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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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Ladies, if you’re with a well endowed man, what is it, exactly, that gets you most excited about sex with him from a purely physical aspect?
Q. Ladies...if you are with a man who is well endowed, what is it, exactly, that gets you most excited about sex with him from a purely physical aspect? If it is his size, what specifically about his penis is the most enticing? Seeing it and looking ...
A. 10 March 2011: Nietzsche was not well endowed, Birdy :-).... (read in full...)
Ex tells me not to become the town bicycle. Why does he care who I date?
Q. I've just split up with my partner. We have kids together. He is living in our other house. He is constantly asking me if I'm dating and asks me "please don't become the town bicycle". We've only been split up a month. It's not really his business ...
A. 10 March 2011: This is never going to end on good manners alone. If you want a job, or study, or whatever, go for it. He can only accept the fact.
All the best.... (read in full...)
I cant sleep with my boyfriend's snoring!
Q. Hey readers, I don't know what to do - whenever I spend the night with my bf, his snoring and loud breathing keeps me awake so I can't get to sleep til, like, 5am! I don't know what to do about it. We've been together 6 months, and he knows he ...
A. 10 March 2011: I understand there are ways to help people not snore that much.
Other than that, you will have to ask Yogi to sleep in another room :-).... (read in full...)
I believe I have OCD and its only getting worse...help!
Q. Hello I'm a 15 year old girl, and I have serious case of OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder.) I have had it ever since i was about 11years old. I'm not really sure what to do about it, I have not been diagnosed with it, but all the signs are poin...
A. 9 March 2011: Unless you have a serious diagnosis of obsessive compulsive disorder, don't believe you have it.
Something you could do is make sure you have it?... (read in full...)
What is the answer for a sexually frustrated woman who isnt looking for casual sex?
Q. I am one sexually frustrated woman and don't know what to do! I still think about my ex a lot, and we had a rather sexy convo via e mail last week, and it has happened before. I don't want him back and he lives so far away. I never initiate ...
A. 9 March 2011: You can overcome this by finding a suitable mate. Going back to your ex is a bad idea.
In the meantime, you'll have to resort to "Good Vibes".... (read in full...)
He's cheated on me, am I overreacting by what I'm asking of him?
Q. im kinda confused and i hope that somebody can help me.ive been in a relationship with this guy for 5 months now. he cheated on me at the very beginning. but i did forgive him, because we hadnt been together that long and maybe he didnt take us ...
A. 9 March 2011: If you can't believe in him anymore, then you shouldn't go back to him.
By the way, people can always open a new e-mail account and hide it from you. So asking for passwords is not the solution. If there is no trust, there is nothing.... (read in full...)
Ladies, if you’re with a well endowed man, what is it, exactly, that gets you most excited about sex with him from a purely physical aspect?
Q. Ladies...if you are with a man who is well endowed, what is it, exactly, that gets you most excited about sex with him from a purely physical aspect? If it is his size, what specifically about his penis is the most enticing? Seeing it and looking ...
A. 8 March 2011: Tisha-1, since you're asking, here are two very good definitios of "endowment":
From the Wikipedia:
Endowment (in philosophy) refers to the innate capacities of an individual, group, or institution. An individual's "natural endowment" can b... (read in full...)
When a man sees more than one woman..?
Q. The man I am seeing as another women he sees. I have asked him if he has a gf or sees others and he tells me no. He has no idea I know. So when we are together we have a good time. Laugh cuddle tells me nice things. He acts as if we are in a ...
A. 8 March 2011: I also would recommend that you left him.... (read in full...)
When a man sees more than one woman..?
Q. The man I am seeing as another women he sees. I have asked him if he has a gf or sees others and he tells me no. He has no idea I know. So when we are together we have a good time. Laugh cuddle tells me nice things. He acts as if we are in a ...
A. 8 March 2011: I surmise that by "seeing" you mean "sleeping with her".
If I am right, well, Muhammad has reserved 72 virgins for every faithful martyr, so the answer has to be yes, men can "see" more than one woman at the time, and not develop feeling for any.... (read in full...)
Do I not do this because of the age difference or her being in a very emotional state or do I so it to help her regain her self confidence?
Q. Ok so here is my problem and i have no idea what to currently do at this point. I apologize in advance for how long this article is but I wanted people to understand the background first. I have worked in a small shop for about a year with a coup...
A. 8 March 2011: Well, do find another job.... (read in full...)
I am always horny
Q. I'm a 15 year old boy I get horny for most of the day thinking about having sex with girls. I can't help it, but i love thinking about sex and thinking about having it. I masturbate at least 4 times a day I need a girlfriend How can i try and st...
