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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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Am I needy or is my boyfriend a prick?
Q. I need help deciding whether my anger at my boyfriend is justified. I live in Florida. He lives in Texas. I go visit him about once a month. In November he and I agreed that next weekend, Feb. 11 and 12, I would visit. I bought the plane ticket...
A. 7 February 2011: Answer: You are right. Period.... (read in full...)
Will I be unable to satisfy women
Q. My Business is 6" long exactly and around 5 and a quarter around. I understand that this is safely within the average, but don't know how acceptable this is for women. A cursory Google search of penile size preference revealed a poll, http://w...
A. 28 January 2011: Well, my fellow capitalist (this I say because I have a business as well), don't worry. Your business won't grow any more anyways. But you can make it work and turn it into a magic wand! You can certainly improve your business skills, streamline ... (read in full...)
Being hit because he wants to freely perve
Q. Im 45 and my daughter to him is 9 months old Hi There, My Fiancee and I have been together for 3 years now. He cant stop perving.( he denys it ) I just want his attention, if he sees a hot girl on the tv ( most of the time he changes the chann...
A. 27 January 2011: Birdy said it all.... (read in full...)
Flat tire, 6mo preggo, and bf is more worried about his xbox game?
Q. So I got a flat tire on my way to work. I'm 6 months pregnant and have no cell phone and live in MN where it was a balmy 20*f out today. I was able to stop someone driving by to use their phone and call my dad. My dad came and helped me, the only ...
A. 27 January 2011: Maybe he thought you were OK and that was it about the tire. Yes, you're pregnant but your father helped. However, I do agree that you should look at the bigger picture.
Maybe he doesn't have a car, but, why would you call your father instead ... (read in full...)
Does my husband have the right to be upset about a one night stand when we were separated?
Q. I'm so confused and need some advice. Let me start out by saying I am married, I love my husband and I have no intention on leaving him. Basically my question right now is does my husband have the right to be mad and upset at me for having a one ...
A. 27 January 2011: I also believe he has no right to be upset, and agree with Cary and Maverick that yours is not a healthy relationship. Healthy for you, I mean.
He has you where he wants you. I think you'd be better off without him.... (read in full...)
How do you talk to men and build intimacy?
Q. So, my problem seems to be in how to talk to men. I don't know how to build intimacy. I always end up talking about politics or world issues, etc.... How do women talk to men, to make that connection? Any ideas/help would be appreciated....
A. 26 January 2011: Poster: If you follow the advice of Poster Anonymous, very likely you'll end up being intima with someone who will hate your entrails (or guts). I think that's pretty intimate.... (read in full...)
How do you talk to men and build intimacy?
Q. So, my problem seems to be in how to talk to men. I don't know how to build intimacy. I always end up talking about politics or world issues, etc.... How do women talk to men, to make that connection? Any ideas/help would be appreciated....
A. 26 January 2011: Quiet and perhaps Pretty Poster Anonymous, may I marry you? Forever!... (read in full...)
Boyfriend seen with another guy in the room, assumed the worst
Q. Please Help! My Boyfriend caught another guy in our room! Okay so this is what happened. I had a boyfriend who was living with me. Saturday morning he picked up his things and broke up with me because we argued about the father of my children...
A. 26 January 2011: I can believe it wasn't you who did the wrong thing. But I do believe your boyfriend when he says the other guy was feeling you up.
Erm, let's see: This family friend (whose capacity as such surely means he can't possibly take advantage of a dru... (read in full...)
Would it be better for everyone if I had an abortion?
Q. This is complicated but here goes... I got back together with my ex boyfriend about 4 months ago. He is going through a divorce. We have two kids and 5 and 9. I found out last week that I am pregnant. We have been keeping our relationship on the ...
A. 26 January 2011: I hope this is a real post, because I can't believe a woman in her thirties would leave the decision about an abortion to a 9 year old boy.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend of 4 years asks for a break and starts dating someone else!
Q. hi guys Ok so i was with this girl for 4years the minute i met her we clicked instantly and we were good frends for many months before getting into the relationship. We know eachother inside out and we are very close to each other. Just last y...
A. 25 January 2011: First things first: "break" was Ambiguous for "I'm breaking up with you". Sorry to say it this way, but it is clear she doesn't feel she is in a relationship with you anymore. When a woman loves a man, she doesn't get involved with another man. ... (read in full...)
I find guys attractive until they pull their pants down!
Q. I find guys attractive until they pull their pants down. And I find that I'm only attracted to guys with a rather feminine appearance. And I wouldn't mind kissing a guy (as long as he has no facial hair + he has feminine features). But male bits ...
