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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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Sex with 2 men in one night, now I'm pregnant!
Q. I had two sexual partners on the same night. I was at a party and one was my boyfriend but the other happened because I was drunk, now I'm pregnant. What do I do?...
A. 10 January 2011: First things first: whatever happens after this, you have to learn to think straight and not do stupid things. Sorry for the S-word, but I don't think there is a better way to describe what happened. I believe that you should face that basic ... (read in full...)
Separated from my wife, now she wants to come back but wants to have an open marriage?
Q. i have a really attractive wife who im seperated from,shes 27 im 33 we have recently become close again and have had sex twice,she wants me to move back in with her but wants the relationship to be open as she wants to see other men and has even ...
A. 10 January 2011: My humble opinion is that you should not agree to the open relationship. She feels you want her so badly that she can extort you. Don't let her. It's not fair. She does not respect you. Don't let her use you.
You should stand your ground. ... (read in full...)
My ex is trying to ruin what I have with my boyfriend!
Q. My ex and I broke up about 3 months ago, we were together for a year, the relationship was tough, we were on and off and finally we both got sick of it called it quits. I've moved on now, I know im not completely over it but i'm fine. He on the ...
A. 10 January 2011: Your former boyfriend is a bastard?
I do know what your former boyfriend is doing. He's badmouthing you. Talk to your current boyfriend about it.... (read in full...)
I wonder if actions speak louder than words?
Q. Lemme start off by saying I'm not trying to sound selfish or spoiled or anything alone those lines. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months and I love him very much. He says he loves me but sometimes I wonder if actions so speak louder than words. ...
A. 10 January 2011: Actions do speak louder than words, but not every action is important to gauge whether this man loves you or not. It seems to me that you have some specific actions in mind as proof of love. I don't think those are the actions you should be ... (read in full...)
Where do I stand with this man?
Q. I met a guy about a year ago. I liked him immediately and it was clear that there was a spark between us but he has a girlfriend. I see him out socially and we have mutual friends so I am regularly in his contact. A few weeks ago one of our mutua...
A. 7 January 2011: I am in agreement with Follicle up to this point:
Don't let him decide where you stand- YOU pick where you stand. All the BS aside lets look at the cold hard facts
1. He has a girlfriend
2. he is kissing you.
I would add
3. It doesn't... (read in full...)
A woman I slept with is claiming she's pregnant with my child
Q. A woman I slept with a while ago is claiming she is pregnant with my child, however I had not slept with her at least two months prior to her pregnancy. Obviously I have no reason to believe the baby is mine, however she seems to think it is. Now ...
A. 7 January 2011: It is my understanding that women suspect they are pregnant only when their menstruation is delayed for too long, and even then there can be other reasons for the delay.
If you had had sex with her two months before the moment she said she was ... (read in full...)
Husband is sharing a room with a friend during a business trip, feeling uncomfortable about it
Q. Hi, my husband is in another contry doing some bussines.. in this moment he is traveling with some friends that I met before. I talked with him today and asked about his friends, how they are doing...etc.. he told me the hotel right now is ver...
A. 7 January 2011: Miamine is pointing out a valid problem with the "affair theory". Now, I would like to point out a different thing: If he is self-employed, and needs to be careful with his money, why the h... didn't he anticipate the cost of the hotel room?... (read in full...)
Can a gorgeous woman NOT be selfish, entitled, or cynical about men?
Q. I know a woman who is beautiful. So beautiful that she gets noticed regularly and VIP treatment from people whenever she needs something. For example, when she damaged her fender she brought it to the auto body shop and they did not charge her ...
A. 6 January 2011: I can't resist the wish to make use of one of the elements in Cerberus' post. I hope he won't mind.
This girl knows she gets the treatment she gets because men are truly interested in her great looks :-). I know, for I am similarly interest... (read in full...)
Do men ever regret leaving a woman pregnant and alone?
Q. A question to all males out there or females in my situation. do men ever regret leaving a woman pregnant and alone? my ex boyfriend left me pregnant and alone, we live in different countries and he has never met his son (4 months old). when i was ...
A. 6 January 2011: Some men regret making a woman pregnant and never letting themselves be bothered about the kid. But, unfortunately, most men in that situation don't care much. And I think this is perhaps a polite way to say it.
The man in question seems wo... (read in full...)
Husband is sharing a room with a friend during a business trip, feeling uncomfortable about it
Q. Hi, my husband is in another contry doing some bussines.. in this moment he is traveling with some friends that I met before. I talked with him today and asked about his friends, how they are doing...etc.. he told me the hotel right now is ver...