A. 8 March 2011: You can't. You're a normal guy.... (read in full...)
I look like a 'porn star' but I want to attract older man, because I am serious inside. Should I tone it down a notch?
Q. I have a question I am a 24year old woman that is attracted to older man mid thirties especially 36 37 year olds. I love the confort of a mature man. BUT i was wondering I am very self conscious and typically look like a always nice and dressed ...
A. 8 March 2011: The simple question of whether "older" men (wow, I'm older than that) will like your porn star look can be answered in a simple manner: YES. Everyone likes to have a partner who looks incredibly gorgeous and looks like she will make a dirty thing ... (read in full...)
Do guys say things to their girlfriends without thinking?
Q. i have been with my partner for a year and a half now, he suffers from severe anxiety so every now and then he likes to be alone as he gets frustrated being around the same person for too long. today in the car he told me, "sometimes i w...
A. 8 March 2011: Yes, but this one thing he's been thinking for a while. He's of two minds yet.... (read in full...)
Dating a momma's boy... Any advise?
Q. my boyfriend does not see the harm in talking to his very protective mother about all our problems and assuming that i will blindly follow what his mother thinks, he thinks my mom "is full of crap" when it comes to relationships. his parents are a ...
A. 8 March 2011: OK. So you're both in the same religion. That is not why the mother is rejecting you. The religion does not demand that YOU stay away from him.
So, yes, he is a momma's boy and he doesn't sound like he will stand up to his mother. In the long... (read in full...)
My exwife has trained my 9 year old daughter to hate my fiance.
Q. My 9 year old daughter has been trained by my ex wife to hate my fiancé. My daughter refuses to be near her so, when my kids are with me, my fiancé is not. To make matters worse, my daughter's therapist seems to be enabling the hate. This has been ...
A. 8 March 2011: If you suspect the therapist is encouraging this, why not change therapist?
I suppose talking to your ex-wife is futile.
In the end, if the girl's resentment is ill-founded, why would you leave your fiancée? Children are important, all r... (read in full...)
Is there any sure fire way of knowing if he's at all interested in me, besides asking him?
Q. I've known this guy for awhile now, and I've just recently been getting to know him better. He always smiles at me and says hi, we text each other once in awhile, we always seem to catch each other's eye in class and stuff, but is there any sure ...
A. 8 March 2011: There are sure ways to know if a guy is interested in you, but you haven't given us any. Think if you can find any others.... (read in full...)
Ex tells me not to become the town bicycle. Why does he care who I date?
Q. I've just split up with my partner. We have kids together. He is living in our other house. He is constantly asking me if I'm dating and asks me "please don't become the town bicycle". We've only been split up a month. It's not really his business ...
A. 8 March 2011: By the way, I like the colorful expression, "town bicycle". It makes me laugh because when I was a kid a guy in our neighborhood did have a bicycle, and it was called "the people's bicycle" because he would lend it to anyone.
Funny, colorful... (read in full...)
Ex tells me not to become the town bicycle. Why does he care who I date?
Q. I've just split up with my partner. We have kids together. He is living in our other house. He is constantly asking me if I'm dating and asks me "please don't become the town bicycle". We've only been split up a month. It's not really his business ...
A. 8 March 2011: I wouldn't use the word "care". I would use the word "worry".
He worries about who you date, and asks you not to become "the town bicycle" because he may still have feelings for you, and it hurts to think that the woman you love may be having t... (read in full...)
Do I not do this because of the age difference or her being in a very emotional state or do I so it to help her regain her self confidence?
Q. Ok so here is my problem and i have no idea what to currently do at this point. I apologize in advance for how long this article is but I wanted people to understand the background first. I have worked in a small shop for about a year with a coup...
A. 8 March 2011: She can regain her self confidence in a different way. Refuse to be her toy.
I wonder what people would say about me (steaming hot as I am) if I were to use a girl who could be my grand-daughter to "regain my confidence". Yeah, right.
At the ... (read in full...)
Do I join his crossdressing website?
Q. Just a quick question: my boyfriend is a crossdresser and I don't really have a problem with it, he doesn't do it that often in any case, besides it makes sex more fun. My problem is he is insisting to the point of guilting me, that I join his ...
A. 8 March 2011: You should not joing. Crossdressing is not for you.... (read in full...)
Dating a momma's boy... Any advise?
Q. my boyfriend does not see the harm in talking to his very protective mother about all our problems and assuming that i will blindly follow what his mother thinks, he thinks my mom "is full of crap" when it comes to relationships. his parents are a ...
