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*zay123
writes:ive been dating this amazing girl for about 1 yr and 5months. shes amazing and i love her to death. she is my other half. we have been through absolute hell together, from the rumors and drama to the pointless arguements. were together forever. lately my insecurities have escalated and its making her crazy. We recently deleted our facebooks to avoid the drama of the online internet. About 3 weeks later i discover she made another account and was talking to other people etc behind my back. When i asked her if there is anything you want to tell me or are hiding from meshe said no. i brought up facebook and she said her best friend made it for her. i knew it was bs because she was friends with all the people from her school on there and talking to them etc. i could care less about all that but for the fact she did it behind my back doesnt help my insecurities anymore. it makes me think she is doing something else behind my back or not telling the truth etc. basically not being intergrit. we love eachother to death and couldnt be happier but my insecurities are worse than they were now. i need some ideas tips etc.. anything that might help in my situation. we have an open relationship etc and everything was great until i saw she re created a new facebook behind my back, and denied having one.. i dont care about the silly facebook its just hard to cope with and fix my insecurities/work on them especially after this.. Please help. anyone that has had similar experiences please respond and let me know how you dealt with the situation and how to overcome insecurities.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (28 September 2009):
 Well , well....Young man,Sadly, social sites such as Facebook and Myspace are RELATIONSHIP KILLERS!If there is anything wrong in a relationship, being on a social site is sure to bring it out into the open. Realize that people on those sites make up incredible stories about how wonderful they are,and you can bet your bottom dollar that if your GF is doing this behind your back, that you can expect a ton of drama.Look at it this way....I am going to repost something called "The Rule of Threes" when it comes to liars. I think you better take a look at it. Of course, if you like all the drama that goes with those places,and the anxiety, continue as you were. But I don't seriously think you would have arrived here if you didn't think something was wrong.Here it is...read it, and think real hard about thisBest of luck!When considering a relationship of any kind, practice the Rule of Threes regarding the claims and promises a person makes, and the responsibilities he or she has. One lie, one broken promise or a single neglected responsibiltiy may be a misunderstanding instead. Two may involve a serious mistake. But three lies says you're dealing with a liar, and deceit is the linchipin of conscienceless behavior. Cut your losses and get out as soon as you can. Leaving, though it may be hard, will be easier now than later, and less costly. Do not give your money, your work, your secrets or your affection to a three-timer. Your valuable gifts will be wasted.
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