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writes:hi ihave a problem that is new to me. i have been in some really bad bad relationships. well i met my g/f 6 months ago an we were doing great. n then all of a sudden my problem from my past relationships poped up in my head. is she cheating can i trust her is she lieing to me like the others did. then we started fighting i admit that i pushed her n hit her. im what i use to hate the asswhole guys that ruin the good girls. my question is i need n want to stop n i know i can cuz i have but it happens some times. can any one plz help me stop. Reply to this Question
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (23 November 2009):
 First of all go to your doctor and seek therapy.
Tell your galfriend you are very sorry about what happened and show her by your actions that your doing whatever it takes to change and seek help.
This type of behaviour is wrong and i am glad you have noticed this and feel guilty, this is a good sign.
Also its very unfair to judge your current galfriend based on your past, she is different, she is unique she is nothing like your past girlfriends.
Dont blame her for someone else's mistakes.
Unless you have EVIDENCE she is cheating then dont jump to conclusions even then you have no right to touch her.
The best way to deal with this is get therapy and therapy will show you the best ways to handle your anger and move on from your hurt in order for you to be happy again.
Do not hit her, remember its a sign of weakness in a man.
Goodluck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2009): the best thing to do would be to seek councilling, you seem paranoid, base this relationship as a fresh and new one forget about all the other ones, if you really really want to make it work then you MUST stop accusing her do not HIT her but sit her down and tell her how your feeling, im sure she will understand and it will bring you closer together.
Hope all gets sorted.
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