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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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Why is it that it's still a man's world, every porn mag is for men, every nude scene in a movie is of a woman? When are woman ever truly going to be treated as equals?
Q. I'm sick of the world that we live in, the expectations and pressures on women today, the young girls who suffer and have low self esteem due to the images we see everywhere, in films, magazines, billboards etc.. Why is it that it's still a mans ...
A. 12 April 2011: I take due note of Moon River's comment and, for the record, I can but agree that oppression of women does exist, and that, while much has been gained, much remains to change.
I also want to say that I live in Latin America, macho country,... (read in full...)
Why is it that it's still a man's world, every porn mag is for men, every nude scene in a movie is of a woman? When are woman ever truly going to be treated as equals?
Q. I'm sick of the world that we live in, the expectations and pressures on women today, the young girls who suffer and have low self esteem due to the images we see everywhere, in films, magazines, billboards etc.. Why is it that it's still a mans ...
A. 12 April 2011: I don't know for sure, but I think it is already possible to buy "porn for females". I'm sure you can find it in the internet.
I understand Brad Pitt appeared in "Troy" in a way that aroused more than one woman. Yet it's true, there are not so m... (read in full...)
I've started to have feelings for a close friend, but she has a boyfriend!
Q. Hi, Recently, I've begun to have strong feelings for a really close female friend that I've known for years - I'd go as far as to say that she's one of my best friends. But now that I feel more strongly about her, it's going to make things more dif...
A. 12 April 2011: Yes. I asssume the fact that she lives in a different country is unimportant. But, well, bear in mind that she's taken, and find someone else.
You're not old enough to have learned this, but there is no need to make your life more difficul... (read in full...)
She told me she had feelings for me and then became an iceberg. Why?
Q. Hi, Why is my ex girlfriend so cold? She told me she had feelings for me and then became an iceberg. She says she needs a month...does that mean she wasn't telling me the truth about loving me? I don't see how people could just switch their fee...
A. 12 April 2011: Do yourself a favor and don't try to understand this. You will get a headache as big as Jupiter and will still be in the dark about why, oh why, this happened. Just give her space, but do it forever. Make no mistake: she doesn't want you. Just ... (read in full...)
Are men aware of what porn does to their sex drive?
Q. With all this so easy to reach pornstuff these days and especially men of all age groups spending lots of time on pornsites, I wonder what happens to their sex drive and joy of having sex with there partners. It makes me sad to read from so many ...
A. 12 April 2011: I'm sure you won't like the answer to your rethorical question. I'll be the impolite person to give it. Yes, the men are usually aware of what happens with their sex drives.
Sorry.... (read in full...)
Married, in my thirties, and still having crushes. Afraid I will act on them Please advise.
Q. I am married, in my thirties and generally a very good, level headed and kind person. The issue is, I have crushes. ALL the time. I don't act on them at all, but it makes me feel really guilty and worried that maybe if given the right ...
A. 12 April 2011: Your ability not to act on crushes improves with age. So you have one less reason for concern with each day that goes by.
I assume you're not married or in a relationship? Are you sure this isn't attraction for people?... (read in full...)
Son is dating an older woman with children. How can I make him come to his senses?
Q. Hi all, I've been pretty confused about something lately and just can't seem to get my mind off of it. I'm really having a hard time figuring out why my son who is 22 y/o is dating this older woman who's 33 and has 2 kids (twins). I feel like he's ...
A. 12 April 2011: Your son is an adult and he can do as he pleases. This relationship you disapprove of is perfectly acceptable for many other people. I'm afraid you won't be told otherwise.
That said, trust me on this one, since I am a man, will you? He won't... (read in full...)
Is he interested or am I misinterpreting everything?
Q. Okay here goes, it will be long winded but I need to know once and for all, Im really losing my patience. About 5 months ago a new tenant moved into our house, hes very handsome and I was attracted to him instantly. Initially there was al...
