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Archived questions from: 16 November, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

I'm finding it hard to manage... any advice would be welcome.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5277 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - Hey, Ok I'm doing my leaving cert next year. I am finding it hard to manage. I work 8 hours every single saturday and sunday. When I am home, I have to cook the dinner and clean up the house. My mum is always really tired from work, and I do...

He gave me a back hander across the face when I mouthed off as he was yelling at me!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5267 days ago

16 November 2009 (?) - Hi aunts. I have a real problem here. I'm just not sure what to do any more. Me and my boyfriend have been arguing a lot lately but last night it escalated and he backhanded me across the face because I mouthed off to him while he was yelling at me. ...

He goes "soft" and I don't know what to do???

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5278 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - How do you fix a guy's problem... I mean like me and the guy I like a lot!, where in the middle of doing it and he just went soft. I looked it up on webmd and it said that it cause be caused by too much drinking which he does drink a bit too much ...

Should I look for someone else?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5276 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - I've began seeing a man of a different ethnicity than I am. Although I think this isn't such a big problem, I'm unsure if he would be serious with me because of culture/ethnic issues in the future. We are both adults, way past the issue of parents ...

I want to be with her but I also want to feel wanted.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5278 days ago

16 November 2009 (M) - Hello, I am 21, currently back in a relationship with my ex, we dated previously for 5 years and took a 5 month break. Our past relationship was not healthy towards the end so she broke up with me. She recently told me she wants to try again and I ...

I'm not happy in my relationship. How can I talk to him about my feelings?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5277 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME! I'm feeling really down at the minute and i think it may be because of my relationship. i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and im only 19 so i know anything can happen and there are plenty of more fish in the...

I am pregnant and ignoring two men. Which one should I choose?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5278 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - I need advice on this one. Its tricky. Am pregnant. The father of the baby has not been very supportive. He buys food and well made me sign a receipt saying I owed him 100 quid so I did and will pay it back to him and get him to sign a receipt but ...

Can a life-long cheater ever be trustworthy or am I wasting my time?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5242 days ago

16 November 2009 (M) - part one; in aug 08 my then finance added some guy to her facebook and when asked about it she said she thought she knew him, she then deleted him and i thought that was the end of it, or so i thought. part two; in jan 09 she went to her work chri...

I love my mother, and want to overcome my deep feelings of resentment that she didn't protect me growing up.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5278 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - Hi, I'm going to try to make this as brief as possible... Ever since my mum and dad split up when I was four (I'm now 20) me, my sister and mother have been living with my abusive alcoholic stepdad. He has verbally, mentally and physically abused us ...

Is this relationship over? Is trying to talk through the trouble ruining my chances?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5278 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - Long story short... we have had our fair share ofups and downs, it's LDR, he broke up with me first time because he wasn't ready and then asked to take me back a few months ago, I took him back met up with him again, felt like i couldn't ever be ...

I am so down... How can I make my relationship better?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5278 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - im feeling really down at the minute and i think it may be because of my relationship. i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and im only 19 so i know anything can happen and there are plenty of more fish in the sea etc but i dont want to leave ...

His penis smells of sex!!!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5278 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - i have been with my boyfriend for 7 months now, i love him so much and he always tells me he loves me... but on 2 occasions, i went down on him and his penis smelt like sex, now im paranoid hes been sleeping with another girl then coming back to me. ...

Is this really the price I have to pay for my happiness?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5278 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - I dont really know where to start... Back in June I posted about how I had canceled my wedding to my fiance of 3 years and left him, and how i felt bad because he was beyond hurt. I was given a lot of advice on how he would get over it eventual...

This guy in college is REALLY pissing me off! How do I play this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5278 days ago

16 November 2009 (M) - Hello everyone. I've these few problems. In short, I am a 20 year old male. I am in college now. I am still single, so you can guess I've a confidence problem. I've issues talking to girls. So, my problem is I've few friends here. They are alwa...

Incorrectly accused of having an emotional affair - now what do I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4887 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - I stopped a mild emotional affair attempt cold in it's tracks and I'm VERY frustrated and confused. I was e-mailing a friend of my husbands with work-related things. (My husband knew all about it.) Looking back through the e-mails everythi...

My cheating wife says she wants her family back.

This question has 22 answers - newest was posted 5264 days ago

16 November 2009 (M) - I recently learned of an extramarital affair my wife was invloves in. I came home early to discover her texting on her cell phone. When I asked to see it she screamed empahtically no and ran into my 4 year old childs room. Upon convincing her I ...

My boyfriend has such a complacent attitude towards me but says he wants to be with me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5268 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - Please help. I've been with my boyfriend for two and a half months now. I really like him and he says he really like's me but his complacency towards me is making me miserable. To put things in context - his work is long and stressful and I see him ...

