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anonymous
writes:I feel like my boyfriend is blaming me for becoming pregnant but as much as i should have asked him to put a condom on, he didnt think to either. I'm mature about it and i understand that we were both absolute imbociles and we BOTH made the mistake of not using the condoms. But i feel like hes blaming me for not being on the pill. I told him that i tried out the pill before and it made me unbelievably ill, i was throwing up for days and couldnt eat before i decided enough was enough and id just use condoms. I havent ever been in a REAL relationship like this one, ive only ever had short ones where using condoms hasnt been a big deal because it wasnt for long or it wasnt an every day thing. But now cos were living together and having sex, sometimes 3/4 times a day its important i get some other kind of contraceptive but until i got round to doing that we should have used the condoms! But we didnt and now hes telling his mum i said id get the pill and didnt and now im pregnant. Which makes me seem like a total psycho!! Arghh
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reader, rocknroll  +, writes (25 May 2009):
He needs to be just as responsible as you. If you both fail to excercise precuations, then you both will have to live with the results.
Don't let him shrug this on your shoulders honey!
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reader, Rogerramjet  +, writes (25 May 2009):
Eh, speaking as someone who was in a similar situation, he's just scared right no. Scared and...well, no one likes to be that "you should have used protection" guy...
It's tough having to go to your family and friends and say "Yeah....uh, she's pregnant." Because he's gonna get a ton of flak for not using protection.
Some people are man enough to absorb that flak. It sounds like he just isn't at that point right now. That's just fear. In alot of ways i think it's a GOOD thing to see that fear, because he understands the gravity of what has happened.
He'll come around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe's 28 years old, he obviously knows what happens when a man and woman have unprotected sex so i dont understand why hes reacting as if this never was going to happen! Sometimes he sees the error of his ways and says how sorry he is and how hes gonna chop his dick off lol but other times he just seems to want to blame me and its really getting to me cos its both our faults!
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