A. 12 April 2011: I think you should not get involved with this guy.... (read in full...)
6 months later after I break up I'm still dreaming of him
Q. So you have to know the background to this...last October so about 6 months ago this guy and I "broke up" it was a really bad one.. And I realize it was my fault. Although I keep saying I'm over him I keep dreaming of him. and when I awake from ...
A. 10 April 2011: This happens, don't worry. Since you know that trying to be with him again is a bad idea, my advice is that you don't do it. Someone else will come who will make you want to be with him, not with the former guy.... (read in full...)
Is he interested or am I misinterpreting everything?
Q. Okay here goes, it will be long winded but I need to know once and for all, Im really losing my patience. About 5 months ago a new tenant moved into our house, hes very handsome and I was attracted to him instantly. Initially there was al...
A. 10 April 2011: I believe he's teasing you.... (read in full...)
Wife doesn't let me cum on her face. Isn't that something almost all girls do?
Q. My wife won't let me cum on her face, ever! As far as I know, almost all girls let their guys cum on their faces, and enjoy it too! but not mine. This really sucks, I feel really unwanted, how do I make her do it?...
A. 7 April 2011: Even at your real age of 29, do you really need to be told women don't like this?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his sons always pick on my mentally handicapped son
Q. I have a boy friend whom has 2 boys.. I have 3 young children my self... My boyfriend hates my oldest son and him and his boys always yells at my son and picks on him cause hes mentally hanidcap... What do i do ? Do i leave my boyfriend?...
A. 7 April 2011: Yes, leave the boyfriend. I say he had it coming. What an insensitive bastard!... (read in full...)
Do girls like their space? Will she feel crowded if I request more of her?
Q. Hi, I am middle aged guy in late 30's dating a 26 year old single mom. We met a year ago through a internet dating site and have been seeing each other for over a year now. I am a settled, educated, professional, who has separated ...
A. 7 April 2011: My opinion is that you should ask her. If she says, no, well, no. If she says yes, well, YES.... (read in full...)
Why has she suddenly changed her mind?
Q. So me and my Gf have been dating for almost 3 years. Im 27,she is 26.Since last year she has been talking and hinting about getting engaged. To make things worse, her cousin and 2 of her friends got engaged,so all the pressure was me.She said ...
A. 7 April 2011: I think she has not changed her mind, but she thinks you don't want to get married. Big difference.... (read in full...)
Is he interested or am I misinterpreting everything?
Q. Okay here goes, it will be long winded but I need to know once and for all, Im really losing my patience. About 5 months ago a new tenant moved into our house, hes very handsome and I was attracted to him instantly. Initially there was al...
A. 5 April 2011: I think the key here is his saying that you'd be the person to marry if he were ready to marry. That speaks volumes.
He's been respectful because you refused to have sex with him. He's behaving. If you give him the opportunity, he will naturall... (read in full...)
How can I track my boyfriend's online activity?
Q. How can I track my boyfriend online to what sites he is on when we live separately?...
A. 5 April 2011: I have the feeling that your spying on someone else's computer is illegal. It does sound like controlling. And, if I were your boyfriend, I would dump you the minute I realized you were doing this.... (read in full...)
She broke up with me, but is still giving me mixed signals. Why?
Q. My ex girlfriend has a new boyfriend it hurts a wee bit as she told me that one night she had a cry because she missed me but a part me is happy because hopefully now i can move on and stop getting mixed signals from her. I guess my question is t...
A. 3 April 2011: Mixed signals will continue for as long as you let them continue.
My opinion is that, if she wanted you, she could break up with the new guy just as she broke up with you. And then she could easily go back to you, from what I see. But she does... (read in full...)
How can I track my boyfriend's online activity?
Q. How can I track my boyfriend online to what sites he is on when we live separately?...
A. 3 April 2011: Erm, why do you want to do that?... (read in full...)
BF says I should be okay that he goes on trips alone with former lovers. What should I say?