A. 25 January 2011: Don't know. My guess is, if you find them attractive, then it's not that you don't like them. There's something about sex that turns you off.
I can relate, however, to the idea of not wanting to touch another guy's bits, or having sex with the... (read in full...)
Am I destned to be alone because I don't want kids? Feel like giving up.
Q. I am 37 have been single for several years now. I'm not stunning but am OK looking, intelligent and have an interesting job and own my flat. I have many female friends, all of whom say I would be a good catch. The problem is I don't want kids, ...
A. 25 January 2011: Before I forget, remember that some people don't want to have kids "for the time being". So, if you're 40, make sure you don't get involved with a 22 year old who says she doesn't want kids. She might change her mind.... (read in full...)
How do you talk to men and build intimacy?
Q. So, my problem seems to be in how to talk to men. I don't know how to build intimacy. I always end up talking about politics or world issues, etc.... How do women talk to men, to make that connection? Any ideas/help would be appreciated....
A. 25 January 2011: Passion is fine as long as people don't feel you'd cut their heads off in the event of disagreement ("Now that he's sleeping, I'll get even for his interesting, yet anti-intellectual comment about the rainforests. Here, now he's got only ... (read in full...)
Whats so bad about being vulnerable?
Q. Hello all! Sorry to be long winded but... A friend from college and I recently struck up a casual, long distance friendship with sexual undertones. We had hooked up briefly in college (this is about 5 years ago) after a long distance courtship of ...
A. 25 January 2011: You're not vulnerable. This man is a very creative liar, however. He found a way to sort of say he doesn't want any sex with you and you sort of didn't notice. I bet he is onto someone less "vulnerable".
If you give him a present, make sure it ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is nice to me when I give him money
Q. Dear Cupid My bf would be nice to me for few days if i lend him money. Then again he starts avoiding me. Will again be attentive when he needs money. I tried talking to him and he says he'll chnage but never did. He works and gets good pay ...
A. 25 January 2011: Give him a check and make sure it bounces :-).... (read in full...)
How do you talk to men and build intimacy?
Q. So, my problem seems to be in how to talk to men. I don't know how to build intimacy. I always end up talking about politics or world issues, etc.... How do women talk to men, to make that connection? Any ideas/help would be appreciated....
A. 25 January 2011: If the man finds you interesting, he will want to "connect" and "be intimate". Trust me.
Erm... how do you talk about world politics? As in "I wish all so-and-so bastards die, or as in "Gee, so much is at stake for the whole world in Pakistan... (read in full...)
Am I destned to be alone because I don't want kids? Feel like giving up.
Q. I am 37 have been single for several years now. I'm not stunning but am OK looking, intelligent and have an interesting job and own my flat. I have many female friends, all of whom say I would be a good catch. The problem is I don't want kids, ...
A. 25 January 2011: I think you may find someone. Either a woman who has already has her kids and doesn't want anymore, or a woman who can't or won't have any.
As a side note, I see that you're in England. I was under the impression that finding a woman who does... (read in full...)
Why did he give me an engagement ring but he can't marry me? We broke up because of this!
Q. I've been seening a wonderful man for over 3 years. We were engaged briefly last year but he just couldn't commit. I was very confused last Christmas because I decided to accept that we were never going to marry and told him so, he seemed really ...
A. 21 January 2011: I don't think I can improve on Birdy's advice.... (read in full...)
How do I make a straight boy fall in love with me?
Q. I love a boy very much i cant spend even a single minute without seeing him. Bt till now i haven't talk with him and haven't tried .bt i didn't think that he will interested in me bt i want that he should talk with me. I want some tips that i should ...
A. 16 January 2011: Beyond what Vintage64 (Hiya!) just said, most likely the boy in question will very much resent your approaching him. Sorry, those are the bare facts.... (read in full...)
She wants me to get my penis pierced!
Q. Hey everybody! I've been in relationship with this girl for 2 years now... She wants to spice things up so she got a tattoo and she asked me to get my dick pierced!! Is this too much? Is it gonna hurt? Should I do it? So many questions...
A. 16 January 2011: Ouch!
Ouch!
In addition to what everyone else has said, you have to think that this is a permanent thing. What if Ms. Pierce leaves you and Ms. "Why the Hell Are You Pierced" comes?... (read in full...)
Husband focuses all his attention on the baby now!
Q. Hi my husband and i have been married for three years we love each other very much we have a 7 months baby girl we were soo happy to have this baby , After giving birth i feel like my husband has changed. He is so happy about the baby that makes ...
