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i love giving persons advice especially in relationship,friendship and sex problems.I am melisha but i prefer to be call melly.I love honest and trustworthy persons.

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My ex that abused me is moving and its freaking me out because I don't know where he's moving to

Q.   Am I over reacting? I don't want to go to much into things but my ex partner abused me. We've been separated a few years now. He still contacts me from time to time. Anyway he contacted me to tell me he's selling up and moving. I thought...

A.   4 July 2014: There's two ways to look at this 1) Let him move on with his life and hope you never see him again OR 2) Hire an investigator and you can find out where he is moving to and that way you can avoid him. ... (read in full...)

I love my boyfriend but I am so bored, what can I do to spice up my relationship?

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for 18 months and i know that's not exactly 10 years but i feel really bored. We barely go out because neither of us have that much money, our intimate time is dull and he gets all the pleasure (not selfishly, just to the ...

A.   20 May 2013: Well you do not really need to have lots of money to spice up your relationship.You can simply buy some candles and have a romantic dinner right at home with food you prepared or you two can go to a near by park and have a romantic picnic.For the ... (read in full...)

Advice needed... Is my brother for real???

Q.   So my brother has been a drug user for 8 years. He also does pot/weed. He has been cheating on his wife since they were dating but his wife still married him. His wife gorges on alcohol and is frequent at bars. They have a 4 year old daughter. M...

A.   3 November 2012: I totally agree with Honeypie This has nothing to do with you. It's their life, live yours and let them live theirs! ... (read in full...)

I'm scard to be kissed!

Q.   I am dateing a guy a few weeks now and he asked me if he can kiss me it was on mxit he asked me if he can kiss me and I said "yea sure I don't mind" then the saturday he visited me and tried to kiss me I turned my head so he can't kiss me cause I'm ...

A.   10 June 2012: Well the first and obvious question would be,Why you don't want to be kissed? Okay,now I assume you have the answer in mind.Then,you should tell him your mixed feelings about kissing.It's not right to keep making up excuses to avoid being kissed by ... (read in full...)

My brother told me that he hated me

Q.   I've just had a terrible fight with my 17 year old brother. I am 19. I've always helped him out, and have really been nothing but nice to him. He treats me like crap, and today he finally told me he hated me. I am sure he meant it, and I actually ...

A.   6 June 2012: Well the only obvious answer to your question would be that your brother is a teenager and is just going through normal teenage patterns.This includes lashing out at family members.I don't think your brother truly hates you,he was just angry in the ... (read in full...)

Having Sex for the First Time

Q.   Having sex for the first time is daunting for anyone whether you've been with the person for 6 months or 6 years. It can be something that you love or hate but you will remember it for the rest of your life. First, sweep all expectations aside. M...

A.   6 June 2012: Just reading this article,brings back memory of my first time.I remember clearly it was with a man around 6 years older than me and I was 16 at that time.I figured that having sex with an older guy would not put me in a position to really worry ... (read in full...)

The V-Card for Teens

Q.   The V-Card, innocent, untouched, whatever you want to call it. Virginity is something that affects women (and men!) from the ages of 13 onwards. Being a virgin means different things to different people. For most it means not having sex before. ...

A.   6 June 2012: This article was great and very informative. In my opinion as a 16 year old teen girl,I think that persons should lose their virginity at whatever age they feel most comfortable with. Meaning that,the individual should know the consequences of their ... (read in full...)

My hormones are raging like a wildfire!

Q.   My hormones are raging like a wildfire!!!I'm only 15 and why am i feeling this way..I'm so horny all the time and can't even stop from being that way. I feel like i need sex every freaking day. Does that make me a sex addict?...

A.   19 May 2012: No it's quiet normal,it's just a part of growing up and being a teenager.Just if you do decide to have sex,please remain safe and use protection to avoid STDS and unwanted pregnancy.... (read in full...)

Boyfriend said I was really tight, will this be a problem the first time we have sex?

Q.   Hi, I'm 18 and me and my boyfriend who is 19 have been dating for about 7 months. We have talked it over and feel that we are both ready for sex. I'm a virgin while my bf is not so we thought starting with oral sex etc would ease me into it and ...

A.   10 April 2011: Well hun,once you are relax and wet enough down there you should not have a problem.And maybe you should consider your boyfriend to be gentle on your very first time having sex. If you are still worrying about not being wet enough you can alwa... (read in full...)

