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Archived questions from: 23 November, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

Is he flirting with me just to get me in bed?

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23 November 2009 (F) - i have been flirting with this guy now for about 3 months however i don't know if i should take things further or not. Ok he works in the bar im a local at and i see him every weekend. The first time i seen him he just kept staring at me th...

Boyfriend has a 20 year history of being a serial cheater. Will marriage change him?

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23 November 2009 (F) - Boyfriend has 20 year history of serial cheater. Will marriage change him? Will he change his cheating ways if we get married? Hi, I am 32 and with a man who is turning 40 soon. We have been together for a year and a couple of months. On ave...

I dropped her and she's devastated..have I made her insecure?

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23 November 2009 (M) - Hi. I have just split from my gf and its all my doing. I have not met anyone else just feel its run its course and to be honest don't really love her anymore. Problem is it feels like being a teenager again, I feel sick with guilt because she is a...

Would his erection problem be okay, if he was with someone else?

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23 November 2009 (F) - Is it possible,that my husband can cure his erectile dysfunction with a new relationship? I mean is there any chance if someone can't have a normal erection and losing it when inside, but has no medical reasons for 5 years. My husband and me are ...

I can't trust my current bf, because of past bad experiences. Please help!

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23 November 2009 (F) - i was hurt by my ex it took me more than a year to get over him, he made me ill and i was heartbroken, then i went on a wild thing when me and my ex ended where i would meet up with alot of boys everyweek, i started seeing a few but it never worked ...

He is doing everything possible to show me how much he loves me but his betrayal is all I can focus on.

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23 November 2009 (F) - Hi Aunts, Don't really know why I'm writing this. It's cos I need your help and reassurance again I suppose. If you know me you will remember my text cheating husband and the rest of the saga. Although I am managing to avoid bringing it up as ...

He's left me holding the baby while he goes out and cheats!

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23 November 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years, we have a 3 month old baby girl, we are engaged and living together. I'm 17 years old, he is 22 years old... i love him with all my heart and now i feel hopeless. lots of different girls have been calling him ...

Falling for boyfriend's best friend and open relationship??

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23 November 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for about 5 1/2 years and met his friend about 4 years ago and started to fancy him. He went away for a year and I was really glad because I could forget all about him. He came back and started to become really good ...

I am in love with my sister's boyfriend's son!

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23 November 2009 (F) - Dear Aunts. Please Help. A Few Months ago I Got together with my sisters partners son. Hes 16 im 20. it took a while for us to admit how we felt and 1 thing led to another. my sister then split from her partner and he and his son left. i ...

I am having an affair and want to end it!

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23 November 2009 (F) - I am 41 years old and married. i am having an afair with a 25 year old person. he is of lower financial class than I . i have a child that i adore. i want to stop this afair and i can not sometimes i dream of being with this guy for ever but i ...

Her boyfriends a jerk but she won't leave him.

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23 November 2009 (F) - I have a friend who is quite frankly becoming a bit pathetic. She's been dating this guy for four years and he is so toxic it's unbelievable. He cheats on her like it's his job and he's just the biggest creep ever. Worst of all he hits on her ...

Why is he unhappy?

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23 November 2009 (F) - My fiance and I would have been celebrating our 5th year together in December but in October he tells me that he feels like something is wrong with him, he thinks its an early mid-life crisis (he's 33), something is missing in his life, he feels ...

Torn between my boyfriend and my life long best friend

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23 November 2009 (F) - First, let me introduce you to two men: Boyfriend: He is strong, smart, and the sweetest person I know. He always has great advice and never gives an answer that is anything less than thoughtful, though he is stubborn and will take it personal...

Seeing my ex opens up old wounds

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23 November 2009 (M) - [moderator note: not a question as such, but the in-depth background provides the jist for one] Hi, I split up from my ex-girlfriend of a year whom i see at University a year ago after she gave some "its not you its me excuse". I was really sh...

I'm a girl but I don't trust women at all... please help!

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23 November 2009 (F) - I don't trust women at all (yes, I am a girl). I know why: I was bullied because I couldn't speak much English when I was younger, most of my girl "friends" have stabbed me in the back, and my grandmother abused me mentally. It's gotten so bad th...