A. 8 March 2011: I have a question before I give you my opinion. What church do you guys belong to?... (read in full...)
Would you ever want your ex to apologize to you after a breakup?
Q. would you ever want your ex to apologize to you after a breakup? me and my ex broke up about 2 months ago. and we haven't talked in about a 1 month now. so we had a really bad break up and she's not responding to anything im saying. so i deci...
A. 7 March 2011: I believe you should always apologize if you did something wrong. Just don't expect that the apology will give you back the girl. Apologize for apology's sake.... (read in full...)
A guy fell for the 'fake' me on Facebook
Q. 6 months ago in september, i created a fake facebook profile with a fake name and fake pictures of a girl. In september i met this guy and we started a relationship. Now he is very serious and wants me to visit him, we almost make 6 months, i need ...
A. 7 March 2011: Time to tell the truth.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend genuinely cares about me, but has issues with porn and looking at other women
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year. When we initially started dating he seemed flawless! After we began to get serious I started finding porn stashes in his room, and caught him staring at women. It really hurt me, to the extent of making ...
A. 7 March 2011: I know it is difficult, but your loved one will always have eyes, and those eyes will eventually be used to look at other people. There will always someone out there who will catch your loved one's eyes. There is nothing you can realistically do ... (read in full...)
How do people move on so quickly after experiencing a lost love?
Q. I have been healing for a long time from a severed relationship. I look at people around me who seem to just get up and start dating the next week. I look at Hollywood celebrities who after losing love just seem to move on to the next one so soon ...
A. 7 March 2011: Sometimes, if the relationship was really toxic and you couldn't wait to get out of it, you move on very fast, but you do not necessarily date other people.
I think you're mistaking "moving on" for "dating other people", or "appearing happy". ... (read in full...)
A thank you to everyone here who's helped me
Q. I've been on dearcupid for 6 years now. Over the years, I have asked many questions, and have given the best advice I could from expeirence. I'm recently engaged to the most wonderful man I could ever hope for, and find that I can talk to him about ...
A. 7 March 2011: I don't know if I was of any help, but I wish you the very best with your new love. Be happy!... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a man to say he does not want to hangout with his girlfriend cause he wants "me time"?
Q. Is it normal for a guy to say he does not want to hangout with his girlfriend cause he wants "me time"? I would think its okay but I guess I just wanted to question it just to make sure I feel okay about him not wanting to spend time today.Well ...
A. 4 March 2011: Yep, everyone needs time for himself.... (read in full...)
Does he really care? Am I being too insecure? His actions say he cares.
Q. This guy fell for me really hard, actually we fell for each other. But he found me. From day one I knew he wanted to be with me. It took me a little longer. I wasn't ready for a relationship because of what I had been through and certain circumst...
A. 4 March 2011: Once I read that opportunity is a bald lady that you need to catch by the hair. You're splitting hairs, dear, and I'm afraid you've almost lost the guy.
It is about time you do something if you don't want to end up alone.... (read in full...)
Marriage, security, trust, boredom vs. Lust, freedom, excitement?
Q. I Have been in a relationship for 5 years. We are total opposites. I am outgoing social butterfly he is a hermit. I love being the center of attention, talk non stop and love to laugh. He hates crowds, very quiet, and has few friends. Before him, I ...
A. 4 March 2011: My gut feeling is that you should not marry anyone if you have such second thoughts.
By the way, don't blame Mr. Predictable nor Mr. I-give-you-Butterflies. Maybe no one is to blame here. If Mr. Predictable just doesn't make you tick, then he ... (read in full...)
What am I doing wrong? Guys ignore me. Would going blonde help?
Q. I'm 15 and I've never had a boyfriend. It may sound annoying to some of you because there are bigger problems but I have a bunch of friends and I wouldn't say that I'm ugly but I'm not going to say I'm drop dead gorgeous either. I'm about 5'3" and...
A. 4 March 2011: You haven't blossomed in full, my dear. Just don't get desperate and wait a bit.... (read in full...)
Why do I miss someone who I was allowing to tear my life to bits?
Q. okay so i broke away from a girl a couple months ago who was a liar, entitled, promiscuous and bloody selfish. finally my life is getting back to normal. but then....why do i still miss her??? i mean, i know in my mind that i am conjuring up an ...
A. 3 March 2011: To be honest, man, s**t happens. For some reason everyone has missed or wanted to go back to someone who was just toxic.
When you have those urges, just remember that you deserve respect and you weren't getting it from her. Also, that you don'... (read in full...)
How do I resist the urge to look up filth on the internet?