A. 6 January 2011: We don't really know what is going on. We do know, however, that this is very unusual. Maybe there are some circumstances where sharing a room with her would be necessary, but I don't think this is the case. Apparently there are no cheaper hotels ... (read in full...)
I have a strong desire for my 18 year old cousin. What should I do?
Q. I'm 16 I have a cousin who is 18 . Many times when I'm by their house she would sometimes have on some boy shorts or somthing tight. Sometimes she catches me looking at her, but most of the time she doesn't say nothing and I have a huge attraction ...
A. 3 January 2011: I wonder if you are first cousins. Some people frown on this kind of relationships.
Beyond that, I guess everyone has a story about liking a cousin. It doesn't sound like she feels the same, however.... (read in full...)
What does his body language imply?
Q. Hey, I really like a guy and wanted to ask your opinion on body language. When I was upset he embraced me really tight and kept hugging me really close and was playing with my hair and stroking it. So what does his body language imply? is it fr...
A. 3 January 2011: I think this suggests romantic. Too close to be just friendly. But wait, and if there's more it will show.... (read in full...)
Merry Christmas, with an off-color queston!
Q. This is NOT a relationship question. At least not yet :-). I'm just on a playful mood at the time, taking a break from work, and one of those weird and funny thoughts that give you the goosebumps came to my mind. I want to wish everyone a Merry ...
A. 22 December 2010: Eureka!... (read in full...)
Merry Christmas, with an off-color queston!
Q. This is NOT a relationship question. At least not yet :-). I'm just on a playful mood at the time, taking a break from work, and one of those weird and funny thoughts that give you the goosebumps came to my mind. I want to wish everyone a Merry ...
A. 21 December 2010: Yes, you don't want to give anyone any STD.
I knew that a break from work would give me ideas. Maybe I'll stop working at all, from now on, and I'll open a sex-shop instead!... (read in full...)
What's this guy's deal?
Q. Hello. there is this guy at work who hangs on a lot of women. He is married, sometimes they are too. I recon he may be the touchy feely type, but it bothers me in general... I just think its inappropriate workplace behavior, yet others participate ...
A. 21 December 2010: Nope, this is not a case of sexual harassment because the poster isn't the target of it all. She is saying that he does that to all the other ladies in the office and they go along with it.
I don't know the policies in the US, but, can you real... (read in full...)
Can a man overlook he's ladies past and just want to love and protect her?
Q. Hi, guy's, i have a concern that I'm scared about and would really appreciate your feedback and words of wisdom. I'm a wonderful loving lady, but my past has been a nightmare. Recently I've met a beautiful man who I'm scared to love. He thinks I'm ...
A. 21 December 2010: A man who loves you won't see past abuse as something to blame on you. He will want to care for you and treat you like you were the most fragile thing on Earth.
I don't think you should lie to such a man, if you happen to find one. The difficul... (read in full...)
Why was he so quiet during oral sex?
Q. I hadn't seen my boyfriend of 11 months, in 6 days. When we met up, I thought I'd surprise him with a blow job, our first, and because I was on my heaviest day of period. I did not feel comfy with regular sex. It was amazing for me, and I hope for ...
A. 21 December 2010: He loved it?... (read in full...)
I don't know how to approach him about the problems we're having without him blowing up!
Q. I have a problem, my boyfriend and I have been dating a year. Lately, we have been having problems, most start off as little tiffs that escalate to huge blow outs. I'm tired of it and I know he is too. But, I don't know what to do about it or how to ...
A. 20 December 2010: When one of the members of any pair (couple, work, whatever) refuses to face problems and solve them, problems only accumulate and escalate. A person who really wanted things solved would see it this way and would deal with problems, but he ... (read in full...)
Yikes... Sex before marriage???
Q. hiii, im 20 years old in a committed 1 year relationship. whilst being a christian and going to church twice a sunday and leading as good a christian life as i can (i drink every so often, dont do drugs or smoke etc) i do however have sex with my...
A. 20 December 2010: I'm no Christian, but I don't see what you did wrong.
If God is love, then he has forgiven you. The clergy might not, but they shouldn't really matter. This is not exactly the first time a girl has sex with her boy before she marries him, so ... (read in full...)
"Now that all your money's gone and you have no job and no home I can't use you any more!!!!! "
Q. I'm really struggling with this, need help bad !!!!! im thinking of revenge all the time on my ex fiancee i feel im gonna end up in prison i kid you not !!!!! 16 months of my life she took off me, she got everything she asked for off me money, gifts ...
A. 20 December 2010: Sorry to hear this story. You have to realize, however, that this girl isn't worth your time, your money, or, even less, your future. A few years in prison would be the very worst result for you. Not only would she have taken your money and your ... (read in full...)