Does my boyfriend love me or not? And why does he look at other girls like he's never had sex in his life?

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23 November 2009 (F) - [Moderator note: Two questions from the same writer combined into one here, as the information in one seems relevant to the other.] my boyfriend doesnt trust me, if i look at a boy he gets jelous and very angry and sometimes he even wants to leave...

He was married for 23 years and now she wants him back! Should I run or hang on?

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23 November 2009 (F) - Please help. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 months. I am falling in love with him. We spend at least 4 days and nights together every week since we met. Everything is great. Here is the problem. He was married for 23 years. He was deeply in ...

She's avoiding my calls and canceling our dates - is she cheating?

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23 November 2009 (M) - i have been seeing this beautiful female from my college. our first date went well and i ended up with us having sex in her place, two days later the same thing happened again. she texted me a couple days later and said that we were moving too fast. ...

Should I call and say hello or just leave him alone?

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23 November 2009 (F) - Recently I have been getting this strong urge to call the guy that I can't seem to get over. He was my first and unfortunately he did me wrong even though we weren't in a relationship. He knew I wanted to be with him but once we had sex it all ...

Will Karma punish me for not telling her sooner that her boyfriend was cheating on her?

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23 November 2009 (?) - My bestfriend cheated on his girlfriend and I fell in love with her plus I knew about his cheating from before but didnt want to tell her because i couldnt however she fell in love with me and decided to leave him for me and she needed a good enough ...

Why does my fiance keep hiding the fact that he's been in touch with his ex wife?

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23 November 2009 (F) - Hi, I am getting married soon to a man whom I love very much. He is older than me, but it does not affect us. My problem is his ex-wife. He has always been a little quiet about what went on with them. Doesnt say much. I have a problem with him...

I cant get my ex's best friend off my mind!

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23 November 2009 (F) - hi i know i already posted this question before but nobody replied and i am really needing some advise on it. okay so im having a bit of a problem. about 3 years ago i met my ex and we were together for a year and a half he was my fir...

She covers herself up during sex and I have no idea why!

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23 November 2009 (M) - I am in a relationship with my partner for over 9 years now, everytime we are having sex she is always covering her breast and folding her hands round her chest with her eyes closed, never allow me to kiss her, I find it difficult to make her ...

I never know where I stand!

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23 November 2009 (M) - Hi All, I really hope you read my question and I really hope you all leave some honest advice as I really need it. It is a complicated one, I split from my girlfriend (for the second time) 3 months ago as she said we were arguing too much an...

Does no sex mean no call???

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23 November 2009 (F) - Hi.. this past weekend I went on my date that I met online. He was very nice, I was a little nervous.. he was very confident (he's used to dating) he said he enjoyed my company... we met for coffee, we talked, and joked. He is a straight shooter... ...

I'm beginning to doubt my boyfriend loves me any more...

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23 November 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been in a committed relationship for 4.5 months now. He stays 9 hours away from my house but we really love each other. Nowadays he doesn't seem the same. Recently I was talking on the phone with my boyfriend and his best ...

How can we get to grips with these terrible rows we're having? I know it's just pressure...

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23 November 2009 (F) - I am having terrible rows with my partner. We have got to the stage where we row about everything. He is a really nice man with children from previous relationships and in the main is fair and decent. Try as I might I don't like the fact that he ...

Is he looking for a family or mother?

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23 November 2009 (F) - Thanks for all the help. Ok so I have been dating this fellow for a year. As of three months ago he moved into my house with my son and I. I do think it's a bit fast however he lives a hour away and was here evey-night anyhow.. Most of his st...

I'm too scared to say anything to him just in case I am reading too much into the situation!

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23 November 2009 (F) - I have a male coworker who lives in another city, we worked closely together for a couple of years, but only met on a work weekend away (last year). We seemed to have a lot of chemistry. Although there were about 100 of us on the trip, he spent a...

My girlfriend wont have sex with me anymore

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23 November 2009 (M) - My girl(24) and I(21) have had a, ON and OFF dating history over the past 3 years but over the past 11 months we have been realllly serious. When we got back together (11 months ago) we used to have sex alllllll the time, im talking like 4-5 times a ...