Q. I hate rules in a relationship and I trust my boyfriend very much, and trust that he wont ever cheat. But he enjoys to go on alone trips with other female friends of his, where they will sleep together in a small tent (shoulder to shoulder) or be ...
A. 3 April 2011: Sorry, poster, but I agree with Caring and the female anonymous poster.
I live in a different society and we are not as open as Scandinavians are. In my humble opinion, this shouldn't be happening and you shouldn't need to ask. I think you know... (read in full...)
Is he just settling for me?
Q. When I asked my bf why he liked me, the first thing he said was that he knew that I cared a lot about him and that I thought about him a lot. Is this normal? I feel like he's only with me now because he's settling and because he just wants someo...
A. 3 April 2011: Maybe he is just not too good with words, or not the expressive type. Men and women can indeed "settle" for someone, but that doesn't mean he did it with you.
Perhaps you don't appreciate yourself enough and feel that no one will want you for ... (read in full...)
I need advice on finding the right girl.
Q. Hey there...i'm 25years of age, i still don't have a gf that makes me annoyed and frustrated. i've a good relationship with different gals. they liked me. most of them liked me but on contrary i don't like them. because of this and such types of ...
A. 3 April 2011: I can give you one piece of advice on finding the right girl: If you can disagree with her over something very important and yet she won't blow her top, THAT'S A GOOD CATCH, whatever her looks.... (read in full...)
I need more affection from her. How do I tell her without upsetting her?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for seven years and sometimes we go through these stages where the affection, mainly the sex runs dry. For example,we went from having sex on a regular basis to literary nothing. It leaves me in an awkward position...
A. 3 April 2011: The Golden Rule: Speak your mind. Tell her what you have told us, minus the "I'm afraid that when another women shows me some type of affection It might alter our relationship.".
Would you please expand on how she gets offended at the slightes... (read in full...)
My boyfriend smells down there. Why, is this normal, and can it be changed?
Q. Before i start, im a girl, im 16, i have been with my boyfriend now for four months and i am really happy with the way things are going but here it goes... So, my boyfriend is a year older than me, he isn't very experienced, I am the first girl h...
A. 3 April 2011: If it's not disease or ejaculation, it certainly is need of a bar of soap. Enough said.... (read in full...)
I know I should, but how do I leave my older lover?
Q. I am 18, I have been with a man since I was 16 (legal in the UK) and he is now 49. Due to this no one else in either of our lives knows about us being together. In the last 6 months we have tried to end it, but neither of us are able to break it ...
A. 31 March 2011: Dear, I think you should stay away from this man who could perfectly well be your grandpa. In my opinion, the reason why people don't know about you two is because he'd get a shower of criticism, and he knows it. Relationships where one of the ... (read in full...)
Husband is happy to be nothing more than a roommate. I need him as a man. Please help!
Q. My husband asked me for space and time three months ago. I was in our house by myself the whole time, I was working overtime because I wanted to be busy all the time.(no kids- no family, we are both are foreign) Now he is back and he says to me th...
A. 31 March 2011: Your self-esteem should be fine. Everyone can fall out of love with anyone else. That he doesn't love you anymore like he used to does not mean you're not valuable.
At this time in life, I don't believe much in trying to find out why people f... (read in full...)
I don't know how to read this shy guy I like.
Q. I seem to have that problem when I don’t know wither or not a guy likes me or if he just wants to be mates. I’ve liked this guy that gets on my bus for a month now and we only talk when I say hi and ask him questions. He tends to be interested when ...
A. 31 March 2011: If he's a shy guy, you might as well drop all the hints in the world and he won't react. The problem is not you, but he: he doesn't dare to talk. Why aren't you more direct with him?
Please hear me out, because this is one piece of advice I... (read in full...)
How can you be good in bed and without your guy thinking you've been around the block with many men?
Q. My boyfriend have been asking me questions lately that makes me feel really bad. Well everyone knows most guys like a freak in the bed they can still take home to momma. Well I consider myself that. There was onne guys I was with in the past that ...