My boyfriend and his sons always pick on my mentally handicapped son

Q.   I have a boy friend whom has 2 boys.. I have 3 young children my self... My boyfriend hates my oldest son and him and his boys always yells at my son and picks on him cause hes mentally hanidcap... What do i do ? Do i leave my boyfriend?...

A.   7 April 2011: First you need to confront your husband about this situation,if he and his boys does not stop picking on your child.The best thing to do is leave him.Your children or you do not deserve that type of ill-treatment. goodluck I hope this helped. ... (read in full...)

I'm 15 and my boyfriend has jealousy, drinking, anger management, trust issues, and more...

Q.   im 15 and me and my bf have only been dating 2 months, but we both fell inlove realy fast, but he gets jelous so easy i cant even mention another guys name without him getting realy angry at me!!! he has anger management issues and i realy try to ...

A.   17 July 2010: Girl you need to dump this dude,its so obvious that he is not good enough for you.You a young lady you should not even be hanging out with persons that are bad influence to you.Seriously what kind of friends do he have,they actually try and get him ... (read in full...)

My guy is afraid of hurting unborn baby so no sex!

Q.   hi all, I'm 25 weeks pregnant and have a little problem. my partner does not want to have sex with me. he says he's frightened of hurting our baby. I've shown him the books that say its okay and even brought it up with my midwife who has said sex...

A.   17 July 2010: Both of you should take a class which gives tips on how to make love whiles you are preganant:meaning like different positions etc There is even a special pillow used during sex whiles you are pregnant,both of you'll should try these tips... (read in full...)

Help! I hurt the guys I date!

Q.   Well i have a problem i usually hurt guys when i date them.But i have to admit some guys in my past have hurt me to and i have never fully recover from some heartbreaks.At times i look for the guy`s flaws and not good things about them.I think ...

A.   12 June 2010: thanks you guys for the great tips and advice... (read in full...)

Friends with benfits? Yes or no?

Q.   Hey everybody, i was wondering what your opioion on friends with benfits is. I have a male friend to who i am sexually attracted to, he shares these feeling as well. We want to start a friend with benfits type of relationship that includes ...

A.   10 June 2010: I have been in a friends with benefit relationship for a while and i ended up being hurt at the end of it all.If he is not ready to settle down with you alone you should not get involve with him in any romantic way.... (read in full...)

Should I stay over at his house? He says all he wants to do is cuddle.....

Q.   I have been in a relationship with my bf for a month now and he wants me to go to his room and stay over for a night. He said he only wants to cuddle me to bed and won't do anything. Should I agree with him?...

A.   1 April 2010: He totally wants sex,if his a good guy well to bad,why can`t he cuddle on the couch instead!If you`ll cuddle on a bed,this may lead to some other things like maybe sex!... (read in full...)

After the hymen is torn by girls masturbating or she loses her virginity, do her periods get heavier?

Q.   After the hymen is torn by girls masturbating or she loses her virginity, do her periods get heavier? If then why? I really want to know,because i am curious,i have ask some of my best friends and they all don`t know! Thanks in advance aunts =...

A.   30 March 2010: thanks you guys,I understand more about this particular situation now!! thanks again :)... (read in full...)

I think my boyfriend raped me. I'd say 'no' but he wouldn't listen!

Q.   I was with my boyfriend (21) for 2 and a half years. Im 22. We broke up 8 months ago as it was a terrible emotionally abusive relationship. He was so so nasty that I just cracked and eventually developed some type of anxiety. He cheated on me, ...

A.   30 March 2010: Yes girl its classify as rape,i have heard if you in a relationship and your spouse force you to have sex well its known as date rape.But you should really report him and get this man off the streets!... (read in full...)

I don't understand many things about sex yet.

Q.   im 13 and i dont understand many things about sex yet. i havent had the talk yet and i really dont wanna have it. i would rather ask on the internet so i am. 1st question is it normal for someone my age to masturbate? because i do all the tim...

A.   7 March 2010: I understand,i have been there,i will try to answer the questions to the best of my ability.I am 14 soon to b 15.And it is normal for people around your age to masturbate,i think you can use a vibrator,you can get these anywhere if you are of a ... (read in full...)

Is something going on or am I over reacting?

Q.   Im feeling a bit worried now,its going to be 4 months my bf and i are together,and like always in the beginning of the relationship,he texts me everyday but now he barely text me and when were are together,i cant do nothing much with him,he always ...