A. 14 January 2011: I agree with the poster who said a child-centered marriage is an unhealthy thing, and, first and foremost, for the child. However, the one thing that changes here is that now there is another person in the equation, and sometimes that person will ... (read in full...)
Husband focuses all his attention on the baby now!
Q. Hi my husband and i have been married for three years we love each other very much we have a 7 months baby girl we were soo happy to have this baby , After giving birth i feel like my husband has changed. He is so happy about the baby that makes ...
A. 14 January 2011: Funny in a way. Many men complain that, once a child is born, all the wife's attention goes to the child. Some men resent that. But, for better or worse, that is the way it has to be. If I were asked to choose between my child and my woman, I ... (read in full...)
My 32 year old friend exclusively dates 18-22 year old girls...
Q. Dear Aunties: I have a close friend who I've known since university. He just turned 32 and he dates women who are much younger then him. Exclusively. They tend to be in the 18-22. Often he jokes around and pokes fun at himself for "liking...
A. 14 January 2011: Haven't been there but he obviously likes younger flesh. Yes, he will marry and settle and have children and a house and a horse and pets and even a Nintendo Wii, but that is going to happen when he's like 40 and feels he's had enough girls.... (read in full...)
Does it seem like my advisor is attracted to me or am I reading too much into this?
Q. Am i reading into this too much, or do you think my advisor is attracted to me ?. I am on a course that i have to go to every couple of weeks, as my advisor is helping me to look for a job. Every time I go there he says " bye sweetheart " when i'm ...
A. 14 January 2011: He might like you but then he might not act on it.
If you don't feel comfortable seeing him again, don't see him again. That should be the end of it, whether he meant nothing, or meant more.... (read in full...)
How do I come out as the bigger person?
Q. ok please can i get advice on what to do. i recently found out ive been played by a guy i thought was a genuine sincere friend. I thought he cared about me as i did him but discovered recently that hes used me and hes also a liar. hes lied over pr...
A. 14 January 2011: Sorry to hear this happened to you.
I believe you have to be the bigger person, but that very much means not consciously trying to be it. If you try hard to "look the bigger person", you'd only be acting, and what you really need is to "be" the... (read in full...)
Will he ever get rid of his ex-wife?
Q. hi i am a 45 year old female in a relationship with a man i have loved almost all my life we never got together untill last year both have 2 previous marragies behind us i just got divorced early last year , his came final recently it seams li...
A. 13 January 2011: Yes to all Dirtball said. Why don't you ask him why he doesn't get all his stuff and just break up with the other woman? Better be sure and better put this on the table.... (read in full...)
Re all women this hard to read?
Q. I know that women have since the beginning of time been hard for men to understand but I keep having a relationship with this girl who baffles me. I wanted to ask you, Wise Agony Aunts, if this is "normal" female behavior or whether it is unusual. ...
A. 13 January 2011: Women anonymous, who are you? Send me a message. I think we can have a nice discussion on this subject :-).... (read in full...)
Re all women this hard to read?
Q. I know that women have since the beginning of time been hard for men to understand but I keep having a relationship with this girl who baffles me. I wanted to ask you, Wise Agony Aunts, if this is "normal" female behavior or whether it is unusual. ...
A. 12 January 2011: I'm not sure if you are, were, or were trying to be in a relationship with this woman. Apparently you are not, but obviously you've been in contact for some time. But what you describe is just an example of someone trying to press as much as she ... (read in full...)
Have I just been fooled?
Q. So, here is the situation: I feel like a fool right now. I started to get closer to this girl more than one and a half years ago. She had a boyfriend back then, but I knew that she is unhappy and the guy just does not let her go, even after a few...
A. 12 January 2011: Don't take things too far. Just end this relationship because it is very clear that it will go nowhere.... (read in full...)
I have a long term boyfriend but I'm attracted to someone else
Q. I have a long term bf whom I love a lot. But I am attracted to a guy who I know from the gym. It is not something I'd act on, but what does this mean? ...
A. 12 January 2011: It means your eyes are working as they should.... (read in full...)
Do I choose the career I've always dreamed of over my fiance, or sacrifice everything for my relationship?
Q. I'm Indian. I'm doing my MBA from a prestigious Indian bschool. As a part of exchange program I'd come to Italy for 4 months. I met an Italian guy within 1 week of coming to Milan (who's also 13.5 years older than me...I'm 23, he's 36) and he says ...
A. 11 January 2011: Well, I thought you were married. If you're not, then that changes the whole thing. You still can make a decision on your own.
Cindy, how come you don't like Italians? Mascalzone!... (read in full...)
Do I choose the career I've always dreamed of over my fiance, or sacrifice everything for my relationship?