A. 27 March 2011: Sorry. I think your boyfriend is not very smart.
Of course you have to learn those things with somebody. He can either enjoy that, or not. Let's think of the alternative. Would he rather be with a statue?
I think you should tell him that hi... (read in full...)
Women in my family have given so much up to be a housewife, why do they?
Q. Dear Ladies or should I say dear ladies only as I want only women to answer this question. I am asking these questions to you all as I quite obviously cannot ask this questions to the ladies who have forced me to ask these questions. All m...
A. 26 March 2011: Good question. Ladies?... (read in full...)
Should I delete my ex off my Facebook?
Q. Basically I was wondering if I should delete my ex girlfriend off of Facebook? We broke up two months ago and three weeks after the break up, she got into another relationship with another guy! I kills me to see pics with her new bf etc. But I ...
A. 26 March 2011: In four words: YEAH.... (read in full...)
He says we need to stay away from each other for 2 months, does he love me?
Q. I have been going out with this guy for a for a month now. We slept together twice, since that day he has been telling me we need stay away from each other for two months and talk on the phone. Please help me I really luv this guy I don't know if he ...
A. 26 March 2011: According to your post, this man decided you should not see each other right after you two had slept together. That sounds very bad to me. It seems he had what he wanted and is now leaving.... (read in full...)
Can someone explain what bukkake is?
Q. I recently met this freaky girl, and she is into all kinds of things and she said she wants to perform bukkake with me. What exactly is this?...
A. 26 March 2011: Your girl wants a group of men to ejaculate on her.
https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/Bukkake_(sex_act)... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hangs up on me!
Q. I hate it when my boyfriend hangs up on me.... but he does thatt all the time.... i ve explained this to him like 100 times now how insulted i feel about this but he doesnt seem to care n hangs up whenever he feels like widout even acknowledging ...
A. 26 March 2011: I think you should dump him.... (read in full...)
Was my mom having sex with my fiance?
Q. In 2010 i dated this guy who i fell head over heals for, we ended up getting engaged and he moved in with me, my mom, my dad and my daughters. well in august just after i had my daughter strange things were goin on, my mom and fiance would act ...
A. 13 March 2011: What you tell us sounds odd, indeed. One would certainly wonder whether they were having sex. The kind of things they claim they did together were not the sort of things they would need to hide from you.
As to your fiancé, if we suppose they did... (read in full...)
Do I ask my spanish guy if he has a girlfriend?
Q. Hi I need some advise about a spanish guy I met overseas. I stayed at a hotel and I flirted with the waiter. There was alot of eye contact between us and we smiled at each other. I have since returned from my holiday and I decided to add him...
A. 13 March 2011: First things first: you certainly do expect "something" to happen between you two. If you didn't, then you wouldn't be posting here. If you saw the man as a simple friendly barman you met abroad, then you wouldn't be talking about coming between ... (read in full...)
My break up has hit me very hard and I'm a complete mess...
Q. Hi its been just over 2 months now since my boyfriend broke up with me and am still a complete and utter mess i dont know how to go on without him i still dont fully understand his reasons he made out he wanted be single but am sure hes with someone ...
A. 13 March 2011: My advice is, give it time. Do things you enjoy without going wild. Make it your thing to forget the guy. One fine day you will wake up very happy and won't be in such pain.
Take care.... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and my baby's father texted me saying that "" I've had a break down , I can't do this you're on your own". What do I do???
Q. Hello , I am confused and really unsure what to do or what is going onright now . I am 18 weeks pregnant at 40 the father is 35 and we hv been together for 3.5 years . This pregnancy was a HUGE surprise. I was on the depo shot and never missed. T...
A. 13 March 2011: In your post, you're not telling us why he doesn't want to marry you, or why he wants to sign his parental rights away. I can see that not even you know this. But that is important for you.
When we are trying to make tough decisions, we need to ... (read in full...)