A.   7 March 2010: everything is going well now,actually the day after i post this question we talked!Today is actually our 4 months anniversary and we spend our special day together!... (read in full...)

Is something going on or am I over reacting?

Q.   Im feeling a bit worried now,its going to be 4 months my bf and i are together,and like always in the beginning of the relationship,he texts me everyday but now he barely text me and when were are together,i cant do nothing much with him,he always ...

A.   28 February 2010: thanks you guys ill try to take you`ll advice on this sitution. much love melly... (read in full...)

15 and pregnant to my adopted cousin

Q.   Well When i Was 14, i Was havin trouble with my mum and eventually left home and went to stay with my uncle miles away...anyways my uncle had an adopted son which was 15 at that moment (lets just call him bob) and was originate from colombia he ...

A.   27 February 2010: thats great!! ... (read in full...)

15 and pregnant to my adopted cousin

Q.   Well When i Was 14, i Was havin trouble with my mum and eventually left home and went to stay with my uncle miles away...anyways my uncle had an adopted son which was 15 at that moment (lets just call him bob) and was originate from colombia he ...

A.   21 February 2010: Honey,one way or another he will find out,so it would be mature enough if you and bob get your uncle in a room and easily explain what is going on.It would be better if you tell him than he find out for his self cause this might just get as bad as ... (read in full...)

Teen boyfriend troubles...

Q.   I know this guy, and i have been out with him like 3 times. He was my first boyfriend, and I've had a thing for him ever since. Then one day we met up for a pull, do not know why, and then a couple of weeks later he says this 'we are technically ...

A.   14 February 2010: He`s totally using you,i was in a similar sitution as you,well actually this guy was my best friend,and we started getting more feelings for eachother,and we started going out secretly,and he had other girls whiles we were going out and in the end ... (read in full...)


Q.   Hey all RAINORFIRE here just want to say HAPPY HOLIDAYS Wishing everyone the best in the up coming new year, Spend some quality time with the ones that are important in your life live to the fullest and make the best of life. This is t...

A.   30 December 2009: Thanks and you too :)... (read in full...)

How can I save my friends and keep these boys away from them?

Q.   hello i have a problem well i have two best friends and they are also best friends too!!! But recently some boys are coming between their friendship,the two boys are using one of my friends,to get to her virginity and i found out and i told her ...

A.   30 December 2009: Thank you guys very much,it maybe one of the hardness things i might to but ill try to stay out and let them make their own choice... (read in full...)

I am foxy and gorgeous, and hot for my nerdy cousin

Q.   alright so im a pretty gorgeous 19 year old 5 foot three 105 pound outgoing hilarious fun foxy lady haha basically iv never in my life have had an issue in dateing. Guys love me i get them wrapped round my little finger haha :) my issue is i total...

A.   5 December 2009: hello girl friend you to full of your self get a hold of your self a bit okay like alot and you should totally not date your cousin this is like incest! go back and date your hot boyfriends and this time try and reach [1000x10]i hope ... (read in full...)

How can I get back my virginity?

Q.   i lost my virginity with my wex bf... i need to get back my lost virginity ...

A.   5 December 2009: you cant get back your virginity do you even know what losing your virginity means? it means you already have sex meaning like "sexual intercourse".If you already have sex you not a virgin again and you can replace your hymen but mentally you know... (read in full...)

In love with an exchange student and she is leaving next week

Q.   Basically....I'm in love, well I am in love", with this girl called Kate(not actual name), shes amazing! The most beautiful beautiful girl iv'e ever laid eyes on. Shes funny and very smart, and i'm a a sucker for an accent yeah, I forgot to menti...

A.   31 August 2009: you should tell her how you really feel,in this letter,and keeping in touch with her via the internet is a very good idea!... (read in full...)

I want to have sex but don't want to get pregnant

Q.   well im in love with my boyfriend verry much and he lives in texas he is comming down to see me next summer and we planed on making love but im afraid i have done it b4 but now i can get pregnant and i realy want to with him but i dont know what to ...

A.   23 August 2009: you can use a condom or go on the pill,or you can use both,you are more protected if you use both then! ... (read in full...)

What makes a girl love someone despite there being lots of better men out there?

Q.   what makes a girl love someone though there are tons of better men.better in terms of physic, money and work. dont you think she will leave him if she realises all he can offer her is love?i am a student and i think it might happen to girl is ...