He made me have an abortion - should I forgive him or move on with my life?

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23 November 2009 (F) - he made me make an abortion and he keeps on telling me dat he love me,i do really love him but im not sure if he really love me after what he has dan to me. i dont know if i should give him another chance,is de any guy dat wil drove his girl to ...

How do I change myself so he stops taking me for granted?

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23 November 2009 (F) - So I've been with my boyfriend for over 8 months, everything's great and I love him very much. The problem is, when we started out, he'd call and text me all the time, take me out, buy me little gifts just because, but recently that's all stopped ...

I told her I seen a woman naked from porn and now she doesn't trust me!

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23 November 2009 (M) - Okay, well, recently my girlfriend of only one month has become extremely upset with me. Why? Personally, I think it is because she is very over emotional, but many girls are. I care very much about this girl, much, muchhh more than any other girl ...

Should I save my marriage to someone I do not love or go with someone I love?

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23 November 2009 (F) - Twenty years ago I met the love of my life. At the time we both had just gotten out of a relationship and agreed to date and not get serious, but in the process we both fell in love. After 2 years he admitted to me that he wanted to marry me and I ...

How do I get my boyfriend to show his affection physically?

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23 November 2009 (F) - how do i get my boyfriend become more physical and touchy?...

I found out my boyfriend has been cheating. Should I take him back?

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23 November 2009 (F) - I been with my bf for 4 months. I love him more than anything, supported him through everything, helped him a little through his financial problems. Anyway, I kinda always been a jealous gf but never checked through his personal things.(I see him ...

I drink when my husband is around because I can't bear to be near him

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23 November 2009 (F) - I have been with my husband for 15 years. We have 4 children together. I have put up with a lot of verbal abuse from him over the years. Of course There are a lot of good qualities about him such as a hard worker and good provider for the family. He ...

My girlfriend seems different. What can I do to keep this relationship working?

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23 November 2009 (M) - I am 18 years old, and will have been dating my girlfriend for 6 months in December. We got together in June, and though we originally planned to split up before we left for college, found that by the end of the summer we cared too much about each ...

Boyfriend gave his phone number to suspected interest.

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23 November 2009 (F) - Heya everyone. Ok so this may seem like a silly problem and i prob shouldnt be bothered by it, but id like peoples opinions and to just rest my mind a bit. Ok well i live about 100 miles away from my boyfriend. He is moving down here tomorrow...

Is it worth continuing on or am I just prolonging it by staying together??

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23 November 2009 (M) - Hey... ive been going out with a girl for the last 3 months and things were going pretty well up until last week. she just got knid of distant. anyway we had a chat tonite and she was saying that its nothing to do with me its all her, she cant help ...

I dare not risk telling him I love him just to loose everything!

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23 November 2009 (F) - Just think about the good times..and they'll come back again! Idlove to keep saying that to myself but even the good times depress me. Im in a mess, a big fat mess!! This guys my best friend....but sadly the love of my life! Who i cannot get over....

I am accusing her of the same things that happened to me in past relationships!

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23 November 2009 (M) - hi ihave a problem that is new to me. i have been in some really bad bad relationships. well i met my g/f 6 months ago an we were doing great. n then all of a sudden my problem from my past relationships poped up in my head. is she cheating can i ...

What can I do to make it up to him and never talk about my exes again?

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23 November 2009 (F) - i really love my boyfriend and he loves me to bits, been together for 6 months but i have known him for years, but it wasnt until one night i realised i had feelings for him and we hit it off ever since. a year ago i was hurt really bad by a boy i ...

Not attracted to obese boyfriend.

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23 November 2009 (F) - I have been with the same guy for three years, we are both in our 40s. When I met him he had just lost 140 lbs through diet and exercise and was running marathons. A big part of my attraction to him was admiration for having lost all that weight and ...

How do I start over quickly, before he leaves?

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23 November 2009 (F) - I'm kinda still in love with this guy even though we've had kinda had a rough relationship. Right now, we're not talking( even though I really want to). Lets just say things got complicated. Again. He's leaving high school next year and I...