Q. I'm Indian. I'm doing my MBA from a prestigious Indian bschool. As a part of exchange program I'd come to Italy for 4 months. I met an Italian guy within 1 week of coming to Milan (who's also 13.5 years older than me...I'm 23, he's 36) and he says ...
A. 11 January 2011: There are different ways to interpret your difficult situation.
One can be that you are married to him and you should put the marriage first. You don't know if you will have a good job in India and you should also think that this is your husband ... (read in full...)
Obsessed with wife's prior sexual history
Q. I have been married for 25 years. We have a wonderful 11 year old son. My wife is a wonderful person. Everyone loves her except my family. My problem(s) stem mostly from my lack of self esteem. I have suffered from clinical depression and a...
A. 11 January 2011: I can see you have a problem with your wife sleeping with other men, and other men having larger penises, and all that. But it seems to me that your major problem is one of trust. You don't trust her because she was able to sleep with those guys ... (read in full...)
I want my ex-husband back but I'm pregnant with someone else's child!
Q. Where do I begin? I am the ex wife of a man who a so desperately yearn for after almost 3 yrs of separation. Problem is that after casually dating someone else for almost 2 yrs I am now 6 mons pregnant with his child.Could I have done something 4-5 ...
A. 11 January 2011: Don't ever blame the baby for this, but in my humble opinion your chances with your ex are very bad now. It is not every man who will take a woman he divorced when she is pregnant by another man.
Now, if the relationship with Second Guy doesn't ... (read in full...)
Should I listen to my horoscope?
Q. Should I listen to my horoscopes? I have been reading my horoscopes on Facebook for the past couple of weeks and they always seemed pretty true. I know they're always vague so they shouldn't be taken too seriously but I have noticed something ...
A. 11 January 2011: Nope. Horoscopes are lies.
When you start a relationship, see how the other person really is. Don't look at the stars for clues because the stars are just planets up there. Stand firmly on solid ground and use your mind and heart to determin... (read in full...)
He won't date me until I turn 18 and is now dating someone else!
Q. Okay, so this is really complicated(then again what relationship doesn't have it's complications?). Six months before I met this guy(I'm a gay guy, by the way), I had a dream about some guy of a significant age difference. We loved each other so ...
A. 11 January 2011: 34-year-old does not want to be accused of being a child molester. You're 17, so he won't touch you. And he is doing the right thing.
Now, I am sorry to say this, but I can't be sure he's as much into you as you are into him. Maybe because ... (read in full...)
Why is my mum like this?!
Q. help i really don't know what to do, i don't feel like i can let my mum be so controling all the time. Everyone in my house tip toes around her, she is self employed but never puts in effort to get work so we live off my dads wage. She has ruined e...
A. 11 January 2011: When you are as old as I am you tend to think of this as the natural outcome of a girl growing up and a mum trying to be sure she doesn't make mistakes. Mum gets a little / a lot controlling, and Daughter gets a little / a lot rebellious.
That ... (read in full...)
Do woman know when a guy likes them in a romantic way?
Q. My question today is pretty straightfoward: Many girls I have met tell me that, "Women know when a man likes them in a romantic way." I have asked, "Really? How do they know?" "We just know," is the simple reply. Is this true? If this is...
A. 11 January 2011: The women who told you that they "just know" when a man likes a woman are right. Women see through us and they know even if we try to hide it.
Notice that they didn't tell you how they know. But they sure do.
And, let me give you a piece of l... (read in full...)
I need to learn to look past a girl's appearance
Q. HELP...how can i train my mind not to have feelings for a girl just for her looks?...
A. 11 January 2011: Just wait. When a good-looking woman treats you like dirt, then you'll learn to see more than a woman's looks :-).... (read in full...)
Do I really like her for who she really is?
Q. right, ive been with a girl for nearly 6 months now. we're both 17, she's 4 months older than me, and we go to the same school though she is in the year above. The way we started going out is a bit strange really, she just started talking to me ...
A. 10 January 2011: I am in agreement with the first anonymous reader, Tohereknowswhen and Ashycole.
If you've ever have been with a woman who takes up all of your time, YET makes you horny, then you understand this young man's dilemma. One-emma, I would call it,... (read in full...)
Sex with 2 men in one night, now I'm pregnant!
Q. I had two sexual partners on the same night. I was at a party and one was my boyfriend but the other happened because I was drunk, now I'm pregnant. What do I do?...
A. 10 January 2011: First things first: whatever happens after this, you have to learn to think straight and not do stupid things. Sorry for the S-word, but I don't think there is a better way to describe what happened. I believe that you should face that basic ... (read in full...)
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