What do I do when my teacher flirts with me???
Q. I know this might sound like reeally really wrong, cuz it kinda is, but i kinda have this massive , lustful, crush for one of my teachers, and another reason why its wrong is that theres quite a big age gap, hes 29 n im 16.... He flirts with almost ...
A. 20 December 2010: You may see no problem with a 29 year old man flirting with his students, but most of the world does see the problem. So should he.
If I were you, I would not go for this guy.... (read in full...)
What's this guy's deal?
Q. Hello. there is this guy at work who hangs on a lot of women. He is married, sometimes they are too. I recon he may be the touchy feely type, but it bothers me in general... I just think its inappropriate workplace behavior, yet others participate ...
A. 20 December 2010: It's called "fishing expedition". Sometimes a willing fish will bite.... (read in full...)
My comatose husband may never wake up. Should I try and raise his baby alone or abort it?
Q. Hi, everybody i'm new here so here goes... about 2 months ago my husband and i got in a near fatal car accident. i am ok, just came out with a broken arm, but my husband suffered a serious concussion and he has been in a coma ever since. i'm so ...
A. 20 December 2010: Not to show any disregard for the difficult situation, but, in my corner of the world, this question wouldn't even be asked. We would fail to see the connection between the husband being in coma and the girl having an abortion.
Sorry if I come a... (read in full...)
Is there a possibility of us contracting STDs?
Q. Both my boyfriend and I are virgins. But both of us have progressed to oral sex. Can I just ask if there will still be a possibility of us contracting STDs if we have sex? Since both of us are virgins and even our individual sexual progressi...
A. 20 December 2010: If you're both 100% sterile and pyrogen free, I don't see how you could get a disease.
There's something called pregnancy, however, and that you should be careful about.... (read in full...)
What exactly is a FWB?
Q. If a guy just wants to be friends with benefits, does that mean that he only finds you physically attractive, or could he possibly care about you too and like your personality, but just not want a serious relationship ?. ...
A. 20 December 2010: It could be that:
A. He only finds you physically attractive, doesn't like your personality, but, hey, the sex can be good. If he doesn't like it, he can go away and become a friend, without the benefits.
B. He likes your personality, fin... (read in full...)
Could a relationship and sex with a much younger man be a good experience for me?
Q. I am 42 and I have only been attracting younger men lately. The youngest recently was 24. I told him that’s way too young for me (only 6 years older than my oldest son) but he keeps trying to tell me why it could work between us. Not buying it. He ...
A. 20 December 2010: As far as sex is concerned, yes, it could be a good idea. Make sure that you're sleeping with each other, instead of himself only taking advantage of you. Or, you taking advantage of him.
As to the relationship, it could be a good idea, or it co... (read in full...)
Did I deserve getting hurt?
Q. Before i write this i know some people are probably thinking i deserved what happened but here goes. I was out one night with some friends and a guy i know was there too. Me and him had a casual thing a while ago but that finished. I regr...
A. 20 December 2010: With all due respect to everyone, I think we should focus on helping the poster, not on whether Cerberus is right or wrong.
How can we help you, poster?... (read in full...)
It bothers me that he was once engaged to someone else!
Q. This is a fairly simple question. I've been with my boyfriend for about 5 months and I love him. He is older than me and 5 years ago he was engaged. They ended up not getting married because she wasn't ready to give up her life of partying, as he ...
A. 20 December 2010: This is not correct. He was living his life as he should. Now he has moved on.
See it this way: if you had been engaged five years ago, would you want him to say "Hey, I resent the fact that she was engaged?".... (read in full...)
Are there clues to find guys who prefer small boobs?
Q. How can I find guys who prefer small boobs over big boobs? I have small boobs, and I'm tired of always finding guys who prefer and like big boobs better, but who "don't mind" small ones. Yeah, I know I'm insecure, but I can't help it, and I always ...
A. 20 December 2010: No, there are no clues, unless he tells you so.... (read in full...)
Can remaining single have a negative impact on a person?
Q. If a person remains single, does anyone think it can a negative impact on said person mentally? Are there positive consequences to be had? Perhaps a deeper sense of self, or greater self sufficiency? What do you think? I am not talking about jumping ...
A. 20 December 2010: Nope. Why?... (read in full...)
Can remaining single have a negative impact on a person?
Q. If a person remains single, does anyone think it can a negative impact on said person mentally? Are there positive consequences to be had? Perhaps a deeper sense of self, or greater self sufficiency? What do you think? I am not talking about jumping ...
A. 19 December 2010: Meaning you're a good guy but kind of too good a guy. At 25, however, you shouldn't give up, if you want a woman, that is.... (read in full...)
