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*onders
writes:I am in a relationship with my partner for over 9 years now, everytime we are having sex she is always covering her breast and folding her hands round her chest with her eyes closed, never allow me to kiss her, I find it difficult to make her contribute and such make her reach climax, i often get fed up nowadays and soon give up, I am confufed and need advise. Reply to this Question
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reader, bitch  +, writes (24 November 2009):
I also hate my body and cover it up a lot during sex. I think a lot of women have the unfortunate belief that men want the perfect bombshell and are expecting it when they have sex. Women see beautiful air-brushed women all over magazines and on t.v. and we sometimes compare ourselves with these women and think we are not beautiful. So try to understand her and just be nice to her. She is not happy with her body. That is not your fault, but it is something you need to understand.
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female
reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (23 November 2009):
It's obviously a body issue that she has.
Why not skip the part of foreplay where you take her top off. You can keep your t-shirt on too.
Or you could always go crazy and try talking to her about it and re-assuring her about how sexy you find it.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, wonders +, writes (23 November 2009):
wonders is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTHANK YOU ALL FOR THE HONEST ANSWER AND ADVICE. ITS GREAT AND WONDERFUL. THANKS ONCE AGAIN. ITS NEVER OVER UNTIL ITS FINALLY OVER. FOR NOW LIFE AND THE STRUGGLE CONTINUES !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THANKS AGAIN.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (23 November 2009):
 Definitely sounds like she's got body issues - especially if you've had a son together, a lot of women are unhappy with their bodies afterwards and might feel like you don't find her as attractive.
Keep up with the compliments - you can never hear too many, really. Be sure to kiss her with passion when you're not having sex too, so she gets more comfortable and back into the groove with that. And, why not try doing more things naked together? Like take showers or baths together? Spend time on full body massages? I don't think it really needs to get to sex, just appreciating each other in all of your glory. Maybe that will make her more comfortable once you get down to business!!
Good luck, sweetness! Don't give up.
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reader, wonders +, writes (23 November 2009):
wonders is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the answers so far, I guess you might be right about not been happy with her body, but I tell you, she is a very pretty and attracrtive young lady, we have a lovely son together and we we both loved and adored him. I am not too convinced if she is cheating on me or something else. I have tried too many ways by gifts and outing and praises.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2009): Maybe she isnt all the way comfortable with her self , maybe if you jus cuddle and hold her in your arms she will feel more comfortable with you. IM sure it is jus as hard for her as it is for you .
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2009): it sounds as if she is not very confident with her body, lots of girls are like this, you need to assure her that there is nothing wrong with her body and give her lots of compliments, ask her why she covers up, and i bet she will say its because she dont like her body, dont give up on her because of that, thats selfish, if you love her you wouldnt give up on her just because she covers up during sex, why doesnt she allow you to kiss her? maybe shes afraid of getting intimate, maybe she doesnt like the size of her boobs, she may think they are too big, too small, so ask her if thats the problem...you been together 9 years she should be confident with you by now. just try and get her to feel better about herself, have a talk. good luck
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