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writes:it seems like everybody nowadays loves alcohol. i've never consumed it. can you tell me why it is EXTREMELY POPULAR? also, will drinking alcohol help me socially b/c i'm one of those shy, insecure people and i was wondering if having a drink or two will make me less shy and insecure? now in less than 6 months it will be legal for me to drink and i would like to find out firsthand what all the fuss is about, but until then... btw if any of you do consume alcohol, what is your favorite?
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reader, happytobe +, writes (4 June 2009):
 I used to consume alcohol but have decided to stop drinking. It was "fun" I guess. I think it will make you less shy for the time being, but probably not in a good way. And it certainly won't make you yourself less shy as a person. From my experiences people are almost always regretting things they did while they were drinking. It's your birthday! You're legal to drink! Try it, party. But be very careful. Be sure to surround yourself with responsible drinkers for your first few times drinking, if you choose to continue it.
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reader, 25sweetnsingle  +, writes (30 May 2009):
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I agree - alcohol tastes foul. Alcopops taste ok for the first half a bottle and then it jsut becomes really sour. Wine is the worst!!! I tried drinking when i was younger but i figured - what was the point - if you dont like it - dont drink it !! Many people carry on though just because others do it and i think thats stupid !!
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reader, heartbroken20 +, writes (30 May 2009):
I have to agree and disagree with some of the people who posted before. It's VERY true that you don't need alcohol, and it can certainly do more harm than good. You NEED to understand that it is not an answer to your problems; however, I don't think drinking alcohol socially (as long as it's not too often) is a bad thing.I've personally found that drinking can enhance my mood. I've gone out to 'party' with friends after a horrible break-up, only to find myself sobbing and feeling worthless, and then texting my ex begging for him to take me back. Emotive drinking = very bad.If I'm going out with at least a few people I feel comfortable with, and have a few drinks, then it can be a lot of fun. I'm also a shy person, and I tend to get more talkative when I drink. I also laugh a lot and just generally enjoy myself.My advice is -- do not drink to meet people or to 'bury' your feelings. Do not drink too often. Do not drink socially unless you're with reliable friends. Drink responsibly, and drink to have fun. And don't be surprised if you wake up with a horrendous hang-over. :(I'm really girly when it comes to alcohol consumption. I don't like the taste of it -- or beer. I like sweet, fruity drinks, like Sangria, and I like Kahlua in fruit smoothies or coffee. That's just me, though.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (30 May 2009):
 alcohol makes people more uninhibited BECAUSE it makes them feel good and literally makes the judgement part of the brain slowly shut down as though its becoming asleep, it makes people STUPID and frankly quite unattractive.
there is nothing wrong with being shy-its your personality, and funny enough you bad about your subtly yet you live in america ( a country that praises and rewards brash egocentric childish behaviour {on the tv that is} that other parts of the world find quite repulsive-japan/sweden anyone?).
being shy is fine,,, drinking is fun but doesn't solve ANY problems and is highly addictive like cocaine,,, you dont need a drug to change ,just relax and allow yourself to develop naturally over time into an adult as your age is one that most people feel self doubt during. thats because in our culture the transition between child and adult is poorly defined and we have too much choice (not always a good thing), but also because that is the nature of 15yrs old to 21yrs.
if you want to drink do it in moderation and remember alcohol based fun is not a lifestyle just another form of consumerism to get your hard earned money so relax and be yourself and what places and people make you comfortable is the aim.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2009): I'm 22 and I've never touched alcohol. I'm also a very shy and insecure person.I have never seen the appeal for alcohol myself, and I don't know what all the fuss is about. In fact, I have seen it destroy some people I have cared about.I'm not trying to say that alcohol is evil or anything, I think that if you have some drinks in a social context, that is fine.But I am concerned because it sounds like you are thinking of using alcohol as a way of making yourself feel better, and I think that can be a dangerous thing to do. It might make you feel more relaxed and confident, I don't really know. But even if it does, what if you like it so much that you start to rely on alcohol more and more often, in more and more situations, to boost your confidence?I think a better way to go about it would be to try and increase your confidence in other ways, instead of looking for a quick fix with alcohol. It might be harder, but it will give real results. Alcohol won't change your confidence problems, but will just temporarily cover them up.If you decide to give alcohol a try though, then just be careful. As long as it doesn't get out of hand, then you should hopefully be fine. x
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reader, Smidge +, writes (30 May 2009):
Alcohol is probably just popular 'cause it's something to do socialy, people seem to think they can't have a party without the stuff and they need to be trolleyed to have fun. I find this complete bullspit, from my experience drinking at parties just gets people emotional and causes arguments and things. One or two drinks is never a problem as it simply hightens your confidence so you'll feel free to have fun. I do drink, my favourite is ofc beer, I don't like spirits, and as you've never really drank before I wouldn't recomend them straight away. Stick to alcopops and beer, and just be careful.
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