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writes:I met this guy and we hit it off from the begining. His marriage was broken down a few years ago and he has not been dating anyone since. We are close and I care for him.After talking for months, he said last Wednesday that he liked me and I confessed that I like him too. I only waited until now to tell him because he opened up first. All the while I was worried about telling my feelings because I did not want to be the "rebound girl". Then on Thursday he told me he was not looking for a relationship. That was just 1 day after he said he likes me. I don't know what happened and now very confused and hope somebody can share some light with me. Reply to this Question
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reader, missconfuzed +, writes (2 May 2009):
missconfuzed is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the response. I just wasn't sure if he is playing with my feelings. It's really okay if the tortoise wants to go back to his shell - I don't want him to be uncomfortable at all and I would prefer that he takes his time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): rebound girl after a few years? i though it was something you had to do quite soon afterwards?
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Yes i understand - right now he has got over all the hurt \harm that the split up did him and he is in a good place. He doesn't want to risk that and possibly go through that pain again, so he hides from it.
He tells you he likes you, because he does, but not enough to pull this tortoise from his shell.
My view is you need to coax him gently and reassuring him at all stages....
Hugs, Star.x.
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