Did I deserve getting hurt?
Q. Before i write this i know some people are probably thinking i deserved what happened but here goes. I was out one night with some friends and a guy i know was there too. Me and him had a casual thing a while ago but that finished. I regr...
A. 19 December 2010: Poster, one more thing. Please don't feel that this was your fault at all. IT WASN'T.
I think I need to repeat what I said before. "Technically speaking" it was not rape. But morally it sure was, and we should care about morals more than wha... (read in full...)
Did I make the right choice by asking him to leave?
Q. My boyfriend and i got into a huge fight about a week and a half ago. For the last month i have felt that he has been acting a bit strange. He seems a little distant, kind of quiet, sleeping alot. We do seem to be more irritated with each other ...
A. 19 December 2010: Poster, I think you're making a mistake here. The problem is not in the month without sex or his drinking until late. There is a background to this story, and that is the real problem. You two have been having problems for a while and they have ... (read in full...)
I think he's controlling and abusive. Should I marry him?
Q. I have met my boyfriend 10 years ago , but we really stayed together since 2005 in a long distance relationship.He is a really nice guy.Until on oct 11,2010,i went to Lisbon to stay with him for 3 weeks.In those 3 weeks,he constantly emotionally ...
A. 19 December 2010: I have noticed that we keep having unbelievable posts that disappear later.
If this is a real post, then I beg to disagree with Marcia above. This is not a case of cultural clash. The Portuguese are not that different from the Spaniard... (read in full...)
Can remaining single have a negative impact on a person?
Q. If a person remains single, does anyone think it can a negative impact on said person mentally? Are there positive consequences to be had? Perhaps a deeper sense of self, or greater self sufficiency? What do you think? I am not talking about jumping ...
A. 19 December 2010: There is a recognizedly small group of people who don't want to marry, and this they do because they honestly feel married life is not for them. Now, this phrase is often used to mean "I don't want the commitment", but I beg you to take due note ... (read in full...)
Did I deserve getting hurt?
Q. Before i write this i know some people are probably thinking i deserved what happened but here goes. I was out one night with some friends and a guy i know was there too. Me and him had a casual thing a while ago but that finished. I regr...
A. 19 December 2010: Nobody deserves getting hurt. I want to be very quick to tell you that the man abused you. It can't technically be considered rape, but, to me, morally it was. At the very least it was a hell of a lot of abuse.
You may have been drunk, but, fro... (read in full...)
My girl friend is sending naked pictures of herself to her ex. Is that cheating?
Q. So the girl I've been dating for 6 months now has been sending naked pictures to her ex, and having conversations with him while telling him that she loves him too, and that he should come over to have sex with her, all while telling me that she's ...
A. 18 December 2010: I don't want to be too hard on you, but I want to find a way to tell it like it is. This woman is simply not into you, and is using you. The fact that you found naked pictures of herself and texts from her to him are not a way does not merely ... (read in full...)
Sex with a younger guy? but not just any younger guy!
Q. My story is this: I am currently divorced from my second marriage. My first marriage was over in 2003. And I had a son and daughter and my husband had a son and daughter. So basically I had a step son and step daughter for a little ovr 6 yea...
A. 16 December 2010: In case you didn't notice, the young man just slept with his father's woman, and you helped.
I have the feeling you two had this sort of attraction when you were still married to his father. So this is some sort of follow-up, pending business... (read in full...)
I'm afraid giving her space means she's going to forget me
Q. If you have been a bad boyfriend but you know she still loves you and misses you do you give her space when you break up with her and realize you messed up? I went to counseling and all kinds of other stuff to change into a better person. I broke up ...
A. 14 December 2010: When a girl asks for "space", she means she doesn't want you around. Sorry. If I were you, I would pack my bags and leave.... (read in full...)
Should I trust my otherwise wonderful wife who is my best friend and soulmate or listen to the frightening inconsistencies about her moral character?
Q. I am married for about a year and a half to a wonderful woman who I fell head over heels for marrying after only 10 months. There are some concerns that have surfaced that I really need advice about TRUST issues. Shortly after we got together...
A. 13 December 2010: From what you tell us, your wife has a high sex drive and was prone to jumping fences and disregarding boundaries. It seems she does not exactly object to being "the other woman". And she seems to run into problems every so often. So, yes, if I ... (read in full...)
Are there a lot of people who are open-minded where sex is concerned?
Q. I was just wondering.. are there lots of people who are quite open-minded when it comes to sex? I've only had one boyfriend before, we were together for a few months but never had sex (I wanted to wait before I lost my virginity to him but we en...
A. 13 December 2010: Define "open minded".... (read in full...)
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