex because she feels like I'm doing all the work. Theres no pleasure issues, I've done my anatomy, psychology and physiological homework and have developed some kind of bizarre self control from ...

A.   5 February 2011: What do you mean by controlling foreplay? ... (read in full...)

She feels bad because I'm doing all the work

Q.   My girlfriend says she feels bad about us having sex because she feels like I'm doing all the work. Theres no pleasure issues, I've done my anatomy, psychology and physiological homework and have developed some kind of bizarre self control from ...

A.   5 February 2011: I figured that would be the answer, so I'm going to respond with this. She likes to go on top and I like when she does it, but again, she doesn't know what to do and I don't know how to instruct her. Sometimes I pop or slide out, when she goes up ... (read in full...)

My cousin wants to use me for kissing practice!!!

Q.   my cousin wanted to practice kissing with me to see if she was doing it right aparently but the parts of my body she touched during it and what she said after told me it wasnt just a bit of practice she said after i enjoyed that can we practice ...

A.   31 January 2011: I'm not sure how much this will help you, but you have reason to be concerned if she's a 1st cousin, (meaning the son/daughter of one of your parents siblings). If shes anything else, there isn't enough of a blood connection for it to be wrong in ... (read in full...)

At what point in a relationship can one justify using the word 'love'?

Q.   Hello, a very misleadingly simple question... at what point in a relationship can one justify using 'love' as opposed to the elements of infatuation to describe the mutual feelings between the two involved? As a mere teen-ager, I find the often-used ...

A.   31 January 2011: Your half right. I'm one of the people who believes that you can be In love more than once. I told my girlfriend I loved her for the first time when I was intoxicated, around 6 months into our relationship. I was afraid it was too soon, but she said ... (read in full...)

Guys, can you tell if this boy digs me?

Q.   hey! i really need help mainly from guys but anyone can answer, i need to know if this guy likes me or not. Signs he does: i find him staring at me a lot, usually when i catch him he looks away makes a face or smiles. whenever i come into a conv...

A.   31 January 2011: Sounds to me like either A, he doesn't and he is just an EXCEPTIONALLY nice kid, or B, he does and he's just too shy. At your age I refused to go on a date without bro support, I was just kinda whimpy like that. It wasn't until around 16ish that I ... (read in full...)

How do people determine the right age for them to have sex for the first time?

Q.   i'm asking the readers this, male and female, young and old, to answer the age old question of how old is the right age to have sex? is it based on how you feel about your partner? the legal age? Your religion? please answer for all the many rea...

A.   29 January 2011: In all honesty, the previous posts are right, don't do it until you are ready for the experience. It is a big deal. However, studies conducted by the WHO and a few other major organizations show that the age of lost virginity varies by country,... (read in full...)

Rejection Year for me

Q.   Hey Cupid peeps ^-^ Im new here but today is just not going so well for me :( Like actually this whole year is bad. I dont mean to be all doom and gloom but my self confidence aint so great. I mean it was awesome at the end of last year when I m...

A.   28 January 2011: Everyone, even the prettiest girls and most attractive guys have ruts, so lets just say a rejection year isn't uncommon to start. Your 14, your at an age where maturity level fluctuates heavily among guys and girls. (Your friends are obviously ve... (read in full...)

How do I get rid of this nervous feeling for my first time?

Q.   My boyfriend and I were discussing what would we do, for our first time having sex. We're both virgins so I'm a little nervous... How can I get rid of this nervous feeling?...

A.   28 January 2011: Realize that you two care about each other and no matter how awry the experience goes you'll still love each other. The feeling going to be there, but trust me, he's feeling it six times worse than you are. You should mostly be worrying about the ... (read in full...)

This isn't a crush, I want to tell him how I feel!

Q.   I have been like best friends for about 4 or 5 years with this lad. But since about end off 2009 i have got strong feelings for this guy, he went aways with the army to basic in september 2010 and when he comes back on leave we have grown even ...

A.   28 January 2011: I think it would help if your clarified your age and situation. Are you 14 or 15 and desiring an 18 year old in the military? Regardless, your best course of action would be to tell him how you feel next time you see him, the military can do thing... (read in full...)

I need your help! How can I find out if this guy likes me?

Q.   ok so i need your help! how can i find out if a guy likes me?? he is in the same year as me and we rarely talk, just nods and smiles, and maybe good morings. the only time we talked was last monday as we had an exam and we seemed to have a few short ...

A.   28 January 2011: Guys tend to be oblivious to subtle signs. Most likely the same subtle signs that you're exhibiting. Kick it up a notch, get "Maybe I'll text you sometime", find some BS academic reason to get his number. If you encounter him in a public place or at ... (read in full...)

Crush on a very shy girl.......

Q.   Hi. I have a crush on an EXTERMLY shy female What do I do? When I compiment her she tells me that I'm embrassing her......

A.   28 January 2011: Girls like this tend to be very friend dependent. Find one of her closest friends who is a bit more outgoing and build a platonic friendship. Maybe she'll shoot you a "nice guy" or is "kind of cute but not for me" mention in passing conversation. ... (read in full...)

I think he may be flirting by accident!

Q.   my boyfriend doesn't flirt i don't think. he's really faithful and he says he doesn't know what flirting is so Im afraid he may be doin it on accident how do i explain what flirting is to him...

A.   28 January 2011: Flirting is talking to another girl how he talked to you when he first started "talking" to you. If he has any experience or male friends with experience he'll know what that means. I'm a pretty charismatic kid, not attractive, but friendly, an... (read in full...)

All my friends are losing their virginity will I be left out

Q.   Dear Cupid I'm 16 years old and I'm still a virgin, all of my friends are loosing their virginity and soon I feel like I'm going to be the only one left, I think that I'm ready for sex but I'm scared at the same time and very self conscious about my...

A.   28 January 2011: As a male who is on the other side of essentially the same thing, I assure you to hold onto it at least until you think your ready, hopefully until you know you are. My girlfriend and I took each others last year as juniors in high school, and it ... (read in full...)

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