Have I fallen out of love? Or am I just confused?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5278 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - i have been with my bf for almost 3years now the one time we broke up because he was a player and i figured i had to move on. i fel for his friends kindness and mistook it for love he heard im dating his friend and he came back to fix things it...

How to cope with hurt of your wife comparing you to her ex....

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5278 days ago

16 November 2009 (M) - my wife was divorced and she had a baby that was 6 months old when i first met her. and after another six months we got married. i know the true story of what happened with her ex husband as she only married him because she was very young (18 at the ...

Is it acceptable for a man to hit his girlfriend when she stands up for herself against unfair accusations of infidelity?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5277 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - Is it normal (or acceptable) for: -a man to accuse his girlfriend of infidelity for more than one year? -for the woman to raise her voice and shout, after one year of being falsely accused and asked the same question over and over and over ...

How do you make a long-distance relationship work?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5278 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - Does anyone have any tips on how to make a long-distance relationship work? I only see my boyfriend at weekends as I'm at university. I was blocking him out of my head so I didn't feel sad but ended really screwing up by cheating on him. We've ...

Me and my girlfriend have lost the spark, how can I get it back?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5271 days ago

16 November 2009 (M) - Hi, i've been with my girlfriend for 9months now and i love her to pieces and would do anything for her. Recently she said that the spark wasn't there as much as it used to be but theres nothing to worry about and she loves me very much. I live away ...

I have become ill due to his unfounded accusations and jealousy, help me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5278 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - My boyfriend looked through my phone and found a call that was a wrong number. He started to tell me that I had met with someone when he was out of town and I told him to just call the number back if he wanted. He called, threw the phone towards ...

My g/f's friend is racist, rude and dangerous. Should I attend the party if he is coming?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5278 days ago

16 November 2009 (M) - I'm having a problem regarding the boyfriend of my girlfriend's friend and work colleague. He is a distinctly unsavoury character and when i first went to a work do of my girlfriend's and he turned up he was nasty, rude, arrogant and racist (he ...

Is he using me till he finds the love of his life?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5278 days ago

16 November 2009 (?) - hey im inlove with dis guy we now ha almost three years together i do really love him,but problem is that im sure if he really love me.we broke up for ten tyms and make up again my problem is,is he using me until he gt the love of his life cuase ...

My life is in tatters with an ex that won't move on and a new guy who isn't that interested in me. I don't know what to do!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - My life is in tatters at the moment. I split up with my ex in july, mutual decision but since then it's been hard to move on as he is in daily contact with me. I have told him to cut contact but he can't go a day without texting me. The other wk I...

Peter Pan has left the building

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5278 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been living together for the past 10 years. I recently told him that he might want to consider moving out and becoming more of a responsible grown up- that his fear to act like an adult and his fear of committing to a ...

My girlfriend can't seem to make up her mind- me or this other guy. Did I screw up? How do I win her back?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5277 days ago

16 November 2009 (M) - Alright, my girlfriend of 2 years recently started hanging out with her one friend, who i had a feeling liked her, however i didn't want to be one of those controlling boyfriends so i said that i wasn't going to stop her from seeing him (although i ...

My boyfriend wants a baby and I don't. What do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5278 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - Im 18 and im in college and my boyfriend is 20 and he wants a baby. Now i dont think he ready for one and plus i want to wait but he dont. I love him so much that i dont want to loose him. So everytime we get on that subject and i say no he gets mad ...

How do I get the sexual hunger back in our relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5279 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - I am worried about our sex life! B/f of 4 yrs.we've always had a good sexual relationship. Lately he's never in the mood. Has had to increase his blood pressure meds to get his BP under control, which he says affects his libido. But also I don't de...

He's giving me contradictory statements, how do I handle this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5278 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - Hey!! Ok....so i'm really confused and need all the advice i can possibly get! Basically...theres this guy that i kinda got together with at the end of summer..but then he had to go back to wales and i'm still here in London. But..we kept it ...

Am I over reacting if my boyfriend has a wedding on the day of my birthday and I do not want to attend?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5278 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - Am I over reacting if my boyfriend has a wedding on the day of my birthday and I do not want to attend? I am not close with the couple that is getting married and my birthday is the only day out of the year that it is all about me. He gives me a ...

Because I text a girl my girlfriend broke up with me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5278 days ago

16 November 2009 (M) - Me and my love of my life were back together and we went to the car wash and she brought her friend she went through my phone when i wasn't looking and saw that i text another girl, she freaked out and confronted me and walked off, i dont know what ...

Should I go (and risk being hurt) or stay well away?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5278 days ago

I feel so betrayed... he's addicted to porn.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4980 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - Hi I was in a very abusive marriage for 12 years and had 3 children when i got divorced i never thought i'd find anyone who would meet up to my standards but i did, we decided to move in together after 3 years of dating and shortly after found out ...