The lady who I'm having an affair with is not willing to walk out of her marriage. Where does that leave me?
Q. Got issues with the most beautiful lady in this world. Where do I start? I was married for 20 years and had allotted of problem with my former wife for about 10 years. So I left .Any way, I Have known this lady whom I am now in love with for 28 y...
A. 13 March 2011: Leaving a marriage where there are kids involved is not easy. Beyond that, I surmise that her marriage does have some good areas; if it were all absolutely bad, then she would have left long ago. Or her husband would have. Meaning she ga... (read in full...)
I am worried about my early morning erections while I am on school camp
Q. hi, i am 14 and always wake up with an erection. I hear that this is normal and naturally i can't help but masturbate, but i am going on a school trip and we will be in dorms. i dont want peopple to think that i am sick. so what can i do?...
A. 11 March 2011: Man, you're not sick or anything. You're a normal boy.... (read in full...)
How can I turn my guy friend into my boyfriend when for months I told him I didn't want a boyfriend?
Q. Hi, I have a question cause I can't find the answer on my own! I'm dating a guy for 4 months now. At the beginning I kept saying that I don't want a "boyfriend" so he doesn't act like it, he doesn't invite me to go out with him and his friends, and ...
A. 11 March 2011: Chigirl is so right. Tell him.
On the other hand, he may not "JUMP" at the chance. He may have had second thoughts all this time. This change of heart makes you look moody. So he might more than "need some time to think about it". Anyways,... (read in full...)
Ladies, if you’re with a well endowed man, what is it, exactly, that gets you most excited about sex with him from a purely physical aspect?
Q. Ladies...if you are with a man who is well endowed, what is it, exactly, that gets you most excited about sex with him from a purely physical aspect? If it is his size, what specifically about his penis is the most enticing? Seeing it and looking ...
A. 10 March 2011: Nietzsche was not well endowed, Birdy :-).... (read in full...)
Ex tells me not to become the town bicycle. Why does he care who I date?
Q. I've just split up with my partner. We have kids together. He is living in our other house. He is constantly asking me if I'm dating and asks me "please don't become the town bicycle". We've only been split up a month. It's not really his business ...
A. 10 March 2011: This is never going to end on good manners alone. If you want a job, or study, or whatever, go for it. He can only accept the fact.
All the best.... (read in full...)
Ladies, if you’re with a well endowed man, what is it, exactly, that gets you most excited about sex with him from a purely physical aspect?
Q. Ladies...if you are with a man who is well endowed, what is it, exactly, that gets you most excited about sex with him from a purely physical aspect? If it is his size, what specifically about his penis is the most enticing? Seeing it and looking ...
A. 8 March 2011: Tisha-1, since you're asking, here are two very good definitios of "endowment":
From the Wikipedia:
Endowment (in philosophy) refers to the innate capacities of an individual, group, or institution. An individual's "natural endowment" can b... (read in full...)
Ex tells me not to become the town bicycle. Why does he care who I date?
Q. I've just split up with my partner. We have kids together. He is living in our other house. He is constantly asking me if I'm dating and asks me "please don't become the town bicycle". We've only been split up a month. It's not really his business ...
A. 8 March 2011: By the way, I like the colorful expression, "town bicycle". It makes me laugh because when I was a kid a guy in our neighborhood did have a bicycle, and it was called "the people's bicycle" because he would lend it to anyone.
Funny, colorful... (read in full...)
Ex tells me not to become the town bicycle. Why does he care who I date?
Q. I've just split up with my partner. We have kids together. He is living in our other house. He is constantly asking me if I'm dating and asks me "please don't become the town bicycle". We've only been split up a month. It's not really his business ...
A. 8 March 2011: I wouldn't use the word "care". I would use the word "worry".
He worries about who you date, and asks you not to become "the town bicycle" because he may still have feelings for you, and it hurts to think that the woman you love may be having t... (read in full...)
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