Q. Hi. It's me again. I have a psychological problem or maybe just a bad habit. I keep looking up pornography on the internet (sometimes vision of drunk women being taken advantage of) and I feel guilty about it later on. I once spoke to an expert ...
A. 3 March 2011: You just don't look up any more porn and that does the trick. You can also escape to live in a desert hill in the Sinai, but I don't recommend that. Specially these days. And if you do that, you won't actually be making the decision you say... (read in full...)
I miss my home, I miss my mum, I miss being in the countryside, but there are commitments that I have to fulfill in London....
Q. Hi i just dont know what to do! I'm a 21 year old girl from the countryside in a small town, i live with my mum as my dad died when i was 4 and i have no brothers or sisters so me and my mum are very close. i grew up there until i left home to go to...
A. 3 March 2011: Such is life. You have to wait.... (read in full...)
Wife has banned her husband from talking to me!
Q. There is this married man who has a huge crush on me. Everybody knows it. He used to see me everyday and we would talk within our group of friends and sometimes on our own. I have been told by other friends that his wife did not like that he had a ...
A. 3 March 2011: You might be right about the wife not behaving as she ideally should, but I have the strong hunch that you are also interested in the husband. You know that the married man has a strong interest on you, enough for his wife to "ban" his seeing you, ... (read in full...)
How do I let her down nicely?
Q. I'm a 24 year old guy. I'm a bit shy, I'm not a lady's man or anything, but older women sometimes hit on me in an aggressive way. The thing that really bothers me is that sometimes it's as if they do it only because they know I'm shy. p / p / L...
A. 2 March 2011: Everyone has the right to an opinion, but I think that in this case you have to be very blunt and direct, and NOT go for the "I have a girlfriend" thing. I think you have to say you're not interested and that's it
If she didn't work where yo... (read in full...)
Guys: if he liked me, wouldn't he be making more of an effort?
Q. This guy has liked me for a year but i wasn't attracted to him back then until this year I told him recently that I like him too! and we both want to see how things go. When i text him he'll flirt back and be real sweet, but then sometimes h...
A. 2 March 2011: Yes, forget this being anything more than friends.... (read in full...)
Am I just his second choice?
Q. I reconnected with an old boyfriend I dated 25 years ago. When we reconnected at the time, he was dating someone from another country. He ended it when we started dating. We have been living together for 6 months now and I have been raising his 3 ...
A. 2 March 2011: Sorry, but what seems clear to me is that you shouldn't be with this man. He's been very dishonest with both women. I don't think he has any real feelings for any of you.... (read in full...)
My husand used to abuse me, but has stopped...Is this real change?
Q. Its been 7 months since my husband has been verbally or physically abusive to me or anyone else. He says he is changing,and has been on meds for the last 7 months. we have been together for almost 6 years. At the 4 1/2 yr mark is when he bacame ...
A. 2 March 2011: What kind of meds is he taking?... (read in full...)
Guys: if he liked me, wouldn't he be making more of an effort?
Q. This guy has liked me for a year but i wasn't attracted to him back then until this year I told him recently that I like him too! and we both want to see how things go. When i text him he'll flirt back and be real sweet, but then sometimes h...
A. 2 March 2011: I don't think he has given you enough for you to think he wants a friendship with benefits.
If he doesn't come your way, don't insist. He may have liked you a year ago, but now he may have other interests.... (read in full...)
How do I let her down nicely?
Q. I'm a 24 year old guy. I'm a bit shy, I'm not a lady's man or anything, but older women sometimes hit on me in an aggressive way. The thing that really bothers me is that sometimes it's as if they do it only because they know I'm shy. p / p / L...
A. 2 March 2011: Oh, you may omit "If you insist I will take this to the supervisor" for now. If she insists, then say it. And if she insists a third time, then do it.... (read in full...)
How do I let her down nicely?
Q. I'm a 24 year old guy. I'm a bit shy, I'm not a lady's man or anything, but older women sometimes hit on me in an aggressive way. The thing that really bothers me is that sometimes it's as if they do it only because they know I'm shy. p / p / L...
A. 2 March 2011: My first advice is, never flirt or have any sort of love relationship with people you work with. Hard lesson to learn, but even harder lesson to learn if it comes to you the hard way.
There is really not a nice way to do this because no one like... (read in full...)
Is grinding with other guys considered as cheating?
Q. I have a boyfriend and I have girls night out sometimes. So here's my question: Grinding/dancing with other guys considered as cheating? I mean, i wouldn't want my bf to be upset if i dance with other guys but my gfs tell me it's fine... what are ...
A. 1 March 2011: The next question is whether the relationship is good enough for the poster to even need to determine whether grinding is fine or not.... (read in full...)
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