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writes: Dear AuntsMy husband who is 49 had been having an affair with a younger women(28 years old)he said he was going though a mid life crises i belived him and gave him another chance,he is no longer seeing this women but i have found out that this was not the first time he has cheated when i confronted him he confessed all.He wants to stay in our marriage and says he will never betray me again.How can i get over this and belive that he wont cheat again.My gut feeling tells me he will never be satisfied with what he has and i cant help but feel that because he was caught in time he will do it again when he thinks things have settled down.Do you think he is what some call a serial cheater?I really like some advice do i go with my gut feeling or try to work it out and hope he can stay faithful as i can not go though the hurt and pain that i have felt will it ever go away will i ever trust again?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2009): Sounds like a sex addicton or another form of love addiction. Look up these words on net (very good infomration there) and it will eduate you on what might be going on.
My exgirlfriend cheated on me as well (she suffered from Borderline Persoanlity Disorder and was naricisstic).
I would 1) educate yourself on what you have in him; 2) what you are willing to endure; and 3) find out if he has REAL remorse... and is willing to seek help. It will only work if he has remorse and wants to get better; it may be that he doesn't .... Good luck!!!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (27 April 2009):
You have to go with your gut.
It's fine saying he'll never do it again, but the damage is already done.
I personally don't think I would be able to get over the hurt of what he had done, so it would be pointless staying with him.
If you think you can forgive him then have a go at rebuilding the trust. But if he steps out of line again the kick him out and change the locks.
If you don't think you can forgive him though then you'll make him miserable and he'll just use that as an excuse to run into the arms of another woman again.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2009): do u love him
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