A.   21 August 2009: love is not all about money and etc etc what makes someone stays with you is that you treat them right,you dont cheat,dont lie,you`ll both trust eachother when you`ll are away from eachother,not only being their for eachother as partners but also... (read in full...)

How much money should I give my friend as a wedding gift?

Q.   I was wondering how much money to give to a friend/colleague for her wedding. I have known her for nearly 2 years and have been invited to her wedding for the whole day. She struggles with money and said she prefers cash to vouchers which i...

A.   21 August 2009: you should totally go with £60 it could help her in these hard times. and to me if doesnt matter how much money you give her what matters is you are their with her to share the most beautiful time in her life.... (read in full...)

Is being fingered considered as losing your virginity?

Q.   is being fingered considered losing virgin? please answr me,i really need the answer...

A.   21 August 2009: NO! losing your virginity means,like when you have sex for the first time! when a penis goes inside your vagina,thats losing your virginity.... (read in full...)

He kisses weird and I don't know how to go about it

Q.   okay well i started dating this guy and its the best thing that ever happened to me. But i have a problem. when we kiss and he goes to make out with me, i can't think straight! and plus he makes out so different than the other guys i have made ...

A.   21 August 2009: you should watch some kissing vids on youtube first. then,when you are comfortable and understand the here is the link for the vid on youtube: or if you cant get the vid i send you here is the n... (read in full...)

During our split we dated other people. I got pregnant but had an abortion, and since then he always brings it up!! What can I do?

Q.   When I was 13 years old I met this Special someone, we both feel in love the minute we saw each other. And now we are all grown up ages 19 and 20 and we just got married this year. But there is a big problem... Last year we broke up for about 6 ...

A.   21 August 2009: you need to tell him accept that you made a mistake and you will never do it again.and it makes you feel bad everytime we are into it! tell him how he makes you feels,explain ur self in a positive way,no need to raise your voice it might just get it ... (read in full...)

I feel like I'm turning lesbian!

Q.   okay im 13 and i feel like im turning lesbian i have a boy friend but i really really want a girl friend ive been feeling this way for a very long time and i love kissing girls so please help me...

A.   20 August 2009: maybe you are bisexual. because maybe you still love your boyfriend.And you just need a gf to get around things.!... (read in full...)

We've been going out for 6 months, is it to early to be in love?

Q.   Ok well basically I am in love with this girl who is also my age, I have been in love with her for around 3 months going out for 6 months. I was just wondering is it to early to be in love? I personally think i have matured enough to unders...

A.   20 August 2009: you seems pretty in love. this reminds me of myself i knew this guy well 2 years [bff]till then we move on into a wonderful relationship and from the time we told eachother how much we mean to eachother i have been in love sences... (read in full...)

Why does he stare me in the eyes?

Q.   when im with my boyfriend alone, he would lay down with his head in my lap and stare at me in the eyes. how does he feel when he does this and why does he do it?...

A.   20 August 2009: when someone looks you in the eyes it sometimes means they trust you or feel comfortable when around you.and you should be happy when a guy looks you in the eyes.its quiet romantic.... (read in full...)

How can I convince her to forgive me?

Q.   hi all, got an issue , if you could drop in a suggestion. I have broken the trust of a close one a close friend.for namesake its friendship , but i love her and its not the other way round. she was into a relationship but had broken up and ...

A.   20 August 2009: i think you should go over to her house and probably ask her to come in and apologize to her.And tell her you are truely sorry.And i dont think proposing to her in the same day would help because she needs time to think and mend,on both of the ... (read in full...)

I've dated him for 3 days and I think I'm in love!

Q.   i think i am in love... i've dated him for 3 days, and known him for 3 days. so i dont think i am. but i CANNOT stop thinking about him!! when i am with him its like nobody else is there. and i just feel really happy. i want to talk about him ...

A.   20 August 2009: this sounds like your brain is telling you,you are in love really. but it sounds like to me, you are obbessed with him! if you continue like this he might just dump you or he might just ask you to give him a little space to breathe. and maybe this ... (read in full...)

My friend and I both like the same guy and he likes me, not her! Should I go out with him?

Q.   My best friend likes this guy, but he likes me, not her. I like him too. So should I go out with him, or not? My best friend says I can, but I'm not sure......

A.   18 August 2009: actually,i had the same problem as you,and i think if your friend is really in deed a good one she would support you and dont get to jealous.And you should really date the boy.... (read in full...)

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